I feel guilty for not being fair to him.
Q. Hi, I'm writing because I need advice, perspective. I met a guy over 1 year ago in Toronto. It was a friend of a friend and a roommate at the same time. Not long after he moved in (we were 3 living in a house), we hooked up for all the wrong re...
A. 22 November 2007: Women are so good at blaming themselves when a relationship goes sour.Girl the guy just wsn't ready to live with you and couldn't handle the change of lifestyle and being jobless added to his confusion and directed all his anger to you.Don't you see ... (read in full...)
How come some guys are passionate and some guys aren't
Q. i'm the kinda girl who loves to be cuddled love to hold hands all the time love to be smothered and spoiled with kisses but my boyriend doesn't do any of that. so my question is how come some guys are pasionate and some guys aren't?...
A. 22 November 2007: It's true the answer is in your question. Just as others love cuddling,there will always be others who won't and your man seems to be one of them. My girlfriend is also like that and it pisses me off at times.She don't like holding hands or ... (read in full...)
How long will it be until I find another girlfriend?
Q. Hi. I'm a little confused. I understand that it varies, but how often do guys, on average, get girlfriends? I've only ever had one, and I got her when I was 16. She split up with me a few months ago. I'm 19 now, and I can't say that I know that...
A. 22 November 2007: My friend that's not a question anyone can answer with 100% accuracy.You may meet someone even today or tomorrow.Just be patient and you'll find someone who deserves you.When you put yourself under pressure you'll end up doing something you may ... (read in full...)
Should I call or give him some space?
Q. kk i need help on this one!! i started seeing this guys during the summer, we slept together and he kept telling me how much he liked me and all... at first i didnt reply to his comments but after a while i started to get attached and told him that...
A. 22 November 2007: If he means so much to you,make an extra effort to find out what's on his mind and if he continues acting up,let him be for a while.I think he's trying to make you feel just like you are feeling right now,he may feel successful.I know it'll keep on ... (read in full...)
I am scared to try this.
Q. hey. i have been with my boyfriend now for a little over a year and we have stated having sex. we have only been exually avtive for about 6 weeks and its ok so far. but my boyfriend recently asked me if i would like to perform some role plays wi...
A. 22 November 2007: I know naturally as a lady you would do anything to please your man but if you won't be comfortable with it i can assure you,you won't enjoy it.Firstly,if you really want role playing suggest other styles you may be comfortable with.Then depending ... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my best years by not having sex?
Q. I'm in my teens. Now is the best time to be having Sex, and I'm not! I was not so long ago, and I think I took Sex for granted because I was enjoying my girlfriends company so much. Am I wasting my best years?? Do many guys suffer this when it com...
A. 22 November 2007: I know how you think and feel but don't feel pressured into having sex.Just because others are having sex don't mean you ought to as well.Sex is best enjoyed with someone you love who feels the same way about you.That's what you should be looking at ... (read in full...)
I had sex 2 weeks ago and have been extremely tired and nausead ever since. We used a condom with spermicide. Could I be pregnant?
Q. I had sex with this guy 2 weeks ago. I have been extremely tired and nauseated ever since. We used a condom with spermicide. Do you think there is a chance I could be pregnant or justed stress out worrying about. I know I should get a test to ...
A. 22 November 2007: Hi,if you are so worried about pregnancy,get yourself tested.However,it could just be just hormones playing with your body,very common in women.I agree with Mistify too that you should pay closer attention to your periods,though it will not ... (read in full...)
He asks me if he decides to go out with some other girl "should I hide it or should I tell you right upfront?" Why is he doing this? Just to have a reaction?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for the past 10 months. He can be very sweet and I think I love him well. The problem is that he keeps saying that he doesn't belong to anyone and more sometimes he tells me about the girls he "used to have a crush on"...
A. 22 November 2007: I think your boyfriend suffers from indecision and has an inferiority complex.He's really acting immature,unless he's younger than you,i'll understand.My dear it's time you asked yourself what you want from this relationship because i see you ... (read in full...)
