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writes:A few months ago, I couldn't help but fall for my much older principal. Sure he isn't TRADITIONALLY attractive, but looks aren't everything. He has a big.....let's just call it a 'beaver'. I just know it. He also has a really cool voice, kind of like a mix between Napoleon Dynamite and Darth Vader, and he dresses really spiffy. He still rocks the bow ties and sock-suspenders. For some reason, this gets my boots a tremblin'! He used to teach my mom in band, and she hates him for some reason. Maybe he came on to her? She could only be so lucky, the whore. Anyways, I have to go to his office tommorrow, because I got in trouble with a teacher, who said my shirt was too inappropriate, but he is just mad cause he can't get any. Should I flirt with him? I know he's married, but I just can't sympathize with his wife. If she was taking care of him he wouldn't have to lean on his female students for companionship.
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reader, Dreamgirl31 +, writes (27 September 2008):
Oh wow sweetheart. Let me just say that you are going to mess up your entire life with these thoughts, but I know that you cant help it. I was exactly like that in school, there was no way I would ever be attracted to a guy my own age. All of my boyfriends were at least 25 to 30 years older than me. It didnt stop in my teens, I married and had children with much older men. Its the thrill of the hunt that your after, the wisdom and security that you are seeking that you see obtainable in older men. Going after and conquering someone who has authority over you probably excites you. Please get help, and try to figure out what is bringing you to these mixed desires you have. Its a lonely life if you choose it. If you decide to carry on, please wait until you are older before you jump into these harsh decisions. Dont talk so tough, its only a cover up to the scared girl you are on the inside.....Im 31 years old now. My husband is 28 years older than me, and he was my doctor. I went after him, and lucky for me this time, I found whatever it was that made me so unsettled. Im not saying that it cant happen, Im just saying wait until you are ready and are able to accept the consequences of such actions. Breaking up a marriage is bad business. Being the mistress on the side is even worse. Its an empty world, and it gets old fast......talk to me if you need. Please please get help before its too late....
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reader, Aeval  +, writes (18 September 2008):
 your just pure evil! Calling your mother a whore and wanting to break up a marriage, you need to take a good hard look at yourself and grow up
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2008): If this is a real post, you are very young to be thinking of flirting with a guy who "still rocks the bow tie"!!! Why don't you just go for the captain of the football team instead?? Unless of course he has a girlfriend...You are setting yourself on a path of self destruction and I suggest you get help over your parental issues...who calls their mum a whore?!
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reader, babewithbrains  +, writes (14 September 2008):
 i can't beleive you called your mother a whore and suspect that all your teachers fancy you.
no, you shouldn't flirt with him. Did you expect us to say anything different?
Get over yourself and get your self a boyfriend your age and break his heart - rather than wreak this poor mans life.
Well. I don't really want to judge you but boy of boy do you think you are top dollar.
jelly
xxx
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reader, littlesuziepie +, writes (14 September 2008):
 Does your father have a relationship with you? Is he in your life and active as a father?
From your post I would say not and no and no and not.
I'm sorry for you because your post screams daddy issues. You are young and one day you will realize that you don't need to think every man wants you for sexual reasons.
A principal never ever goes fishing at school for a trout. The trouble he would get in for it is just something that your young mind could never understand.
He worked so hard to be a principal it is his life his careear do you really really think that a man is so weak that he would throw it all away for flirting or sex with a child? And they don't let wack job sick men be principals so your answer is NO.
Go to school to learn and be somebody one day not to try and seduce every older man in there.
I say you ask your mom to take you to a head doctor to fix your mind and your anger and your relationship with mommy and lack of relationship with your daddy.
Maybe your mom is the same way as you are flirting with men. Having sex with lots of men. Thinking her ass is what's on every mans mind. Maybe but it doesn't mean you need to be like that as well.
I hope I have you all wrong and I hope your not that sad and lacking love. I hope your mom isn't really a whore and I hope you don't end up a whore either.
Learn some self respect and have some for the woman that raised you and still pays your way through life. Please
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (14 September 2008):
 Get a reality check here! Sometimes when a person seems to be flirting they aren't..and even if a married person really is flirting ...it doesn't mean that the spouse isn't taking care of them!
Sometimes one part of the marriage couple will use anything (including the above mentioned)as an excuse to have an affair.
Where you are making your big mistake it letting your hornmones do your thinking and they are clouding your judgement. It is never wise to flirt with a married person because you are taking a big chance at finding more trouble than you can handle. (pregnancy being one) One thing sometimes leads to another. Flirting with men who are much older than you are could signify some sort of abuse or neglect by a man or the need for attention of a man.
Never assume that because he is possibly being nice to you that he is indeed flirting. He is in a position to help you and it is his job to do so. He is not there to form any relationship to you except that of a Principil. It seems however that you have developed an unhealthy vision of who you are to him.
You seem to have a very negative opinion of your Mother and you probably have great difficulty having a really good opinion of yourself. As far as your Mom seeming to hate the principil...this is your opinion but it may be actually far from the truth. People dislike individuals for many reasons based on their own feelings toward that person. Maybe you like him so much because you feel some hatred or animosity toward your Mother who appears to hate him. Maybe you are trying to spite her.
In your entire post you seem to have alot of anger and agression that needs to be pinpointed and worked out. First I would suggest that you talk to you Mother and see if you two can come to some better relations. Don't flirt with your principil or teachers. You possibly are seeking male attention and it can lead you to all sorts of trouble.
Your clothing should be within dress code for your school as it keeps you from being too much of a distraction. It can interfer with class and studies. It can also cause social stigma.
Perhaps you dress or act in the manner which you have been brought up ..if so then you have to be adult and strong enough to think for youself so you can have a more stable and better life along with your own enviorment. Callilng your Mom a W**** shows no respect for her and if you don't know it by now it shows none for yourself either.
Forgiveness is in the heart...Judge not lest ye be judged. Seek God and he will lead you the way.
I pray that you will find answers to your troubles and know yourself well. Reach out to your Mom and heal the hurt.God loves you.
God bless.
Blue_Angel
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reader, michelleAKAmandi +, writes (14 September 2008):
 What makes you think he is leaning on his female students for companionship??
Michelle
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (14 September 2008):
 are you being serious here?
No you shouldnt flirt with him at all
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reader, -Red-  +, writes (14 September 2008):
 umm i'm not sure if this is actually a serious question or not but umm...no.lol i dont see where in any of that you mentioned that the man's wife didn't take care of him, that he didn't love her dearly or that he leaned on anyone never mind his female students. if this is a serious qustion, my answer is no you should not flirt with him because it's just...wrong and i think you are just trying to see what you want to see.
xoxox
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2008): You cannot be serious...
Someone needs to stop living in a dreamworld.
It's one thing to admire or even develop romantic feelings for a teacher. But it is quite another to just disregard all responsibility and call your mother a whore simply because you THINK she doesn't like him and completely, and willingly, think of destroying a marriage for your own ends.
Just because a teacher tells you that the shirt you have on makes you look like a slut, it doesn't mean he wants for sexual attention. It just means he knows how a person should dress when in public... and that dressing like a slut will eventually destroy any decent reputation you have and once it's gone it will take a lot of work to get back.
There are so many things wrong with your train of thought, that I can't begin to understand just how these things got into your head.
Stay AWAY from the principal. He will NOT return any gesture, because he can spot a mile away that you are poison. If he doesn't boot you out of school, I'll be very surprised.
Flynn 24
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reader, Replacement  +, writes (14 September 2008):
 Um... what?
No you shouldn't flirt with him.
Good god.
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