I found out my dad cheated on my mom in the past!!!
Q. My dad travels internationally for business and I think it would be safe to say he's been gone for probably about half of my life on business trips. He usually goes on trips no longer than a month, but he has been in Chile for 3 months and went ...
A. 27 March 2010: No one is having a go at you? What has happened is part of the pattern of life. No one said we had to like it. Consider, whta your reaction might have been if Mom was the culprit!
You must try not to take sides as in the long term you will des... (read in full...)
What would my kids say if they knew I got involved with their Uncle?
Q. I need help. I am the mother of three children, all grown up. My husband died unexpectedly when I was pregnant with the last one, nineteen years ago. Although I had my share of relationships over the years, none was good enough to make me settle d...
A. 27 March 2010: On another note are you musical ? ... (read in full...)
To the men: how do you feel when you are in love?
Q. To all the Men out here, how do you know when you are falling in love? What does it feel like?...
A. 26 March 2010: I can tell you how it feels when the woman you love leaves you after many years. The problem I have now is that I could fall in love every day there are so many beautiful women in th 40 year old bracket.
I am trying to get into a realtion... (read in full...)
Should I live with him and start a new life with our son...?
Q. here's my story...I had a boyfriend 6yrs ago..we've been together for a year and then when he met my family..I kinda left him..meaning I didn't talk to him or see him anymore because my parents didn't like him..he's been calling me but I never ...
A. 26 March 2010: You will not like this but I think you are making a bid mistake? He is using you and involving you in this aweful mess. Why has he turned up now when there is s load of baggage in his life.
The Police do not lock you up for 2 days unless i... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so sad all the time?
Q. Do you think that it's normal to feel sad most of the time? sometimes i'm happy not always. i feel a sadness inside that i can't get rid of. it feels like i'm dead already. i try to keep a happy face 4 my kids and family... but deep down i just want ...
A. 25 March 2010: Oh dear! There is nothing in this it is often the mood swings and physical chnages that occur during our life.
Perhaps there is something that has happened to you in the past that you have not dealt with -- sort of post trumatic stress syndrome... (read in full...)
Should I contact her to express my sympathy?
Q. I have recently found out that an ex-girlfriend of mine, her father died last July. When I went to qualify this information that I was given, I also found out that her mother had died 3 years ago. I have very fond memories of her, although we have ...
A. 25 March 2010: Arange to meet her for coffee, this is nice gesture on your own part. In these situations the more people that show they care the better. Good on you!... (read in full...)
I fell asleep on her and am really embarrassed about it. How do I approach her now?
Q. Last night me and my girlfriend were watching a film and I fell asleep on her. Anyway I woke up on the sofa under a blanket. She left a note saying 'good to see you found my company so interesting, sleep well babe". I'm really embarrassed and I ...
A. 25 March 2010: Just apologise! She is the one with the problem - you fell asleep - so what! Make light of it... (read in full...)
Is there any way I can stop blushing. It makes me so self conscious.
Q. im 18 years old, i like my life and am a happy girl most the time, have a good relationship with my boyfriend and family, there is just one thing that really gets me down i blush all the time over the most silly things, i literally go beetroot and i ...
A. 25 March 2010: 'Blushing' is totally natural and is often unnoticed by those around you? Focus on this fact and realise many others do not worry about it. I am sure you are very attractive so what does it matter? ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting about him adding attractive single girls to his Facebook?
Q. I have been in a long distance relationship for just three months. We were doing pretty good except for a few minor issues. He speaks of love and marriage. We had a conversation regarding how we both believe that talking to the opposite sex online ...
A. 25 March 2010: No! you are not over reacting you care for this man and he is abusing his relationship with you!
Tell him to go and find someone local. His behaviour is of more concern as I assume you are in the thirtes so he by now be versed in how to treat yo... (read in full...)
I have approved of my wife having an affair. Do you think this will lead to problems in the future?
