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I have been apart from my ex bf for a year now, we have however maintained contact and he is always sweet and flirty! Should I ask him back?

Q.   Hi I need help I have been apart from my ex bf for approx a year now but we continued to text and talk after the initial dust had settled, It was the most painful time of my life so far because i truly love him so much, i believe that we should ...

A.   4 January 2008: Since you guys had been dating i can support that da next time you meet up get flirty with him and see how he reacts and try mantaining eye contact.It tells alot.At this point don't tell him yet,wait for his reaction.Then arrange to meet again.You ... (read in full...)

I really like him but he's with someone else at the moment. He wants us to start off as friends. What should I do?

Q.   I kissed a one of my friend's friends last night and he just started seeing someone new. They aren't together, but I still felt bad about it because she was passed out in another room. I guess it was because I was drunk and so was he, but he kissed ...

A.   2 January 2008: Never a good thing to help someone cheat on their partner.You always have to imagine if you were the victim,how you would feel.Be friends for now and give it some time.I'm sure with time,you'll see what happens. Take care... (read in full...)

Is being a best friend with benefits a recipe for disaster?

Q.   Me and my ex dated for five months last year. We are now best friends. But considering our history, there's always that sexual tension between us. We ended up making out when we hung out the other day. We talked about it and decided it meant ...

A.   2 January 2008: Almost always.It depends on what you can handle and i think you need not fall in love with her as you may end up hurt.Go for it if you can handle it emotionally. Take care.... (read in full...)

I have been apart from my ex bf for a year now, we have however maintained contact and he is always sweet and flirty! Should I ask him back?

Q.   Hi I need help I have been apart from my ex bf for approx a year now but we continued to text and talk after the initial dust had settled, It was the most painful time of my life so far because i truly love him so much, i believe that we should ...

A.   2 January 2008: I really wish i was your ex.It's really sweet when a lady wants you back and if you truly love her,as a man,you won't hesitate to have her back in your arms.However,either way there's always a risk that your ex may not want the same thing but hey no ... (read in full...)

Could the fact he is (one year) younger hurt our potential relationship?

Q.   The love of my life that I can't get off of my mind, well I'm thinking of another problem. He's one year younger than me, but it's not even a year, but some people take offence to it and I think he would be okay with it. We're not together yet, but ...

A.   2 January 2008: I must also confess that i've never dated anyone younger than me and my current is the youngest i have dated but she's older than me.It really depends on how comfortable you are with him.You are not gonna b discussing your ages each time you are ... (read in full...)

I'm 13 and the man I like is married and has adorable children. How do I get over him?

Q.   I'm 13 and I'm in love with someone who's 36. He's married with two adorable children! I don't know what to do. How do I get over him?...

A.   2 January 2008: First of all i must tell you that what you feel is very normal.I also get attracted to olderr women.However,you need to learn that part of growing up is knowing how to handle your feelings.Ok you've realised that you have feelings for this man,what ... (read in full...)

She does not accept a relationship although we get along so well as, I think she is marked by her nasty break up with her ex. How should I handle this?

Q.   Alright... I am a 26th year old guy. The first time I was on this website i was writing about one of my old relationships that I was having trouble with and i appreciated a lot of the feedback I got from my situation at the time. this time i am...

A.   2 January 2008: You really can't force her to love you as you claim to love her.You'll simply end up in a situation as bad as mine.Imagine,she accepts you two start dating.Things are all rosy for the first few months and then suddenly she begins to be distant to ... (read in full...)

She dumped me and just wants to be friends. I want more! How should I approach her?

Q.   I had been dating a girl for about 2 weeks, and then last night she dumped me completely out of the blue. And today she told me the reasoning behind it was that she wanted some time to be single, but she really liked me, but she just wanted some tim...

A.   2 January 2008: I'm interested in seeing what other's have to say because i was about to post a similar question but nevertheless let me add my own. In your case,i would strongly suspect her feelings for you have faded.She's merely infatuated with you.Despite dati... (read in full...)

He loves me but doesn't trust me! How do I gain his trust?

Q.   Im going out with someone and we have recently just told each other that we love each other. The thing is though he cant trust me, how do i gain his trust? ...

