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writes:Dear cupid,I recently discovered that my forty-six year old dad has been watching porn on the internet.I accidently walked in on him one time and saw briefly images of naked women on the screen.As soon as he saw me, he quickly closed the laptop lid and I pretended that I hadn't seen anything. But now, nearly every night he is spending hours on the internet downstairs.I asked him what he does spending all those hours on the internet but he says he's looking at google earth or other websites but I know he's lying.I know he's watching porn but I don't get why. He and my mum are happily married and I don't think it's fair to her.Should I be worried that he is watching porn? I'm not sureAny advise would be great, thanksxxx
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reader, Erinrulz1  +, writes (30 October 2010):
that happened to me i was randomly on my dads laptop and found porn and worse recently lesbian porn, its hard to even look at my dad and think that hes been doing that but atleast i know hes not cheating also cuz hes looking at 'how to fuck ur wife hard' dont worry about it its pretty natural i think altho we might think its wrong there can be worse
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2007): You should be worried. Internet porn starts out as about sexual release, but it often goes beyond that. Your dad may have already started "tuning out" your mom and your family. He may spend more and more time away and develop attachments to some of these women. This has happened in our family. My husband always said he was working and spent more and more time on the computer. Even though he was at home, he wasn't "here." I wish that I had known earlier so that I might have brought it all out in the open before it destroyed our marriage. My 14 year-old-daughter and 12-year-old son are devastated.
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reader, BadVoice  +, writes (24 December 2007):
Don't worry about it. I would not say anything about it to anyone. It's not cheating at all. Let's say this for example. Your mom has a headache and doesn't want sex at the moment your father wants sex...is it cheating if he goes into the bathroom and jerks off? NO! So looking at porn is not cheating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): dont worry its a man thing to look at naked woman having you know he might be looking for some things to do with your mumITS NATURAL
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (7 December 2007):
 You dont need to worry about this men watch porn whether the single or married its just one of those things so dont worry about this my dad does it and he has been married 25 years
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2007): I wouldn't worry, a lot of guys - and woman too - do it and chances are your Mom already knows about it. Just leave him to it. If your Mom has a problem with it then it's up to her to call him out on it not you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2007): I don't think you should be worried. You're mum might already know and be ok with it. Most men look at porn, I think in a way it's almost expected of them. Most women understand that, although some don't, but that's their problem. Leave your dad to his own thing, worrying about your parents is putting unecessary pressure on yourself. They're both adults, they can look after themselves.
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