I've got such a great guy...so why do I want something more??
Q. I'm a 20 year old female and mother of a 4year old. I'm not with my son's father as we split when he was about two years old. Shortly after that I started dating someone else who my son sees as a father, well things didn't work out either, he went ...
A. 21 December 2007: Hey don't get so emotional,just pick out the gems froms the answers.I truly hope,things are getting better for you.However,having had a girlfriend who cheated on me with a co-worker,i'd re-echo my last advice or maybe i paraphrase it.If you are not ... (read in full...)
Certain things he said whilst breaking up have really hit me hard; I'm afrad that if I lose him, no one else will love me.
Q. Hello, Im just looking for some advice really from someone who might know what im going through. Ive been with my boyfriend for 19 months now, im 18 and he's 22, and ive always been happy with him and love him to pieces, and ive made some mis...
A. 27 November 2007: He really got you where he wants you. I know the time you spent together bonded you but at times the best thing to do is usually the hardest. Honey look inside you and know that you are special like no other. Don't concentrate on the negatives ... (read in full...)
I've got such a great guy...so why do I want something more??
Q. I'm a 20 year old female and mother of a 4year old. I'm not with my son's father as we split when he was about two years old. Shortly after that I started dating someone else who my son sees as a father, well things didn't work out either, he went ...
A. 27 November 2007: It seems you have a phobia for serious commitent and no wonder even though you are with someone who loves you, you are still thinking of sleeping with your co-worker. I would suggest you cause your boyfriend no more anguish and call it off and do ... (read in full...)
I cheated, but he didnt show any interest in me, should I get back with my boyfriend or wait for someone else?
Q. Ok, i was goin out with my boyfriend for 4 years, about 3 months before we broke up i met a guy i known from school out clubbin i always really liked him and very attracted to him so i brought him back to my place (after lots to drink) and i had sex ...
A. 27 November 2007: Feel pity for the poor guy, your boyfriend. Let him deal with his broken heart and don't go complicating his his life just because you still need his company. What you did with the other guy is called satisfying a suppressed sexual desire which ... (read in full...)
We had a night of drunken sex, it was my first time, he's now avoiding me, did I do something wrong?
Q. I had sex for the first time in my life. i'm freshman in college, he's 25. i was totally drunk and i kept telling him that i'm not going to have sex with him no matter what, but i guess i just didn't make it clear- didn't really push him away an...
A. 27 November 2007: It seems you are more worried about his feelings for you than your own welfare. He took advantage of you and for all you know you could be pregnant or may have contracted an STD. Face the truth, the guy wanted a good time and you gave it to him and ... (read in full...)
Should a newlywed man still keep pictures of his ex's on his computer?
Q. I am newly married and my husband keeps pictures of him with previous girlfriends on his computer. Do you think he should get rid of them? We are married now so I don't see why he needs them anymore....
A. 27 November 2007: It seems i'll be the only one to tell your hubby to get rid of his exs' pictures and ask him how he woul feel if you did the same.You are his wife and deserve more respect than pictures of his ex.He's your husband and has an obligation to make you ... (read in full...)
He loves me, but does he really like me?
Q. I've been with my man for five years we have an ok relationship. My problem is that I dont think that he likes me very much, I mean I know he loves me but I dont think that I am his favorite person to be around. I say this because he is always gone ...
A. 27 November 2007: Judging by your age, I would assume your boyfriend is an older, mature man who should be leading an independent life. So why does it bother you now? You should be more worried about the low number of encounters you've had. It's either he has a very ... (read in full...)
Sex is getting boring--how do I tell her that?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for a little over 9 months now, we have sex on a semi regular basis, but im getting bored of the same old positions, ive asked her if we could try different stuff (non freaky things) but she doesnt seem intrested.. i ...
A. 27 November 2007: As a man she'd like you to initiate most things.So take the lead but take her opinion into consideration.She may be the shy type when it comes to sex.She may not be as experinced as you would like her to be.Try out new positions and teach her new ... (read in full...)
I like my cousin's bf! What do I do?
