I think sex is disgusting. Can I still find a proper relationship?
Q. Hi I'm 16. I think that sex is disgusting and I'm not to keen on kissing either. Am I the only one and is there any chance of me finding a proper relationship? help and thanks...
A. 5 September 2005: When you think of kissing another person it just creeps you out to think of all those germs, and sex just seems to be about putting parts of our bodies together that we use for getting rid of waste. If thats all there was to sex and kissing the ... (read in full...)
My holiday romance could continue here at home, but I think he's protecting his feelings!
Q. Hi, I met a really lovely guy on holiday. He pursued me, and I was completely swept off my feet. At first I never really thought it would be anything more than a holiday romance, but when we returned home we spoke on the phone every day, and have ...
A. 5 September 2005: This is a really hard one, you are feeling loss and dissapointment. As you know no amount of distance can alter your feelings for someone. No amount of logical thinking can make you forget the one you love. Because you seem to like this guy a lot ... (read in full...)
He loves me so much that he's angry and jealous about other guys all the time...
Q. Hello, I am after desperate help to save my relationship with my partner. I am 22 years and he is 40 years. We are soul mates! We have been through so much more grief than anyone should have to go through however it has meant that we have become so ...
A. 5 September 2005: Have you ever heard of N.L.P. This would be perfect for your partner. Look in the local paper or yellow pages for a practitioner. Only one or two sessions are needed and it really works for uncontrollable behavior like jealously. It's not ... (read in full...)
We split up to clear our heads, but when would it be OK to date again?
Q. Dear Cupid, My story is that my Girlfriend and I broke up 3 months ago to try and clear our heads over certain issues that affected our relationship. Some 2 months ago, she said that our relationship had come to an end ! Some 2 weeks ago, I fou...
A. 5 September 2005: Things do seem to be looking up. I would wait a little longer though before dating properly again. Meet a few times casually first. Make sure you laugh a lot and have fun during your meetings. Make sure she knows how much you enjoy her company by ... (read in full...)
How do I let him down easy, without breaking his heart?
Q. This boy asked me out. I'm 17, he's 18. I'm really sorta close with his brother, and this boy, my friend's brother, really likes me, and I got home last night and I had an offline, where he asked me out. I feel so horrible, but I don't like him that ...
A. 5 September 2005: There is no really easy way to do this cos what you are going to tell him is a negative, so even if you wrap it up in ribbons he still is not going to want to accept it. For his sake don't gift wrap your "No, Thank you!" In a case like this the ... (read in full...)
What can I do to get my family to accept my relationship?
Q. Dear Cupid, My relationship is cool, except that my family doesn't approve of it. What should I do?...
A. 5 September 2005: Accept that you can not argue with the way people feel. Trust that in time they may begin to see things differently.
Understand that they love you.
Delila.... (read in full...)
Is my sexual obsession with my sister-in-law healthy... Or not?!
Q. Dear Cupid, I really need to know if I am "normal" and if this problem I have is common among married men. Cut the story short, I have been having sexual fantasies about my wife's older sister for almost a year now. I'm so afraid its getting u...
A. 5 September 2005: It's really hard going without sex, a year is a long time. You will have to have a talk with your wife. Try to be loving in the way you bring up the subject of your needs don't mention your sister in law what ever you do. Your wife is probably ... (read in full...)
My friend's girlfriend is so jealous, she wants us to break off any contact!
Q. I have a problem with a friend in my classroom. I am an 18 year-old girl and I have a close friend. He is very poppular in my classroom but I never feel about him more than a friend. He has girlfriend that very lovely, cool and talent but she is ...
A. 5 September 2005: You must be really fed up with this girl, the ball is in your friends court though. Its really up to him what he decides to do. You can be there for him as a friend and this girl can't stop you but if he comes to you and says he wants to end your ... (read in full...)
What did he mean? "Too attached"?
