How can I change my promiscuous ways?
Q. 3 April 2010: I feel like such a slut. I am only 16, 17 in 2 weeks and I have slept with 14 boys over 2 years I think. I dont know why I do, I just watnt to feel wanted. I get used and it hurts me like mad and i get really really down because I ...
A. 3 April 2010: Miss you are not a s--- by any means and never will be you are merely pushing out your boundaries and exploring what this part of life is all about. It is perfectly normal I am afraid.
You must take care and if you continue like this the time may... (read in full...)
Why does my friend behave this way?
Q. my friend whenever am going to her house and am running late she'd call me alot and if dont answer she will texts me. are you coming, why you ignoring me what have i done etc: is soo annoying. and am sick of her aways calling pretty gir...
A. 3 April 2010: Time to say goodbye to her! Do not let her bring you down?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lied to me about another woman so I broke up with him. Did I do the right thing?
Q. my boyfriend of a year has been talking to this girl at work he says nothing is going on but i do not know! today someone texted him early in the morning he said that it was her but it was a forward text so i believed him. then she texted again an...
A. 3 April 2010: I applaud you of course you did the correct thing. I am impressed with you - stand no nonsense from any man who acts lkie a twot.
A special lady like you will not be free for long?
Happy Easter, do not eat too much chocolate, change your clot... (read in full...)
My ex got the wrong idea by me trying to be friendly!
Q. I rescently made contact with my e after about four nonths. T he phonecall was harmless. However he has the wrong idea and is still totally hooked on me and won't refrain from messaging and emailing me. I have assured him the phonecall was innocent ...
A. 3 April 2010: If you care you will not contact him again. We all need time to get over things. I am sure for many of us it is a nice warm and caring thing to do to remain in contact. It realy does not work, leave it 3 months and see where you both are. Maybe ... (read in full...)
I supported him during his separation and he repays me with lies
Q. i need advice please. i dont know what to do regarding my work colleague. he started the job we're in 8 months ago. his wife left him last year and hes used me as a huge emotional crutch which ive been happy about. i really like him, hes funny an...
A. 3 April 2010: You dear lady have done nothing wrong whatsoever, you have given your heart and soul to someone who needed your support. The lesson you have learnt is that it is no good givibg and expecting a good retuurn on your emtional investment.
Like ... (read in full...)
Stalked by a friend. Why did he do this? It's scaring me!
Q. Im on my home from the store right i feel like im being followed then when im about to turn around i get a txt ok it said "i see you!" so i look around and i see my friend ( its the stalker boy) so i talk to him for a couple minutes then i start to ...
A. 3 April 2010: Maybe he needs to be reported to the Police. I do not care whether he fancys you or not this is not NORMAL behaviour?... (read in full...)
Would I make my boyfriend horny if I sat on his lap?
Q. My bf asked me to sit on his lap. Does that makes a guy horny if I do so?...
A. 1 April 2010: YES YES! YES wHAT IS YOUR QUESTION??????????????... (read in full...)
I was mortified by his comment! What did he mean?
Q. ive known this guy for 7 months and weve become close friends in that time. i really like him but notice sometimes he says things which dont add up for example he owns 3 houses, has 60 k in savings and want to buy a 350 k house in london. hes ha...
A. 1 April 2010: You Ms have not ended up with egg anywhere? You are loyal, honest and have quality and devotion that has known few limits. Close to you is a man that will tick all your boxes? Look around around you tomorrow and start your life!!!!!... (read in full...)
How do I let her know I like her?
Q. OK, so I've met a really nice woman, and I want her...A LOT! I know she is definitely gay, but she does NOT know that I know, nor does she know that I feel this way for her. Next week, I'm going to get the chance to meet up with her again. I don't ...
A. 1 April 2010: Bless you! Life for you knows no limits! Go out and tell her and tell her how you feel? Then listen to U-tube Hurt by the Nine Inch Nails! You will know what you have to do! Hugs... (read in full...)
14 and pregnant! Help!