Q. i have a big problem, me and my cusin were like best friends, shes beein going on about a boy she meet at work she told me soo much about him and i was happy for her, but the other day i meet him by the end of the night my cuzin asked me if i ...
A. 27 November 2007: Make up an excuse and don't go.It seems you got hot pants for him and you are more than likely to do something about it.Keep your distance if you really love your cousin.He's off limits.Imagine if your cousin grabbed the guy you liked so much and ... (read in full...)
We did it every day, now my husband relieves himself to Internet porn, I'm getting nothing, please help me?
Q. Me and my husband have been married for over 15 years we ve had normal ups and downs over the years but nothing extreme. our sex life has been excellent usually every day sometimes more than once i had no complaints.i recently had to accept a job wo...
A. 27 November 2007: It seems your husband is suffering from misguided passions.It seems the nights you spent away really affected him and he turned to porn.The sad fact is that he's addicted and it has affected his sexuality.However,since you used to watch porn ... (read in full...)
I only last 2 minutes at most, what is average for guys?
Q. When i have sex with my girlfriend i only seem to last under 2 minutes... i make up for this in other ways and she loves our sex life but im ashamed that i dont last longer. what is the adverage time in mutes it takes a guy to reach an orgasm?...
A. 27 November 2007: You really have to calm down and use your mind.Try to think less of what is happening and also try to exercise your PC muscles.Musturbating before the main game really helps but the bestn way is to train your mind to stop an orgasm as it is about ... (read in full...)
I want her sex now!!
Q. I have this woman who's been a long time friend, although we have not been very close. I became sexually attracted to her since the day she tried to have sex with me. At that time I was young and dumb and didn't realize what was on her mind. For 1 ...
A. 26 November 2007: You'll be one of the luckiest men on earth if she'd gladly and quickly jump in bed with you.I'm just wondering whether you are married or not,looking at the age on your profile.I'm a bit confused.Anyway if you are not she could've been waiting for ... (read in full...)
During sex..He went limp. Ideas?
Q. I've just recently started dating a guy, and the first time we had sex, it was great, it was a little short lived, but great none-the-less. But yesterday.. the house was empty.. we were having plenty of foreplay.. i.e kissing necks, chests, s...
A. 26 November 2007: Believe me i've gone through worse and as a result joined this site.Don't worry too much about it with time,it'll be e joke of the past.It's really nothing you are doing wrong.It's just sexual nervousness showing it's face.With time you'll get over ... (read in full...)
When I have sex with a man will I not enjoy it?
Q. Loads of my mates talk about masturbation and I tried it but it is really painful and uncomfortable when I fingered myself, is this odd and does this mean that when I have sex (with a man!) will I not enjoy it?...
A. 26 November 2007: Sweet one don't ever feel pressured by friends.When you are hooked up on musturbation,you think of sex ALOT.You'll even want to musturbate in class so please get your mind off it and make more friends who don't always talk about sex and ... (read in full...)
We are both worried the distance will split us apart.
Q. I'm 16 and my bf is 20, we've been going out for nearly 4 months now and are in love, the only problem is that its long distance. He lives in england and i'm in scotland,we both trust one another completely, he comes up when he can but recently...
A. 26 November 2007: There alot of us in a LD relationships and i can assure you it's never been easy.Just hang on you'll manage.There are 3 things that'll cement your relationship;Communication,Trust and Love. Try to get in touch as often as you can and use whatever ... (read in full...)
We use the same postions for sex, any others we can use to make it more interesting?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having sex for a while now. We have used the basic positions. What other positions would you recommend? Do you have some unique positions? What is enjoyable about them?...
A. 26 November 2007: Just google lovemaking techniques and you'll find great sites to learn from.If you don't manage,mail me and i'll send you something. All the best.... (read in full...)
We had sex and now he wants it all the time! Advice?
Q. hello i am very young and last night lost my virginity i am nervous but i don't no why i loved it but now my boyfriend wants to do it everytime we meat what should i do xxxx baffled beutyxx...