Q. Hi, I really like this guy, we spent 3 months together hanging out. We decided that we were going to be friends with benefits. Things were going really well, he was getting really affectionate, and it looked like we had a lot in common. ...
A. 5 September 2005: It seems like this guy may be immature. Don't you think that its a bit rude after spending the weekend together that he is giving you the cold shoulder. I would say that you really need to steer clear of him for your own sake.... (read in full...)
Has my husband always been bisexual?
Q. I have a bi-sexual, cybercheating husband. The catch, or better yet, is he's only like this when he's under the influence. My question is, has he always been bi-sexual, that certain drugs just makes him desire other sexual wants?...
A. 5 September 2005: You must be in shock to discover this information about your husband. Some drugs like ecstasy, speed and cocain can make a person with a normal healthy sexual appetite go completly bonkers for sex. You are probably lucky for now that he is only ... (read in full...)
She's attractive, persistant...and married!
Q. I am a single male of 55 and recently left a place of work where I had a friendship with a lady who is married. She is 40 and asked me out several times, and although I was polite and declined, she was persistent and I have met her a couple o...
A. 5 September 2005: If you want to have sex with this lady and she wants to have sex with you all that is stopping you is the fact that she has a husband! Are you the type of man who can have sex without getting emotionally involved? Be honest with yourself. Is she ... (read in full...)
Do I tell what I know about my sexual abuser?
Q. I have a problem from my past which is coming back to haunt me. I was sexually abused by a family 'friend' when I was 6. I never told anyone and after a few years, I stopped seeing him so he couldn't do anything to me anymore. I never told my ...
A. 5 September 2005: Oh God the pain you have gone through has been kept inside for so long, you want and need to release it all, sometimes it is to protect another child that we first disclose that we have been abused. You must be really scared. Go to the police and ... (read in full...)
I want to know if my male friend is just being chatty, or if he might be interested in me...
Q. I have a male friend who I meet up with once every month/2 months for a drink amongst friends. However over the last 6 months I have noticed when he feels no-one is looking he winks at me and when we went out last week, after he had winked at me ...
A. 5 September 2005: He fancies you! Take a chance and get a little closer next time you meet up. I'll bet you he takes you up on it and ye end up together!... (read in full...)
My girl can't make her mind up whether to choose the other lad or me!
Q. hi I have just had a big uproar with my girl. It all started cos she said that she had feelings for another lad, but she does not want to lose me. I still love her and now she is trying to make her mind up. How can I help her choose me? ...
A. 5 September 2005: Sorry to hear about the bust up! You must be in shock. I'll tell you what to do, Give her loads of space, tell her you just want her to be happy and you want to give her plenty of room to breath and make her mind up. Tell her you'll be there for her ... (read in full...)
Should my baby and I go home to my boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 19 months. We have a new baby which he didn't really want. As a result of this, after leaving hospital I returned home to my parents' house. I am now at their house, but want to return home, however there ...
A. 4 September 2005: You poor thing, you are just after having a new baby and you are feeling low, confused, insecure, jealous and probably loads of other stuff too. Your boyfriend is not supporting you at all. You must feel so lost and alone. The first thing you do is ... (read in full...)
The girl I want is attracted to someone who doesn't love her!
Q. I have a friend that I love very much. A few weeks ago she had some guy contact her but everybody and I knew that he was a bad guy and he has many girlfriends. He doesn't love her for real. But she loves him very much. What should I do? ...
A. 4 September 2005: You are a good friend! Remember frienship doesn't judge it supports. Tell your friend that you are happy she is happy but that you heard some stuff about this guy. Don't keep harping on about it. Be there to laugh with her and cry with her if things ... (read in full...)
My fiancee is the first woman I ever loved and she broke it off with me...
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm a 38 year old man and for the first time in my life I fell deeply in love. Eight months ago I met the woman of my dreams. She was everything that I dreamed for. We met online and in a very short time we had developed a clos...