Q. i think that i am pregnant and i am just 14 plz tell me how to get through this someone i really need help!!!!!!...
A. 31 March 2010: Tell your Mum and go to the Doctors. I am sure it seems terrible but you are by far not the fuirst 14 year old to maybe get pregnant and you will not be the last?
You have not done anything wrong - you have been exploring that is all and as a res... (read in full...)
How do I get over my insecurities and say "hi" to this guy?
Q. I'm so insecure, it's really bad. I cant give people eye contact because I'm so scared they're gonna judge my face. I know they do it anyways but im scared of what they think, even though I know I should'nt. For example ,I really wanna talk to ...
A. 30 March 2010: Ms you do not nor are you in any way pathetic, so no more talk like that. You are a youn lady learning about life and its strange ways.
How do you brooch this subject. You must either 'fight or flight', fight take a deep breath and go and talk... (read in full...)
What is your take on this love letter?
Q. XXX is to protect my ex's name, and mine. Please tell me of the tone of the letter, and the idea of the ballet tix. I am asking of as many people's feedback as possible. ----- Dear XXXX, I ask you to read these words with an open mind and he...
A. 30 March 2010: Follow that if i did not know ms this is someone who is deeply in love with you! Passion and emotion are engraved in the text and clearly much time and effort has been spent. The attention to the detail about you is moving. I do not know what ... (read in full...)
Do I come clean or leave the reason for the break up as is?
Q. Okay so I have made a mess of things and I just want to try and do the best I can from the mess I've made! I've been dating this guy for about 6 months and it has been really good and I have NO complaints, this guy is almost perfect.... He has been...
A. 30 March 2010: You only saw him twice which if I were he I would not take offence as 2 dates is nothing really. You are getting yourself all hyper over this, it is important to focus on your hubby for the moment.
Who and what is important to you - that is ... (read in full...)
I am totally out of control over my feelings, and can't see how a counselor could help me!
Q. Hi Everyone, You may remember some of my posts about my text cheating husband. Well, things are no better (because basically I can't move on). Last Fri/Sat he went on a golfing do for a mate's 60th birthday and when he returned home I start...
A. 30 March 2010: I am in a mood myself today so I have moved away from touchy feely replies. How you can say he loves me to bits etc I am speechless, what on earth does he act like this. You think he loves you, please please just wake up and look around at what is ... (read in full...)
How would you deal with your partner putting pictures of their deceased ex everywhere? Am I being insensitive?
Q. My man have his deceased ex pictures posted on everything, Am I being Insensitive? My man posts pictures of his deceased ex on his profile page. She died a year ago. The picture posted as his main photo is him and her together hugged up. At that mom...
A. 30 March 2010: Burn them or tell him to. Its gone and he needs help or shock tatics.
Give him an ultimatum on there removal or tell him to leave. I am not sure he even loves you anyway. Like many men he is in love with a dream!... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband comfortable with the idea of me having sex with other men?
Q. My husband and I have been married for ten years. I think that i have a healthy and realistic view of sex. I have told him that if he ever gets bored with our sex life that he is welcome to sleep with other women. He of course told me that he ...
A. 30 March 2010: Are you for real or is this just a wind up. I thought we had all the scary people in the Uk. Clealy not, relationships are not games tp play. It takes particular strength and commitment in marriage to have sex with other people.
If you wanted s... (read in full...)
I'm a thinker and he's a doer. How can we find common ground?
Q. so my boyfriend and i are fighting my point of view- i prefer to just talk and hangout with people when we are at peoples houses to hangout instead of always running around and playing games, i feel as if though that when i want him to sit b...
A. 30 March 2010: Opposites are common ground! Relationship is about compromise, commitment and mutual repect. You both start from that and share and talk. Communication is the life blood of life and in particular relationships?... (read in full...)
My husband of 10 years had declared he no longer loves me. Is he just in his cave emotionally?