A. 26 November 2007: First of all tell him that it was a big mistake you wish not to repeat.You see now why people will always tell you to wait.Sex is so nice and addictive but you won't handle the stress that comes with it.Like your boyfriend is more addicted than you ... (read in full...)
Did my ex fiancee propose, just so I would feel better about having sex before marriage? What do you think?
Q. I know I kind of asked this question a little while ago. But, it keeps resurfacing in my mind. I broke up with my fiance a month or so ago, but I want to know if he proposed just so I would feel better about having sex before marriage? We had sex ...
A. 26 November 2007: I know how you feel.It took almost 5months for my girlfriend to sleep with me because she wanted us to wait 4 marraige and we only have sex once a month because we live apart and don't want her to feel so bad about it.If you really treasured your ... (read in full...)
Is there something else I can use instead of a condom?
Q. Is there something else i can use instead of a condom?...
A. 26 November 2007: Is there anything wrong with condoms you are using?You should try using other types of condoms.If you are not really into condoms you can opt for the pill,you can use female products that block sperms such as fermicides,spermicides.For detailed ... (read in full...)
Someone we don't know is telling him things.
Q. Ok my boyfreind and i have been going out for a month and a couple weeks and a person that nether of us know that well told him that i don't trust him and he belived her and we have been fighting and alot of stuff we both said was not true and i ...
A. 26 November 2007: It's good you broke up coz u guys didn't trust each other.What stuff do you wana get back? Can't you just forget about the stuff? If it's that's important talk to your parents to help you get the stuff back.... (read in full...)
My bf keeps talking to his ex's, what should I do??
Q. I need some advice in a hard situation. My bf and I have been together for almost 5 years, and we have a 3 year old together. I have always thought of him as "the one" but about a year ago, we started having major issues....so we called off our ...
A. 26 November 2007: I feel your pain hun.Let me be straight with you.It's not impossible for a man to stop chatting with his ex,it's just that there's a an ex usually has a good understanding of a man and knows to a good level how to chat him up.If a man truly loves ... (read in full...)
How can I know whether she is having another relationship? She is avoiding me all of a sudden.
Q. Hi I'm having a problem with my relationship. She is a different country girl. we were very happy for months and all of sudden she is trying to avoid me when I'm trying to talk to her. And I don't know whether she is having another relationship. Pls ...
A. 23 November 2007: Distant relationships are quite tricky as i'm in one and feel just as you feel right now.If you begin to have such thoughts,your relationship won't last.You need to trust her more.Such relationships only work when there's real love all they are ... (read in full...)
How to make sex a good experience for both.
Q. My boyfriend and I are in love. We have not done it but will. How can I make our sex good, beautiful, enjoyable, and a wonderful experience for both of us? ...
A. 23 November 2007: The first and most important is your readiness.Are you really ready or you are doing it just to please your man?When you are both ready,it'll be more memorable and enjoyable.Secondly,self confidence.You need to chase away fears that something will ... (read in full...)
Office affair!
Q. Hi - I am married but getting very close to a colleague at work. We are very flirty and becoming quite tactile. I want to take things further (she is married too). I feel we will become 'fuck buddies' soon. We get on fantastically we...
A. 23 November 2007: You are playing with fire.Unless you are immune to developing feelings or falling in love you are safe.How can you start romancing another woman and not expect it to affect your marraige?Unless you can sleep with her and have no feelings for her,you ... (read in full...)
She seems to be turning me away.
Q. Hi DearCupid. Ive been seeing this girl for about 2 months now and its finaly official. Problem is we started out great going over to eachothers place ect ect. Now everytime i put an idea forward to go over to her's she says yea no probs the ...
A. 23 November 2007: One you should quickly learn about women is that they are not easy to understand all year.They may confuse you at times but the more they mature,the more easier to understand.Ofcourse you have to spend more time with her to understand ... (read in full...)
One day after our break up we flirted and ended up having sex. It has been 2 days and he has not responded to my suggestion of reconciliation.
Q. Long story. But, my ex and I started out as a summer fling that turned out into a relationship, even though we both knew that we would be many hours apart (we are both in college). He isn't the best at communicating and I broke up with him, but...