Q. My wife is having an affair with an older man at work. She started this relationship around 10 months ago. She told me about it 1 month ago. They never had sex yet because she is 8 months preggy. we have talked about her having another man before ...
A. 25 March 2010: I have trouble taking this in. Of course there is going to be big problems. Whose baby is she carrying - yours? Your calmness might be a credit to you now but there will be big problems in the future?
I do not know what to say but fear you may ... (read in full...)
It really hurts to not be able to speak to him and for him to be so nasty
Q. Hi Guys. My questions is regarding my ex/on-off partner. We've been together for years and split up on-off over the last 18 months. We always stayed in touch and stayed friends and there are still feelings between us and we are still attracted but ...
A. 24 March 2010: You are a young woman still. The longer you hold on the more hurt you cause yourself. My wie that I adore left after 29 years. Like you I have kept in touch like a b---------y puppy always thinking she may come back. Well screw her and him why do ... (read in full...)
Help! Should I leave the door open and keep talking to him but date like I have been doing in the meantime?
Q. First off--i have been dating and trying to meet someone and also keeping busy but it still doesn't change my feelings for my ex. my ex and i were together for over 3 years and broke up over a year ago but noone did anything so wrong.. no cheat...
A. 24 March 2010: Because you will not move on. Screw his Mum, screw his finace, it seems to me you would do anything to get him back?
Forget it! He is not worth it he is weaK and not worthy of you. I empathise that we often harbour feelins for those we cannot h... (read in full...)
Do I end this relationship or try and make it work for our family?
Q. My partner a I have been together for 8 years on and off, we have arguments that have scaled into full blown fights in the past, we have three children together and when it is good it's really good but for years now instead of him talking to me he ...
A. 24 March 2010: Not a good enough reason I am afraid. Can you not see he seems not to care. Get rid of him trial it and see. Tell him not to come back. You are clearly a lady with strong inner self and have identified so many issues.
Do not let him traet yo... (read in full...)
I have to tell her I love her soon? But how? And do I mention what she said when she was drunk?
Q. So here's the deal. I'm in love with a girl, and a couple of weeks ago whilst blind drunk, I think she professed her love for me. She doesn't remember this, and has a boyfriend. Here's a more detailed explanation: This girl has been my best fri...
A. 24 March 2010: Your views are yours alone and it is pointless trying to think that they are not happy with each other. Forget all this as when we are 'drunk' I fear it means very little and most often if we remember what happened we did not mean it and regret it... (read in full...)
Should I keep dragging this hoping it will get better?
Q. Hello i have been with my bf for 3 years now. and I feel like I am falling out of love with him. we have a long distance relationship and we dont see each other that much. he is like the closest to mr. right it would ever get, but at the wrong time. ...
A. 24 March 2010: Don't care, take control and move on now - he wants it all without commitment!... (read in full...)
What's going on in his head for him to treat me this way???
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. When we met i had 2 children from the previous relationship, 6 mths and 1 years old, 18 months later i got pregnant with his child. Now 4 years on im having his 2nd baby. I know he loves me but he's got a ...
A. 24 March 2010: Poor you! He doesn't seem to know what he wants. i fear he is using you and this relationship is going nowehere.
Tell him how you feel or tell him to leave. The way I see it as better to the pain now and be rid of him!
Why are we shits to ... (read in full...)
Should I let bygones be bygones and take another chance with her or should I walk away and always wonder what could have been?
Q. A very long time ago I was dating a girl that I was completley in love with. It's been twenty years ago. She played me for a fool and was sleeping with another guy. She wouldn't even have sex with me so when I found out I broke up with her. ...
A. 23 March 2010: Your age 45+ you have acted like a 15 year old? What planet are you on to?
You need to sort yourself out and give relationships a miss? You have screwed up and made a complete arse of yourself
Get clear of it all? ... (read in full...)
I found out my dad cheated on my mom in the past!!!
