A
male
age
36-40,
*hedude618
writes:i am 25 and in the closet. i have fallen for a straight guy who had become a good friend. i told him that i wanted to mess around. his answer was hell no. he has agreed to sit down and talk this out. what do i say to him so as not to lose him as a friend? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, der_zyniker +, writes (12 September 2010):
Tell him that yes you are interested, but you are content with jsut being friends and that you won't persue this any further.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010): This completely depends on the small/big mindedness of your friend.
First be honest with him about your inclinations for the same gender (you have sort of done that), and tell him that you respect that he doesnt feel the same. That you hope he will put it behind him and continue to be friends. Tell him that you feel awkward about the turn of events and that he probably is too, but you will in no way, behave inapropriatly and be the friend that you have always been. This is basically the same approach you would use with any friend who you had asked out, who turned you down and said, I dont think of you like THAT. The difference is the suprise of him finding out you are gay. Hopefully he will continue the friendship. good luck, mal
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010): Be honest. Apologize for the misunderstanding and tell him that now that you understand he is not interested assure him that you'll back off and not make any more advances. Resume your friendship as normal. It may or may not work out, especially when it comes to straight males (many are insecure and afraid of being accused as homosexual). Good luck.
...............................
|
