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*ack2121
writes:My wife is having an affair with an older man at work. She started this relationship around 10 months ago. She told me about it 1 month ago. They never had sex yet because she is 8 months preggy. we have talked about her having another man before and i have approve of it. I don't have a problem with the relationship. my question is will there be problems in the future that i don't see now?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010): jack my lad, I do have an open mind....... she has been with this married "cheap man (your words) for 10 months, she is now 8 months pregnant. i am doing the maths here and coming up with 3! lad, you take off those blinkers - whats this a fantasy - cheating wives story??
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2010): My BF of 5 years..
Our son is one and a half..
He hasnt slept with any girls yet, but he talks about my girls and what he would do to their bodies if he was able to..
He even talks about my sister.. And just last night he had phone sex with a girl im acquaintances with..
I used to get angry, i used to get mad!
But we usually got into an arguement and often im the one who is left in tears..
... My BF doesnt understand that it hurts my feelings, and never takes into consideration that he is responsible..
He thinks that im 'over-exagerating'..
So i let him do what he wants.. With the hope that he uses some common sense..
.... Sometimes its just easier to just let them do what they want, huh?
... Less pain and heartache if you accept and move on in life.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (26 March 2010):
You need to ask yourself why you would be ok with your wife and mother of your child sleeping with another man in your bed with your full approval. That is really not normal behavior in the real world. This is very dysfunctional. Some of the problems you will face are possible issues with jealousy, emotional connections being formed between them, perhaps she can end up preferring him over you. Another huge concern is how you can raise a child in a house where morality is just thrown away. Right now its just a baby but for that child to grow up seeing their parents be promiscuous teaches that child a very bad lesson in how to form real relationships. I hope you will really take a hard look at this and choose not to be involved in this.
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reader, jack2121 +, writes (26 March 2010):
jack2121 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe is carring my baby. she has never had intercourse with him. She knows that after she has the baby they can have sex, but only in my bed. these r facts you guys just have to believe me. Me and my wife r very open with eachother. she will not leave me for this older guy who has 3 kids is cheap and married. I told her if you wanted to leave me for another man go ahead i will not stop you ever. You live your life and make decisions for yourself. Oh god i'm reading my own post and i can see you guys jumping all over me. Please try to look at it with an open mind. Thanks
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (26 March 2010):
 I read your question and thought, "you're kidding, right?"
I really hope this is one of those questions from someone who's just trying to stir things up. On the off chance that it's genuine ...
Yes, unless you're utterly emasculated (or incredibly kinky), problems will be in your near and distant future. She's carrying your child (?) and you're OK with this?? Give your head a shake man!
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reader, YourDestiny11  +, writes (25 March 2010):
 Wow u have ur morals messed up. That is not okay at all. You need to put ur foot down.
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reader, Angzw +, writes (25 March 2010):
You are playing with fire buddy. What if she decides to leave you for him? Or what if she gets pregnant by him in the future if it isnt his at all? This post sounds like a hoax.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2010): I'm having trouble understanding this, you are actually ok with the affair? I don't think it can be safe to allow her to have an affair this is why people keep it a secret because of all the pain this will cause. No matter how open minded you can be there are some boundaries in a marriage and for you to openly allow for this to happen, I mean are you too having an affair? I smell trouble in your near future what if she likes him more than you, or he does not like to share her and wants her all for himself. Double think of this because the no sex for 10 months who is to know if its truth your probably already been lied too.
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reader, Brunel  +, writes (25 March 2010):
I have trouble taking this in. Of course there is going to be big problems. Whose baby is she carrying - yours? Your calmness might be a credit to you now but there will be big problems in the future?
I do not know what to say but fear you may be being used. Not knowing what or how you found - how do you know she has not had sex with him or that she plans to continue after the birth with this 'man'?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (25 March 2010):
 Why do you want to share your pregnant wife with another man? What if the other guy decides he wants your wife all to himself? Who's baby is she carrying, I mean after all the affair started 10 months ago when she wasn't pregnant?
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