Q. My dad travels internationally for business and I think it would be safe to say he's been gone for probably about half of my life on business trips. He usually goes on trips no longer than a month, but he has been in Chile for 3 months and went ...
A. 23 March 2010: Hold up there young lady 16 going on 26? You ahve just encountered one of lifes hard facts and others will reveal themselves when you least expect or want it.
You must for now focus on yourself and please give Mum and Dad space. Trust males th... (read in full...)
Do people find love when they least expect it or is that just rubbish?
Q. Do people find love when they least expect it? How does that work? And DOES it work? I'd really love know this!!...
A. 23 March 2010: Do you want me to give you the lotto numbers as well. my that is like asking for the secret of life. Gosh there sre so many issues that effect these things happening e.g.mind set, mood, emotions, family and friends chemistry, day of the week, ... (read in full...)
She wont answer my calls, is she still angry with me?
Q. i have got married to the girl of my dreams and lost her 1.5 months after wedding, the reason was our repeated arguments and i was tough enough with her although i love her more than myself. she left three weeks ago, she is not answering my calls, ...
A. 22 March 2010: I fear there is a lot more to this than you are telling us. If not to have gone so soon suggests she may feel it is all a huge mistake.
You must go and see her today sit down in public where you can not end up arguing?
Good Luck! ... (read in full...)
Problems in bed are making me feel insecure. Should I say something?
Q. Hi I am 35 and dating a guy who is 46. He is very handosome and fit. We have been dating for 3 months and he refers me as his GF. We spend weekends together at my place and his place. We travel together and he invites me to all parties, dinners...
A. 22 March 2010: Too right you should - your hardly in a commited relationship after only 3 months
Why on earth need you feel insecure. He is an idiot to act like this going about who fancies him. Futhermore he needs to act like a man and clearly he has no idea ... (read in full...)
I feel horrible that my wife was crying whilst we had sex! Does this mean she finds me repulsive?
Q. hi this is driving me nuts. me and my partner have been together for about 5 years we have children together and seem happy we have are ups and downs no big deal.but are sex life has got dull and not a lot of it i mean big gaps.we both made jokes ...
A. 22 March 2010: I fear the worst - your relationship is on its way out! All the signs are there please talk it over and be honest and ask her to the same.
I feel that the braek down in your relationship has started and these are the signs. It may be to little t... (read in full...)
Why can't I get over my wife leaving me?
Q. So I'm nearing my divorce. It's been almost 2 yares since I woke up one morning and my wife told me it was over. She was seeing some one else at the time . She has dated a few guys since then.Me no one. Why can't I ever get her off my mind.When will ...
A. 22 March 2010: I empathise with you and I guess you must feel realy down. There is sadly no time scales as to when you feel better over this. It may be that she does not answer as she knows it will upset you more. My estarnged wife has stoped talking and merely ... (read in full...)
Am I stupid, naive and frigid.. or is he manipulating me?
Q. I'm 14 and I have my first proper boyfriend (who is also 14), we were bestfriends beore going out what made everything abit easier, after a while of going out we started touching eachother through our clothes, I soon told him that's As far I'd like ...
A. 21 March 2010: How dare you think that Miss there is nothing wrong with you at all. Move on as he is a weak link and the pressure he is puting on you suggests to me that he wants sexual activity with you? Once he gets that he will move on - get shot of him!... (read in full...)
My GF has too many male friends... how do I proect our relationship?
Q. My girl has a bunch of male friends. Like a whole slew of these guys. Is it wrong to be insecure about that? She tells me when one comes onto her her and tells me everything that happens, usually, but the way I see it, I believe she is loyal now, ...
A. 21 March 2010: Too many friends in whose opinion?
You are lucky that guys do fancy her. I am thinking that you insecure about yourself not her.
If she moves on to another guy then that will be that? You do not own her and you perhaps need to resolve what ... (read in full...)
Am I being bullied?
