Why does my boyfriend still have a ten-years-ago ex's name in his address book?
Q. I'm 20 and I am so frustrated that my boyfriend of 2 years still has his ex girlfriend of 4 years in his email address book. She contacts him maybe once a year or visa versa. I have asked him to take her out but he says they are just friends ...
A. 3 September 2005: You feel jealous of his ex and you think maybe he loves her more than he loves you. You might be worried that in years to come they might meet up and get back together. I bet you are like me in that you play all the what ifs and buts senarios over ... (read in full...)
He's has a kind of weird-sick relationship with his mum and she rings him 20-30 times a day!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years. I love him with all my heart, and we have certainly had our ups and downs. I feel like our relationship is falling apart. He's become pysically and emotionally abusive, and has threatened to ...
A. 3 September 2005: You poor thing, my heart goes out to you. The first step you need to take is to look at your self and see what is it about your boyfriend that attracts you to him. Do a self-esteem evaluation, there are web-sites that do questions and answers to ... (read in full...)
Had a crush for three years, but I'm too scared to tell him about it!
Q. Hi I'm a 16 year old girl. I've had a crush on my best friend since I was 13. His name is Chris and I like him so much. I'm scared to tell him. How do I tell him I like him?...
A. 3 September 2005: This could turn out to be something beautiful! Being friends for three years means that you both like each other and get along well together. That's a really good place to start. In a case like this I would advise you to wait for a moment when ye ... (read in full...)
Problems deciding whether to get back with my ex...
Q. I wouldn't say that I am anything special, but I never have the problem of lack of boys. But the boy I went long term with wants to get back together with me. I do really like him. I like another boy but he says he will only when I am over my ex. T...
A. 3 September 2005: I can really see where you're comming from. females and males are just soooo different. We have all kinds of different needs and it all gets very confusing. As a rule of thumb, young guys want sex and they want it a lot. As a male matures his ... (read in full...)
Help! Things are moving too fast. I'm 12 and my boyfriend is 17...
Q. Hi, I need some advice about my boyfriend. I'm 12 and he's 17, we've been together for 2 months I really love him but things are moving a bit fast for me. We haven't even told my parents yet and he's talking about having sex! He has had sex with...
A. 3 September 2005: If you do give him what he wants he will move on anyway, he just wants to have sex with you. As you get older you will learn that guys don't always mean what they say. He is more experienced and needs to have more respect for you. If you tell him ... (read in full...)
My partner says he'll look for more work, but instead he hangs out with his sister...
Q. I love my b/f of over 2 years. In March he quit his full time job in order to work part time doing something he loves. We are strapped financially and I am feeling the pressure and work full time plus a second job. He says he is looking for full ...
A. 2 September 2005: You are feeling like you do all the work while he sit around for most of the day. A really clear message is needed here. You could try suggesting that you live apart so that you are responsible for your own bills and how much money he makes is up to ... (read in full...)
Dad's making my life a misery!
Q. Me and my dad have never really got on, but recently it's got so much worse I have an older sister and she's smaller built than me and looks like a model. He's always fussing over her and saying to his friends that he'll "have to keep an eye on t...
A. 2 September 2005: As a girl I loved my Dad so much, I can't imagine what pain you must be feeling. You need to identify the many negative feelings you are going through, for example, rejection, envy, jealously, hurt, sad, angry, etc. Then use this to compile a letter ... (read in full...)
He cheated when I was away for a month. What do I do?
Q. I have been going out with this guy for three months now but I recently went on holiday for a month. I got back from holiday and he admitted to me that he had sex with another girl, but it didn't mean anything and he felt really bad about it. ...
A. 2 September 2005: You must be feeling really hurt by his cheating on you, after three months you are still getting to know this guy. He told you about it and this is good. Whether you stay with him or not all depends on how much you like him. It's still early days so ... (read in full...)
I picture my ex when I'm making love to my current boyfriend!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years on and off. But for thoes 3 years all I could think about is my ex boyfriend! I will be making love and I will picture my ex's face on his. I know this is really bad for my part, but I have ...
A. 1 September 2005: Thats a tough one. As long as you keep it to yourself though you are not hurting anyone but I'm sure you feel guilty after. You could try making love with your eyes open, look at your boyfriends good bits, maybe his neck or shoulders, if you have to ... (read in full...)
Even though he has a girlfriend, he said he likes me too!
Q. I like this guy who has a girlfriend. He said he liked her but when I asked if he liked me he said yes. I want ot go out with him. What should I do? ...
A. 1 September 2005: Well it sounds like it might become a bit of a messy situation if you do go out with him. You might enjoy the challenge of "taking" a guy away from another girl. I would advise you to steer clear, admire from a distance but us girls need to stick ... (read in full...)
Inside the office, my colleague acts differently from the way he acts outside it...
Q. I have a hard time figuring out why my colleague acts sooo strangely. We talked and joked to each other a lot every day in the office though almost all our conversations were work related. And lately I noticed that he started to flirt a bit in ...
A. 1 September 2005: My first instinct tells me that he is either married or in a serious relationship, he may have drawn an invisible line in the sand that he will not cross. This may explain why most of your conversations are work related. You are probably right he ... (read in full...)
