He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 14 March 2011: Well last week I got together with the group that we hung out with during high school and I invited him just to be polite and I didn't think that he would even respond or show up. To my surprise he came, but most of the group couldn't so it was just ... (read in full...)
This all just seems too good to be true!
Q. Hey, My question might not be too clear because, truly, i'm really worried and I just want advice on what to do next. So, I'm a guy, i'm fourteen and I just started year 10 today. For a few years now I have known that i'm gay but I am still in the c...
A. 4 September 2010: If you really do like him then go for it. At straight guy wouldn't kiss you to find out if you were gay. It just makes no sense. He sounds like a really sweet guy. When he said that you have nice shoes he was just trying to start a conversation with ... (read in full...)
I messed up with my friend this weekend! What should I say to him?
Q. i can't beleive this weekend and how badly i messed up. i'm 16, male, and wondered in the past if i might be bi or gay although i've dated girls. my parents were out of town so i asked a friend if he wanted to stay over and party with me. he's my ...
A. 24 August 2010: Just go to talk to him and see what he has to say and take it from there. It's going to be okay.... (read in full...)
What to do...the ones that like me I don't like that way, and the ones I like, don't like me...
Q. Hi there, I'm going through a bit of a problem and was hoping for some advice. I am gay and I love going out into the gay scene but where I stay theres only 1 bar/club in the city so everybody goes there. I never had any gay friends or any...
A. 24 August 2010: Don't ever settle for anyone. If these other guys aren't intersted in you then just leave them be. Someday you'll find someone wonderful that you are crazy about and they feel the same way about you.... (read in full...)
Its killing me not to be able to tell him how I feel
Q. I know you probably get a lot of questions like this on here, so I regret to tell you that this is another one of them. I apologize if this seems a little long winded, but I need to get this all off my chest and I've always thought that it's ...
A. 24 August 2010: I think he does like you. The way he was acting the last time you were at his house where he was acting distant is the same way I acted around one of my friends when I wanted to tell them that I liked them.... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 21 August 2010: Alright I have another problem with this guy. He is still avoiding me. I don't love him anymore which is to be expected. I was going to stop loving him at some point, but that isn't the problem. Looking back at everything that has happened between ... (read in full...)
Should I come out to my family? And how do I tell them?
Q. Dear Readers, I'm a closeted gay and I'm have a difficult situation. Let's start at the begining... Two weeks ago me and my best mate were just walking in the park and we were casually walking and I tripped but his foot was in front of mine and...
A. 21 August 2010: You shouldn't come out just because your boyfriend did. You need to wait until you feel that it's the right time. If he pressures you to come out just tell him that.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I am acting like a girl!
Q. How can I stop acting like a wussy around my boyfriend? I met up with him last weekend and it was 3 weeks, since we've been intimate with each other. However besides the lovin', I spent most of the time nagging him. About him not remembering the ...
A. 17 August 2010: I agree with valeriemarie. Just don't nag him as much. Also don't read to much into his little changes in the way he says things. He might be making them without thinking about he because he's just a little annoyed.... (read in full...)
Am I gay or what?!
Q. I am a 15 year old male, and I am in high school. I think I am straight but I don't know. I have sexual attractions to males, and I think some males are hot. I look at it this way I would rather date a girl because I like the way a girl thinks, but ...
A. 17 August 2010: Well when I was your age I only had a sexual attraction to guys. I just started having emotional attachments to other guys in the last year. If you are gay it's difficult, but it's not the end of the world. You are at a point where most people don't ... (read in full...)
He's 17, I'm 13, he wants sex but I think I'm too young!
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm gay and in my first relationship he's kind and he's everything I want in a man but since he's 17 and I'm 13 it's quite strange but it's both of our first relationship he wants to have sexual relations but I think I might be too you...
A. 17 August 2010: There is something wrong with this guy. You want to steer clear of him. You are right to think that you are to young to have sex, especially with him.... (read in full...)
I'm scared to tell him I like him, how can I without scaring him?
Q. Ok. I'm gay and I really like this one guy that I hang out with at youth group at our church. We get along really well and we always find something to talk about. I'm going to tell him that I like him, but at the same time I want him to understand ...
A. 17 August 2010: Ok. I have to say somethings to set things up a little. I have abilities such as seeing, hearing, and sensing ghosts. I have premonision and the ability of foresight. I also somethings can read people's thoughts, but that doesn't happen all that ... (read in full...)
