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writes:I just found out that my boyfriend has another girl...... he told me this right after I told him I am 2 months pregnant. I really don't know what to do. We were "high school sweet hearts" and now that I found out im pregnant, with his baby makes things 10 times worse. I don't want him in my life anymore. I want him out. I'm so disgusted in him, I thought he loved me. But I was just some toy for him, he made it clear that he wanted me to move out so that the other girl he met at a bar 3 months ago could move in. I truely do love him, but he broke my heart. I just don't know what to do now. I feel like moveing in to a diffrent a state and starting all over again..... I want to run away from all this pain and hurt. He said he wanted to marry me that I was "the one".... I'm not "the one" I'm "the second one".He even took the ring he bought for me, and he gave it to the other girl. That really hurt a-lot. I'm lost, I don't know what to do. My family told me that if I was with him I wasen't part of the family. I was willing to give up my family for this guy I thought loved me! But it was all fake. How can I confront my family with this, there just going to tell me how right they were about my boyfriend seeming a jerk, how I just of liten'ed to them when I had the chance. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2008): tell that waste of space to piss off outa ya life, you need a true man who will treat you right...theres plenty out there darling, lifes too short..live your life and forget about tossers like him..
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reader, Nat7777  +, writes (10 September 2008):
Omg, your story is heartbreaking! stay right where you are, that guy disgusts me completely, he loves himself more than anything. You sound like you gave alot of love and you didnt receive much in return, your baby and the support of your family and friends will show you that love truely does exist. My sister had exactly the same situation and now her boy is ten and her new partner loves him as his own(a true man!). Dont give up, you sound like a lovely girl and your baby will be lucky to have you as their mother!Good luck sweetheart X
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reader, cthulhuhugs +, writes (1 September 2008):
 Grab some self-respect and hold on tight. Then get yourself out of there. I know it hurts now, but can you imagine the pain you'd not only put yourself but your baby through if you ended up saying with that guy? Get indignant. It's much more productive than sadness. You deserve a better and so does your little one. You CAN raise this child on your own. Tell your family that they were right, that you're sorry and that you want to rebuild a relationship with them before you have your child. Than remember in the future that men come and go, but your family is forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys, your advise was so much help!
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reader, babewithbrains +, writes (31 August 2008):
 You could opt out, if your Ok with that sort of thing, and wait until you are rady and out of school/ with a job before you have children. He is such a jerk, does he desserve to have you put through this? You have to tell your parents- they will still love you. No matter what, that's what tey'll do. They will help you and support yo while you make your decisions, but ake sure you make YOUR decisions - not a biased opinion from a friend.Jellyxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2008): Well he obviously doesn't love you the way you thought. Leave him as he requested. Tell your family that the two of your broke up - end of story. They don't need to know the details and if they ask you just don't tell, you just say I don't want to talk about it.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (31 August 2008):
 Oh my dear.... what a jerk!
I really don't think moving to another state will make things better. Actually, I think it will make things worse. Because you will have possibly no support as your family and friends, the people who will be able to help you get through this, will be far away from you. Also, running away from your problems is never the solution. They will ALWAYS hunt you down and torment you... until you say "No!" and "STOP!" to them.
So what you have to do is go to your family and say sorry. I know this isn't going to be easy, but believe me, they will help you. I know you dread the thought of them telling you "I told you so", but the thing is that they will be SO very hurt for you because your suffering so much,and them saying that.... well, they mean well. At first, they might critisize you for not listening to them, but they WILL help you after the preaching.
After this, try to make absolutely no contact with him and ask a family member or a friend to always remind you what a jerk he is when you are in a moment of weakness.
Please, remind yourself always, to never ever go back to him. He is just.... oh, such a HORRIBLE person. But don't worry, Karma will have a big payback with him, a big one speceally for having spurned his own child.
Also, if you desire, try to warn this other girl about the kind of man this guy really is. Probably she never knew of your existance and was fooled to be with him. If that's the case, tell her about him and what he has done to you. You dont want another person to suffer like you did in his hands. He has to be stopped.
I know you're scared, I know you're at your wit's end, but just remind yourself that you will have your family and frieds to support you. And that also, out there, there are thousands of single women who have had a successful, happy life with their children.
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