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How can I give my boyfriend really good head?

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Question - (27 December 2007) 46 Answers - (Newest, 23 April 2010)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

How can I give my boyfriend really good head? I've only done it once with another guy, and need ways to figure out how to make him feel good even though I can't deep throat.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2010):

remember to get it wet and keep it wet the whole time, don't be afraid to use your spit he won't mind. NEVER use teeth. vary your speed, but when you see him getting into it go fast and don't let up. Put in the time to learn to deepthroat (if you absolutely can't use your hands to go along with your mouth), involve his balls he'll appreciate it. and always swallow!

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A female reader, squid United States +, writes (22 April 2010):

Personalty its head just don't use teeth and don't be to worried..what i did to my boyfriend was i kept my mouth on the head and only went down every once in awhile while my one hand was playing with his balls and the other was working the shaft like a hand job....it got work done only took 1 min. and 45.6 sec...yes we timed it lol

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009):

Hey, well look - you don't HAVE to deep throat in order to make that bj good. I mean, it counts, but it's not like it can't be amazing without it. Guys are visual, they want to see you, so deep throating is also just visually appealing and the thing that you can do it turns guys on. But you can live without it.

Try combining stroking, licking the head, and holding his testicles if you can't deepthroat, but you can learn it through practice, doesn't matter if you have a bad gag reflex. I've read a book called Jacks Blowjob Lessons (http://www.jacksblowjoblessons.com) that gave me really good insights and it was hilarious to read at the same time. also just type "how to give head" into google and you can find lot's of info.

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A female reader, erica22 United States +, writes (21 September 2009):

erica22 agony auntok first off if you cant deep throut! you start by gettin his penis wet completely with your spit or some kind of tastey lube then wet one of your hands too.

grab the part of his penis you cant get in your mouth and then put the head of the penis in your mouth and let you hand and your mouth do the work together

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009):

alright soo my boyfriend loves this... so i start off by grabbing it outside of the pants n he jumps n thinks its funny but it sets him in the mood and lets him know i want it n then i start to make out with him and when i do i lick his lips a little to let him know ill give him head and thenn he gets reall horny and then i go down n i rub his penis a little bit and let him move around a little n then i take my tongue n go all the way down his body n it drives him crazy n i lick from the base to the top n suck on the top n then i cup my lips n begin to suck really fast n usually he takes my head and begins to hump n it puts his dick farther in n he takes my head and makes me go really fast n when you get his dick wet play with it give him a hand job and maybe let go and push your vagina up against his dick really hard and maybe begin to thrust fast it makes him sweat(:

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2009):

Stick the balls in your mouth and hummmmm. It really gets us going

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A female reader, Jess1ca_1988 United States +, writes (7 July 2009):

well it really depends on the guy, so don't be afraid to ask bc that just shows him that u r trying to please him. My husband likes to be pleased by licking from base to tip then deep throating while playing with his balls, and on the way back up barely use teeth, not biting down just raking them across the skin gently. and it help if you can't deep throat to keep ur hand around it and follow ur mouth while gently doin a twist motion.

so hope u have lots of fun(i always do)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009):

There are different moods for giving head if its a romantic type

start by kissing different places on the body like start by kissing the lip then the neck then stomach and finally approach the penis.

start by licking to set the mood you can also go back up and kiss the body.

now start sucking and possibly hold the balls.

now you can deep throat but dont do this the whole time.

Now if you want to give the kinky kind of hookup head.

dont kiss the body like the first one.

but when giving head like this you want to get straight to the point.

so hold the end of then dick nearest to the body.

and start by sucking use your tongue while sucking.

but you can also stop in between sucking and just lick and suck random places around the penis.

use lots of spit while doing this.

then you can deep throat most likely the guy will push your head down as far as he needs if its to far just try to stick it out.

and whatever you do please dont use your teeth.

ALSO FOR BOTH OF THESE WAYS ITS ALSO GOOD TO DO THESE THINGS ON YOUR OWN LIKE BEFORE HE STARTS PUSHING YOUR HEAD DOWN TO DEEP THROAT DO IT ON YOUR OWN, LET HIM KNOW THAT YOUR IN CONTROL ASLO USE THESE GOOD TECHNIQUES AND YOULL BE FINE.

now remember.

lots of spit.

dont deep throat the whole time.

dont use teeth.

hope this helps.

