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Are some of us meant to be alone.

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Question - (1 November 2007) 5 Answers - (Newest, 1 November 2007)
A male United Kingdom, anonymous writes:

Are some of us just meant to be alone for the whole of our lives? I'm 20 now and whenever I start to feel attracted to a girl, they are either not interested or want to stay as friends.

The saying goes that the right women will come along one day. What if that never happens or by the time it does happen, I'll be too old to start a family.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007):

What normally happens for me. Is when i start to not care about getting a girlfriend. I get a few girls pop up that become close. You should make sure that you meet the girl if its a online relationship before you ask her out. You never know she may be different from her Display pic. I do believe that you will meet the right woman some day but you have to make sure its not just the looks you are after.

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A female reader, Sassister United States +, writes (1 November 2007):

What a great question! This is something I've wondered myself at times and I'm old enough to be your youngest aunt. To ask this question, though, denies free will so I think that if you truly want to meet that special person you must remain vigilant and open to whomever comes your way. At 20, most people don't know themselves let alone have the ability to choose the right person to share a life with. Look at all of these "wrong" choices as practice so you will be prepared to be with that special person when they come along. Good luck!

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A male reader, Asexy United States +, writes (1 November 2007):

Asexy agony auntThis is going to sound like strange advice, but read all the way through. Stop trying to find someone. Seriously. What you need to do is to work on your self-confidence. Become comfortable in your own skin.

Whenever I was desperate for a girl, it was like they could smell the desperation on me and avoided me like the plague. But when I stopped looking and just had a good time, by myself, without worrying about a girl, suddenly I had several girls interested.

Here's the thing: self-confidence is sexy. When you put out an easy-going, self-confident image, THAT's when girls are interested.

So, stop looking for a girlfriend. Seriously. Get involved in something you like that you consider fun (bonus points if it's with other people, so you might meet someone). Take a class, join a club, play a sport. Anything. When you stop focusing on how alone you are, you'll stop being alone.

Good luck!

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A female reader, niki0 United Kingdom +, writes (1 November 2007):

dont be silly im going through the same thing every guy i meet treats me badly so im very scared of getting out there but trust me you will find someone just fish about a little she will come along one day x

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A female reader, jodie United Kingdom +, writes (1 November 2007):

jodie agony auntawww hunni!!!! dont worry the sayin is true cuz even the ugliest girls I know have got boyfriends!! Your day will come soon and if the girls aren't interested keep trying, it's their loss!! Change your appearance a bit if you think that maybe the problem!!!!!!! good luck, hope I helped x me x

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