Will my boyfriend leave me to go back to his pregnant ex?
Q. Hi. Me and my boyfriend have been together for one month and we are engagged. I found out recently that his ex is Pregnant with his kid. At first I thought he was having an affair but she is two months gone. I'm scared that if she keeps it will he ...
A. 1 September 2005: I would call off the engagement untill things are sorted out with his kid. Mind yourself here and keep your distance to protect yourself. It is still early days, pull back now before you get hurt.... (read in full...)
He found out I lied about the number of men I've had sex with!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and half. We just had a baby 2 mths ago and he recently found out that I lied about how many men I have been with in my past. He now wants nothing to do with me and we live together. How do I fix our ...
A. 1 September 2005: there is no quick fix here, you probably regret telling him how many men you had slpept with. Never do that again. It's not really his business anyway, but whats done is done you can't take it bake. Tell him you can understand that he feels betrayed ... (read in full...)
Sex was off the menu during my pregnancy, but now we don't have any interaction at all!
Q. Me and my husband have just had a baby. During my pregnancy my husband didn't want to make love because of the baby, now two months after the birth we have no interaction at all. We don't even kiss! I find it hard to talk about it as I'm not sure ...
A. 1 September 2005: You are feeling unattractive after being pregnant and giving birth, that is so hard to deal with, you hate looking in the mirror and don't feel sexy. Its really important that you open the lines of communication between you and your husband. You ... (read in full...)
His ex knows that we're dating again, and I think she's using her pregnancy to get him back!
Q. The guy that I lost my virginity to a year ago left me around 4 months after that. He started dating this girl "Kelly" she told him she was pregnant, and 5 months later she ended up being 3 months pregnant. Then she left him and wanted nothing to do ...
A. 1 September 2005: You are scared your heart will be broken. This is a dangerous situation. This guy needs plenty of time and space to sort his head out and you need to get yourself as far away as possible unless you want to keep getting hurt. He sounds nice and you ... (read in full...)
Since being pregnant, I'm totally uninterested in sex and affection...
Q. I've been seeing a lovely guy for over 2 years now. We live together and I'm now pregnant to him.(We're both 28.) The thing is, since being pregnant(now 10 weeks), I've gone completly off sex/affection/kissing etc. Now I'm worried cos I don't wa...
A. 31 August 2005: There is nothing wrong with you, you don't feel like having sex because you are pregnant, that is pretty common. Quickies are sometimes good if you don't want to keep rejecting your partner. Once you get started you might find that you can reach ... (read in full...)
What do I do after telling her I like her?
Q. Simple question really. How do I get the girl of my dreams when she only knows my name and knows little else? I told her I liked her but I don't know what to do next. What should I do?...
A. 31 August 2005: She knows your name and she knows you like her, does she know where to find you? If you want to know if the feelings are mutual ask yourself, "does she smile when you meet?" If the answer is yes (and I mean a big smile) then ask her if she wants to ... (read in full...)
Left my husband to be with my lover... Now my lover has moved on!
Q. I am in need of some advice before I become totally consumed by my problem. I have been married for 18 years, the past five I have been having an affair with a single man. I loved him deeply and still do. Late last year I started to become really f...
A. 31 August 2005: Writting your feelings down is always good, you don't need to send it to him though for it to be good therapy. It is so hard when our hearts are aching, get yourself some tourquise to help to ground you. Allow yourself to grieve for the breakup of ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid that our relationship won't last, because of the distance between us...
Q. My Boyfriend and I have been together three years on and off. One year ago, I decided to travel to the UK to work. Initially he decided he wanted to stay put, but after I left, he decided to follow me over, as he missed me. Thing is, one year lat...
A. 31 August 2005: You are worried and feeling insecure. Your partner feels fine with the separation now and suddenly you don't. Share your feelings with your partner, instead of asking constant questions try telling him you feel the same way he did before. When we ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my fiancee what a slut I've been over the past few months?
Q. Ok so I feel like a total slut even asking this question but my guilt is tearing me apart....I have been with my fiance for almost two years and we are getting married next year...The last few months I have been cheating on him..six different times ...
A. 31 August 2005: You feel very guilty and don't like yourself very much right now. You have been badly damaged in the past and maybe need more time where you are committed to healing yourself before you commit to a relationship. Tell your fiance that you feel as if ... (read in full...)
Falling for my boss... but I'm only thirteen!
Q. Hi I am only 13 years old, which is young. Recently I have found myself falling for my part-time boss. I dont know whether this is love or lust. He is about 36 and I know it probably won't be serious. I am getting mixed messages from him. ...
A. 31 August 2005: Its OK and also really common for young girls to fancy older men. It happened to me so I know how you feel. Some times its down to your luck whether the man you fancy is a good one or a bad one. If he is a good man you will know because he would ... (read in full...)
Sex is boring and I mosly just do it so he'll get some enjoyment!
Q. Ok, me and my fairly long term b/f have been having sex now for about 4 months(we were both virgins), and frankly I hate it. It's uncomfortable, it's boring and it's kinda painful! We always do foreplay beforehand but I don't like that any better to ...
