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writes:Before I left for uni in September I did something horrible. I got drunk one night and hid in our airing cupboard in the bathroom. I waited for my mother to take a shower. I watched her undress and masturbated over her as she showered. I felt disgusted with myself afterwards and vowed never to do it again. Now I'm back for christmas I got drunk again and this time hid a camera in there and filmed her. I watched it back and couldn't help masturbating over it. Should I tell her what I have done, or seek help on my own without her knowing?
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reader, JL  +, writes (28 October 2008):
It is commonly accepted in the world of psycho analysis that men can have fantasies about their mothers. This comes from the more basic biological desires. You see subconsciously men strive to find mates who will be the best mother for their children. The best candidate for this position would be someone who already is a mother. And since you have an emotional connection with your mother this can seed a sexual desire. That in combination with general heterosexual male lebido and interest in the female form is the most likely cause. IN OTHER WORDS ITS PERFECTLY NATURAL. WARNING this does not mean you should take action to nurture such feelings. Go out and find a nice girl, have some fun. Don't tell your mother, things will become problematic. If you feel like you need to talk more go see a psychiatrist or sexuality therapist. This isn't as uncommon as you think. Hope everything gets better,
JL
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2008): It's not just about your mum but it's more about the female body? Dont tell your mum that would be harsh, but try to look at pictures or videos or other women on the net who have no attachments to you.Dont worry fella just distroy your tape and look for other ways of satisfying your sexual needs.Good luck!!
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reader, BadVoice +, writes (2 January 2008):
DO NOT TELL YOUR MOM!
What you need to do is this....first, destroy the tape that you made of your mom showering! Secondly, try and overcome this sexual fascination you have for your mother. If you can't get over this....then you should seek professional help.
Destroy the tape and do not tell your mom about what you have done
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): You should seek help and guidance from a professional..You mother may not be forgiving and understanding so its best you dont tell her. Good luck.
To the annon below me.. this site is to give advice to help them with their problems.. Your judgement is not required and your comment was unneccesary.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2007): oh my god youre messed up mate! thats fucking sick. get some help
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reader, steve107 +, writes (28 December 2007):
 at least you know you have a problem. so seek help. gd luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2007): I you were a lot younger (say 13 - 15) I would consider (or excuse) this to be part of you developing your sexuality but you are a lot older and this is quite an 'organised' act (drunken or otherwise). Do not tell your Mother but please recognise this is not a normal healthy response to your relationship with your Mother. It is normal to feel sexually charged but this should be towards women with whom you have a different relationship - possibly friends your own age or even thoughts towards women in magazines (porn) or on films. Your Mother is your mother. You definitely need to understand these feelings before they go further and she catches you. Talk to someone discreet and impartial - an advice charity or helpline. You must confront this. Thank you for starting with this website because it is the first step - now take the next one. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2007): I wouldn't tell her because she might find it so disturbing. That might just be too much for her to take in and then have to console you?? She is not going to be able to because she is the one who is going to need the consoling.
You do need to seek help because regardless of whether it is your mom or not, voyeurism is completely inappropriate. That is not normal behavior. And about your attraction to your mom, I mean is it worth it? Like you objectify her and masturbate and then feel really guilty. Do you want to keep feeling that?
I think what you may be going through is like a sexual "phase" where you think of sex all the time. Like have you ever masturbated in public places? Do you get aroused at just about anything and can't control your sexual urges?? Are you into physical looks alot?? Cause I read this book called 'Elementary Particles' by Michel Houellebecq and one of the main characters was very sexual and he masturbated over his mom too. And this book was partly autobiographical of the author. For you I think it would definitely be a good book because you may be able to relate alot to it.
Anyways, I guess that maybe you prioritize sex way too much and you don't care who gets in the way. What you need to do is realise that there is more to life, that people have feelings, and that you should think more with your other head.
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reader, Somethingeasy +, writes (28 December 2007):
 Dont tell her.Just go talk to a shrink.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2007): Well hunni, I think that you should definitely NOT tell your mom and also I would seek help right away to get to the bottom of it. It mightn't even be that you're attracted to her, it could be something more deep and hidden.good luck
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