Q. I have been married for 10 years. I love my husband. I love our family(three children).. I believe we are truly blessed. He told me a year ago that he didnt love me. I have been trying my best to keep it together. I t has been ok until recently. We ...
A. 30 March 2010: Is he playing a game more like. It is not the French you need to resolve but the issue of where he is at in this moment of time.
Having your head in the sand is not going to help you. Futhermore if he does not love you why do you permit him to h... (read in full...)
I still have feelings for my womanizing ex boyfriend
Q. How do i cope with this. Im totally confused about my feeling for my ex. Do i still love him? Dont i? I spent 3 yrs of my life chasing this man it wasnt really a proper relationship but i was besotted with him! We were on off all the time i wanted...
A. 30 March 2010: Why is not clear to you that this is finished? I empathise with you that so often we grieve about the past I guess it is human nature. We allways get stuck on the what might have beens, or what if we tried again?
Relationships like those of... (read in full...)
Help this stressed out hubby whose wife was sending naughty texts to another man!
Q. A few months ago I started suspecting my wife was sending naughty messages to one of the truck drivers that delivers to her work. I asked her about it and she said it was just a friend and they talk about their day and nothing more then that. We ...
A. 29 March 2010: Only you know her, truth has been tested over this and answers may not meet with your satisfaction. You must establish what happened to make her do this/ Can we resolve it or is to late? That has to be a reason, even if she had sex with him does ... (read in full...)
He promised it would never happen again... and now the emails have started again!
Q. I have been married for a couple of years and have a beautiful son. Over the last 6 mths or so, I found my husbands email account open and he was asking his ex for nude photos etc and emails about their past relationship. My husband is away ...
A. 29 March 2010: Is this the beginning of the end/ Presume he may have known that you would find these e-mails, this that terrible phase of 'grass is greener over there' you come across as in coontrol but I imagine your emotions are shot.
Why do the people w... (read in full...)
I'm pretty sure she still has feelings for me ...
Q. A few months ago, I asked a girl out, and she said no, because she had a girlfriend. I was determined to stay good friends with her and we became closer and closer. Recently, she started kissing me and confessed that she liked me and had been unable ...
A. 29 March 2010: Just move on and waste no more time on people you cannot understand and who are not sure what they want? Do not make things worse for yourself!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to have sex, I don't...but he keeps threatening me
Q. um my boyfriend keeps talking about sex and that he wants to um "do it" soon but im not ready and i dont want to do it with him but he keeps threatening me and has rased his hand to me. i dont know what else to do!...
A. 29 March 2010: Tell your parents and tell the creep to F--- Off, eif you can do none of these things then tell him next time you will call the Police.... (read in full...)
Why does my girlfriend keep using dating sites, when we are supposed to be serious about each other?
Q. Ugh! I'm sick and tired of trying to deal with problems. I cannot begin to tell you the feeling I have of possibly knowing that I could be sharing my girlfriend... Why say that? Because I found out that whilst I was away in HK she had gone back to...
A. 29 March 2010: You are still there because you want to be. Is she 'Chinese' because if she is I feel that the situation is worse as the Chinese tend to be balanced and respectful!... (read in full...)
Getting mixed signals from a colleague. Should I try harder or give her space?
Q. Recently I asked out a co-worker. We had for several months talked and I always made her laugh. A beautiful woman. I'm 45 and she is 44 and divorced. She mentioned she rarely let people into her life in a serious way. She gives me the feeling some...
A. 29 March 2010: Ed If only i could advise you and see what all this means. In our 40's life is even more difficult and who only knows what the signals and signs are!
Your perhaps are a little to earnest and urgent today. Back off until Friday then speak ab... (read in full...)
I am attracted to a man who is 14 years older than me...
Q. I am attracted to a man who is 14 years older than me and in a position of authority over me as he is tutoring me for an exam. He has shown an interest in me too with many very flirty texts (the kind that can not be misunderstood) and lots of ...
A. 28 March 2010: I do not understand 'a perv' that is adding to the confusion. You must make a balanced decision based on what you learn. Does his wife know about your flirty texts, how would she feel - ask him.
