My ex wants to talk, I don't. How do I gently tell him no?
Q. Hi, My exboyfriend contacted me last week (through email) and asked me to get together personally so we can talk. We broke up three years ago. Then I would've been very interested in talking to him, not now. There were things about the past I...
A. 18 March 2010: Does he know where you live? Do you still have mutaul friends that can provide this infomation.
It is to be a juvenile appraoch merely to ignore him. If you are healed then go and meet him and prove to yourself you have moved on.
At this... (read in full...)
Should I stay in a sour relationship with a much older man for the sake of my son?
Q. my boyfriend is 53 and I 21 have been together for 2 years and we have a son together he is a very mean person, he never shows me any affection and and when i try to confont him about it he says wait and see. which is funny because its been this ...
A. 18 March 2010: Hang on for another 10 years and he will be an ols man. What you need to establish is why on earth you ever got into a relationship with a man the same age as your father or older.
Until you recognise what is going on here you may not be able to ... (read in full...)
I have this feeling that change is in the air...has anyone else had this before?
Q. Hi All, I have a rather strange Dear Cupid!! I have had a feeling for the last few months that a huge change is in the air in my life and is heading in my direction. I'm not sure what it is, and even my Mum said she can feel it, and she is one of ...
A. 17 March 2010: Probably starting early 'menopause'thats all. No I have not had that feeling but change is happening all day every day. Whether we notice it or not is irrelevant. It may be that you are using to much alcohol?
Besides most people say that whe... (read in full...)
I love my mistress but I feel bad for leaving my wife and kids
Q. I am 35 years old, married for 9 years with 3 kids relatively young - 7 and twins of 4 years old. I met a girl 4 years ago (Kelly) but we really started to see each other more often like twice a week over the past 4 months, before it was once a mo...
A. 17 March 2010: I agree with Mr Grant. I am amazed at how several respondents (female) seem to think you should be guided by your heart. That is claptrap this is real life for you not a TV soap where they all get to go home at the end of the show. What th... (read in full...)
Husband drinks, and I'm attracted to someone else
Q. I have been married for 5 years, and lately I have been REALLY unhappy and torn. My husband is a binge drinker on the weekends. He ignores me often, and can be very verbally abusive after drinking. I feel like 10% of the time I'm really happy, ...
A. 17 March 2010: What do you want??????????
Forget your husband - you are not a doctor. you must decide what you want. You paint a gloomy picture to me it tells me that you are unhappy.
You must discuss it with him and tell him how you feel (husband). Expl... (read in full...)
Do you think he is using me to take care of him since no one else will?
Q. Well...I have a question and I'm hoping someone can help me by answering it or giving me suggestions. To start things off my boyfriend (to whom I have been with for almost 6 months) He has been living with me for the past 2 months, he is in school ...
A. 17 March 2010: Yes he is using you? Pack his bags and tell him to 'sling his hook elsewhere'? Let this be a learning curve a mistake you will not make again.
What is it with women that they let themselves be used??... (read in full...)
Loose? Or control issues?
Q. Ok...I have visited this site on several occassions with the same dilemma...my boyfriend complains about sex with me. He says that my vagina and anus are loose and I do not feel the same way I did when he met me one year ago. The anus I can ...
A. 17 March 2010: Can you not read what you have written? The only anus here is him! For goodness sakes get out of this relationship. What are you his unpayed whore. I get so angry at women who seem to think it is Ok for them to be treated like servants and sec... (read in full...)
I love my mistress but I feel bad for leaving my wife and kids
Q. I am 35 years old, married for 9 years with 3 kids relatively young - 7 and twins of 4 years old. I met a girl 4 years ago (Kelly) but we really started to see each other more often like twice a week over the past 4 months, before it was once a mo...
A. 17 March 2010: Jonny You need to step back before this all to late? You have got yourself in a mess, Kelly this and Kelly that, I do noy give a frig about her. Your wife and kids are what is important here, not some bird that you may well replace for a ne... (read in full...)
Is it harmless or should I be moving on?
Q. My boyfriend of several years is looking at online dating sites and "classified ads." I have caught him emailing some of the girls and when I confront him he says he is "just looking" and would never do anything. Is it harmless or should I be ...
A. 17 March 2010: I do not think you have any option other than to be moving on. I fear he has shown his hand. I cannot believe that anyone can be taken in by the line 'Is it harmless'. It most certainly ain't harmless it is messing with you and the ladies on ... (read in full...)
