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writes:Dear Cupid...Me and my girlfriend have just started having full sex, but before we started having full sex, i used to give her oral sex and she really enjoys it.The problem with the oral sex, is that she has NEVER shaved down there, and its not just a little hair.. its ALOT. Now i dont want her to shave it totally, but just enough so i dont get hair in my mouth!She is a very sensitive girl and i have no idea how to bring this situation up in conversation and if i was to come out and say it, i know she would get offended straight away and then i'm in the dog house! please help?
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reader, haley92  +, writes (16 August 2009):
trying talking to her. ask her about wat she likes sexually and then " I think it would be really sexy if you trimmed up a little down there! i find it really sexy!" make her feel comfortable about it first and ease her into the conversation. you might want to try it yourself also! most girls like a well trimmed man!
best of luck to ya!
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reader, babewithbrains +, writes (8 September 2008):
 So... you expect her to shave but not you? How typically male of you. ;)Do it yourself first - then invite her to follow. Would say more but I have to go to dinner... See Ya,PM me - this thread is too old to keep up.Jellyxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your suggestions, i will try shaving myself, but i dont really want to look like a school boy lol.As for asking her if i should do it... it wont happen, i just cant figure out how i would word it or how to shave her if she said yes. I'll try and post and let you know how things go, thanks again for the suggestions.
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reader, Philosopher  +, writes (31 August 2008):
First I suggest you find out her reasons for not shaving.Is she worried about the horrible bristles that will occur when the hair regrows? Is she worried about getting ingrown hairs? Is she worried about the itchiness that might occur with regrowth? Is she worried about increased sensitivity? Is she worried about the risk of getting cut? Is it because that means there is another area she has to shave (more effort)?Perhaps she likes her hair? Maybe she likes the feeling? Perhaps she doesn't like the little girl look? Perhaps she thinks it's unfair that men expect women to shave armpits, legs and groin whereas they get away with only shaving their faces (and possibly their backs)? Is it because she prefers to keep her body as natural as possible?Is it part of her way of rebelling against the trend of hair removal?Perhaps she doesn't want to lose something she has been growing since puberty (it's a symbol of her sexual maturity)?Maybe she doesn't want to lose the pheromones (one possible theory) from having pubic hair? As a woman who has never shaved her pubic region, I can tell you if she hasn't changed it for ideological reasons, she is unlikely to want to change.If you don't want to get hair in your mouth, practice safe oral sex and use a dental dam!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (31 August 2008):
 In my opinion, "babewithnrains" and "Mushgirl" offered a basically good idea - trim yourself a bit and see what she thinks. Or suggest a bit of trimming as a mutual activity. On a personal note, my preference is not a "shaved" pubic area on a woman, but rather less bushy. For me, it has always been more enjoyable to give oral satisfaction if her pubes are neatly trimmed but not shaved, which soon after becomes bristly. I offer to provide the trim myself by having her stand before me with legs spread - me seated wielding a small pair of suitable trimming scissors. After trimming her nicely, it always leads to other activities.
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reader, babewithbrains +, writes (31 August 2008):
You could always buy her a bikini line thingmabobby, I'm ure i swoe Wilkinson's...
You could do it your self, with a pair of nail scissors. Make sure she showers before you attempt to brave the jungle or you might get hair in your mouth... ew ew ewww!
You could trim your pubes, and see what she makes of it, though, being on the action side of thigs, I cant see it makes that much difference...
Well, Tallyho for now and do give us an update on her reply!
Jelly
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reader, Mushgirl +, writes (31 August 2008):
 Do you trim/shave down there yourself? If not, then I guess you could say supposedly on the spur of the moment, "I know! Let's shave each other down there!"
If you already trim/shave yourself, then you could suggest that maybe if she shaved a bit, then she'd be more sensitive and it would feel even better.
But of course, if she really doesn't want to, then that's her decision and all that. But maybe she just didn't know how you'd react if she did.
Good luck and remember, if she's doing it then you must be game to try it yourself if you haven't already! xxx
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