It's a solid marriage but I miss sex
Q. Can a marriage survive without sex? My husband and me are totally not sexual anymore.. I feel,my sexuality is dead. He is impotent , not medical. He is healthy,was checked out.. And never looks at me as a man,looks at a woman. But he says he loves ...
A. 18 April 2010: If you want sex then No! it is going to get worse. You want sex as otherwise you would not have asked the question.
Why does he not want sex - you Madam are in your prime and its a fairly natural thing. Do not dismiss counselling or anything... (read in full...)
Is being a martyr to the man you love worth it?
Q. I am in a very complicated situation of a relationship...we already have one baby and he is being responsible with him.But we are not leaving in same house he just paying where the place i stay.He never said he loves me but he just say he likes ...
A. 16 April 2010: No! Because when this man is good and ready he will just leave you anyway? Worst still you are unhappy and that will be picked up by your child?
His commitment is half-hearted, mind could this be put down to a cultural issue?... (read in full...)
How can we get past his emotional affair?
Q. Hi, I really need some advice. A few months ago, I found out the man in my life had been having an emotional (non sexual) affair with a friend of his that he's had for the past decade. This girl is absolutely besotted with him and he was giving h...
A. 14 April 2010: Well he would hardly say'Yes we have had sex in every position and she is hotter than you@ would he? You are correct for you two to continue she has to go! You must tell him again that this you and you cannot out up with him sharing his affe... (read in full...)
Confused about my feelings for my bi friend.
Q. Okay, so. Erm, this is hard for me to explain. I don't really know where I'm at right now, I'm kinda confused. So I have this friend. About a year or two ago, she came out to me as bisexual. I've always been very open-minded and an avid supporter of ...
A. 13 April 2010: I am a little confused and you are the cause. You are batting on about the behaviour issues and yet allow yourself to be used. If you want to try the scene then do so but you must let your frined get on with her life, more so as she is a fe... (read in full...)
Emotional cheating with the tourists.
Q. My gf is a tour guide and meets a lot of male tourists. She keeps in contact with them after they go back to their countries - using MSN etc. The problem is that it makes me feel uncomfortable for her to be sending photos of herself to them and ...
A. 13 April 2010: You have put a little more light on the issue. Again with due respect the relationship is young. There is no fromal commitment. I assume that you are getting what you want from it, it is much too early to expect behavioural change? Unless yo... (read in full...)
How can he want to reconcile with me, then hook up with another girl?
Q. THIS IS LONG-ISH SO TO THOSE OF YOU THAT TAKE THE TIME TO READ THIS I REALLY APPRECIATE IT, THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART!!!!! Grr okay guys this is kind of an angry post, so I'm sorry to send bad vibes your way *insert sad face here* u...
A. 12 April 2010: BH
Hello, why is he in touch, because he thinks that you will take him back and he can get his leg over with you.
Tell him once and for al to F--- Off I think you are there free of him almost. Please do not agonise over what does he mean thi... (read in full...)
Emotional cheating with the tourists.
Q. My gf is a tour guide and meets a lot of male tourists. She keeps in contact with them after they go back to their countries - using MSN etc. The problem is that it makes me feel uncomfortable for her to be sending photos of herself to them and ...
A. 12 April 2010: Get off her case. You do not own her and it seems as if you think you do.
I would be very grateful that tourists find her attractive in the first place.
You need to lose your attitude or you will lose her. G/f's do not imply ownership. When ... (read in full...)
I find women attractive and had dream about my teacher, does it mean anything?
Q. So I'm a female, I'm straight, and I could never imagine myself having sex with another woman. But I do find some women attractive, such as their personalities, the way they carry themselves, the way a woman's body is shaped, etc etc. Anyways,...
A. 12 April 2010: It is perfectly normal and nothing to worry about. You are still very young - though I know you will not agree-but you are still on a journey to discover your sexual identity and desires.
I am sure you have a great ass yourself, there is nothing ... (read in full...)
World of warcraft is ruining my marriage!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 14 years this year. It mostly feels to me that we do nothing but argue most of the time, and over the past few years I have lost all respect for him. We have a 9 year old daughter, and I've decided in the p...
A. 11 April 2010: No I do not think so as I think you have made your mind up and seem logical and calm, If it feels right do it, even if he makes some consessions it would be temporary?
You have been through enough time to wave him goodbye - make him leave! ... (read in full...)
How do we sort this out?
Q. Hi! What do you do if you and your boyfriend have just had a really big argument and it's the worst youve ever had.? It's been a day and we still can't seem to come to terms with our differences and usually we do. Do i leave it for a day or two...
A. 11 April 2010: Just try to leave it for a couple more days! It will all sort itself. Make some plans and go out with friends 'sod him?'... (read in full...)