Is my teacher interested in me? And will he still be thinking of me even though its been a few months?
Q. im 16 years old and ive always been into older men. i hope that i dont sound crazy. i was in acting class and my acting teacher stared at me and gave me this sexy smile like he wanted me. when he told us told do an certain exercise he put his arms ...
A. 11 August 2010: I would just leave this one be. Don't pursue it. There is going to be a huge difference in maturity and you two are probably looking for something else in a relationship. Even if something were to come of this think about it. You'll be in your 30's ... (read in full...)
Personal compatibility offsets the so-so looks? Should I go see him again to see ??
Q. Hi there, I am struggling with something similar at the moment. I just got back to the states after 20 days in Mexico where I met this amazing guy. He is perfect in every way - personality wise and we are very compatible with similar interests, ...
A. 9 August 2010: Looks shouldn't matter at all. If you like this guy go and be with him. Looks fade anyway with age. Personality on the other hand doesn't.... (read in full...)
We got drunk wound up together and now he won't talk to me!
Q. MOD NOTE: Poster 14, not 24. Hi, i'm a 14 year old boy and i'm having trouble because recently at a party, me and my best guy mate got drunk and i confessed to him that i loved him. we ended up having sex. but when we woke up the next morning,...
A. 2 August 2010: I would just give him some space. Let him come back to you in his own time. I know that that isn't an easy thing to do, but you don't want to make him feel trapped or pressured. That will only make him avoid you even longer. That was one mistake I ... (read in full...)
I'm Gay and needs some help with this guy I am seeing 22 and 20 online just started chatting
Q. OP's own title: I am usually giving advice and not taking it. but in this case i am willing to listen. I would like to hear from gay guys like myself. Where to start, ok a few days ago I met a guy on an online dating site and he was in washin...
A. 29 July 2010: I would say give it a rest with saying sorry. I thinks he gets the point. Just try to take things a little slower. If you start talking to him the way you were, let him start that conversation. I also think that you should wait at least until the ... (read in full...)
He's married, but I love him! How can I handle this unrequited love?
Q. Dear Agony Aunt I'm a single 24 year old living in the UK. My problem is that I think I'm in love with someone who is married and can never love me back. He is 29 and married with a kid. We used to work together and we got on brilliantly,...
A. 29 July 2010: I know how you feel. I have friend that I love and when they found out all he did was avoid me. As a matter of fact he still are. I know first hand that this hurts. But I when I found someone else that I was interested in I started to feel better. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be lonely anymore! I want a boyfriend!
Q. Hi guys. I'm 15 either gay or bi. As you can see I'm not at terms with my sexuality yet but I KNOW for a fact I'm not totally straight. My problem is that I'm at a moment in my life where I don't wanna be lonely anymore. I REALLY want a ...
A. 26 July 2010: If you want a boyfriend you really need to wait until you find someone you really like. If you're lonely just hang out with some friends. You have your entire life to be with someone. Don't try to rush things. You say that you want love... that will ... (read in full...)
I'm in love wth one of my best friends, but she doesn't feel the same way.
Q. i have been tottaly in love with my one of my best friends (female) for quite a while now but i know she dosent feel the same way about me, what should i do ?...
A. 26 July 2010: I would just forget about her. I know that it's not easy. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and i ended up telling him. He avoided me and I just obsessed over it and that only made things worse between us and made me miserable all the time. ... (read in full...)
I'm scared to tell him I like him, how can I without scaring him?
Q. Ok. I'm gay and I really like this one guy that I hang out with at youth group at our church. We get along really well and we always find something to talk about. I'm going to tell him that I like him, but at the same time I want him to understand ...
A. 21 July 2010: The problem with that is I just told him that I'm gay so it won't be such a shock to him. I wanted to ease him into it, which is a good thing since he as a little shocked to find out that I'm gay. I just don't want to look back on this regreting ... (read in full...)
Do I have jealousy issues?
Q. Do I have jealousy issues? So I'm a guy and I'm going out with S, my boyfriend, for a month now. S is bisexual and you couldn't even tell that he's into guys. In fact, he makes fun of gay people. But anyways, he's really nice and all that. When w...
A. 19 July 2010: He might be doing this because he just wants to act like you guys are just friends in public, but I would talk to him about it. Tell him how what he's doing is making you feel.... (read in full...)
I have never been in a relationship in which girls were threats...
