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writes:Ive been with my boyfriend for many years. The thing is we've had an argument because of something he did which he promised me he wouldn't do. Theres a reason I don't want him to do it.He promised me over and over.I now don't know what to do. I want to make him pay because he upset me so so so much but I hate fighting. If I give in now though I know he'll probably do it again. How am I able to show him how much it hurt me? How can I stop this argument without giving in...I really don't want to end things but I don't want to be ignored Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBasically he had an accident a few years ago due to him being very very drunk. He was on life support and I was unsure he was ever going to make it and it was a long road to recovery. He promised me he'd never do anything so stupid again because he knew how much it had hurt me.
He went out the other night (which i dont mind. Im not one of these girls who keep there man under lock and key) got very very drunk and ended up hurting himself again. This time not so seriously luckily but I cant keep living with not knowing if he's gonna come back to me at the end of the night but I dont want to stop him from enjoying life.
I just want him to see how it hurts me but I love him so much and we have such a history, I dont want to break it off with him but I don't know what to do. I dont want him to get away with it because he'll do it again.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 April 2010):
If he broke his promise, then there is no point in continuing with this. It does't matter how much you show him you're hurt. If he was willing to break the promise in the first place, then he will do it again no matter what. You don't want to end it, but you don't want to be ignored. That's a dream, not the reality. Either you end it, or you'll be ignored. You can't have both with this man.
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reader, Brunel  +, writes (5 April 2010):
It is more about what he did and unless you are prepared to say what that was, it is very difficult to comment. What might be a crisis to you may mean very little to us?
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