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writes:My girlfriend and I have been going out a couple months now, I'm not really into having sex just yet but i still want to have a good time while making out. One time in my basement as we're making out I take her shirt off, and she takes off mine, and I start to go for the bra. All of the sudden she stops, sits up and puts her shirt back on, and tells me that she prefers to keep her clothes on. I don't really know why she would let me take off her shirt in the first place. Anyone know what's going on or what i should do? Reply to this Question
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reader, odeer123  +, writes (9 June 2010):
 Yup. Agree with most below. Top isn't a big deal for a girl since we're so used to a bra- it feels like a top. If we have that on, we feel like we are still somewhat dressed - yes its like a swimsuit.
She just obviously didn't want to get naked, then she got embarrassed. Simple as :).
If she got embarrassed it might be an idea to say sorry - not sorry for what you did, because you didn't do anything wrong, but say that you're sorry she felt uncomfortable.
In all liklihood you got that far because she was really getting into you, then she stopped herself when she remembered where she told herself she wouldn't go just yet. Afterall, a girls got to set herself standards and limits. It would be wrong to expect her to go in all at once the first time you get really intimate.
Anyway, I hope what I've said has helped. Be patient with her. She needs to be given the time to think things through and decide what she is willing to go for at this stage in her life. I suppose that means you too. Of course you might not need to - she may be willing to take it a step further later on in your relationship.
Good luck!
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (9 June 2010):
Well yea get her pregrant! and you're life is over and yea she is consider jail bait! even if she says yes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010): Do nothing don't take it personally, she just decided it might have been going too far, too soon.
A shirt is just a piece of clothing you might aswell ask why she took off her jacket. She still had her bra on, so she wasn't exactly topless and she probably put her shirt on to stop you trying to take her bra off again without making a big deal out of it.
Don't worry about it, it means nothing. Just learn that with girls, taking off pieces of clothing doesn't mean a ticket to go any further than that, they can stop at anytime and say enough. Don't question it, just accept it.
Taking her shirt off doesn't mean your going to get to pull off her bra and start fondling her breasts.
Don't be offended by it, or take it as some kind of sign.
When she's ready she'll let you take off her bra.
A piece of advice though, learn to remove bras quickly and easy. There's a way of just popping the clasp with one hand as quick as you can click your fingers, learn it, it's very useful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhile it says aged 18-21, I am newly 18, she's still 17. This happened on my birthday...
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (9 June 2010):
 What is going on is that your girlfriend is not ready to go that far yet. Slow down. You say that you are "not really into having sex just yet." Really? Stop taking her shirt of while making out - that will help. And for every-one's sake when you are ready to go there please use proper birth control. This site if full of agonized teens who think they may be pregnant. You don't want her to be the next one do you?
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