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I'm attracted to other guys but I don't want a relationship with one

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Question - (15 October 2010) 8 Answers - (Newest, 2 November 2010)
A male United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

So, I'm now 16, and I realize I am attracted to other guys. But, I don't want to have a relationship with one. As for girls, I now am starting to get less turned on by them, and yet, I still do like girls too want a relationship with girls. Am I gay? or just curios?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010):

Do what you want. Have your experiences. Dont Label It! People should stop labeling one another... some people just like having both experiences. its completely fine. Dont label yourself it only holds you back

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A male reader, AvgGuy1 United States +, writes (19 October 2010):

AvgGuy1 agony auntI was the same way... at your age. Emotionally... I liked girls, physically I got turned on by guys. It'll work itself out. Don't rush yourself and don't limit yourself (physically or emotionally).

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2010):

It sounds like you maybe Bicurious, not quite Bisexual

Bicurious sorta means, you( a male) have Sexual attraction, and Emotional feelings for women, but only sexual attraction to men.

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A male reader, Boonridge McPhalify United Kingdom +, writes (16 October 2010):

Boonridge McPhalify agony auntwanting a relationship is a thought out process where as craving sex is more animal, in other words its easier to decieve yourself of what you want through relationships because they are not all about sex.

if you dont fancy a woman, how will you have sex with her when the relationship reaches that point?

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A male reader, der_zyniker United States +, writes (16 October 2010):

I can't be entirely sure if you are gay or bicurious. Only time will tell, but I can tell you this. I am gay and the first couple of years that I knew that I was gay I wasn't interested in any relationship with men either. I wanted a relationship with women. I wanted to get married to a woman. However, in time I became interested in relationships with men. This might be a transitional period between realizing that you are gay and completely accepting the fact that you are gay.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010):

I would say curious! I used to think I liked girls, but I could never see myself with one.... I'm a totally straight girl! I think you'll grow out of it

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A female reader, followtheblackrabbit Cayman Islands +, writes (15 October 2010):

followtheblackrabbit agony auntYou're still young so it's normal to have these confusing feelings about sex and attraction. I'm guessing that you are curious. If you can, talk to a counselor about it. They can help sort out your feelings. Read up on the subject. Go to youth-guard.com (lots of info there) and there's a fictional book called Rainbow Boys by Alex Sanchez which deals with bisexuality, homosexuality and being curious. Take it easy. Feelings change a lot when you're a teenager and have different hormones and changes taking place in your mind and body. Indie is right, give yourself time. A lot of us go through this confusion. Don't rush to put a label on yourself.

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A female reader, Indie23 Australia +, writes (15 October 2010):

Indie23 agony auntMy guess is you're just curious. You're probably just getting to know what attracts you to people and because you're going through puberty all those hormones can make you feel as if you're attracted to anyone.

Just give yourself some time to make solid decisions about your sexuality and don't feel guilty for wanting to experiment or being curious about other guys.

Indie.

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