A. 23 November 2007: Don't despair so much,atleast the guy remembered your birthday.The guy's still confused and the sex you had compounded things.You should have sorted your relationship first before jumping into bed together.I think he's now asking himself if he loves ... (read in full...)
He lied about how many sexual partners he had. Why?
Q. Hi - advise needed. Well by boyfriend told me 3 yrs ago that he had only ever slept with 1 other person (his ex of 1 yr) before we started dating, now hes telling me he slept with 6 other woman before me!!! Im confused about how i now feel. I nev...
A. 23 November 2007: It's both ways actually.Even women tend to lie about their sex history because they don't want their partners to think the worst of them.I think he lied to protect you.If he told you the whole truth there's a risk that you might think he's after ... (read in full...)
..Still completely in love with my ex.
Q. My ex is four years older than I am and we dated for over two years, about a year of which became long distance when he moved to complete his education. When we broke up, he'd been going out with his current girlfriend for over half a year ...
A. 23 November 2007: You really shouldn't have rushed into another relationship and i guess your current is really a rebound guy.You have no choice but to break his heart because the fact still reamains that you love your ex and are willing to get back with him.Just ... (read in full...)
Undressing...
Q. My questions involve getting undressed. When making out how will we know when it is time to remove our clothes? Should I ask him to undress or just undress him? Should we undress in the bedroom or can we strip in route to the bedroom? Should kissing ...
A. 23 November 2007: There's no specific way of doing and you'll not get a 100% accurate answer.If you want do something that will really turn him on ask him,he's the best person to ask.I really don't mind where my gal kisses because just having her kiss me anywhere ... (read in full...)
First time - painful?
Q. does it really hurt the first time you have sex? im realy nervous and know im reddy tho....
A. 23 November 2007: The bottom line is that it'll surely hurt and if your man has a more than average sized penis you will need to be really strong.It'll even be worse if he's not gentle.Therefore,i strongly advise you to ask yourself if you love the guy and if he ... (read in full...)
Anatomically correct? - the bit of skin of vaginal structure...
Q. ive allways had a really big bit of skin on my vagina and is bout 5 cm and hangs out of the middle its awful and its putting me off been confident around boys does anyone know of what it s and how to maybe get rid of it?...
A. 23 November 2007: As you can see frim most previous writers,there's nothing abnormal about it.Check out theclitoris.com and bigv.com and check out how different women are made.The important thing is for you to be comfortable with your body.Learn to accept it and love ... (read in full...)
Why can't he invite me too when he goes out with his friends? Am I being unfair?
Q. hiy, i have been with my boyfriend for 1 year now and he has started going out with his friends in the evening once in a while, it annoys me because i dont ever go out with any friends of mine, and he didnt go out for the first 7-8 months .. it bot...
A. 23 November 2007: I know you expect to do alot of things together,including going out but that i can assure you would bring problems to your relationship.Allow him to hang out with his mates and you do the same.It'll also help you get your mind off him for a good ... (read in full...)
He's a serial cheater, but he's scared his wife will find out, should I tell his wife?
Q. A bit confused and could use help from some of the great agony aunts on here. I almost started an affair with an attractive and married man I work with but stopped myself as the word is that he is a bit of a player and I would say he is. He has just ...
A. 23 November 2007: Well i'll also congratulate you on not going further than you did because he would have just used you for his selfish gain and got rid of you.Imagine still working with a man who dumped you.As concerns your friend,all you can do is inform her of ... (read in full...)
My bf keeps talking to his ex's, what should I do??
Q. I need some advice in a hard situation. My bf and I have been together for almost 5 years, and we have a 3 year old together. I have always thought of him as "the one" but about a year ago, we started having major issues....so we called off our ...
A. 22 November 2007: I'm seriously curious as to why your wedding cancelled. I think that should have been red alert and i think your man has become too comfortable that he's taking you for granted that you can accept and forgive anything he does. You must also ... (read in full...)
Divorced and with a high sex drive. Should I have sex with the mate I'm dating to satisfy my needs or wait for someone I really love to do it?