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A male reader, Dhumph United States +, writes (8 June 2009):

Put your fingers in his mouth. He will show you what to do, nonverbally. Make certain that he does you first; you want reciprocity in this, just like everything else.

The nerves are in the glans penis, the dickhead. Don't worry about deep throat, it's overrated. Use your hands and your tongue.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009):

whatever you do use A LOT of tongue! Its not as much about the sucking as it is the way you use ur tongue, thats where they enjoy getting head most! If you have a tongue ring that helps! it makes the feeling better for him! plsy with the ring around the head of his Dick! He'll love that!

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A female reader, dakota94 United States +, writes (31 May 2009):

never use teeth. don't use anything cold..try not to have cold hands either. my bf was like DAMN cold! I start by kissing him gently suckin on his bottom lip.then kiss his neck. maybe nibble at his ear some too. make my way down his stomach kissing licking bitting slightly wen u get to his pelvis. kiss once or twice. I take the dick in my hands and lick from his balls up the shaft to the underside of his head. take my lips around his head sucking for a bit moving my tongue on the underside. you don't necessarily have to deepthroat. I'm not the best at it but u don't need to be amazing. a couple times with his entire shaft down your throat makes him turn. ;) cone back up to the head start to luck down the underside of the duck to his balls. lick then gently then cup them in your hands. the testicles are very sensitive so just stroke carefully while you make your way to suck some more dick.then take your hands and give him a hand job while you suck at the head. suck gently suck a little bit harder but watch for those teeth.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2009):

Hmm, How to give good head (fellatio) often varies greatly between individuals. It's the same with woman. Dependent on what they like and how they like it.

Again, it's difficult to TELL you exactly how to do it, because skill in this department usually comes with time and experience with more than one partner.

Some men prefer it slow and tender, a lot like women prefer t be treated gently. The same is how men may enjoy it faster and more intense. As I stated before it varies quite a lot.

Personally I believe in a build up. Not everyone agrees but I certainly think so. I normally start with a searing kiss, Pulling away with perhaps a suckle on his bottom lip. (The most sensitive part of his mouth)and make my way down via his neck.

Take a note that although most women go for the sides of his neck with kissing and the like, the CENTER of his neck (where his Adams apple resides) is actually noticeably more sensitive. There's a certain spot beneath the Adams apple you can press with the underside of your tongue for pleasure.

Also as your making your way southward, notice his nipples and pay keen attention to them. Suckling and grazing with the teeth is intense for him. (More so than women in some cases) So don't neglect them !

Anyway, light kisses, hard sucks, and teasing bites should suffice as you travel down the abdomen and stomach, sometimes you should dip your tongue into his belly button for a playful tease.

When you finally get to his actual penis, relax yourself. You don't want to be uncomfortable or you'll tense up making the entire act of fellatio awkward. Take a few breaths to brace yourself if necessary until your entirely at ease with him and the situation.

Once you actually the start, I can't give much advise, just a few pointers to send you in the right direction.

Alternate your actions. I.e Change from sucking to licking to tongue flicking etc after 20 or 30 seconds. Change your pace if your wanting a longer session, so change speeds when you know he's getting too excited, thought dont do it too often or he may become less enthusiastic.

Just remember that the bell, and point in which the penis and tip meet under the foreskin are extremely sensitive. As are the balls, though they'll have to be dealt with with extreme caution. Another place is the small bit of skin in between the balls and the anus. If you apply pressure to that area, you stimulate the prostate gland (The equivalent to the females G-spot) Though some men keep this area guarded so make sure your partner is completely at ease with you before even attempting this !

It's best to do this when your at a state of arousal yourself so you can enjoy doing it to him rather than doing it just to get it out of the way. (He may get slightly offended otherwise.)

Other than that, you should just do it as it comes to you. I hope this had helped somewhat. 3

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A female reader, prenezmoila United States +, writes (29 December 2008):

prenezmoila agony auntThe key factors to giving really great head are reading your partner and doing it out of your own personal enjoyment along with his. If he's asking you for it and you aren't enthusiastic, he's not going to enjoy it nearly as much.

While techniques are mostly the same, different guys like different styles. Having a variety of moves to bring out is a good plan; being able to switch it up and pull out something he's never felt before will make it a memorable experience for him.