How do I stop myself thinking about my guy and I having sex? Its affecting my work and my mum is wondering why I'm so figety!
Q. Hey there, this is a mix of two questions really, um... where to begin... im 17 ive been with my guy ( whose 18) almost 6 months and we've had sex only twice but last night was fantastic and i cant stop thinking about it but my mum has noticed that ...
A. 20 November 2007: You will always be disturbed if you don't do it again.I'm actually feeling very horny these days and can't wait to see my girl who's in another town.So find time and make love to each other then concetrate on your studies.You'll find it's a battle ... (read in full...)
My friend has a bf and a child, is it wrong if I start a relationship with her ex?
Q. Dear cupid.. When i was 16 my best friend was involved with a lad in my class she was a year older than me and was with this boy for a year he was her 1st boyfriend.Its been 2 years and shes moved on she has a baby and a boyfriend now, we're very ...
A. 20 November 2007: You are in a very similar position as my current galfrnd.i used to date her best friend whose married now and has a baby.There's nothing wrong but you need to tell your friend when you guys become an item because it'll seem like betrayal if she's ... (read in full...)
When my clothes come off I tense up and loose my erection! What should I do??
Q. I have no problem getting erections while masterbating or anytime but when me and my girlfriend are getting into it and my clothes come off i tense up and loose my erection! what should I do??...
A. 20 November 2007: As they've all said it's really in the mind and not inn the penis.Easier said than done but try to prolong foreplay and let your woman help you by stroking it for you.It helps alot.Try to relax as much as possible.It has happened to me too.Over ... (read in full...)
How do I avoid the feelings of sexual desire at the age of 12?
Q. i have a b/f and we want to have sex. juss to let u no he is not pressuring me. i no that we r to young at the age of twelve and i am sure that i don't want to ruin my life by having sex. how so i get rid of the feelings that i have to have ...
A. 20 November 2007: I agree with da previous writer.Find somethings to keep you preoccupied other than sex.You are too young to be wanting to do it but i'm not saying you are too young to think it.It's normal as u go into your teens.You must also be never pressured ... (read in full...)
Tips about anal sex? Last time we tried it, it felt weird thus I asked him to stop.
Q. My boyfriend really wants to have anal sex. Were going to try but im nervous. We tried it once before and we couldnt really get it in, it got in a little but it felt weird to me and i didnt like it and told him to stop. Since were going to try it ...
A. 20 November 2007: Considering yo age it's no wonder that you are having difficulties.Naturally your anus is smaller and tighter.If he's penis is more than average i'd recommend you abandon the idea but if you really are up to it use lube oil on your anus and his ... (read in full...)
We love each other, I want to get married, but he says why bother?, is it really important to get married or is he right?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years. We've lived together for one of those years and I've known him for going on nine years. I love him. Recently I've thought about marriage and I've concluded that I would like to formalize and de...
A. 20 November 2007: It seems you people have a different opinion about and definition of marraige.It's not proper to live with your partner for a long time and not marry them.I owayz ask this question.Is being in a relationship a hobby for some of u people?Do you just ... (read in full...)
Some girls have said to my face I'm ugly. Will I ever have a gf?
Q. I find it difficult to be attracted to girls my own age .because some girls have said to my face im ugly. Now i find it so difficult to love myself. At one pointnice guy, but they say nice guys are not good looking. I once wanted to take my own ...
A. 19 November 2007: Dude,
Don't ever be put down by such people. Just because they think that don't mean it's exactly true. Remember even others see those girls as ugly. Just have self-esteem and confidence whch most gals look for rather than looks. I know you'll meet... (read in full...)
I hope someone can help.I don't want to loose him.
Q. i recently got involved with a man i met through a friend. he was great always texing calling coming to see me. then when we finally slept together, which was a let down, he would text me asking when he could come back down, and when would i hav...
A. 9 November 2007: You never seem to realise this.Always play safe and avoid feeling used like you are.Even before you knew where things were heading you had already slept with him.I'm sure he got what he wanted and began aksing for more and the moment he saw you are ... (read in full...)