A.   2 January 2008: There three things that hold a relationship.Love,Trust and Communication.If he can't trust you,then you two won't go far.If you really want it to work,find out why he doesn't trust you then work on it.If it's something you can't change,it's better ... (read in full...)

He has a gf but there's something between us. Is he playing around with me or what?

Q.   Ok, I'll try not to be vey long, but I have a guy I have developed more than "friendly" feelings for. We've known each other for two years and about a year ago he got himself a girlfriend. Now, I know that this is territory I shouln't invade, but ...

A.   2 January 2008: Baby girl this is what is called emotional manipulation.He knows how much you care for him and he's abusing that knowledge.The earlier you do say something,the better. All the best.... (read in full...)

My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..

Q.   Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...

A.   2 January 2008: It's good to hear there's been progress.I've been busy sorting out my personal life.I knew there was a way round this and all that was required is patience and perseverance.I really wasn't asking you to search the whole town for her but to relax and ... (read in full...)

I regret finishing with my guy. How do I get him back?

Q.   dear cupid,my problem is i have a boyfriend i broke up with, we've been in a relationship for 2 months, then 2 days or more after i broke up with him,i missed him and i cry all night,i regrets why i broke up with him,i want him back.....

A.   21 December 2007: If you want him back,go and get him back.If he refuses move on. Good luck... (read in full...)

For those who do not believe in sex before marriage for religious reasons: where would you draw the line in a sexual activity?

Q.   A question for strict religious people out there... I am an atheist and I just wondered where in sexual activity someone who doesn't believe in sex before marriage (for religious reasons) would draw the line? Would it be using your hands? Oral? Or ...

A.   21 December 2007: Being a mormon,i know what being strict means.No form of sex is acceptable except from kissing.It's why from a religous point of view,delayed marraige is not good.Marry as soon as possible then explore the world of sex.It's actually encouraged to ... (read in full...)

Am I old enough for sex at 14 or should I still be playing children's games?

Q.   i am 14 and i am worrying how should a 14year old act? am i old enough for sex or should i still be playing around and having fun like a child. am i old ? or am i worrying over nothing i feel that i am too old for christmas am i ? what...

A.   21 December 2007: There are two answers here.You are not a baby,you can start having sex if you want.You are old enough to start learning it the hard way.If you start now you'll be far more sexually experienced than some of your mates at your age,heh?You'll fear sex ... (read in full...)

I like her, we sleep together, yet she says she just wants to be friends. What's going on?

Q.   i have this girl i like living with me sleeping in the same bed as me and acting like my girlfriend yet when i ask for a kiss or anythink that suggest we are going out she says she just wants to be friends. what should i do?...

A.   21 December 2007: She probably wants you two to be friends with benefits but i imagine that may hurt your emotions in the end because you want something more serious.You really haven't specified as to whether the sleeping in the same bed includes sex.I'll assume it ... (read in full...)

He sometimes lets his female friends stay over. This bothers me. Should it?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for nearly two years now, he has many female friends and is a real sosial butterfly. He has his female friends over to stay occasionaly or goes over to stay over at there house's am I odd if this bothers me? He's ...

A.   21 December 2007: Okay if i were you,i'd not take it lightly coz he's behaving weird.I'm a guy and admit most friends of mine are female but i don't allow them to sleep over,no matter how wasted they are.I actually don't bring them home as much.I don't even sleep by ... (read in full...)

I broke up with him. Now I've realized he's who I'm looking for, but he has a girlfriend now and doesn't want to hurt her. What should I do?

Q.   So I was dating this guy who was basically everything i wanted some flaws here and there nothing big i started to like his friend and broke up with him we recently talked and i realized he can give me what i want. He says he likes me but he has a ...

A.   21 December 2007: Well you've done what is expected of you,ask him back and he's told you his situation so there's nothing more you can do.You can't force him to love you.I'm about to break up with my girl and i have a feeling she'll be in your situation soon. J... (read in full...)

My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..

Q.   Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...

A.   21 December 2007: We are here to help and not compound someone's problem.We all have choice on which posts to reply to and are not compelled to answer any.Hence,if one has a problem with any post the best thing to do is avoid it.I can't claim to reply to every post ... (read in full...)

