How can I prove to her that I won't pressure her for sex like her ex?
Q. Well theres a girl that i think im starting to fall for. Well she a few weeks ago got out of a relationship because he kept pressuring her to have sex and thats all he talked about all the time. and she has been hitting on me. Asking a lot of ...
A. 30 January 2008: I like your moral standing.You seem to be serious life which is good.Just be careful,some people may make you lose those principles.
Take care.... (read in full...)
How can I prove to her that I won't pressure her for sex like her ex?
Q. Well theres a girl that i think im starting to fall for. Well she a few weeks ago got out of a relationship because he kept pressuring her to have sex and thats all he talked about all the time. and she has been hitting on me. Asking a lot of ...
A. 29 January 2008: I sense a fear in you of growing closely intimate with any girl.You need to open up and that's exactly what she's doing.You never know just telling her about your inexperience may make her trust you more but again she may look at you in a different ... (read in full...)
How can I prove to her that I won't pressure her for sex like her ex?
Q. Well theres a girl that i think im starting to fall for. Well she a few weeks ago got out of a relationship because he kept pressuring her to have sex and thats all he talked about all the time. and she has been hitting on me. Asking a lot of ...
A. 28 January 2008: It's really not a good idea to start going out with someone just after a break up but since it seems she wasn't so in love with the guy,you are on the safe side.To anwser your question,you need to be her friend first of all.You really can't force ... (read in full...)
Why can't we forget each other?
Q. Hi, a confused, hurt and wet-in-tears girl here.. I broke up with Mr.C 2 years ago, I dumped him cos' I decided to move to another state and work there..and fall in love with a guy..I THOUGHT i don't have any feelings for Mr. C anymore, so I go...
A. 24 January 2008: I was put in da same situation with Mr.D by my ex and i can say that it was the most painful months of my life.Don't go out with someone out of loyalty.It's better you break up with Mr.D but stay single for a while bcoz Mr.D will feel betrayed and ... (read in full...)
Why can't he accept it's over? He's doing my head in!
Q. So me and my ex have been talking ALOT over the last few days and its him calling me all day on Monday and when he wasn't calling he was texting me! Drove me nuts as I didn't get anything done but him calling sooo much.Almost every second of my day ...
A. 24 January 2008: I think you are being too soft on him and i honestly think you have a soft spot for him.Deep down i think you know what to do but don't have the strength to do it.He's going to complicate your life and you'll be caught up in a web.Either stop ... (read in full...)
What's the next best step to healing myself?
Q. Dear cupid. I have been in a very emotionally abusive relationship with someone for the past 4 years where I have been lonely most of the time and was confused whether I should call it quits or stick around. About 2 weeks ago I regained contact...
A. 24 January 2008: I feel your pain man but you need to be strong for your sake.I'm also coming from an emotionally abusive and manipulative relationship and certainly agree that the first major step is to forgive those who have wronged you and secondly is to build ... (read in full...)
Will I cum the first time?
Q. Me and my girl are ready for sex talk, about what it might feel like and what we actually do. I'm wondering how many times i need to move my penis in and out to come-is there enough friction with a condom on. also i want my girl to enjoy it....
A. 24 January 2008: You heardd them all.Use a condom every time you have sex.Since this sounds like your first time and don't expect it to last that long.Just be relaxed and don't rush into penetration.Lots of foreplay and take your time. Good Luck.... (read in full...)
In a relationship for two years, still happy with him... But there's somebody else. I don't know which one I want. How can I decide?
Q. I'm in a 2 year relationship with a lovely guy. He's caring and we have a lot in common in terms of our principles,and I would have always said that we loved each other and saw our future together. We have complete trust which I know is really ...
A. 24 January 2008: One bird in the hand is worth ten times more than one in da bush.Personally,i would advise you to focus on your current bf but since the other guy has you questioning your love for him,i would suggest that you spend some time away from both.That way ... (read in full...)
I may have an STD and if I do...does this mean my bf may have cheated on me?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for nearly 9 months now, we have a great relationship and i love him loads. A couple of weeks ago i started noticing little lumps down below and i think i may have a STD or something (its quite sore and the skins gone b...
A. 23 January 2008: My ex had a similar problem over xmas and really put pressure on me if i had been cheating on her and turned out she was da one who cheated on me so sometimes our partners can endager our lives because we trust them too much.
Good Luck.... (read in full...)
Completely and utterly fallen for someone that I cannot have, my ex's best friend. How to dismiss these feelings?