I am a male and I don't enjoy sex.
Q. I am an adult male, have had sex a couple of times and have never really enjoyed it. The sex all seem mechanical with no real pleasurable sensation or feeling like you read about or see in movies. I also don't ejaculate during sex but ejaculate when ...
A. 9 November 2007: It seems you are not da only one.This condition is called sexual dissatisfaction or sexual dysfunction.It's very coommon in women who can't achieve an orgasm.However,it has also evolved in men.Sex is a mental exercise and begins in da brain.The ... (read in full...)
Is this common for men?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 4 months. Among the times that we have had sex, he has only cummed twice. Most of the time, half way through the act, he would complain that he is getting too hot or tired, and then he would stop. I have ...
A. 9 November 2007: As you've read from da rest,da dude either has a problem with his manhood or he's making up excuses but something you might not have guessed might be that he's too nervous for sex.I would also suggest you sexually starve him 4 a while and see how he ... (read in full...)
I've just found out I slept with my 3rd cousin once removed. Should I stay with her?
Q. ok about 2 years ago some people i never know came up for my moms birthday i was 18 and this girl was 16 i thought she was cute and i somewhat liked her at the time she left when the party was over. 2 years went by and about 2 weeks ago i saw her ...
A. 9 November 2007: Wow.You really are caught up.However,i woul also not make such a big fuss about it especially that she's really not your close relative or sister.I would advise you to talk to your mum and her parents and find out how the rest of the family would ... (read in full...)
I'm not coping and I'm so confused. What can I do?
Q. Well my boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago now. We had been together for 2 years and had been engaged for over a year. We were a perfect couple but things started to go wrong when i kept falling out with him over stupid things and now i hate ...
A. 9 November 2007: My dear,there's a silent rule of love,NEVER LET GO OF DA ONES YOU TRULY LOVE.I feel your pain but again i really wonder if yo dude seriously wants you back.I think he's not putting in more effort to get back with you.If you really feel that way,go ... (read in full...)
Is this normal? About ejaculation.
Q. My penis starts leaking semen at the time of arousal. Is this normal? and i also ejaculate within few seconds ...
A. 8 November 2007: Quite normal so don't stress.It also happens to me.If you don't like it at all you can get circumsised so that you can reduce on arousal effects.Just try to relax and take a bit more control.A few exercises may assist if this affects your ... (read in full...)
Did I lose my virginity? Did he? What happened here??
Q. im worried!did it happen? me and my bf was fooling last night. im a v and wanna stay one till im married and my bf knows that. but last nite he did put he's thing in me but not in my vagina but the other one. i really dont know what exactly happened ...
A. 6 November 2007: Daaaaa he just hurt himself down there.It seem he was trying to have anal sex with you and ended up hurting himself.Has happnened to me too.If you are not a pornstar your anus is quite small and isn't flexible like your vegina and da bones there are ... (read in full...)
Is he only sticking around for sex?
Q. An old aquaintance and I recently got back in touch, and we have gone out every weekend for the past three weeks. We hit it off, and there was obviously chemistry, and in the heat of the moment, we had sex that first night and have continued to each ...
A. 6 November 2007: Can someone give me an American woman? Because they are so into sex.
Firstly,you knew where da man was coming from emotionally.You should have tried to find out where you stand before sleeping with him.The mistake with most ladies is that they thin... (read in full...)
Is he in it for the money or me?
Q. So I dated this guy for a really long time, we broke up and now are kinda friends but I am still in love with him and he says he is still in love with me. Although, unfortunatley I'm still really wrapped around his finger and still let him borrow ...
A. 6 November 2007: He may be using your love for him just to benefit financially.Stop giving him money for a while and see his reaction.Since you are worried about his interest in the money you give him,remove that element and see what he does.If you really love him ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my husband's best friend - it was his idea - will I find a need for more men?
Q. A family friend, who was widowed about ten months ago, visits us about once a month when he comes to the city on business. After dinner last month, he expressed to my husband how difficult it was to meet a woman and how frustrating it was to have ...