I've got such a great guy...so why do I want something more??

Q.   I'm a 20 year old female and mother of a 4year old. I'm not with my son's father as we split when he was about two years old. Shortly after that I started dating someone else who my son sees as a father, well things didn't work out either, he went ...

A.   21 December 2007: Hey don't get so emotional,just pick out the gems froms the answers.I truly hope,things are getting better for you.However,having had a girlfriend who cheated on me with a co-worker,i'd re-echo my last advice or maybe i paraphrase it.If you are not ... (read in full...)

I am one of the targets of the undeserved negative publicity to my religion (I'm a mormon.) How can I dispel some of the rumours and separate fact from fiction?

Q.   Ok.. This is kind of a touchy question, and I'm not even sure if I should be asking this or not. I'm LDS (a mormon) and there's a lot of publicity and rumors flying around the media and everywhere else about my religion, especially now with Mit...

A.   21 December 2007: Hey you can talk to me i'm mormon and have been for the past 10yrs.I know what you must be going through. Letaz... (read in full...)

I really like her but she is younger and taken

Q.   Dear users I am really looking for some mature advice from anyone who can help me. My name is Nick and I have just turned 21, things at work are ok, and I have been talking and getting to know a person who I really do admire at work. The pr...

A.   19 December 2007: Don't play the pitiful one for her,you've got your own interests at heart.What makes you so sure if you were him you'd do things more differently?Always remember what goes around comes around.Even if it looks fair,it's unfair! Be cool.... (read in full...)

My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..

Q.   Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...

A.   19 December 2007: First of all how are you? I must say i'm amazed at your ability to lose faith.Do you believe you can date a really hot chik e.g a super model?I really think you lack patience when things are not going your way.Perseverance and patience is the name ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend's had over 100 lovers and I'm finding it hard to deal with

Q.   I am having problems dealing with my girlfriends past. I have read other questions on this site where men say their girlfriends have had lots of partners but mine has had 136 and she is only 24, this is really eating away at me and I dont know what ...

A.   18 December 2007: Personally i can't handle that.Even 10 is too much for me.It seems you are finding it hard to accept it.It won't change with time because it's the past.So either live with it or move on and end things with your girlfriend.Who knows she may have ... (read in full...)

He's cheated and got another girl pregnant but I still love him

Q.   i was with a guy for 7months and i was very happy he told me that he had a friend /girl m8t that he had prevousely been haveing sex with her but said 2 one an other that if they find someone else it would stop.anyway so i accepted his honesty and he ...

A.   18 December 2007: Girl the guy has no iota in him that understand the word love.He seperates love from sex.He's really just looking for a fuck mate and he's also feeling guilty about his lover.He's trying to play with your emotions.You made the right decision.Move on ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to bleed after anal sex?

Q.   when you have anal sex for the first time or any time is it natural to bleed and how long should you bleed for? plz help xxx...

A.   18 December 2007: Minimal bleeding is possible but you should go check it out with a doctor and see if it's something serious. Good luck... (read in full...)

Is this a rebound relationship?

Q.   A guy is dumped by his wife who tells him she has never really loved him, and whilst he is stinging over that, his temporary assistant is there (unhappy in her marriage), mopping up his tears. She has to return home 1000 miles away so he tries to ...

A.   18 December 2007: It's really sad that you find yourself in such a situation but always remember that you can't force a horse to drink water even if you took it to the river but take comfort that he values your company and it's possible that with time he'll open up ... (read in full...)

I really like her but she is younger and taken

Q.   Dear users I am really looking for some mature advice from anyone who can help me. My name is Nick and I have just turned 21, things at work are ok, and I have been talking and getting to know a person who I really do admire at work. The pr...

A.   18 December 2007: You got two options.You seem to be bent on the 1st one.Number one,forget her dude and act on her tale tale signs and see how lucky you get.Number two,imagine you were the guy she's calling an idiot and some one else moves in on your girl.Put ... (read in full...)

I want her back but she cheated, could I learn to trust again?

Q.   I love a girl forever, we have been best of friends for a long, and we dated once briefly. I know she loves me but we never got physical, after we broke up we stayed good friends but she slept with my best friend, at the time!! We were cool for a ...