Q. I have completely and utterly fallen for someone that I can't have. I know it's stupid. And it's 99.9% definite i can't have him. he's my ex's best friend and he's not looking for a relationship at all. even if he was he wouldn't ever go for me b...
A. 23 January 2008: If i took my personal experience,i'd seriously discourage you coz my i'm just breaking up with someone who was best friends with one of my ex and she cheated on me just like her friend (my ex).You have to really look at why your friend broke up with ... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me? I cant stop cheating
Q. Hi I am in a long term relationship (been with the same guy since I was 16 with no break ups or anything). My problem is that in that time period I have cheated on him more than 10 times. He has no idea about it. There were a bunch of one night st...
A. 23 January 2008: Don't worry i won't scold you.All i'm gonna say is that my ex was just like that and one thing i sadly learnt is that people like you are either incapable of loving and are satisfied with physical intimacy or are just not ready for a serious ... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin? I need advice please.
Q. i decided to have relationships with my boyfriend, when we were about to,i got scare and told him to stop, so he did, but i believed i was still a virgin since i didnt feel nothing go in, but he told me he did feel our parts touch and went in a ...
A. 23 January 2008: Let me see if i understand your question.The real question should be whether partial penetration makes you lose virginity but i guess you don't believe there's even partial penetration.Your bf says there was.Personally,i think you are coz there's no ... (read in full...)
What does my new B/F mean, by this comment?
Q. My new bf asked me if anyone has "come down" on me, i didnt have a clue what he ment but answered no anyway. Can someone tell me what he was asking please....
A. 23 January 2008: I'm with mandy7,i think he meant "has someone given you oral sex?".Anyway,that's the only thing that makes sense in this context.
Tk care.... (read in full...)
I like a man, but he has a girlfriend. What should I do?
Q. I've recently met a man who I really like. The problem is that he has a girlfriend. We met at a bar and kissed and then texted each other alot which lead to him coming over to my place to get to know each other better. We chatted alot and we ha...
A. 23 January 2008: I hope you are not saying this to impress us but saying it honestly,for your sake.In the event you are telling us da truth,i congratulate you and best wishes in your future endeavours.
Good Luck.... (read in full...)
Will girls be attracted to me only because they know I've got a large penis?
Q. Alright this problem arised about a year ago, i first noticed that i was quite large when i found an article on the internet about average sizes of an adult penis. Well i immediately measured myself out of curiosity because i didnt really care until ...
A. 23 January 2008: You seem to have a well balanced line of thinking and i'm sure the older you grow the better you'll handle this.In the end you can't change who you are but i guess as we are growing up,our friend's opinions influence our perception.
Tk care.... (read in full...)
Do some girls enjoy emotionally hurting guys and using them?
Q. Well she had recently been ignoring me and i had been wondering why she had been doing this. It was really upsetting me so i tried ignoring her to get her to realize how much it botherd me, nothing changed. Well i had till now been waiting for...
A. 23 January 2008: Well moving on is really your decision but sometimes i think guys give up easily.I'm the type of person who doesn't easily give up and i don't like seeing someone give up but if you think you've reached your limit then well forget.
Tk care.... (read in full...)
Does a bigger Penis mean better sex?
Q. I can't stave off something that has made me massively insecure and jealous. My girlfriend of 3 and a half years recently broke up with me for another guy. It was the worst experience of my life, literally :( but it's been 4 months since then and ...
A. 23 January 2008: Most people here are really helpful and i remember one of the things that bugged my mind when i was breaking up with my girfriend was whether she wasn't leaving me for the sex but i guess your ex is sick in da head.It also helped me alot talking my ... (read in full...)
Do some girls enjoy emotionally hurting guys and using them?
Q. Well she had recently been ignoring me and i had been wondering why she had been doing this. It was really upsetting me so i tried ignoring her to get her to realize how much it botherd me, nothing changed. Well i had till now been waiting for...
A. 17 January 2008: Dude how will the girl know if you don't ever tell her.Just because she ignored doesn't mean you should do the same.It's in their nature.They naturally expect you the guy to persue them but as you get older you'll meet some who'll be persuing ... (read in full...)
Worried my gf's good looks will go down the tolilet! How do I tell her this?
Q. Hi, I have been seeing my girlfriend now for about 9 months, when we 1st met, she blew me away- nice personality, beautiful looks, a great smile and a lovely body. She has just started using the pill, I said I would use condoms but she wants to use ...
A. 17 January 2008: I know what you must be thinking.I felt a similar inclination when my girlfriend began to lose weight when she's diagnosed with aneamia.I honestly like big hiptous ladies but i tried exercising patience and i still see her as the beautiful person ... (read in full...)
