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I'm Jelly, (Though that isn't my real name, obviously.)
I'm 13 so i guess I'm one of the younger people on this site.
I don't have a boyfriend but I am in love with someone and he knows but he is in love with someone else... it's all a bit confusing.
Unfortunately, i dislike young* children as they annoy me ememsly. I have many faults including my spelling so don't hesitate to correct me.
My favorite things are fencing, all sciences (though, especially genetics) chocolate, music and books. I can read all day, and sometimes do. I have some very close friends who know me really well and a little circle of people my age who I hang out with at shcool. I am very very musical - its what keeps me going when times get tough.
I was abused when I was younger and it really mucked me up, up to the point where I was contemplating suicide. I have hurt myself quite a few times but normally just pinching and scratching myself until I bleed. I did slice at my wrists though which was not clever but it did help calm me down.
Thanks for listening, and I try to answer any questions that I think I can help with
Feel free to PM me if you want
Bye.
Jelly
xxx
*For young, read: 7 and below. My cousins cry if I walk away from them too quickly for pete's sake! |
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