Q. Well, to start off, I am a twenty-three-year-old gay male with an extreme amount of insecurity about my appearance when compared to others. I have an anxiety disorder (mainly social anxiety), and quiet, shy, reserved, do not like big parties, and ...
A. 19 July 2010: I agree with raiders on this one. You may love him, but even if he does care about you he doesn't show it. If he cared about you he wouldn't have even considered having sex with his ex. On top of that he knew that you would find the condom wrapper ... (read in full...)
Totally captivated by this guy... but what do I do about it?
Q. Hey aunts I'm having a little issue with myself. I'm a 16 year old guy that's starting to get comfortable with accepting who I am... that is I'm STRONGLY interested in guys. And everywhere I go I find myself checking guys out and finding myself ...
A. 18 July 2010: Well my suggestion is that you get together with him alone. Then tell him that you're gay. Thing will be awkward for a few minutes at least. However, I find that when I tell someone that I'm gay they tend to tell me if they are gay. They might not ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 13 July 2010: Well at least he's talking to me now so thing look like they're getting better. I also don't have to tell my family that I'm depressed or have sleep insomnia because in the last few weeks I just started to feel better. I don't know why, but I really ... (read in full...)
I have found a really great guy but I still have feelings for my engaged friend
Q. The Situation: I found my friend from about 5-7 years ago. We were talking but nothing serious just catching up but i somehow caught feelings for him.(When i found him i was in washington and he is in new mexico) I am now in new mexico and we hung ...
A. 12 July 2010: I think that you are hoping that he's gay. After I told my friend that I loved him. He told me that he was straight and for the longest time I just hoped that he was gay and that he just wasn't ready to tell me.... but guess what. He's straight and ... (read in full...)
How to tell my family I'm gay?
Q. Help needed... theres only one way to put this question but... how do i tell my family that i'm gay? advice much appreciated thanks...
A. 12 July 2010: I would just sit them both down, like at the kitchen table or somewhere in your house, and tell them straight out. No matter how you do it, it won't be easy.... (read in full...)
Torn between two "Loves of my Life"
Q. I have been in an "off and on relationship" for 10 years with Bill. Bill and I met in college and have a tumultuous past (he always did the breaking up), but we always seemed to fall back in love with each other. The last time we got together was ...
A. 12 July 2010: Well if James is divorcing his wife because he love you, don't you think that there is a good chance that he would leave you if he found someone else that he loves later. If this is the case I would stay will Bill. That isn't something that you want ... (read in full...)
I'm gay, and I don't want to be!
Q. Hey Everbody, i really need help with this problem i have....im gay , but don't want to be...i feel that being gay was not meant for me...nobody knows im gay and itz killing me to keep this secret...itz taking a toll on my life and ruining whats ...
A. 4 July 2010: It doesn't matter how hard you try to be straight if you are gay. I tryed to brain wash myself into being straight for years, but nothing worked. All you can do is accept the fact that you're gay, if in fact you are. The sooner you accept that the ... (read in full...)
They say girls don't care about penis size, but what about boys?
Q. Okay so I've read all the questions and answers about penis size. And people say it's what you can do that matters and the girl won't care what size you are. I know that but I still feel insecure. And also..I'm a bisexual 15 year old and people ...
A. 4 July 2010: They'll only care if they are superficial and I doubt that you want to be in a relationship with someone like that.
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I am straight and attracted to women, but with this one guy it is different
Q. I'm 18 years old and I think I'm in love with my friend and he's a guy. His name is Max. But the thing is, I have been a straight guy and even now I'm turned on by women. I am not attracted to any other guy apart from Max and the thought of being ...
A. 4 July 2010: Well if he is straight I don't see what good can come of it. I think that if he is straight telling him only has the potential to do damage and nothing else.... (read in full...)
How do I get him to feel safe with me and open up after what happened?
Q. My lover of three years was raped a month ago and given HIV. Now, he's even more depressed and withdrawn, he refuses to come near me, I tried to touch his hand and he flinched, he has flashbacks...this is seriously affecting our relationship. He's...
A. 4 July 2010: Maybe you could try to go to group counciling. But this is really difficult for him. Don't try to do anything sexual with him until you know that he wants to. I guess all you can really do is just be there for him. He'll open up to you in his own ... (read in full...)
He's gay, doesn't know I'm gay, but I'm afraid to tell him how I feel!
Q. Im really need you guys opinion on this ok. Well, i Have this friend we'll call "Marco", who I've known for 5 years. We have alot of things and common and basically get along really well. Im gay (but not openly) and I think he's cute. i think i ...