His behavior is making me unsure of myself.
Q. So there's this guy that I've known for about a year. We dated for a short time last year, but he ended the thing, because he claimed he had feelings for other girls. We had a good time when we dated, cuddled etc. Nothing sexual, though I felt his ...
A. 16 March 2010: What is wrong with you. You sound delightful and need to move on. Remember boys are much less mature than you mentally and emotionally.
May be he likes you as a trophy. Just tell him you want commitment and answers. if he cannot or will not... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is giving very mixed signals... what does she want??
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for about 6 years; everything went pretty well, except for the past couple months when we both had a lot of stress from our jobs. Things are better now though (better work hours). The problem now is that she ...
A. 14 March 2010: I fear that this may be the start of the end. Being stressed and under pressure does not make you move apart does it. What are the real reasons for her feelings?
Go away together overnight and talk it all through as I see this as the relation... (read in full...)
After we broke up we agreed to meet again. Is there hope for us?
Q. My boyfriend of a year broke up with me last night. We had a fight and basically we didnt speak for a few days then i got a text telling me it was over. It seemed out of the blue because we are crazy about each other and my friends thought that it ...
A. 14 March 2010: No! No!
You are just prolonging the pain. You will get back together if you want but it will only last a short time!... (read in full...)
I have no idea what's going on in her head..need advice!
Q. Last month my ex called to say that we were over and she needed a break from us, we'd been going out for 2 1/2 years,we'd been arguing a lot over the last few months,and I guess she'd just had enough. taking a step back from us has made me see some ...
A. 14 March 2010: She likes you but that is all! You really need to face this as I think you are causing yourself potential further heartsche!
We will never understand women but I read that this is over. For example we have been together for 30 years, splittin... (read in full...)
Inlaws are making my life hell!
Q. the problem i have is the age old problem of the in-laws. My sister in-law is the main one i have problems with. recently my husband an i had a breif separation. she rang him up to ask why and like a mug he told her. she then rang my home and ...
A. 14 March 2010: The other reply is very balanced comment on the situation? Hubby must decide what he wants but I cannot entirely agree that he should not have told his familly about your break up. That is his perogative if he was upset.
Having had my wife lea... (read in full...)
His family didn't like me and now he doesn't talk to me anymore. What can I do?
Q. I have or had a boyfriend and a partner in love, I thought he was. we were suppose to get back together, after being apart for 6 months. He is living with his son and I with my mine. He has all our belongings in a storage facility. He is the only ...
A. 14 March 2010: You have to move on! Come on that is nothing after 3 months and messaging means nothing? You need to put this behind and move forward because Madam if he does not want you there are many more out there that do?
Relationships and not being po... (read in full...)
Should we get back together? Does she want me back?
Q. I lied to my ex a month ago that's why we broke up we decided to be friends hung out a few time at first Just friend. We made a few drunken mistakes here and there and fooled around every time she get drunk she tells me I love you and trust to get ...
A. 14 March 2010: No!! You are both fooling around the damage has been done. It is time to move on. Had either of you taken this action you would not of ended up 'hanging out'
Carry on and it will end up with one of you being 'hurt' that could be you?... (read in full...)
I'm over the fact that she left me, but not the resentment.
Q. To cut a long story short, my partner who I loved very much left me for another guy. This was 3 months ago. I have gotten over the jealousy and the feeling of sickness when I think about 'them' but I can't seem to shift the anger. I've tried to tell ...
A. 10 March 2010: Mine left 8 months ago and that was after 30 years and I can assure there is nothing wrong with being angry. I gyrate between being up some days amd then angry and depressed the next. The punch line is that you my well feel a lot of emotions for ... (read in full...)
I want to please him but I'm shy
Q. I am currently dating a 46 year old man we have been together for 4 years and I feel that i could do better in bed. I love him dearly and want to please him more what could i do to help this I do not know how to address him cause I get shy. But am ...
A. 10 March 2010: Just tell him that you are not that experienced and need to work together at this. He is a mighty lucky guy if I am reading your age correctly. He should be concerning himself with how he pleasures you.
Let your worries subside and things w... (read in full...)
We met while clubbing, but he won't let me club anymore!
Q. My boyfriend has told me that he doesn't want a girlfriend who wants to go clubbing and drink. We have been together for 2 years, we met at a club and for the first 6 months always went clubbing together and we went to every music festival ...
A. 10 March 2010: I guess this relationship has run its course. He is controllling and maybe jealous! Move on now. ... (read in full...)
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