He cheated on me and I can't forget it it! Help!
Q. Hey, My boyfriend and I are both happy and have been going out for 7months. Everything has been perfect for one thing.. Earlier in our relationship, when things were still a bit awkward, he went out one night, got drunk and kissed another girl. He ...
A. 17 January 2008: Oh my goodness are you a deep thinker.I know how hard it is to forget when sum1 cheats on you and sometimes you just can't get it outta yo mind.You seriously have 2 options.STOP thinking about it and focus on your relationship.Or just BREAK UP coz ... (read in full...)
Dazed and confused--I feel sometimes not matter what I do for this man its never good enough!
Q. I and my ex recently got back together and I feel like I am alive again. I’ve smiled more and every morning was like a brand new day because of the happiness he put back into my life. Last night however was a nightmare with him. A good friend of ...
A. 17 January 2008: I would give da same answer as Laura1318.
Good luck hun.... (read in full...)
Will girls be attracted to me only because they know I've got a large penis?
Q. Alright this problem arised about a year ago, i first noticed that i was quite large when i found an article on the internet about average sizes of an adult penis. Well i immediately measured myself out of curiosity because i didnt really care until ...
A. 17 January 2008: It could be a problem if you allow it.Just look at yourself as being normal.Don't focus too much on the size of your manhood.Live life.Find someone you can love and enjoy being intimate.I don't think da size of your penis will be an issue unless the ... (read in full...)
I've hooked up with a married man, I don't want him to leave his wife - an ex friend of mine, but it would be nice if I could see him more, any advice?
Q. im a 26 year old girl in love with a 38 year old married man...for the last 2 years hes been married 15 years with a 12 year old daughter..the strange part is that i dont want him to leave his wife,its not about the money because i have enough,or ...
A. 17 January 2008: Why are you complaining about? You knew he was married when you met him and now you expect him to behave like he's single.You can't have it your way in everything.You accepted him so accept his life schedule too.The more you feel like this,the more ... (read in full...)
He wants anal sex, I don't as it sounds really bad, am I overreacting?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to try anal sex. I have never done it and for some reason can't bring myself to do it. anyone have any words of wisdom. am I overreacting or is is as bad as it sounds....
A. 17 January 2008: If you are female,go ahead if you have the courage and guts but if you are male as your profile shows then you gotta live with it coz you are gay,or you are not? Don't do somrthing you are not comfortable with but you can learn to do it bit by ... (read in full...)
I'm having multiple orgasms, but not in the bedroom?? how can I control this its driving me crazy?
Q. i have quite an embarassing problem,recently, almost every day, i have been having uncontrollable orgasms and i can have upto 5 a day without even doing anything and they last what seems like forever, this might be all well and good if i was ...
A. 17 January 2008: Quite normal for some women.Wouldn't mind being next to you when it happens!!!!
I've had a female friend i used to work with with da same problem and boy did she used to make noise but hey with time you learn to control it but if it's really gett... (read in full...)
Whenever I kiss a guy, it seems like a chore and I don't get any pleasure from it. What's wrong with me?
Q. I've found that whenever I kiss a guy, it seems like a chore and I don't get any pleasure from it. I went on a second date with a guy I am attracted to, and when we were kissing, I didn't feel turned on or feel any pleasure. Is this normal? Is ...
A. 17 January 2008: My girlfriend has a similar problem though we are still in love.She doesn't enjoy kissing unless we are making love.Weird? I know.
I think you should try getting closer to the person before you start kissing them and not just because you find them... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as too much sex in a relationship even if we both really enjoy it?
Q. Can too much sex in a relationship ever be bad? My boyfriend and I used to have sex an average amount but recently it has become more frequent. I'm scared our relationship will become merely based on sex... Is that a possibility? Can there ever be ...
A. 17 January 2008: Why are you so worried if he's not complaining?If you are also enjoying it then don't worry too much.However i believe that too much of anything is bad.I don't think the sex itself can pose a problem but it's how you feel about it.Anyway as most ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to be 'just' friends with a guy who wants to date me?
Q. hi i have a boyf of 3 years who i love very much. but i have a male friend who i get along really well with, i dont have any romantic feelings for him but i know he does for me, but he knows i am with someone. we txt alot and see eachother on nights ...
A. 16 January 2008: Who are we kidding here? If you don't make changes to your friendship you are digging your own trap.You know he smacks you and the number 1 mistake girls make is to think it's not serious.Guys are not that stupid.He'll hit you when you least expect ... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my bestfriend but I always end up getting her back with my mate.