A note to the receiver: A girl's favourite thing to hear after giving her man head is how good of a job she did. If she's not doing good enough work to warrant this, whenever she's down there again, just point out when you really like something. Don't say, "No, don't do that," say, "Oh, that feels amazing!"

Another important part of general sexuality in couples, and this is especially important when the girl is being pleasured, is being comfortable. Until a couple is entirely comfortable with each other, sexual experiences will not reach their peak. If you are capable of joking around before, during, and/or after sex, you are pretty comfortable with each other.

On that note, keep enjoying. :]

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2008):

My boyfriend just loves to get head, but our realtionship isn't based on it nor is it based on sex. If you do head to often it just becomes a regulat thing and it's not as pleasurable for the guy, to give good head is essential every guy is different. Most guys perfer the licking under the head on the bottom side of the peins, work into it slow don't jam it into your mouth like you eating something, lick it make him aroused lick the time, cup his balls deep throat for like 30 seconds get him going, don't deep throat the whole time. and NEVER use teeth!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008):

If you can't do it good, don't do it very long. Maybe a few minutes, build the skills up a little at a time, like foreplay or whatever, then skip to the main event. Even bad sex is better than bad head.

Ever screw around in a dressing room, the beach, the locker room at the gym, a tennis court, deserted playground, the woods, a park, a mall parking lot, a church parking lot, your back yard, your neighbor's back yard, your friend's kitchen table while he/she was in the bathroom, etc. etc.? I have, and if your mind isn't in it, its all gonna suck.

It's the same idea. If it turns you on, you'll just naturally be good at it. If you want to do it, but it doesn't do much for you, you can get good at it. If you just have an all around bad attitude towards it, you'll always suck at it. Actually, you'll be sucking all day, thanks for the effort, but I could just rub one out quick and be done with it.

For however long you do it, that guy is the king of kings, a god among men, boss playa or whatever, and the only thing you want is for him to blow a load in your mouth with the force of a fucking fire hose in Watts. There is a dirty slut in all of us, you gotta let that shine when you do this. Just don't actually BE a slut (I don't need diseases or drama, get the f**k outta my house).

Just my $0.02

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2008):

eh, there's no black and white answer here. honestly, you'll have to figure it out with each guy you go down on, because your typical routine with your boyfriend now will be different with someone else. but first you've gotta get something unique about your head that'll make him want more every time. =]

first, you've actually got to go into it wanting to give your guy head. nothing, nothing, nothing is worse than sucking him off with the intention to get out as fast as you can. he can tell when you're not into it and i can assure that will piss them off or just make it uncomfortable.

so, get into a chipper mood. now all you have to do is the actually dick sucking part. really, just work into it, bobbing and everything. use your tongue on his head a lot, but move it around too. if you can deepthroat, GO FOR IT, my boys love that. don't do it the whole time...but try it. if you choke, stop. convulsions will only tap more into that 'ouch i don't wanna do this' thing that you might set off; guys don't want to have proof that a blowjob is hard work – though it's not called a job for nothing. anyways, mess around a bit. be creative. stimulate the balls some, even though a lot of people dislike messing with them. balls are very sensitive, like the head. maybe switch up positions if you're already in the middle of fucking or something, but if it's your first or you're just getting used to it i'd stick with the whole on-your-knees thing.

basically, get it as wet as you can and go to town until he cums. personally, i like the taste of cum, so naturally i swallow all the time...if you dislike it, you'd better either warn your guy that you spit (he won't like that unless he has a lot of compassion for you), or you'd better take it like a man. don't pass it to him; he might not even wanna kiss you after you swallow his load. or even better, let him cum on you. it's hot and if you rub it in it's just like lotion. just not near your cooch cause you might accidentally get preggo. but i'm sure if you're doing all of this you're a responsible, birth-controlling girl. =]

and hey, you can always practice on your fingers or a dildo or some shit.

happy sucking! =]

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2008):

When you are sucking his penis, make sure you cup his balls. While doing so, play with his periniem, its the area between his ass hole and his balls. run your fingers right under his balls, it makes my man feel awesome!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008):

Face the guy meaning if he is lying on the bed, start while you are facing him and between his legs. This way your tongue will always be on the sensitive underside vein of the penis. Slowly Run your tongue along the underside of the shaft in the direction of the head of the penis. If he hasn't ejaculated by the time you reach the tip of the penis, you can take him in your mouth and suck using the tongue to message the most sensitive spot (just under the head of the penis). There is a tendency among women to speed up as the man approaches ejaculation but resist as takes away some of the pleasure

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2008):

I think that the most important thing for me personally, is that the girl brings enthusiasm to the table and actually enjoys herself.