A. 4 September 2005: The first cut is the deepest. You have had your heart broken. Don't try to forget her, allow yourself to grieve for the love you have lost, feel it to the very depths of your soul. Take your time, listen to sad love songs, do what ever it takes, ... (read in full...)
He's not the sort of boy that I'm really interested in going out with, but I want to keep him as a friend!
Q. I am seventeen years old. I have a problem and I don't know what to do about it. I am friends with a nice boy. He's a really genuine boy and he is a really good friend to me. We get on really well and always have got on really well since we be...
A. 4 September 2005: Talk to your friend. Ask her if she would like you to put in a good word for her, to see if he is interested in her. You could be the match maker here. If you do this you will be giving him the message that you don't really fancy him yourself. If ... (read in full...)
I've never been able to meet my father's standards...
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a father who is very pushing and demanding. I don't know what standards he has set but he pushes other people to achieve more and more in life. Sometimes, his advice and push helps other people, but for me it is making me lose m...
A. 4 September 2005: You are despairing, every daughter wants their fathers approval. You have tried so hard all your life and have never been praised. Your fathers' tactics may have worked to help motivate you, but they have done nothing to help your self esteem. I ... (read in full...)
I've never really gotten over my confusing feelings for my friend!
Q. How should I procede with this relationship? I've been friends with this guy since my Senior year of high school. I am now 25. We have kept in really good touch over the years, but have lived across the country from each other since college st...
A. 4 September 2005: Sometimes love can be so confusing. I would say that it sounds like if you two lived near each other there would certainly be a future together. How much do we risk for love? Do you feel so strongly for him you can see yoursef relocating? Can you ... (read in full...)
I want to get to know a boy who visits my neighbours...
Q. There's a boy who comes to my next door neighbour's house every 2nd weekend and I really think he's nice and hot. The problem is I find it hard to talk to him since I only see him every 2nd weekend and I'm not that close to my next door neighbours, ...
A. 4 September 2005: Mmmh this is a tough on because you want to get his attention with out making an idiot of yourself. If you don't know the neighbours maybe you could start by getting to know them. If that doesn't seem like an option you could try learning how to ... (read in full...)
I don't expect love with my ex... I just want it to end nicely!
Q. Three years ago I suffered a really messy break up with my first love - but I've still held onto the love, I suppose. I've had other boyfriends since, but never felt the same. Recently, we started sleeping together again - but only a few times an...
A. 4 September 2005: You want emotional closure before you can move forward. If you really love this guy and it sounds like you do, first of all you need to accept that your love for him will never go away, in other words he will always have a place in your heart. This ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend about the way my feelings for her are developing?
Q. I'm 20 years old and I'm falling in love with my good friend. She is very nice, sweet and generous. We've been friends for several years. I first met her at an orientation camp before we went to the USA on an exchange programme. I like talking ...
A. 4 September 2005: Being in love feels so good, especially when we get that warm fuzzy feeling inside when we think about that special person. True love is the knd of love that develops slowly and gets stronger every day. Looks like thats the kind of love youv'e got! ... (read in full...)
He begged me to come back, but won't forgive me for having sex with someone else...
Q. Dear Cupid, I am 22; my on/ off again boyfriend is 26. We have been together for 2 years and we really care about each other, but keep breaking up and getting back together. The problems really started about a year ago when we broke up for the...
A. 4 September 2005: This guy is doin' the mess around, and it's you he's messin'with. Wake up and smell the coffe girl or should I say wake up and smell the baby powder, this guy is so insecure that he needs a baby sitter not a girlfriend. Get yourself a real man!... (read in full...)
My lover wants me to experience sex with a woman, but the idea scares me!
Q. I need some serious help and advice. I love a man, but still find women attractive and beautiful, but I also find men attractive and handsome. So if I am in love with a man and we want to spend the rest of our lives together does that mean I am gay...
A. 4 September 2005: You are scared and confused, I can see why the thought of being with a woman you don't know does not appeal to you. Tell him that you know he wants you to experience being with a woman and that you have given it serious thought but that you don't ... (read in full...)
