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reader, MikeEa1  +, writes (11 March 2011):
 the truth is a man likes to make his woman come. if they can't find a way of doing that then it's a bit of a downer for both of them unless you're a guy that doesn't care. as the others say it doesn't have to be penetrative sex it can be any way. I would rub my wife while I had sex with her and that solved the problem. I'm sure there's a million ways.
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reader, charliesdevil73 +, writes (11 March 2011):
 I agree with C. Grant, but also want to add that Tisha-1 has good hard facts. There are many women who have a hard time reaching an orgasm during intercourse, and if they do, it is there job to tell their man so he can help her in any way he can.
Same thing with women who can only get off orally, they need to tell their man so he can do that for her and finish on his own during sex with no worries.
And lastly, if a woman doesn't know her body well enough (meaning she doesn't masturbate and know what areas are more pleasurable) she may have a harder time reaching an orgasm during sex. Mainly, women need to know their bodies and let their men know what they like. You can't assume men are psychic and know what gets you off.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (10 March 2011):
 I am a woman, but if I were a guy I'd feel perfectly OK. I'd help her finish AFTER intercourse.
An orgasm is an orgasm- by whatever means it's reached.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (10 March 2011):
 Here are the cold, hard numbers. Only 25% of women reach climax via intercourse. On the other hand, 81% reach it via oral stimulation. Kind of tells you that the key to a woman's climax isn't necessarily located inside her vagina.
I would say that a woman is responsible for her own orgasm. If she doesn't know how to reach it on her own, he's not going to stand much of a chance of helping her do it, however she gets there.
I think people need to give themselves a break on the whole thing, and not be held hostage to Freud's notion that a woman is somehow broken if she can't reach orgasm via vaginal intercourse.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (10 March 2011):
 I read a long time ago that a woman is responsible for her own orgasm, and I think there's truth to that. First, she has to know what works for her. Second, she has to be willing to share that information. And third, she has to relax and let it happen. Don't get me wrong -- I'll do everything I can, anything she wants, and I'd feel far better if she did get off. But I can't help it if she won't meet me half way.
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (10 March 2011):
If you happened to finished before her during sex it's not that big a deal it happens, and is nothing to feel bad about. It's what you do about it afterwards that matters.
Most woman can not reach climax in the missionary position ... The little man in the boat is to far away from the action. Have her reach down and give herself a hand while you are on top, it really helps matters along. Also make sure she is wet enough, buy a lubricant and keep it near the bed.
However, if you do finish before her don't just roll over and fall asleep, help her finish another way.
But if you can't get her off no matter what you do, woman on top, hands, mouth whatever...then you need to ask her about it. Has she ever had an orgasm? Maybe she was just nervous, or worried about how she looks nude. Or maybe something else was on her mind, ask her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2011): I feel as if I need to work on improving my moves. I feel it is the guy's responsibility to do the absolute best he can to give his lover an orgasm. However, that said, it is also important for her to let the guy know what things turn her on, and this may need the guy to ask her. Again, it is about communication, as are most things in a relationship!
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reader, godiva268 +, writes (10 March 2011):
I know you wanted a guy to answer but I just want you to know its normal. Most women will never have an orgasm from their boyfriends. A lot of women dont feel their G-spot as strongly as other women. Have you tried clitoral stimulation? If that doesnt work you can always try a vibrator, not a dildo or anything if youre both not comfortable with that but a stimulator for her clitoris, they have ones for couples to use. It could just mean she needs extra stimulation and more than likey has nothing to do with you doing anything wrong. So PLEASE dont beat yourself up over it!
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