There's this good post here http://howtogivegoodhead.wordpress.com/2008/11/27/how-to-give-good-head-enjoy-yourself/

that explains it pretty good.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008):

Ok.. as a guy.. girls, dont listen to the girls. No kissing no slowly teasing him.. .rab his dick and start sucking.. some girls said here to do a hand job whiel sucking .. yes.. that is the technique that works!! NO TEETH, to little bites, no scraping of the teeth.. NO. No ice either.. and NO anything except your lips tongue and mouth..no food no candles .. we dont want romance.. we want our dick sucked! One other guy said it right.... do it consistently.. so we can concentrate on the feeling and the faster we cum .. the quicker you finish and your mouth doesnt get numb. So to summarize:

1. No TEASING - you want to tease .. were a short skirt.

2. No TEETH - no pain... means more pleasure

3. No Ice.. ever hear of shrinkage?

4. sucking and hand job at the same time - double the pleasure

5. Just get to it! - No slow moves no love kisses on the shaft or head of the dic.. JUST SUCK IT!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2008):

okay this is how i give good head my bf loves my head giving skill... i cup the balls(be gentle kuz guys have very sensitive testickles!... ice cream lick the penis and slobber it all up the i make a haaa sound that opens your throat so u can deep throat better! make sure to roll ur toungue around the tip of the penis it will make him go crazy!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008):

I am a man who was, to be honest with you, looking up how to make a toga on google when I stumbled across this gem...I have a girlfriend who used to give garbage head, but she was down for suggesions, and now it doesnt get much better. Lots of spit, go down as far as you can and stick your tounge in and out while doing so... cup, lick, dont forget about the balls and most importantly, act like you fucking love it

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008):

let him f*ck your face. why? becuz you'll know exactly what he likes cuz he'll teach you while he's doing it to your face. Take Notes!

how? you should have complete trust that he will not intentionally hurt you. you should be extremely aroused. lay down on your back with your head tilted against the headboard. allow him to straddle you with his dick close enough to enter your mouth. open your mouth and begin to "play" slowly. he will go slow at first bcuz he will like watching his dick slide in and out of a new hole. as you become comfortable allow him to go deeper until you can coordinate your breathing with the thrusting of dick. this will take some practice but it will keeping you from having to do all the work and you will be able to know what he likes for sure.

it helps if while laying on your back you insert a vibrator or dildo into your cunt so you can keep a high level of arousal...plus he will like to look back and see the vibrator or dildo stimulating your pussy. this helps keep his dick big and juicy for you to suck the cum right out...enjoy!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008):

ok well i like to go down on a guy and i havnt had many complaints. lick up and down his shaft teasing him letting him know what he is in for, flick the tip of your tongue across the head of his head while u cup his balls in your hands. then wrap ur lips round the head and apply a bit of pressure and slowly move ur head up and down. changing every 30 seconds or so. also while u suck give him a hand job and at the tip of his cock rotate your palm like ur squeezing a lemon or a orange applying a bit pressure and make sure he is lubricated. then gently graze ur teeth up his cock teasing his cock (men i do this all the time and i havnt had a complaint, if the girl is careful) try some these im sure he will like it. also enthusiasm like u really like so he feels like his is in his own movie and enjoy all the sensations your mouth brings to him.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008):

one thing i like as a guy is when a girl keeps a good pattern going.

i dont mean do this this and that and repeat. no.

i mean its nice when u work one technique for a few 15-20 seconds then move to another technique and so on.

i like that because if i really concentrate on the feeling being provided it can bring me right to the edge and then they switch and its a whole new feeling right to the edge and switch.

dont be to sporadic. it looks silly and kind of just feels wierd after a bit.

just like a back massage ur not gonna bombard the persons back in a different spot every other second or nothing is being accomplished work an area/technique and it will work wonders