Q. I have always liked my bestfriend. She's been my closest friend for almost 5 years now. 2 years ago she asked for one of my mates number and since then they have been together. They always fight and break-up and i always help to get them back on ...
A. 16 January 2008: You are really in a tough situ and i have to agree with elliebellie that right now ain't the best time to tell her how you feel but again you may ask when will be the right time if you keep getting them back together.I think da next time they do ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and my boyfriend planned for us to reenact porn scenes...
Q. Hi I'm 15 and my boyfriend wants to see me squirt I need help my boyfriend is 18 and likes us to watch porn together then reenact it he got his best mate to join so we could reenact this scene with two boys one girl help please ...
A. 16 January 2008: It seems you really wana please your boyfriend.Well if i's your brother,i'd kick the living demon outta him.DON'T do it.He's using you for his own satisfaction,where's yours.By da way,you are still young don't abuse your body in such a way.Your ... (read in full...)
Are there any creams or remedies that dimiss the hurt during the "first night"?
Q. I am 22 and I am a virgin. More so, I am a virgin who just got engaged. I really want to have sex and so does my man - not that hes pressuring me at all. The problem is every time I try it hurts too much... i've used copious amounts of lube ...
A. 16 January 2008: WOW,you must be feeling really uncomfortable about it.Having read birdynumnums' answer and you having stated that doctors say that everything seems fine,i'm compelled to think it's really about your fear more than anything else.You really need to ... (read in full...)
I slept with my mate while drunken, now she won't even speak to me! Ideas to solve this?
Q. hi i got drunk at a party once and slept with my mate and she now wont even talk to me i dont love her but i want to talk it over with her how do i get her to just listen for like 5 mins?...
A. 16 January 2008: I know you'd really love to talk to her about it but if she refuses there's little you can do.Maybe she needs time alone so she can think clearly but at the end of the day you'll have to talk to her to set your mind at peace.If you can,write a note ... (read in full...)
She only tolerates the missionary position, saying almost all others hurt. Can this be corrected?
Q. My girlfriend and I have regular sex, averaging once a day. When we do, she prefers a very strict missionary position. She says she has comfort/sensitivity issues and it hurts her in almost every other position. Are there any women who have felt ...
A. 16 January 2008: My girlfriend's like that and it pisses me off at times.It's just time the more she grows comfortable with you,the more she'll want to explore but keep asking to try something else.It took me 4 months of missionary before we tried sommething ... (read in full...)
Your general thoughts of the uncircumcised penis?
Q. Hi im 17 years old and i am affraid that my penis is too small. it only measures 5.5 inches when errect. please help???? Also i was wondering what people thought about circumsized penises? by the way im circumsized....
A. 16 January 2008: Imagine you suddenly woke up and your penis was an 8-9inch and each time you tried having sex da lady would complain and probably stop midway and give up and leave you wanting some more.
I grew up with such an obsession and made a terrible mist... (read in full...)
My husband told me to sleep with another man, I have and liked it,will we have problems?
Q. my husband, of two years,. has given me permission to have sex with other men. i did not ask him for this, he just told me it was ok one day while we were raking the yard (why, when we were raking the yard...wouldn't bed be a better place...but ...
A. 16 January 2008: WOW don't you guys have a "nice" marraige.Have you ever considered what you would do if you started to fall in love with one of your "sex toys"? Maybe your hubby is doing the same and is trying to divert attention away from him.Unless this all mean ... (read in full...)
I have a crush but he has a girlfriend.
Q. i have a huge crush on a guy i work with. problem is he has a girlfriend. we are pretty flirty with each other when we work together which is 5 days a week. other people we work with have even commented on our chemistry together. he has only be...
A. 16 January 2008: From the way you write it seems you are trying to convince us that what you are doing is right.He flirts with you and you like it because you hope and expect that it'll develop into something more.Imagine him doing what he does with you with another ... (read in full...)
What tolerance or threshold limit one should have on his/her past?
Q. I've recently got together with a girl who had quite a past. She has been very truthful and open about them. She's had 5 ex-boyfriends before we got together. I have no problem with that for sure as I have numerous past relationships myself. However ...
A. 16 January 2008: True to the word only time can tell and all you can do right now is have some faith in her coz if not you'll create unnecessary problems between you two.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
I want her back but what if this other guy is still in the picture? The jealousy is eating me up inside, I don't know what to do.
Q. Ok, well. I dated me ex for about 2 1/2 years. We had what i would call a "perfect relationship" we had our differences but we would never argue to a point where we were outwardly upset with eachother... ya know, nothing that a hug and kiss and ...