Him taking cialis is killing my confidence.
Q. My boyfriend recently started taking Cialis, and I have no idea why. He gets erections fine and is only 33 years old. We have been together for a while, and he's never had problems getting or maintaining erections. I have always been a very open ...
A. 11 April 2010: His confidence is gone some how or other that is what you need to get to the botom off. Is he having sex with someone else as it is a sea change from 5 to 1, besides at your respected ages you should be at it often, if my memory serves me ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend cheating on me? I feel I'm just really paranoid.
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for over 2 years now, Everything has been great, we have done everything together but lately (the past few month) thing's have changed and i am not sure if i am really paranoid or she really is cheating...
A. 11 April 2010: I think you have every cause to be concerned and at the risk of annoying all the ladies you are probably correct - she may well be having a n affair?
Why does she continue to act in this way if it clearly hurts you. Have it out with her one more... (read in full...)
He still lives with his parents -- should I wait for him to grow up?
Q. I am 29 and have two kids both boys. I am seeing a guy who is 23 and still lives with his mom and dad. We want to be together but his family doesn't want us to be. He says he has to obey his parents. Which if he was a child I would understand but he ...
A. 11 April 2010: I would look for somwone else -for all you know he says this because he feels that you are to greater commitment. Males at 23 are still very immature in the main!... (read in full...)
First date nerves! How can I control this?
Q. ok so here it goes. im 20 years old and i have just started seeing this guy. this is the first time ive dated. ive never even kissed anyone before. but anyways, this entire week ive been sick to my stomach. i even threw up this morning. every time i ...
A. 9 April 2010: Calm down as Michael Winner says! Be yourself and act as normal, why do you think he may not be nervous himself. You do not have to kiss him or even touch him or let him do anything to you? If you enjoy his company all you need to is tell him y... (read in full...)
Is there any future between a muslim girl and a non muslim man?
Q. i'm a chinese non religious man and i'm in love with this muslim pakistani girl. shes also one of my best friends, i've told her that i liked her and she said lets be friends at the moment and i said okay, although i know she likes me too. the pr...
A. 9 April 2010: This is 2010 young man cultures are and actions are changing every day and it is up to you to make things happen. ... (read in full...)
2.5 years and married life needs a little spicing up! What can I do?
Q. hi am married for two and half years now and happy with my married life but it has become a little boring. my husband gets back home late because of his work and is so tired that hardly has time or energy to spend good time with me and if he finds ...
A. 8 April 2010: I think the boot may be on the other foot? What is he not doing for you? You must discuss this as it is destructive if allowed to continue.
The change must involve both of you, gently tease out of him if there are other issues?... (read in full...)
Am I misinterpreting her body language or is she interested?
Q. Hi Theres a woman I have known for 3 years now. We became great friends and she shares every little thing thats happenning in her world with me. She has been divorced for 8 years now and is very mistrusting of men.We also have a lot in common in...
A. 8 April 2010: Lord help us. Women to me often do not know what they want. I can understand your confusion. Stop going out with her and tell her why and then see what her response is? Presently you are going nowhere fast?... (read in full...)
Will my husband know if I'm not a virgin?
Q. i am in relationship with a man last two years, now im going to marry other person, if leave my first relationship before 6 months of my marriage, will my husband know my virginity?...
A. 8 April 2010: This all seems a mess to me and is doomed!... (read in full...)
Marriage is a mess! Can anything be salvaged from it?
Q. I stumbled across this site through Google, and basically just need someone to listen. 11 years ago, my wife and I got married (second time for me, first for her). At that time, she was a little overweight, but sexy with it. Fast forward to 2009:...
A. 8 April 2010: I think it is time to get out. You do seem to be low on the list for consultation. That is a lot of money going out for nothing? Cut and run? Better still start going out and meeting females and then go when you are good and ready?... (read in full...)
Its the age old problem, does my female friend want to be more?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm new on here and would greatly appreciate any advice on the situation I'm in. It might be a lengthy post, but I want to provide as much detial as possible, so I apologise in advance. It's the age old scenario of 'does a female f...
A. 8 April 2010: Not easy my friend because as most of us males know when a female says -Yes it means No - and vice versa! I fear you may be reading to much into this and the risk may be you will lose a good friend. That said of course if and when she meets s... (read in full...)
Should I just settle for being loved even though the romance and sex has died?
Q. My husband and I have been together for 16 years. Initially we had a very healthy sex life. Over the last five years it has been reduced to almost nothing. Now I have spied on his computer and he is looking at transgender porn sites. I know that ...
A. 8 April 2010: Your husband is a selfish pig and probably is busy masterbating or seeing someone else. You Madame are a relative young women in the scheme of things these days.