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008):

ok.i know for a fact i give good head.i am the master.the head of the penis is where all the nerve endings are and is the most sensitive part of the penis.so what you do.... its kinda hard to explain but im trying...you want to suck with a good amount of suction and use your tongue going up and down with it as you suck.but as your doing those two things you wanna move your whole mouth up and down on his dick.speed and pressure are important.ya then you add your hand.you hold his dick and as ur giving head give him a hand job too.it speeds things up so ur mouth isnt totally numb.but if by the end it is u did a good job.ha.and as for deep throating his dick that comes in time.just do ur best.licking up and down is good too.and when you master alllll that.you can add ice cubes,hot water,and some mints.but it takes just practice and getting the stratagy down pat.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008):

well...oh gosh were to start, well start by making outbery easily then touch a little make your way Down. then start by putting your mouth on his head and lick a little Never Use teeth!!!!!!!!!! when you do that work slowley down the penis. the part they like is when you come up lightly put your tounge on the spine of the dick.. then go down faster and deep throat. they'll love it. just keep going down faster each time , you will have them moaning. when your done finish by licking it uppp...good luck(:

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008):

ask him what he likes

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008):

hi im chrissy, i don't know if i'm good at it but my husband is lovin it so i guess that answers my question. just make ur self relaxed and just put ur mouth around his penis and just move ur head back and forth and mabey just rotate around it.but a mans sensitive part is on the cap. just be relaxed and go with the flow.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008):

one word; enthusiasm.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008):

Hey, ok so a couple things....

Deepthroating - Don't do it the whole time, work it in every now and then for a couple 'bobs'. If someone gets deepthroated the whole time it isn't as pleasurable because it's just one sensation that is continual.

Now HOW TO DEEPTHROAT! Try this, when you're about to go down on him take a nice deep breath in through your mouth, that will open your throat up a bit....remember for him it's not that you get to the base that's important, it's just feeling that you are deepthroating.

What about the balls?! - I didn't notice much here about that at all...what a sensitive part of the male goods! With the balls you don't have to have them right in your mouth and in fact some guys might not like that at all. Instead just be sure there is enough saliva on your tongue and like and tickle the balls with your tongue, lips and nose. It should send chills up his spine.

I am also a believer in the slowly working your way down his body, when you get just above the the cock lift his cock with your hand and keep going with the kissing right to the base, then go around the cock to the balls while still holding his cock.

When you get to the actual blowjob part start by licking and mouthing the head before you get right into it, try to keep one hand on his balls too because that is a warm nice feeling.

One last thing...jerking and sucking at the same time gives him a similar feeling to deepthroating and it prevents you from taking it too far in.

Good luck!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008):

It depends. Some guys like to get blown softly and tender. Some like it rough and hard. Just ask them what they want. Work ur mouth like a vacuum machine with lubricant. If they like it soft, create a suction in ur mouth and go up and down the whole length of the dick, please do not use teeth or too much lips for "i like it soft" guys. For those who like it rough, do the same thing. Just create more suction. The important thing is always keeping ur mouth lubricated with saliva. Well, u can foreplay, roleplay more to get him in the mood, but just do these things, u'll make him cum without fucking u.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008):

The best way to give great head is to deep throat. If you feel like you are going to gag, you probably are. You need more practice. Practice deep throating every day for 5-10 years and you wont feel like gagging and you will finally give good head.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2008):

Dont be scared to ask him what he wants you to do to his penis. Some men find that very attractive that a woman has the balls to ask her man how he wants to be pleased. If ur shy ask him what his fantasies are, If there is anything that your not doing that he wants you to do. Pretty much everyone else has put everything out there for u, I couldn't deep throat either until I found some stuff called "good head" its from a company called slumber parties. It kills the gag reflex, n it works. They have all kinds of products. Hope that helps

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2008):

first off, like everyone else has said. . deap throught isnt the most important thing. first you want to srart off by biting h is ear and moving down to kiss his neck, this will get him turned on. . then you want to continue kissing him, working your way down his body tell you reach his dick. grab it with your hands and make sure you have plenty of saliva in your mouth (if you dont, suck on an ice cube for a minute, the cold will add a shocking, pleasureful sensation as well) you want to start by licking it slowly. suck on the tip for a little, while using your hands to rub and arouse him, this will keep your mouth from getting so tired too. if you dont like deap throught just do a lot of hand motion and licking, also he'll go crazy if you give his balls some attention. first lick them, then lick around them, finally suck on them. . it will definitly turn him on.