A. 31 August 2005: The mind is the greatest sex organ of them all. Try to think of something that makes you feel sexy, it doesn't matter what it is, keep it secret. While your boyfriend is warming you up, think about whatever it is that makes you feel sexy, think as ... (read in full...)
My life has been horrible up to now, but I'm scared my great new boyfriend will find out about my past!
Q. I am having a problem. All my life I'm faced with things that hurt me so much. For example my ex made me have an abortion as it wasn't his (we got together before I found out I was pregnant) now I regret it every day and miss my little boy. My bes...
A. 31 August 2005: You are so scared of so many things right now and I can understand why. Do a self esteem evaluation, that is really important for you as I would say even though you descibe yourself as confident your self esteem is probably really low. Find out ways ... (read in full...)
Loved her more than life itself, and I just can't get over my ex!
Q. Starting to go crazy now :( A few months ago now, my fiance left me. And as you could probabily guess, I was devastated. I love this woman more than, well, life itself. The reason she left me was because my depression was too much for her ...
A. 31 August 2005: You will never forget this girl so please give up trying. Imagine making a permanent place for her in your heart, fill it with all of her favourite things and all the things that remind you of her. Allow that place to be there forever and ever. Know ... (read in full...)
Tell me how this whole "friends with an ex thing" works
Q. My ex-girlfriend (of a long time)and I broke up a year ago. In fact she was more than just a girlfriend as we lived together for quite a while. I know it was mostly my fault. The thing is we have both moved on, and changed to some extent, and have...
A. 31 August 2005: You told her how you feel and thats good. If you want to stay as friends with your ex you will respect the clear line she has drawn for you and not step across it.
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My girlfriend won't swallow. Can I talk her around to seeing it my way?
Q. hiya, I was just wondering. I have been going out with my gilfriend for 3 years and I really want her to swallow my cum. Are there any ways in whichI can get her to do this? Thanx...
A. 31 August 2005: Ask your girl friend if she would mind if you could come on her face or breasts or stomach instead of in her mouth. She could still bring you to orgasm with her mouth but avoid the embarassment and rejection you may feel when she has to spit it out. ... (read in full...)
I can only have an orgasm when I'm masturbating or during oral sex...
Q. I am a 17 years old female and I have had sex in the past and recently but I have a problem with having an orgasm. The only way I know I am cumming/have a orgasm is when I am receiving oral sex or when masturbating. My partner have told me many ...
A. 31 August 2005: It is not possible to have an orgasm without feeling it! What your boyfriend is feeling is probably your vaginal muscles contracting as you are becoming aroused. A good position to bring you to orgasm during intercourse is with your boyfriend on top ... (read in full...)
What't he best way to get over someone you really loved?
Q. Dear cupid, Me and my boyfriend broke up almost 2 months ago. No matter what I do I can't get over him. I really loved him and now I have no idea what to do. How do I get over someone that I really loved?...
A. 31 August 2005: You may always hold a torch for this guy even years from now when you are old and have grandchildren, like a light in your heart. Two months have gone by and your heart still aches for him. He must be really special. Acceptance is the greatest ... (read in full...)
Still trying to move on from my ex...even 9 years later...
Q. I have been married for 8 years and been with my husband for 9 years. We have 1 child. When I met my husband over 9 years ago, I was on the rebound from an ex boyfriend who was soon going to be my fiance. To make a long story short, my ex and...
A. 31 August 2005: You are still holding a torch for you ex, you have strong feelings for him that you know you will probably take to your grave. The love you had with him never expired. You are feeling very guilty for this. You love your husband but its not the same ... (read in full...)
I regret cheating on my boyfriend, but I just can't say "No"...
Q. Hi, I'm 20 and in a five year relationship with the best guy in the world. But recently I have been messing around with one guy I have become very attached to. It's been happening a few months. I love my boyfriend and am very happy in my ...
A. 31 August 2005: You have some real strong chemistry going with this other guy. Lucky you!!! It sounds like you are not ready for a steady relationship. Go to your boyfriend and tell him that you love him and don't want to hurt him. Finish with him as gently as you ... (read in full...)
He wants a "relationship", but he hasn't told his mum, or been out in public with me!
Q. I've been seeing my bf for just under a 5 months now, although we have known each other a year. We met online. It started out as just casual fun, meeting for sex once a week. Eventually he told me that he wanted more, when I asked him to explain he ...
A. 31 August 2005: You feel as if this guy is just using you for sex and is only saying he loves you but doesn't mean it. I can really see why you feel this way. As a woman you need to know that your man loves and wants only you, and that your man is proud of you. The ... (read in full...)
He missed me and made plans to visit... but then his email got less frequent. What does it mean?
Q. This year I became involved with a guy I met online, who lives in another country. After some months of talking, he came to visit me this past summer for 2 weeks. It was a great visit, however he was a little cautious with me. We had a talk about ...
A. 31 August 2005: You are feeling rejected because it seems as if he has lost interest. We females commonly react this way when our man pulls away. His behaviour is common with most men. While you are feeling worried and stressed by his behaviour try not to blame ... (read in full...)
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