It often follows that as you are noe almost free of pregnancy issues you want sex... (read in full...)
Boyfriend gives more love and attention to the dog than to me!
Q. My BF of 12 yrs and I have not had sex for about 2 years. We have been in/out of counseling and are currently seeing a new counselor for one last chance to salvage our relationship. I am 57, divorcedX2, and he is 63, divorcedX3. I am aware of an...
A. 8 April 2010: Bloody dog! get a grip woman and seek what you want from life. It may come as a shock to you but loose a couple of pounds, freshen up your wardrope, get your changed.
Focus on what you want and sod him. He is a selfish pig and I bet he looks al... (read in full...)
How can I enjoy oral sex when he is pulling faces?
Q. I can't trust my boyfriend with oral sex anymore. He went down on me a few times in the beginning of our relationship, and I enjoyed it. However, some of the first times he did it, he made a face like he really hated the taste. Another time, he...
A. 8 April 2010: Time to move on Miss. He just has not got a clue he is a complete 'smuck'. There is nothing more natural than what you were doing, it is so long since I did anything like that?
Speak up for yourself you are his equal if not superior, as most wom... (read in full...)
How can I tell if I'm just a time filler?
Q. i've been in a relationship for a long time with my boyfriend. it still feels one sided even though i've expressed that i want to see him more. i only see him 3 times a week. how can i tell if i am just a time filler? ...
A. 8 April 2010: It is time for you to decide what you want from this relationship. Who gives a hoot what he wants - do you want to live with him, what do you want?
Write it down and tell him, but, in so doing, be prepared, you may hear the opposite to what you... (read in full...)
Insecure about having sex
Q. I am a 21 year old virgin guy with 3.5 inch penis. I'm really worried about my sexual life about my penis size. please help. Am I normal? Can I increase the size?...
A. 8 April 2010: Sorry you are perfectly normal? Worry not your time will come, there are no ways of making it longer! That is a fact?... (read in full...)
Is there any way things can work out or anything I can do to make our parents realise how happy we are together?
Q. I've been in a relationship for the past 2 months and we've suffered many downs, some of which have tested our paitence really far. But we got through it. He is an amazing guy and VERY supportive regardless of his family life he has still managed to ...
A. 7 April 2010: I fear you must believe them as why should they or why would they lie. You do not say how old this guy is but I feel he may not be worth the effort.
He needs to sort his own life out first and maybe cannnot deal with anyone else until then?
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What gift shall I get for my girlfriend to show her I have thought about her while she was away?
Q. I want to get her a gift for when she's back from her holidays, to show her I thought about her so much because it's the case. It doesn't have to be something big since I have a small budget. I was thinking about chocolates but she told me she stil...
A. 7 April 2010: Flowers or better still a potted plant!... (read in full...)
In love with my best friend and I don't know what to do! Help!
Q. I think I'm in love with my best friend. This is probably gonna be a long one so please read all of it and give me the best advice you can. I really appreciate it. We'll call her Carl. I've known her for going on 14 years now. Two years ago I ...
A. 7 April 2010: You are both still finding out about life so I am not sure that there is anything sexual in this you are merely best friends. It is not unusual to feel love and affection for best friends, but I am sure how far it goes beyond that.
At this sta... (read in full...)
Is it fair to ask my handyman boyfriend to paint for free?
Q. My boyfiend of 5 years is a handy man on the side I have asked him to paint my kitchen and he said he would give me an estimate Is it unfair to ask him to do it for free or what is a reasonable labor cost? I dont mind paying but.... ...
A. 7 April 2010: I would not want to go out with you you are only worried about your kitchen. Hardly romantic are you, what is the ceiling like in the bedroom does that need a coat?
Let us hope he does not see this otherwise he will not be back?... (read in full...)
I was really mean and now she's gone...
Q. I have been going out with my girlfriend now for 9 months and in that time I have been mean to her on occasions in front of her friends which I deeply regret she now tells me she wants a break which we have done for 2 weeks now she just wants to ...
A. 7 April 2010: Afraid it is all a bit to late my friend. At your age clearly you have trouble acting maturly. She is well shot of you and you need to take time out and just work out where your going, most importantly why you act like an 18 year old at times?... (read in full...)
Will he still chase after me after I sent him a text saying "Delete my numnber"?
Q. I met a guy I really like, was seeing him intensively for about a month, but then I went away for a month to Thailand. When I returned I saw him once and then he didn't speak to me again for three weeks. I was upset as we were becoming quite close ...
A. 7 April 2010: I think you need to sort yourself out first. You are confused to say the least and why Oh why have you got to move someone in after a month or less? How insecure are you? Go to your GP and ask to see a counsellor, it is your actions that concern ... (read in full...)