Q. There is a man at work who may be bullying me. At first he was really nice and charming and went out of his way to make me feel special. He knows that I am in a relationship but he spent a lot of time telling me I was nice / attractive. Then I ma...
A. 21 March 2010: I bet you are younger than him and he probably fancys you into the bargain. I would speak to him alone and tell him if it does not stop, you will go to HR and it will be resolved once and for all?
As the last person said he is an arse!... (read in full...)
I want to be accepted my muslim girlfriends family.
Q. My girlfriends mum has recently found out that her daughter is dating me and she will not accept it as she is worried that the rest of her family will frown upon it. They are a Muslim family and they will not accept me, a White British male, even ...
A. 21 March 2010: Time and commitment. Do not rush this, as it takes alot of time?
Any parents do not always take kindly to any b/f irrespective of religious or social backgrounds?
Stay cool!... (read in full...)
What would my kids say if they knew I got involved with their Uncle?
Q. I need help. I am the mother of three children, all grown up. My husband died unexpectedly when I was pregnant with the last one, nineteen years ago. Although I had my share of relationships over the years, none was good enough to make me settle d...
A. 21 March 2010: I can't see why any upset that they may first have will not be overcome within a short time?
At first and foe a couple of months why say anything? Lets us just see how it develops, as who can say that it will go much futher.
That said the... (read in full...)
What are my chances of having a long term girlfriend???
Q. I'm 22 and I've never had a long term girlfriend and although my confidence is a lot better than a year ago (let alone when I started uni 2 and half years ago), I worry that if I will struggle to find a girlfriend when I work full time. I do ...
A. 21 March 2010: My son is a scientist and what a bore, a bit like his dad.
Join an amateur theatre group, go and work in a charity shop, go and learn to dance - take your Mum along to start with. I have spend all this money on your education and you think yo... (read in full...)
Does she fancy a challenge
Q. Today i spent some time talking to a colleague at work. She is very attractive and of French extraction with a sexy voice. Asking her out she replied that i was a lovely guy but flirted with all the females, she did not know if and when to take...
A. 21 March 2010: Great points!
Problem with regard to age gap is that all I have come across in my 9 months of separation are ladies in the roaring 40's. I have been told and read a number of times that females in their 50's become anonomous?
This seems to... (read in full...)
Lost, don't know what to do?
Q. Hi, I've been married for 17 years. There is a 12 year age gap between me and my husband. At first it did not seem to matter, but now he has turned 50 and has no teeth, i'm struggling. I have had 2 one night stands in the past and felt very g...
A. 19 March 2010: Well do not go there, that is not going to help you at all.
Sort out the mess you have at home first so at least so long as you do not mention the one stands you can move on with a clear conscience.
There was a post not disimilar from t... (read in full...)
Is 7 months too long to wait to have sex?
Q. I've been going out with a girl for 7 months now and we havent had sex. Is this normal because it seems every other couple around us is. And it makes be almost frustrated that we aren't, and wonder whether im in a strong relationship, i dont know ...
A. 19 March 2010: No!
She will tell you when she is ready!
Consider yourself very lucky young man!... (read in full...)
Having a hard time...
Q. Having a Hard Time... I'm and my son are going through a hard time right now and want some advise on how to deal with it and go on with our lives. My husband of almost 20 years has left us for his first cousin. She lived in Florida until he...
A. 19 March 2010: Madam You have my thoughts in what must be 'hell' at this time. I am in a similar situation that is 9 months past. However much we try and rationalise what our partners do, those sleepless night wondering 'if only', harboring thoughts of a r... (read in full...)
Will she sleep with him when she gets married?
Q. my girlfriend is being forced to get maried to someone else and she has no other choice. she had planned to get a divorce after she gets married. I just asked for a promise of not sleeping with him and i will always stay with you. Now she is scared ...
A. 19 March 2010: Arabic Flag
It is almost impossible for Westerners like myself to understand the cultural and family conditions that come with your part of the World.