A. 1 November 2007: I thought such practice was only found among da eskimos.I also had to read it twice to absorb it.Woman your sex drive is in gear 4 if not 5.Is this a sign that your husband is not satisfying you in bed?Did you hubby actually tell you to go and hv ... (read in full...)
She is affectionate but never actually tells me how she feels about me, which sometimes I need to hear. It's her first relation. Is it unusual what I ask?
Q. This may sound like a silly issue, but I'll take the risk and ask anyway! I've been with my partner for a year now, and things have been great. I love her, and she knows this as I've told her so on several occasions. The first time I told her,...
A. 1 November 2007: I agree with most of da previous writers.People have different ways of expressing themselves.Words are not the only way of showing affection.I usually tell my gal all sorts of romantic things sometimes poetic and it really turns her on.For her she ... (read in full...)
Just met a guy in a club, he wants me to go to his house this Saturday. What should I do?
Q. ive been out with a guy that i met in a club, our date was good. now he wants me to go to his house on saturday. what should i do?...
A. 1 November 2007: Sometimes i ask myself who loves sex more.Men or women?As a lady if you are looking for something serious you take it a bit slow.Ignoring cultural differences.If you just want to get physical and just enjoy sex go ahead but don't be surprised when ... (read in full...)
Should I take him back?
Q. My ex and I were together for over a year before he had to move back home for work. We were so in love and very happy. I knew though that him and hie ex were still in contact over the phone but thought nothing of it as I tried to deal with the fact ...
A. 31 October 2007: Sometimes i feel for you women.How does a man dump you for sum1 else and expect you to keep your arms open waiting for him?It also seems he's not sure who he really loves and it would be dangerous to take him back.I really think you should have been ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel so lost after breaking up?
Q. OK, last night I broke up with my bf of 4.5 yrs, we have'nt really been happy for the last yr or so as we lost our spark and both of us did nothing to help our relationship until it was too late. Last night, I sat him down and told him we are ...
A. 31 October 2007: I remember,when the girl o was dating last year broke up with me.I simply walked out of her presence.I didn't know what else to do.Sometimes a man's feelings are better expressed in solitude.Since you say things haven't been smotth da past yr or ... (read in full...)
She doesn't talk much, is she just shy?
Q. So I'm just starting a relationship with this girl. we like each other and like spending time with one another. the thing i like most is that i have this certain feeling of peace around her, so i know there is something there. the thing i worry ...
A. 29 October 2007: Believe me i used to get upset with my gal at 1st but now she can make me talk even though i don't want to.She's definitely shy.Women have this complex nature around them.The more comfortable she is around you,the more she'll open up.If you want to ... (read in full...)
Should I 'Quit it'?
Q. I am currently 18, and I'm dating this 40 year old who used to be my teacher in high school. My grandma and aunt heard about us, and told me to "quit it" because it just isn't acceptable. We've been dating for a total of 6 months now, and I must ...
A. 29 October 2007: What do you want from the relationship?Where will you be in da next 5yrs or more?Do you see him marrying you?Who do you love and respect more your family or him?I know at times you may have to go against your family but try looking at it from their ... (read in full...)
I don't know what's going on. Any suggestions?
Q. I have just returned from a business trip, i was gone for 5 days and its the longest i have been away from my boyfriend of 1 year. when I was away I did call him a lot and I missed him so much and on the trip i realized how much i loved him and what...
A. 29 October 2007: My oh my.Does your man behave like a woman.I think you need to start treating him like a woman.Most men in whose partners are behaving behave like your men would give their partners space.So give him some space and i'm sure he'll come around but ... (read in full...)
Why am I tormented by visions of my ex doing things with other men?
Q. A few months ago, my girlfriend split with me because she was going to university far from me. And now, I keep envisioning her making out and having Sex with other guys. I am the only guy she has ever slept with, as she's never been in a long term ...
A. 29 October 2007: I understand what you feel.It just goes to show that you still care about her alot and still want her back.There only 2 options here.Either you go after her and convince her to get back with you.I can promise you she's not forgotten about you ... (read in full...)