If you start a relationship with him it has to b... (read in full...)
Help - what do I do if he comes back to me??
Q. Just a little bit of help please, I was seeing a man for 4 months last year (he had separated from his wife and living apart). I totally fell for him as did he me. They have 2 children, aged 3 and 6. To cut a long story short, his wife, who is...
A. 28 March 2010: No you are not a bitch you are avery confused 35 year old who is stuck between a rock and a hard place. Love in our eyes today does not mean the same a year on?
What I want to know is what it is that you want,what is feelings for ever I can reme... (read in full...)
Do boys never make passes at girls wearing glasses?
Q. What do guys think of girls who wear glasses?I wear them and I seem to get a lot of attention but I was just wondering...
A. 28 March 2010: They most certainly do young lady, glasses are ever so sexy anyway. For now relax and I would be happier if you focused on your education. Affairs of the heart are awaiting you as we speak, around the next corner?
Plenty of more importan... (read in full...)
I'm having a sexual relationship with my housemate, and things are getting confusing. What should I do now?
Q. Several months ago, I started having a sexual relationship with one of my housemates. To make matters more complicated, he was my first. Since then, we have continued to have a secret (from our other housemate) affair. Several times we have ...
A. 28 March 2010: I apologise unreservedly for the male gender of this speces. We really are a bunch of prize arseholes in the main, a skill we have homed to perfection over a 1000+ years.
This boy would get into the top 10 with no effort. Make a huge scene in... (read in full...)
Why does my girlfriend keep using dating sites, when we are supposed to be serious about each other?
Q. Ugh! I'm sick and tired of trying to deal with problems. I cannot begin to tell you the feeling I have of possibly knowing that I could be sharing my girlfriend... Why say that? Because I found out that whilst I was away in HK she had gone back to...
A. 28 March 2010: Been here and my wife left me in the end and we had been together for 30 years. My son hacked into her account and your examples could have been my wifes.
All sorts of crap about us as well talking to them as if they were great friends like you... (read in full...)
I messed up a great relationship. How can I get her back?
Q. I am the biggest idiot on this planet I have messed up a great reletionship not once but twice and lost the person I love. She is kind generous sexy and very good looking the reason I've lost her is totally my fault. I have issues from past ...
A. 27 March 2010: She is better off with out you. Leave her alone and let her get on with her life. Why would she want you back anyway?
Find someone new.... (read in full...)
Do I continue to pursue my sister in law after my wife's passing away?
Q. Have known my sister in-law for 15 years, during the time of my wife's illness and passing I and the sister in-law where together and made all the decisions together during this time. Now 4 Months after my wife's passing my sister in-law stops by ...
A. 27 March 2010: Hi 20,000 dollar question here.
What do you realy feel. Is it just the fact that you were pushed together? Are you seeking someone to empathise with you.
Does she and your b-i-law deserve you to act like this/ I think you ust leave well a... (read in full...)
My wife wants to have sex with a black man
Q. I am an average size guy and my wife is large down below after having our child and since I have noticed that she has become frustrated as I am not satisfying her, We have toys and have fun but she has asked if she could sleep with a black man to t...
A. 27 March 2010: You are not the only one 'married lady' whatever the colour it is the thought of being OK about it?... (read in full...)
I found out my dad cheated on my mom in the past!!!
Q. My dad travels internationally for business and I think it would be safe to say he's been gone for probably about half of my life on business trips. He usually goes on trips no longer than a month, but he has been in Chile for 3 months and went ...
A. 27 March 2010: No one is having a go at you? What has happened is part of the pattern of life. No one said we had to like it. Consider, whta your reaction might have been if Mom was the culprit!
You must try not to take sides as in the long term you will des... (read in full...)
My fiance wants to end our relationship, should I hang in there?
Q. my fiance has just been disnosed with depression and now he says he wants to finish,but cant give me a reason,should i just except it or hang in there? ...