A. 16 January 2008: A question i'm usually embarassed to answer,i'll ask you.How much are you willing to sacrifice for this relationship? How much do you love her? How many times can you forgive her? What's your limit? When can you put your foot down and say enough is ... (read in full...)
I feel like an adult trapped inside a little girl's body...
Q. I am really getting upset. I am a 15 year old girl, I feel trapped inside that number. I feel like an adult trapped inside a little girl's body, it is driving me insane, fighting between being a child, and being an adult. When I look at males my age ...
A. 15 January 2008: Maybe you should start chatting with older men online.Just to make friends.I'm sure you'll open up more to an older person but don't allow them to take advantage of you in any way.
Take care
Good luck.... (read in full...)
What should I do? What is 'true love'? I must know!
Q. Help! I've been seeing a truly fantastic girl now for seven months. But recently, I've been having some vague feelings that things weren't really shaping up the way they are supposed to and decided to come clean and tell her that I just didn't feel ...
A. 15 January 2008: I have so often aksed myself what love is and i have been previliged to find the answer through my spiritual/religous journey.Love is deeper.Love grows.Like is instant and easily fades away.Love is patient,kind,giving and long-suffering.When you ... (read in full...)
How effective are condoms?
Q. Lets say your partner has a STD and he wears a condom no matter what weather it's oral or intercourse etc... Is it still possible for you to get STDs?...
A. 15 January 2008: Why would you do oral with a condom? It's either you got the guts or you don't have,to put it in your mouth knowing there's a risk of getting infected.Intercourse is certainly a non-starter when your partner is infected.Condoms are very effective ... (read in full...)
He can't last more than 5 minutes and this is a problem for us!
Q. When my boyfriend and I had sex for the first few times, the first being when I lost my virginity, he was able to last for a good while. Now, he's only able to last for 10 minutes or so, at the most. Average time being 5 minutes or less. He says ...
A. 15 January 2008: I think da problem is with him more than with you.He seems to have certain anxieties as he's sleeping with you.Hope he's got a clear mind and not hiding something from you.However,having had similar experiences before,i must say with time it'll be a ... (read in full...)
Help with my girlfriend...has she got someone else because I feel really used here!
Q. Currently in a relationship for over a year now with my girlfriend, who's 17 and I'm 20. For the whole year we've always been in touch and haven't gone a day without talking to each other. However for the last couple of months, shes been acting kind ...
A. 15 January 2008: Well before you start suspecting your woman of cheating you need to know one thing.Women usually come into a relationship with more excitement,energy and expectation but over time feelings begin to change and automatically expectations about the ... (read in full...)
What tolerance or threshold limit one should have on his/her past?
Q. I've recently got together with a girl who had quite a past. She has been very truthful and open about them. She's had 5 ex-boyfriends before we got together. I have no problem with that for sure as I have numerous past relationships myself. However ...
A. 15 January 2008: WOW,that's really ALOT for me.I think it bores down to the question of how much you love her.If you love her that much you'll continue with her in the hope that you can live with her past and that she's changed for the better.If it's too much for ... (read in full...)
I want her back but what if this other guy is still in the picture? The jealousy is eating me up inside, I don't know what to do.
Q. Ok, well. I dated me ex for about 2 1/2 years. We had what i would call a "perfect relationship" we had our differences but we would never argue to a point where we were outwardly upset with eachother... ya know, nothing that a hug and kiss and ...
A. 15 January 2008: O dear,i really feel for you.I'm going through a very similar experience,only that in my case,i'm da1 that asked her back.You really have to be careful coz when a lady behaves in such a way,the root of the problem is that she's questioning her ... (read in full...)
Does a bigger Penis mean better sex?
Q. I can't stave off something that has made me massively insecure and jealous. My girlfriend of 3 and a half years recently broke up with me for another guy. It was the worst experience of my life, literally :( but it's been 4 months since then and ...
A. 11 January 2008: Welcome to the insecurities guys also have.Most guys at your age or even younger will tend to wonder if their manhood is da right size and try and compare with others.I'm guilty of that too.What's surprising is do you know what determines the right ... (read in full...)
I like a man, but he has a girlfriend. What should I do?
Q. I've recently met a man who I really like. The problem is that he has a girlfriend. We met at a bar and kissed and then texted each other alot which lead to him coming over to my place to get to know each other better. We chatted alot and we ha...
A. 4 January 2008: You should do what you'd expect anyother woman to do if that guy were your boyfriend.However,it's really up to you because it's clear you've really fallen for the guy.If you don't mind being the other woman,go ahead.But if you want a man of your ... (read in full...)
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