I can't trust him to tell the truth. Any suggestions?
Q. Hi - I have been seeing my boyfriend for 2 years (the last 6 months he has been living abroad). He told me only last week (during an argument on the phone when I shouted he had been selfish leaving me alone like this) that he had actually delayed ...
A. 29 October 2007: It's sad that your man has not been very honest and dishonesty in da early stages of a relationship is sign of bigger trouble ahead.However,don't get too emotional he may be doign all this out of love but ofcourse i do very much agree that he ought ... (read in full...)
Is he stringing me along?
Q. dear aunt, iam 20 and have been dating my boyfriend for 9months. he seems to love me just the same way that i do. but the problem here is that he has a baby with someone else but told me he's gonna part ways with her soon. he told me he only wants ...
A. 29 October 2007: My dear,i've been there and done that and though i never listened to people i now believe it.It's sad that you were brought to the honest truth that men don't easily forget sum1 with their baby.I really feel your pain but you need to be strong.My ... (read in full...)
Her lack of communication is killing me - what can I do to get through to her?
Q. I have been (living) with my current girlfriend for 10 years this coming xmas, and last year we finally bought some property together. It seems though, that ever since this happened, her attitude to me has changed. She has become colder, never re...
A. 29 October 2007: It's really interesting to learn about other cultures.In our culture,it's extremely rare to find such a living arrangement,especially for that long.Have you ever considered where your relationship is going?I think she's reached a stage of ... (read in full...)
I'm not a virgin, but I'm scared of having sex with my new bf, what should I do?
Q. So me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year now. And we dated years ago in jr. high too. ne way. We havent ever had sex yet, i mean we have done other stuff like kiss and hes fingered me and i've given him a hand job. but now he wants to ha...
A. 29 October 2007: I generally have greater level of respect for girls(ladies) who'll think it through before allowing any man to gain pleasure from their bodies.I actually salute you for not having full intercourse all this while.The only basis i believe you should ... (read in full...)
My fiance booked an appointment with an escort a year ago. Can I believe him that he was 'only mucking about'?
Q. Hello, Three weeks ago I discovered that my fiancé had visited some websites of local escorts (i.e. prostitutes). Absolutely shocked, immediately I checked his e-mail account and found out that he had sent an email for appointment of one of them ...
A. 26 October 2007: I feel your pain lady.I know you expect a bit more respect from your man.An obviuos question is why was he checking out escorts over the net?It might be that your man has a habit he can't get rid of.Some men have a tendency to do risky things.It ... (read in full...)
Love affairs from afar, circumcision, and masturbation.
Q. First, I'm in a distant relationship and love my gal too much. This is what's causing da problem. I think about her to the extent of my head aching. I miss her so much that it really hurts. Sometimes i feel she doesn't love me as i do because ...
A. 26 October 2007: And by the way she's not really into computers like me and i plan on teaching her myself or taking her to a computer course.She's really not into tech like me.... (read in full...)
Love affairs from afar, circumcision, and masturbation.
Q. First, I'm in a distant relationship and love my gal too much. This is what's causing da problem. I think about her to the extent of my head aching. I miss her so much that it really hurts. Sometimes i feel she doesn't love me as i do because ...
A. 26 October 2007: Thanx again guys.Hey sandman i meant telling my woman and not my parents.Well my girl is about 5hrs from me but i only get to see her once a month and i'm busy trying to convince her to come stay with me for a while but da problem is she works,her ... (read in full...)
I thought I was in, she didn't!
Q. I've been going out with this girl for 6 months.We recently had our 1st sex.Da 1st tym i's 2 nervous and pulled out too quickly.2nd time i lost my erection while trying to penetrate.3rd i kept my erection but after asking how it was,was told to ...
A. 12 October 2007: Thanx guys. I's beginnin 2 think my tool's too small. I think i wnt start losin any sleep over it coz i kno wit practice this'll b history. Atleast i kno i'm normal!... (read in full...)
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