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writes: Im a sophmore in high school. Alright, I'll just get to the point. I Like this boy very very very very much. He definetely is attracted to me because of the way he acts around me. i sent him a message (like a retard) telling him i liked him. he never replied back but were still friends and he acts the same way. its been a few months since i told him and we have more classes together, but i can't keep going on seeing him everyday, and not going anywhere else. neither of us are out to anyone, except me with my best friend. what do you think i should do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2010): The fact he did not respond back says that a) he's not gay or b) he is but is afraid of what others may think. So, your best bet is to just take his lack of response for what it is and I hate to let you down with this mundane line, but it can never be stressed enough, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Maybe in high school not so much, especially because it's such a confined environment and even if there are other gays, not all are willing to be exposed to the jungle that is high school. Nevertheless, keep your chin up kid! You'll be alright. Hope that helped!
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reader, der_zyniker  +, writes (11 September 2010):
Just take him aside and talk to him about it when there isn't anyone else around if that is possible. If you send something like that in a message people aren't sure what to say and they can't tell how sincere you are.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (10 September 2010):
 a message in text form is never the same as a real invite where you ask in person. be open ended and ask him if he wants to do something- leave it vague and when he asks you what you two should do ask HIM what he wants to do. this works because on one level it say's i dont care what i do as long as you're there, on the other hand it courteous by taking his feelings into account. you will know by his response.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (9 September 2010):
 Invite him with you to go do something. Ask him directly, so that he will have to give you an answer. Then at least you will know if he says yes or no.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (9 September 2010):
 Maybe he's not gay.
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reader, LovelyGirthls  +, writes (9 September 2010):
Has he told you he is gay too? Maye he doesn't want to say anything to you so that he can deny it for as long as he can? I don't know.
Maybe bring up the subject again, but casually, you don't want to seem as if that was the only thing on your mind, even if it was! Or else he might get a bit freaked out.
Maybe he thinks you sent it as a joke, seeing as you never brought it up afterwards, which might be why he hasn't spoke about it.
I hope this helps you look at things better, though I have never been out in this position so sorry if I have gotten everything wrong!
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