We see each other... we have sex. Now I'd like us to be boyfriend/girlfriend.
Q. I wonder if I can have your opinion please.. I started texting this guy in April - I'd seen him around and so I managed to get hold of his number. At first he was quite slow to reply, but the more we got to know each other the more he replied....
A. 4 September 2005: You are seeing this guy, you meet up and have sex, but it sounds like you are moving at different paces, you want to say "I Love You" and he says "did you pull tonight?" In life nobody likes to be rushed, he is probably a great guy who wants to ... (read in full...)
I think I'm pregnant and my boyfriend now says we should see other people...
Q. My bf can be very nasty sometimes and I think I'm pregnant. He has now told me I can meet other boys. I dont know what to make of this or what to do. Any ideas?...
A. 4 September 2005: Find out if you are pregnant. Get some support from a local support group in your area if you are. Decide what you want to do. I think you should probably tell him if you are pregnant. But be prepared for a bad reaction, maybe get a good friend to ... (read in full...)
My partner's mum hates me. I don't even know why!
Q. I am currently 19 and my partner is 20. We have been together for 2 yrs now and are expecting our first baby. His mother has never met me or spoken to me properly but yet she hates me. At first I thought it was my appearance but I have tried ch...
A. 4 September 2005: You are really confused and I bet you are feeling all alone on this one. Stop thinking about his mother, its not her you are having the relationship with. Don't give any more ultimatums, they rarely achieve anything. He sounds like a mummys boy and ... (read in full...)
I moved out and I'm ready to move back in!
Q. I recently moved out of my boyfriend of 4 years' house, at his request. We are finally starting to get together again more, but he still won't let me move back in. What can I do to move things up a little bit? We are not broke up, we are still ...
A. 4 September 2005: You want to live together again, it seems like your boyfriend is the one who calls the shots. You are in a real hurry to get things moving. It seems like your boyfriend is a really mature independant guy! Where do you live while you are waiting for ... (read in full...)
When I'm out, my boyfriend goes and checks the porn sites. He didn't stop when I asked him to...
Q. Dear Cupid My boyfriend is always looking at porn and dating sites on the computer when I'm out. He is very secretive about it. I told him many times I don't like it but he won't stop. Should I worry and what should I do next?...
A. 3 September 2005: I would say that while looking at porn with your knowledge is ok, contacting other people for cyber sex etc is cheating. just dump him if you can't stand it.... (read in full...)
Tired of the emotional rollercoaster, I just want my fiance to tell me to stay or ask me to leave!
Q. I have been dating my fiance' for over a year now and he still does not seem to care if he is with me or not. Just this evening he told me that he no longer wanted anything to do with me and then after talking/fighting he said that he wanted m...
A. 3 September 2005: This guy is taking you for the biggest ride of your life. You are allowing yourself to be treated SO badly, you really need to ask yourself WHY? Don't waste anymore time or energy on this guy and go and get some help in rebuilding your life and your ... (read in full...)
I found pornography on my Dad's computer!
Q. dont know what to do about my dad? i was recently browsing on the computer when i came across a folder of my dads which i opened. it contained many poronographic images and then many images of himself. ifeel disguisted at this and i dont know how ...
A. 3 September 2005: I would adree with becky5 that you should quietly go to your dad and tell him that you found stuff of his on the computer that upset you and say that you are angry with him for making it so easily accesible. Say you hope you aren't scarred for life! ... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't want to work on fixing our marriage... she just wants "her own life"!
Q. My wife and I just separated 2 months ago, after 12 years of marriage. We have 2 young children. I had a one night affair 5 years ago and became very angry and critical towards everyone, especially my wife. She says she wants her own life and does...
A. 3 September 2005: Love is selfless! Stand back and allow some healing to take place, that means not abandoning your wife with the kids, but supporting her as much as you can, financially especially. For healing to happen with your wife stay out of her space, it might ... (read in full...)