The poor girl surely has enough pressure without you applying other conditions.
I wis... (read in full...)
I have hurt my wife - how do I make amends?
Q. I met my wife while taking a professional course last year. Both of us weren't attracted to one another at first, but as she failed one particular test and I coached her, we gradually got closer and eventually fell in love with each other. Alth...
A. 19 March 2010: This is not an English Literature exam. You would do well to focus rather than blab on about your parents? Stop making excuses for everything.
Your the one with the problems and she is far to good for you. You are lacking in moral fibre an... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell me how to mend a broken heart?
Q. Can anyone tell me how to mend a broken heart. I'm totally in love with this fantastic guy. He had a deep obsession once for me, but on deciding to leave his partner (they also have 2 teenage kids) she gave him the biggest guilt trip and now he has ...
A. 19 March 2010: Move on!
he is a user and was flattered by your attention!
Ther is someone out there for you! He is playing games and once it came to'fight or flight?', he took the clear option.
Be more careful next times!
If I could I would hug you
K... (read in full...)
Am I being really superficial and selfish for feeling like this?
Q. Dear Cupid: I've been single for a long time, and I recently met a super sweet guy online. After talking on the phone for a few days, we met. He is very good looking but for one thing: his teeth. Most of them are rotten. He rarely smiles, ...
A. 19 March 2010: Says it all! Move on; Tonite!... (read in full...)
I have fallen in love with an older, married man. How do I overcome the pain?
Q. I started an apprenticship a year ago to be an offshore electrician. There I met a guy almost 20 years older than me (I am 21) who taught me on one of the offshore platforms. He looked after me really well and was so kind and taught me so much and ...
A. 18 March 2010: Poor you I feel for you!
You have acted properly and it seems so as he . It realy only is a crush - nothing more. Were you to induge in sex you will ruin a friendship that might last a lifetime?
What about his wife and kids. It is not a way ... (read in full...)
Lost the love of my life, help
Q. So my girl friend who is the love of my life broke up with me recently. We dated about one year and it was the best time of my life. When we met I had many girls as friends, some were girls I dated in the past and some were just friends. We had a ...
A. 18 March 2010: NO
It is over - move on. Take this as a lesson learn't and not to be repeated.
The love of my life left and that was after 28 years and it has taken me 9 months to at least be a little more cheerful.
That said I am still beeply depressed a... (read in full...)
Help - my brother-in-law is hitting on me!
Q. This is kind of long, so thanks in advance for those who read and respond. :) I am married to a wonderful man, "Jay". We have a very good relationship, and talk about everything, but there's one thing I don't feel I can bring up to him at this p...
A. 18 March 2010: Doug and his wife are not doing fine at all? Doug is an arrogant prick and his behaviour is entirely unaccepatable. If Jay does not know this then what planet is he on!
If this is not stoped then Doug will turn up one day when Jay is not ther... (read in full...)
Would I be imposing if I went to the funeral?
Q. I've been with my BF for about 7 months. I've met his family and we're quite serious. I met his grandmother last week and I've just found out that she died yesterday. My BF told me about her funeral and then said 'you're welcome to come.' Was...
A. 18 March 2010: You are paying your respects and supporting him at this sad affair!
I am confused - what do you want a written invitation, either you go or not it is no big deal?
You are being awkward - maybe you do not want to go and if that is the case then... (read in full...)
My ex wants to talk, I don't. How do I gently tell him no?
Q. Hi, My exboyfriend contacted me last week (through email) and asked me to get together personally so we can talk. We broke up three years ago. Then I would've been very interested in talking to him, not now. There were things about the past I...
A. 18 March 2010: Does he know where you live? Do you still have mutaul friends that can provide this infomation.
It is to be a juvenile appraoch merely to ignore him. If you are healed then go and meet him and prove to yourself you have moved on.
At this... (read in full...)
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