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anonymous
writes:hey guys just want an opinion on something so here goes...i always vowed that im gnna stay a virgin untill i get married and vowed that it will only be for my husband... however recently i found the perfect man... i love being around him and want to be with him all the time...a couple of weeks back we got very close to actually doing it.... however it wasnt proper... the next morning i was reaaaallly upset as i thought we did it and i reallly regreated it and started crying saying how wrong it was he reassured me that nothing happened and he didnt put it in... so i thought hmmm ok lol...then yestday we did it and the worst thing was i actually instigated it thus techniqually it was my choice... the weird thing is i dont regreat it... not at all and i was in no way hestical like the last time when ironically nothing had happened... im not sure why i dont regreat it and im not sure whether i should feel bad or not... any ideas to why this is the case.. should i feel something different... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2008): It was you who decided that virginity til marriage was a part of you. Never mind a religious teaching, never mind family, never mind the culture. Because despite all that, the bottom line is if you hadn't agreed with that opinion then you could have had sex a long time ago. Now you've changed your opinion. It's up to you to decide whether this is good or bad for you now.
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reader, Xanthas  +, writes (27 August 2008):
The only kind of sex that's wrong is sex that involves coercion or dishonesty. If neither of these things are factors, then the only considerations should be how you and your partner feel.Nobody's perfect. Sex cannot be perfect. Waiting until the "perfect" time to have sex will only lead to disappointment.Have sex when you're ready. Arbitrary and artificial constraints like "I'm only going to have sex when I'm married" are unhealthy. Don't delay anything in life because of what societal norms dictate you should do. Once you're ready to have sex, have a caring partner, understand the risks associated with sex, and have taken steps to mitigate those risks (protection/birth control/both of you've been tested for STD's), enjoy yourself and your partner to the fullest, and never look back.
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reader, babewithbrains +, writes (27 August 2008):
 Hey there,
You did it for love! That is the best possible way, ever!
You shouldn't regret it at all. Now all you have to do is get married and have 1.8 kids.
Jelly
xxx
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