A.   18 December 2007: You really sound like a cool guy.A gentleman.Reminds me of how i was in high school.Most girls wanted to be my friend but wouldn't sleep with me. As for this girl it's really up to you since you know her better.But from a more analytical point of v... (read in full...)

Why do I do what I don't want to do?

Q.   Why do I always do what I say I'm not going to do and what I don't believe in? For example, I strongly believe in not having sex before marriage and not getting wasted, but with my past boyfriend/fiance I did both of those things, sometimes ...

A.   18 December 2007: It's because you have not come up with a defence plan.Mail me and i'll explain some more.It's like knowing a lion can kill you but yet you play in the jungle. Letaz... (read in full...)

Found it hard to get an erection when it came to sex!

Q.   i used to mastrabrate a lot. and now for the first time i tried to make love with my girl fren i have no errection at all. i do not know what problem i had. We used to talk lot about sex with frens but now its a big problem with me and i am going ...

A.   18 December 2007: Cool down man you are gonna have a heart attack! Atleast you admit that you used to musturbate alot.I'm really against people who encourage lads to do it alot.When you do it over a long period of time,you become used to the feeling of your palm and ... (read in full...)

I'm confused as what women really want from a man?

Q.   Hi there, i think i am a bit confused on what you women do really want in a MAN, i mean do you prioritize being physically mascular or having a good personality? i am not physically mascular but people told me i have a good personality, i havn't had ...

A.   18 December 2007: Dude it would take you your whole life to answer that question.A better strategy would be pick on a girl you wana date and find out what she wants from a man but please don't go trying to be who you are not just to please a woman.Women are different ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with a married man!

Q.   I am a 17 year old and I'm in love with one of my 30 year old managers...We've been seeing each other for a while...we've even had sex. But there is one problem he is married and has 2 kids of his own. I really want our relationship and love to ...

A.   18 December 2007: Deep down your heart,you know the right choice to make but you are looking for sum1 to support the choice your body wants.Well like most of the people here,i'm gonna be honest with you. Apart from the things that attract you to him,why do you wana... (read in full...)

My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..

Q.   Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...

A.   18 December 2007: Look at it as a puzzle you have to solve.If you are so into her,then you should be after her."where there's a will there's a way".If you think chances of seeing her are next to zero,why are you still trying to contact her? Isn't it because you wana ... (read in full...)

My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..

Q.   Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...

A.   17 December 2007: U know what one thing about being a man is to be in control.I often feel that way when i'm texting my girlfriend and end up snapping at her but that doesn't help at all.You are really not the patient type,so i've seen.Why don't you visit her more ... (read in full...)

How do I get to the next level without appearing to be 'easy'?

Q.   What's the best way to let a guy know you're interested without acting like an idiot or scaring him off? I'm already scared to talk to the guy I like about the potential for more. I think he has an idea that I like him because I smile, then blu...

A.   17 December 2007: Try to spend as much time with him as you can.A guy usually knows that a girl wants more if she's making an effort to be around him and flirting usually works.Just do small simple things to keep his attention on you.The more time you spend ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't want to spend the night with me anymore!

Q.   Hey all, i've been with my boyfriend for over 2years. He has always been allowed to stay in my bedroom with me on the weekends(and has many times). However lately he doesnt want to stay with me at all. He says it's because i only have a single bed ...

A.   17 December 2007: I must also say that you shouldn't make a great meal out of this but try to understand your boyfriend.I also would find the courage to tell you if the bed was uncofortable.Don't take it really personal but find a solution like buying a new bed or ... (read in full...)

Me and my best friend fell in love, now he has backed out saying he doesn't want "us" anymore, he wants a girlfriend but still wants us to remain friends, how do I deal with this hurt?

Q.   Over the past three and half years, my best friend and I slowly feel in love-both of us scared to death of our feelings; we both didn't consider ourselves gay. After the first year, we slowly became intimate. For the year, we have both dealt with ...

A.   17 December 2007: I'm really sorry man that things turned out like this for you but there's one thing i've learnt in life that you can't force anyone to feel the way you do.Listen to him and be strong.He wants to try a relationship with a woman give him space.He may ... (read in full...)

Does need a break means I will leave you?