A. 27 March 2010: You must decide what you want to do. You seem to me to be underwhelmed by his condition and if you have considered spliting up the relationship may not be enough or robust to work out?... (read in full...)
Should I stay celibate until I meet someone worthy enough to be in a serious relationship/marry?
Q. I'm single now. My ex and I broke up because of his retroactive jealousy, he was starting to treat me like I was, literally, a bitch, sometimes I felt like he saw me like an animal and not a person. He was so cruel and mean. Funny enough, ...
A. 27 March 2010: Miss you are a bit to honest and thoughtful for your own good. Such deep thinking and concerns about life and love. You need not tell any b/f's what you have or havenoy done it is npt there business until you wish to tell them?
You are not a wh... (read in full...)
I really do feel that my heart is breaking in two...
Q. Can anyone offer any advice on my situation, my heart is breaking. I have been with my husband since we were 16, we are now in our fortys. Things havent been easy for us, there have been troubles along the way but we managed to ride the storms a...
A. 27 March 2010: Poor you I empathise with what id happening to you. I agree with the first reply in principle.
A time will come when you must move on, you cannot continue to live like this as it is so clear to me how this is hurting you and destroying the rela... (read in full...)
Once bitten, ..twice shy!
Q. Please hear me out... In February of this year, shortly (about 2 weeks) after meeting this really nice, awesome guy at work, I asked him out, he seemed taken aback, politely said he had other plans, and that was that. We continued our flirty b...
A. 27 March 2010: I do not want to kiick your arse cus I bet you have a very cute derrier? What a refrshing young lady you must be to meet, I find your appraoch so exciting - this guy must be a bit of a prat if he cannoy take you up on your offers?
Move on and s... (read in full...)
All my friends have boyfriends, but not me. I feel so worthless!
Q. I just never really liked a guy like him and we are best friends so I told him I like him he said he doesn't like me only as a friend. He said he likes my friend. I just feel not good enongh for anyone. All my friends have a bf but not me. Guys ...
A. 27 March 2010: Miss
Take a look in the mirror= Gosh who is that attracive girl looking back? It is you, you are attractive, sexy and intelligent-no arguement there.
Take time out to do other things - your time will come when you are good and ready. Then you... (read in full...)
I've been offered to appear in an adult film. Any advice as to what goes on behind the scenes?
Q. I have been with my partner for 8 years and we have a solid relationship, in the past we have had threesomes with single men/woman and couples, it's never been something we do all of the time, just on the odd occasion, I have recently been offered ...
A. 27 March 2010: Dear Vicky
I am not sure about your assumption that you enjoy a good relationship? The way you as a couple carry on will cause you to self destruct eventually. By all means earn your holiday, it may be your last?
Ask an expert and they ... (read in full...)
What would my kids say if they knew I got involved with their Uncle?
Q. I need help. I am the mother of three children, all grown up. My husband died unexpectedly when I was pregnant with the last one, nineteen years ago. Although I had my share of relationships over the years, none was good enough to make me settle d...
A. 27 March 2010: On another note are you musical ? ... (read in full...)
I found out my dad cheated on my mom in the past!!!
Q. My dad travels internationally for business and I think it would be safe to say he's been gone for probably about half of my life on business trips. He usually goes on trips no longer than a month, but he has been in Chile for 3 months and went ...
A. 23 March 2010: Hold up there young lady 16 going on 26? You ahve just encountered one of lifes hard facts and others will reveal themselves when you least expect or want it.
You must for now focus on yourself and please give Mum and Dad space. Trust males th... (read in full...)
What would my kids say if they knew I got involved with their Uncle?
Q. I need help. I am the mother of three children, all grown up. My husband died unexpectedly when I was pregnant with the last one, nineteen years ago. Although I had my share of relationships over the years, none was good enough to make me settle d...
A. 21 March 2010: I can't see why any upset that they may first have will not be overcome within a short time?
At first and foe a couple of months why say anything? Lets us just see how it develops, as who can say that it will go much futher.
That said the... (read in full...)
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