good luck ;]

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2008):

he gets off when i have my mouth around the tip of his penis and swirl my tongue aorund

he just loves that

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2008):

use your mouth and work it with your hand as well. If you gag or throw up keep going he'll like it, he won't say no. Just keep practicing to deep throat, you'll get it. Also try spiting the cum bak onto his dick for lube. then at the end to finish him off let him cum into your mouth and le him watch you swallow it.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2008):

ive given head to this guy a trillion times and he love it.

my trick is to lick and kiss GENTLY and SLOWLY until you reach the dick. when you get there, gently stroke it in your mouth and make sure youre mouth isnt dry and dont shove it in your throat. do deep throat, even if your trying. you might gag reallyy hard that you turn him off or throw up. but as i was saying. as you begin to perform this for a while it becomes a natural habit and he will cum in your mouth. you have a choice to swallow it or spit it. my choice is to swallow.

--drina.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2008):

i was with a guy once who went wild when i licked and tickled with my tounge his pelvis (the lines leading to his penis). But that was something I learned talking to him and experimenting. As well licking the shaft from the middle of the balls right to the tip of the penis.

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A female reader, RileySapphire United States +, writes (6 August 2008):

RileySapphire agony auntFirst of all, if you don't want to deep throat you don't have to, it is no acctually that important.

Alot of girls have an 'icky' feeling about it, but really, it's not just a guy fucking your face, it's an expression of love and trust.

Have him get comfortable and start with a slow hand job to get the blood flowing. Gradualy work in a few licks with yout tongue. Slower is better. Work your way into rubbing with your tongue and finally a steady up and down motion with your head, mimiking the pelvis and vagina. Remember to keep everything wet. Tons of saliva. some men are turned on if you spit right on their member, my partner is, but its not for everyone.

The most important thing of all is to ENJOY it. If you start to not enjoy it, just put on your aroused face. If he sees that it turns YOU on to suck on him then he will be much more aroused himself. It took me weeks to learn that the hard way.

If he doesn't cum from it, don't feel bad. most guys are very nervous of what you will think if you go down on them ( hense why you should play up your arousal) so they might be too nervous to cum. But your efforts arn't in vain, he will remember it and build trust for the next time.

Here's a handy tip: Strictly oral sex will tire you mouth out fast because as you curl your lips around your teeth (to ensure you don't nip at him) they will start to go numb.

For the most effective, long lasting session, I recommend Putting your hands one atop the other on his shaft, twisting them in opposite directions, will bringing his cock in and out of your mouth, the pressure of our hands combined with the moisture and heat of your mouth will work wonders. This method always gives my partner a good powerful cum and I'm not exausted by the end of it.

Hope I could help! Good luck!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2007):

The best thing you can do is not over think it. Take your cues from him. It'll be pretty easy to tell if he's enjoying it. My husband said the best thing is if you seem like your enjoying it also. No man wants to feel like he's forcing you. Relax and enjoy it. I take my time on my husband. I love it almost as much as he does. My husband also says don't forget the balls!!

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A female reader, daniellexxxx United Kingdom +, writes (27 December 2007):

daniellexxxx agony auntyou dont have to deap throat to make him feel good. If you dont like the taste flavoured comdoms are always good you can have a nice taste while he has the pleasure.

Start of kissing it all the way down the tease him before you suck it. Start of slow before building up the speed dont just rush in take time and it will work it always does for me xx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2007):

Since you are apparently in the 18 to 21 year old bracket, I'll try to offer some advice on this.

A woman stimulating a man orally to orgasm -fellatio - is one of the most intense sexual experiences a woman can give a man. And many women enjoy it to the point that they may climax as well when he does. It's been done since time immemorial, and perfected in many cultures as an art, notably in Asia.

Yet not all men or women either choose to bother with it, for one reason or another, or may think it is dirty or nasty.

In my opinion, both the man and woman should be nicely scrubbed clean before any sexual activity. With proper hygiene, good health and of course, no sexually transmitted disease, my experiences have been to "go for it."