Q. Im 39 just divorced my husband. We've been married for 14 years. I've no regret to divorce him. The problem is I have very high sex drive. I have no sex life for 9 months now and find it hard to bear. I am dating a man at the moment but I dont ...
A. 22 November 2007: If you are so desperate you might as well hire a male hooker,i can give you my number. JUST JOKING!!!!! You really are a grown up woman who's not answerable to almost anyone so follow your heart. If it makes you feel better, fuck the guy but what... (read in full...)
I had never cheated before in my life and now that it's happened it must surely mean the END of my marriage? Is there any hope now that I've done this, which he does not know?
Q. Hi all, does it count as cheating say if : you are married, your husband walks out with no real reason for 2 months, you go back when he asks you, but find it hard to deal with. You leave him for 3 weeks and you are intimate with another man. You ...
A. 22 November 2007: Two wrongs will never make a right. Your husband made a mistake of walking out on you for 2 months. Ok we understand you needed time alone when you left him for 3 weeks but that was no justification to go and sleep with another man. When you ... (read in full...)
My gf has a very high sex drive, whereas I do not. What do I do?
Q. ok so this might sound kinda strange. my girlfriend has a very high sex drive i mean you could call her a sex nympho thats how she is, now the problem is that i just dont enjoy sex very much and have a very low sex drive. so my question is, w...
A. 22 November 2007: Consider yourself lucky and start boosting your sex drive because once her's is down you'll be complaining of the opposite.In most couples i know,women can't match up to their partner's sexual urge.So enjoy it while it lasts.Spend more time on ... (read in full...)
My bf is married. We are always thinking about each other, should I feel guilty? Please advise.
Q. My boyfriend is married. We've known one another for years and are best of friends. We are so comfortable with one another and can talk about anything with eachother. I love him with all my heart and my love only get stronger day by day. We are ...
A. 22 November 2007: There's nothing wrong with falling in love but it matters who you fall in love with. I figure that you used the excuse of being friends to start an affair. You both acted selfish not considering who might get hurt in the process.Have you ever ... (read in full...)
I cheated, it will never happen again, but the guilt is driving me crazy, how can I go on like this?
Q. Hi everybody....Im coming to you a as a cheater. I feel like such a horrible person. Although I know Im not, I made one terrible mistake. The worst I have ever made in my life. I have been with my GF for a little over 3 years, and cheated on ONE ...
A. 22 November 2007: Hey man,i really feel your pain and i wish i had the perfect answer but i don't. First you need to ask yourself what made you cheat on her even that very one time. You could have a problem you never even realised exists.Looking at your age i'm ... (read in full...)
Should I fight for him, or should I get over him?
Q. About 2 year ago, a friend I've been mates with for about 3 years said he was in love with me. He has always been a player and I didn't want that. I didn't feel the same and told him it was strictly friendship. We were always close. We hug all the ...
A. 22 November 2007: It seems you are attracted to dangerous things. My advice, stop hanging out with him and stop flirting with him over the phone and don't try kissing anymore. You are seriously pushing yourself into a ditch which i'm not sure you can climb out ... (read in full...)
Someone we don't know is telling him things.
Q. Ok my boyfreind and i have been going out for a month and a couple weeks and a person that nether of us know that well told him that i don't trust him and he belived her and we have been fighting and alot of stuff we both said was not true and i ...
A. 22 November 2007: Mistake number one.Your boyfriend quickly believed a third party.He needs to trust you more.I know it hurt him,especially that you guys just hooked up.Tell him how much you care about him.Tell him what he means to you and tell him that he can trust ... (read in full...)
I feel guilty for not being fair to him.
Q. Hi, I'm writing because I need advice, perspective. I met a guy over 1 year ago in Toronto. It was a friend of a friend and a roommate at the same time. Not long after he moved in (we were 3 living in a house), we hooked up for all the wrong re...
A. 22 November 2007: Women are so good at blaming themselves when a relationship goes sour.Girl the guy just wsn't ready to live with you and couldn't handle the change of lifestyle and being jobless added to his confusion and directed all his anger to you.Don't you see ... (read in full...)
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