A. 27 June 2010: Well him touching you shows that he is interested. I'd tell him how you feel. First I would tell him that you're gay because what i find when i tell a friend that I'm gay is if they are they tell me because they aren't afraid that I'll stop being ... (read in full...)
I'm gay and love a straight friend. I'm in turmoil and need guidance!
Q. Hi, I'm a 14 (15 in like 2 days) year old boy from England. I know what everyone thinks... 14, way too young to be thinking about love, but read on. I'm gay. Not many people know, i've only told my older sister but i don't think my parents would...
A. 27 June 2010: I would tell him that you're gay, but wait to see if he how he reacts to see if you should tell him how you feel about him. I find that when I tell friends that I'm gay if they are gay or bi they tell me because they feel like they can tell me those ... (read in full...)
He'll never love me but I can't get him off my mind.
Q. What do I do? Ive asked questons, and all they say is give up, but I cant. I love him so much, it hurts to be away from him, not to be able to hold him. Hes horrible to me, and is mean to me and shouts at me and takes the mick out of me but I love ...
A. 27 June 2010: I know first hand that it's hard to love someone that can never love you. But you said so yourself that he'll never love you. And do you really want to be with someone that treats you the way that he does. You deserve better. You deserve someone who ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 30 May 2010: I know how my responses sound. I'm going to get help, but the seeing ghosts, the early signs of alcoholism, the sleep ansomnia, the clinical depression, and the situation with my friend are all link, some in obvious way and others not so obvious. ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 27 May 2010: I response to if I have ever considered moving out the answer is no. I'm off to college next year, but I'll be going to a college close to home so I can save money, however I will have to switch schools after two years since this college doesn't ... (read in full...)
I know he loves me, but because he is bi-sexual he still wants to sleep with women! How should I handle this?
Q. hi, i am a 22 yr old guy, deeply in love with a classmate, who is 21.he is bisexual, for i know he had girlfriends and was physical with them.he is extremely caring, affectionate and i know loves me very much. but problem is, he still wants to have ...
A. 26 May 2010: He may love you, but he clearly doesn't plan on having a long term relationship with you. He also doesn't seem to be very loyal to you. You have good reason to be insecure. It just seems like in the end you're only going to get hurt so I would cut ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 26 May 2010: I don't need medication. I need a psychologist. Also dealing with the depression won't solve the problem with the my abilities like seeing ghosts being dulled. The situation between me and my friend, if I can even call him that anymore, is ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 26 May 2010: My parents would force me to tell them what the problem is before they spend money on a doctor. Besides there are only two people that can solve to problem and that is me and my friend. The problem is far to complicated to be explained. I think that ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 25 May 2010: I would wait, but there are other issues that this problem between me and him is causing. There is one in particular that this is causing. The fact is that I see, hear, but mostly i sense ghosts. I can also repel them. I have premonition and ... (read in full...)
Broke up 2 years ago and it still hurts
Q. I broke up with my ex 2 and a half years ago. He had a breakdown and would not get help. We had a great relationship until he emotionally degraded. I stayed with him for 6 months after the breakdown but had to end it because: 1) he talked abo...
A. 6 May 2010: Don't do what the previous guy suggested. You can't just end destroy another persons relationship because of your feeling. That would be a terrible thing to do to him and his boyfriend. Also if he is into three ways and fools around with people ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 5 May 2010: Well he was a no show, not that I'm suprised. What made me so angry with him in the first place is that for a while he was the only one that I trusted because I know that my family will disown me when I find out and I just couldn't open up to my ... (read in full...)
Should I keep my account a secret from my family?
Q. Hi I asked a question about a week ago 'Am I Gay or Bi?' and gave read the answers and most if you said Im Gay so I was happy that the decision is made so I joined a Teen Chat Site for Gays and I'm happy chatting and stuff but I hate sneaking around ...
A. 26 April 2010: If you are not ready to tell your family then don't. If you are worried that you are acting suspicious then I wouldn't worry to much right now. Just be cautious and you will get better at being able to hide these sort of things if you choose to hide ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 25 April 2010: Well we're meeting at another friends house next on friday so hopefully things go well.... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 20 April 2010: Ok. I need to clarify a few things. I told the friend that I love that I love them the same time I told them that I was gay. I know that I can't have the relationship that I was hoping to have when I told them. I know that this is hard for them, I'm ... (read in full...)
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