The girl I dated told me I was jealous and untrustworthy, but she texted a friend she liked me loads...
Q. I was seeing a girl for about two months. We never slept together for various reasons, but we were planing to and I could tell she liked me a lot. I went on holiday with my mates for two weeks and when I came back, she was distant and didn't c...
A. 3 September 2005: It sounds like you got up to no good while you were away with your mates and she got wind of it!!! If thats true well then she has her mind made up that she doesn't want to be with someone she can't trust. This girl knows her own mind. I bet she's a ... (read in full...)
My folks won't help me out financially any more if I move back home with my boyfriend...
Q. I have just had a baby. My parents want me to stay at home with them, but I want to move back to my partner. My parents are saying that if I move back to my house with the baby they never want to see me again. We are having money problems and my ...
A. 3 September 2005: One of the scariest things about having a baby is bringing him/her home from the hospital and realising that he/she is totally and utterly dependant on us. You deserve credit for wanting to move out and live with your boyfriend as a family. It ... (read in full...)
Guy problems! They either aren't interested, or they won't go away!
Q. I really like this guy but he says he can't commit to anyone at the moment cos he has just gone back to uni. I understand that but I feel kind of used cos when ever he comes home, he is like always asking me to go out and stuff. Then he decides he ...
A. 3 September 2005: You're crazy about a guy who just wants a casual thing, its so frustrating it makes you want to scream. I would make the most of it when he's around and try dating the other guy you like too, just play it their way and tell them you just want to ... (read in full...)
Should I ask out my bi friend, even though he's dating a girl?
Q. I am a gay teenage boy. I've just recently broken up with my partner and am feeling upset by it. I have liked a friend of mine for a while, and although he is bisexual, he is currently dating another female friend of mine. I don't know if he would ...
A. 3 September 2005: Its really hard after a break up, dealing with the loss, lonliness and maybe even rejection. It can take some time to heal. One way of healing after a breakup can be seeing someone new, sometimes anyone will do. Give yourself a little time for the ... (read in full...)
My cousin is in love with a teacher...
Q. My cousin's in love with her teacher... She's a junior high school student and she's in love with her teacher in the same school. I can't stand about this event. I want to inform this to her mother but if I do, her mother will punish her in no ...
A. 3 September 2005: You are concerned for your cousin. No amount of persuasion will make her stop feeling the way she does. Keep the lines of communication open and do not alienate or embarrass your friend by telling. Keep her feelings secret, she may never trust you ... (read in full...)
Why are my tattoos an issue, all of a sudden?
Q. I am a white woman who married a black man. We have been married now for 4 years and recently he is always bothering me about six tatoos I have had since I was in my 20's. I am now 40. Why is this happening now?...
A. 3 September 2005: I would say he probably did'nt feel safe enough to express how he felt about them until now. Also sometimes things like that don't bother us until we become emotionally attached. If you have no intention of getting rid of them tell him you can see ... (read in full...)
I met her first, and I think she likes me more than him. Why won't she choose me?
Q. I am 18. I have a serious problem. I fell in love with very very pretty girl but she has a boyfriend that she met after me. I think she likes me more than him. Why is she not choosing me to be her boyfriend? And what am I going to do?...
A. 3 September 2005: You really feel like kicking yourself for not getting the girl. You might end up having to accept the fact that you can look but you can't touch, not if you are a good friend.
If your friend really likes this girl even if they break up, I thin... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend still have a ten-years-ago ex's name in his address book?
Q. I'm 20 and I am so frustrated that my boyfriend of 2 years still has his ex girlfriend of 4 years in his email address book. She contacts him maybe once a year or visa versa. I have asked him to take her out but he says they are just friends ...
A. 3 September 2005: You feel jealous of his ex and you think maybe he loves her more than he loves you. You might be worried that in years to come they might meet up and get back together. I bet you are like me in that you play all the what ifs and buts senarios over ... (read in full...)
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