There is nothing harmful in a healthy man's semen, or dirty about his penis if freshly bathed.

In my opinion, fellatio is best as the very last thing to complete an evening's sexual activities, preceded by all the enjoyble foreplay, vaginal penetration, oral stimulation by the man on the woman (cunnilingus), and whatever else the couple enjoys.

Not all men can withstand thirty minutes or an hour of these activities without climax, but if he can, the final treat is mind blowing.

Assuming you have enjoyed all the fun leading up to this, and the female has already been thoroughly satisfied (possibly multiple times), then the lady can begin by stroking the man for awhile with her hand(s). It's more comfortable for him if the hands are moist with lubricant from her vagina, which should be abundant by now.

From here, the number of positions possible for fellation are almost limitless, but let's just assume either with man laying down, and her on top, or man standing and woman seated or kneeling. Seated is usually more comfortable for her.

The woman begins with her tongue, slowly and repeatedly licking from scrotum to tip. As he becomes more aroused and erect, then begin inserting the tip, possibly deeper at times, also licking in a circular motion around the tip. All this, hopefully, with an abundant amount of saliva from her mouth.

The inserting, licking from scrotum to tip and circular around the head can possibly be alternated for some time, depending on his degree of arousal.

The inserting should be accompanied by sucking to whatever degree is comfortable for the lady. It usually doesn't need to be intense.

A variety of addition teases may also be used, such as flicking the tip and opening with the tongue, very gently tickling the head with the teeth, sucking the scrotum or deep-throating (if possible).

Depending on his state of arousal and nearness to climax, probably most men would prefer the inserting, while sucking, to become the main or only activity.

The woman should know, or be told, or sense when the man is about to reach orgasm. At this point, in my opinion, the sucking should continue and not stop, with as deep a penetration as comfortable for the lady. The speed may also be increased, but even slow, deep ejaculations into her mouth can be extremely pleasurable.

The main thing, in my opinion, is for the lady to continue the trusting and sucking as much as possible throughout his ejaculation, swallowing as needed to allow him to release it all. If the flavor of the sperm is not favored by the lady, allowing a deeper release into the back of the mouth and swallowing will by-pass most of the taste buds. That's the reason many ladies prefer to deep-throat when he ejaculates, but many women also enjoy the flavor and consistency. She may savor the semen on her tongue for awhile before swallowing. Spitting it out is probably an anticlimax to most men.

The cream may taste quite salty, I'm told, or depending on the man's dietary intake, may otherwise taste unpleasant to some women. A less salty diet, heavy with fruit, may result in a sweeter tasting experience for the lady.

Deep-throating, if desired or preferred, is usually easier if the woman gets on her hands and knees, perhaps on a bed, and facing the man while he stands in front of her. This places her mouth and neck in a position that usually makes deeper penetration into her throat more comfortable for both.

Remember that he may be extremely sensitive after ejaculation. Very gently, clean his tip with your tongue if you wish, and cuddle up with him for a good night's sleep. That would be what I call "good head."

If a person prefers not to do any of this, then by all means, don't. But you asked . . .

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2007):

Put a couple ALTOIDS in your mouth right before you start to suck him off, that tingling sensation drives me wild, Also try sticking one of your fingers up his ass at the same time, he WILL go nuts

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A male reader, BadVoice United States +, writes (27 December 2007):

Practice, practice, practice. Use various objects to get your practice on. Popsicles, porkchop bones, lollipops, sour or dill pickles or any pickles for that matter. Use your thumbs and practice suction and lip movement as well as tongue movement. Get a adult video showing 'head'. Plus,

you must also get in tune with your lover and find out what he likes. Some men....many men do not know what they like. Just try some moves on him....relax. Enjoy yourself.

Big REGGIE

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A male reader, dc.ryan United Kingdom +, writes (27 December 2007):

dc.ryan agony auntHello,

Key to this communication, although it has hard when you have it within your mouth - but be sexy about it, tease him and ask him what he likes, what speed, how rough, how deep etc - ask him questions and get his opinion.

That is the only way you're going to be able to find out what he likes, is by asking - just tease him until he tells you, if you've done it before at least you have a starting point :)

Also get him to communicate with you while you're doing it, make him feel confident he can tell you what to do when you're doing it - and make him feel the same when hes returning the pleasure back to you!

Ryan

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