Q.   my boyfriend has recently told me he needs a break. Does this mean he is goin to leave me?...

A.   17 December 2007: It's really hard to tell where your boyfriend's head is and i would suggest you talk to him more.Don't panic there's still a big chance that he'll come back but if he doesn't br strong and move on dear. Good luck.... (read in full...)

Is it possible for young boys to get an erection even by looking at a girl they like?

Q.   hiya! this question is kind of aimed at guys who are 13-15 but anyone if free to answer. basically, is it possible for a guy to get an erection even if they are looking at a girl they like. cus my bf, sometimes when he looks up across at me he...

A.   17 December 2007: Let me fill you in even older guys are like that at times but are better at controlling it.When you are younger you get more erections than you can count.I don't remember being able to count the number of erections i used to have in a day.It's ... (read in full...)

What should I be doing after I have given him an orgasm?

Q.   ok... so your young and you are performing things (such as handjobs or oral) with a partner for fun not as foreplay. so you finish giving a handjob, he has come, what next? do you kiss or just stop or should you carry on even if he has ejaculate...

A.   17 December 2007: If i were him i would ask you to relax and maybe stop for a while as we cuddle and kiss (5min or less) then i'd like you to continue afterwards.Every guy is different and the best way is to ask your guy but a break is essential. Good luck.... (read in full...)

Can virgins pass on STD's?

Q.   Okay so I'm going to ask the same question that I asked last time about 3-4 weeks ago becuase I really don't think I gave enough detail and no one really gave me an answer I was looking for. So, my question was can a virgin pass on STD's? Becaus...

A.   17 December 2007: Generally speaking a virgin is someone who's never had penetrative sex.This means that they can't get STDs.However,as a virgin one needs to be careful and conscious with your member especially when you play alot with it with your partner such as ... (read in full...)

I slept with her, and now she's dumped me. How could she do this?

Q.   im a guy and im quite sensitive when it comes to how i feel bout someone. i got with a girl and lost my virginity with her early ( too early) and she suddenly stoped replyin to my my textes. she dumped me soon after and makes out im messed up in the ...

A.   17 December 2007: I really feel for you my brother.It seems she thought you were more experienced and it seems she's disappointed.Tough luck man.These things happen.Give her space as well.If she comes back see what you can do and if she doesn't move on.The chik has ... (read in full...)

My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..

Q.   Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...

A.   17 December 2007: My goodness,relax your nerves.You really have little amounts of patience in your system,heh?Call her more.Some girls don't like texting alot and prefer being called.It's good that you are no longer drooling over your ex but be more patient and don't ... (read in full...)

My ex has walked out of a long distance relationship with me after 2 years, supposedly because of distance, and now she's walked into another one!! Help me..

Q.   Hello. it's Andy, and I'm not happy.. Tonight I finally checked my ex's profile on her facebook, after not doing so for some time. Turns out. she's going out with a guy who she used to go to college with. I'm a little taken back by this. What's ...

A.   13 December 2007: It seems that the most painful bit for you is that even her new relationship seems so much of a LDR to you and that you knew the guy all along.Tough luck mate some girls are just like that.You really shouldn't be trying to find out what she's been ... (read in full...)

He has a gf but there's something between us. Is he playing around with me or what?

Q.   Ok, I'll try not to be vey long, but I have a guy I have developed more than "friendly" feelings for. We've known each other for two years and about a year ago he got himself a girlfriend. Now, I know that this is territory I shouln't invade, but ...

A.   13 December 2007: For your sake,RUN! Look what makes you think he's likely to end things with his girlfriend and come running to you? He finds your company really satisfying and is scared to want more.I've broken a number of girls' hearts just like the way the dude ... (read in full...)

I've got such a great guy...so why do I want something more??

Q.   I'm a 20 year old female and mother of a 4year old. I'm not with my son's father as we split when he was about two years old. Shortly after that I started dating someone else who my son sees as a father, well things didn't work out either, he went ...

A.   27 November 2007: It seems you have a phobia for serious commitent and no wonder even though you are with someone who loves you, you are still thinking of sleeping with your co-worker. I would suggest you cause your boyfriend no more anguish and call it off and do ... (read in full...)

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