I want to end my marriage without trying as I don't love my husband
Q. I am 28 yrs married for 1 1/2 yr to a man I knew 2 yrs younger to me.We met 5 times and agreed on marriage.After marriage it took us 1 yr to ve a physical relationship as he was not trying enough, as my work hrs were long, as he never tried to relax ...
A. 7 April 2010: Well I agree with your last line! Trouble for me is I think that is the Indian flag, however, it is very dificult to give advise as between us and you are vast cultural and ethical divides. In the west you would have walked away but it seems you ... (read in full...)
Ready to lose virginity at 13, everyone else has!
Q. MOD NOTE: Age posted is not right, poster says they are 13, NOT 19) hi. im greenpink, im 13 years old (i'll be 14 in may) and i think that i am ready to loose my virginty. we just offically met a few days ago (through mutual friends) but i have bee...
A. 7 April 2010: No having sex with him is a bad idea and I should know many of my friends describe me as an 'old woman'. To do this is a huge emotional step it is not an every day happening - you cannot reverse the process. You are not bad you are normal and i... (read in full...)
My mental health is declining and I can't seem to have a good relationship with my 12 year old daughter
Q. Dear Readers, Hello again and thank-you for your past advice. It has been a while, but I find that I am back here again despite my daughter seeing a Child Psychologist, myself seeing one and also going to Family Therapy all to no avail. If anythi...
A. 6 April 2010: Well you seem to be trying to please everyone else and neglexting yourself. Your daughter is also going through the highest emtional development period of her life and her behaviour does not sound so starnge to me. Many of them are like that from ... (read in full...)
How do I make him feel good when he can't get it up?
Q. I am 25 years old, pretty darn sexy (if I do say so myself ;D) and just recently found myself with a friend with benefits three years younger than me... Great, right? Yeah, only... he couldn't get it up. He'd been drinking the night before and...
A. 5 April 2010: Do not forget how modest you are Ms?
Nothing to worry about just keep doing what you are doing! ... (read in full...)
He's too scared to tell her no!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year, he has a child who is one year old. I have accepted this and accepted the fact that he will be seeing his son. However I cannot accept the fact that whenever his ex rings up at the last minute demanding ...
A. 5 April 2010: So he tells you about his ex. As said this is the price you will pay fro many years to come even if you have a child with him?
Why is it only now you have realised the issues?... (read in full...)
How can I show him how much it hurt me?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for many years. The thing is we've had an argument because of something he did which he promised me he wouldn't do. Theres a reason I don't want him to do it. He promised me over and over. I now don't know what to ...
A. 5 April 2010: It is more about what he did and unless you are prepared to say what that was, it is very difficult to comment. What might be a crisis to you may mean very little to us? ... (read in full...)
How can I shut myself off to other people and still have a productive life?
Q. I'm in college, and I've probably had depression, social anxiety, and aspergers for most of my life. I want to know how to live alone without wasting time feeling bad. What methods do you use when you don't have or want contact with anyone? How can ...
A. 4 April 2010: See someone at college that can provide you with some help over this? It has happened before you are not the frst nor will you bete last?... (read in full...)
I'm Christian but I want to have sex.
Q. Hi. I'm 17 years old and im horny a lot. I masturbate once a day right before i go to bed. sometimes twice a day. I have never kissed a girl, gone out with a girl or had sex. :(...I am a Christian so i want to keep my purity until marriage but i ...
A. 4 April 2010: You need to find someone who wants to have sex with you first methinks?
I am a bit concerned abot these God botherers on here - you must what feels right, with whom and when?
Being a Christian has nothing to do with your urges it is normal?... (read in full...)
How do I get her to love me again?
Q. Ok where should i start !!! My girlfriend and i have been together for almost 5 years. She moved in with me after we dated for 1 year. In the last 5 years we have been threw it all... I have cheated on her both emotionally and physical, and even tho ...
A. 4 April 2010: Earn that respect - tell her each day how much you love her, make time for the two of you. Find out what she really likes, do new things picnics parks things that the three of you can do. Compliment on her looks watch and learn what sex she ... (read in full...)
How can I change my promiscuous ways?
Q. 3 April 2010: I feel like such a slut. I am only 16, 17 in 2 weeks and I have slept with 14 boys over 2 years I think. I dont know why I do, I just watnt to feel wanted. I get used and it hurts me like mad and i get really really down because I ...
A. 3 April 2010: Miss you are not a s--- by any means and never will be you are merely pushing out your boundaries and exploring what this part of life is all about. It is perfectly normal I am afraid.
You must take care and if you continue like this the time may... (read in full...)
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