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I'm Jelly, (Though that isn't my real name, obviously.)
I'm 13 so i guess I'm one of the younger people on this site.
I don't have a boyfriend but I am in love with someone and he knows but he is in love with someone else... it's all a bit confusing.
Unfortunately, i dislike young* children as they annoy me ememsly. I have many faults including my spelling so don't hesitate to correct me.
My favorite things are fencing, all sciences (though, especially genetics) chocolate, music and books. I can read all day, and sometimes do. I have some very close friends who know me really well and a little circle of people my age who I hang out with at shcool. I am very very musical - its what keeps me going when times get tough.
I was abused when I was younger and it really mucked me up, up to the point where I was contemplating suicide. I have hurt myself quite a few times but normally just pinching and scratching myself until I bleed. I did slice at my wrists though which was not clever but it did help calm me down.
Thanks for listening, and I try to answer any questions that I think I can help with
Feel free to PM me if you want
Bye.
Jelly
xxx
*For young, read: 7 and below. My cousins cry if I walk away from them too quickly for pete's sake! |
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You did it for love! That is the best possible way, ever!
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Jelly
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A. 27 August 2008: To Dazzerg!
The public demonises smokers to save the children - to stop it being cool! The same way we demonise drug abusers etc.
Wake up, and of course it's fair. you could stop - there's plenty of help nowadays, it's just pathetic.
Jel... (read in full...)
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Jelly
xxx... (read in full...)
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A. 23 August 2008: She could quite easily get pregnant. If you don't want a baby then you can use the morning after pill, though that shouldn't be used as regular contraception. Jelly xxx... (read in full...)
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Remember, if you want to love her as a girlfriend, you have to be loyal and when you break up, you have to ... (read in full...)
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A. 22 August 2008: Smile
:)
The bad thing is that i badly have a crush on her brother...
Oh well. Sorry for all the typos - The keyboard's been playing up.
Yeah, I don't think i can do anything about it.
Thanks for responding!
Jelly
xxx... (read in full...)
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A. 21 August 2008: Love is the best thing since sliced bread in my opinion, but like sliced bread, it can go off pretty quickly if left unatended...
Jelly
xxx... (read in full...)
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