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writes: hi I have just had a big uproar with my girl. It all started cos she said that she had feelings for another lad, but she does not want to lose me. I still love her and now she is trying to make her mind up. How can I help her choose me? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2007): its funny I am in the same situation. I am married with two kid and I also have an outside child. Am with both of them and I don't know who to choose. They are both waiting on me to decide hile they are in serious emotional pain. My wife treats me like a king and is the perfect woman but I love the other woman with all my heart. I am even depressed about it. I so want to run away but can't. My wife doesn't desrve me walking out on her and I run the risk of not receiving the same kind of life with the other woman. Its a big risk but I will do it for love. You might sk why not have my cake and eat it but no woman wants that. They want the whole package. Security. I am clueless and pressured mentally.I too need help.. so will you all respond to my situation as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2006): dump her. what right does she have to make you beg her for her love. either she loves you or she doesn't.. if she starts to stray now, whats to say she won't do it again in the future.
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reader, daniella +, writes (5 September 2005):
leave her to decide for her self think about it could you be with someone that has feelings for another guy? Give her time your both young and your hornmons are everywhere if she picks the other guy still be friends just move on. your young and you got all your life ahead of you good luck.
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reader, communicatrix +, writes (5 September 2005):
 There's no helping anyone choose anyone. Really. Trust me. I'm an old broad, I've been around.
Because seriously, even if you make a great ploy by taking off and playing hard to get, you're not going to want the situation you're setting up for yourself, i.e., a woman who only wants what she doesn't think she can have.
If you decide to give her x amount of time to make up her mind, be prepared to stick to walk away if she doesn't come back with a clear answer and a big, fat apology.
Me? I'd walk away. But like I said, I'm older and have zero tolerance for this kind of ill-treatment from a boyfriend.
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reader, Anastasia +, writes (5 September 2005):
Why should you help her choose you? If she cannot see the good person that you are ...isn't that her loss? You just have to wait on her ...that is all you can do. I personally feel you should not have to fight for someone's love...they either love you or they don't. Know your worth hug...don't ever let anyone make you less than you are.
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reader, Delila +, writes (5 September 2005):
Sorry to hear about the bust up! You must be in shock. I'll tell you what to do, Give her loads of space, tell her you just want her to be happy and you want to give her plenty of room to breath and make her mind up. Tell her you'll be there for her as a friend if she needs you. Be as cool as a breeze, act like you got a million things to do and a million and one other girls waiting for you. Then smile and walk away! DO NOT CONTACT HER! Just stay away, get into your video games for a while or something and when you think about her just smile and say to yourself "GOOD THINGS COME TO THOSE WHO WAIT" This will only work if you follow my instructions exactly and do not contact her for any reason whatsoever. Good Luck.
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