What to do when head and heart are telling you different things?
Q. What can you do when your heart and head are in conflict about your relationship? What can you do when your heart is telling you this is the woman of your dreams, someone you completely love and would wait an eternity for, while your head is sta...
A. 8 September 2010: Not if you make her feel secure in that your feelings are pure. I know after your heart has been broken (which sometimes happens after divorces) you are hesitant to open your heart to someone again.
If this is her situation, you need to let her ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends family does not like me, what do I do?
Q. I am having the same problem, im 18 and have been with my boyfriend 6 years, since 7th grade. we are deeply in love and happy together. we've had a lot of ups and downs considering the fact that we only have been with eachother. his family for some ...
A. 7 September 2010: I'm in the same boat as you. I'm fighting for the relationship and want him to stand up to his family.
But I think if I don't see that there is any progress, I will probably end the relationship. I'm afraid that even though he loves me, the pres... (read in full...)
She says I'm better even though they were bigger!
Q. ive been with the same woman for 14 years.i just found out that she slept with 3 of my friends four yrs ago.one a really close friend.iam now very insecure and hurt cuz i knw that they are bigger than me in penis size.so i knw she enjoyed it ...
A. 7 September 2010: She is right. Bigger in size has nothing to do with being better. Sex is not only about the size. It's the movement, it's hitting the right spots. Bigger penises can't always do that. Sex is also about the emotional connection, not just physical. So ... (read in full...)
Help me translate what he meant by his comment!
Q. Hey, so I need some help to translate a comment this guy made. I know him through work, he asked me out at the weekend, had a great time, went to a movie. Then asked me out again last night. Again, had a great time. He sent me a text saying ...
A. 7 September 2010: It's a great thing. This guy feels relaxed and free like a kid around you. It's a great complement.... (read in full...)
What to do when head and heart are telling you different things?
Q. What can you do when your heart and head are in conflict about your relationship? What can you do when your heart is telling you this is the woman of your dreams, someone you completely love and would wait an eternity for, while your head is sta...
A. 7 September 2010: If she treats you with respect, care, friendship and being with her makes you feel good inside, then forget about what Might or Might NOt happen in the future.
All you can do is let her know how you feel about her and ask how she feels about that... (read in full...)
Cheating girlfriend
Q. I've been dating this girl for four months and i was aware she was a slut by the time i got involved with her but i thought she was going to change as time goes on but she didnt. I use to call her a slut and she kept on telling me that she was not ...
A. 7 September 2010: If you cannot trust her, you should let her go. Going behind her back to find out what went on at the party is not a good source of information. The friends might have ulterior motives to telling you something. If you have doubt about her loyalty ... (read in full...)
He ended it, but now he wants to get back together - on HIS terms. What should I do?
Q. I've been in a long term, long-distance relationship with a guy who basically controls me. I can't do anything without him knowing, he HAS to know what I'm thinking and why I'm thinking that and I'm not allowed to go near any other guy, which is ...
A. 2 September 2010: I agree with the previous post. Even though you seem to "love him" he is a strange character. Imagine if you have problems in the future, you'll be in ICU all the time. Although, please don't take me seriously, but if you do decide to stick ... (read in full...)
I want to leave this guy but I've invested so much into a house with him! Advice?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 10 yrs with this guy. We have been living together for 7 of those 10 yrs. We bought a house together 4 yrs ago. Somehow when the 10th yr came, I became dissatisfied with this relationship. I have been unhappy for ...
A. 1 September 2010: Unfortunately without credit and without money it will be hard for you to keep your house. Does he have any suggestions of what would be fair?... (read in full...)
It takes SO long for him in the bedroom
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been with each otehr over a year, and we're having trouble when it comes to sex. This isn't your usual... it only takes him three minutes! This is.. oh god, it takes him nearly three hours. We've tried to work each other up ...
A. 31 August 2010: Please learn Kegel Exercises. If you want to help your guy finish quicker, you must learn how to squeeze your pelvic muscles (it's the same muscles that you use if you want to stop the flow of urine once it's started) Practice everyday until you get ... (read in full...)
Is a relationship with a high doom factor worth pursuing?
Q. Hello! Just wanted to know your thoughts. If a relationship has a high doom factor, is it worth pursuing? Would you pursue it? I met someone recently but he lives very far, not to mention he's at a very different stage of his life to m...
A. 28 August 2010: Please disregard the high doom factor IF:
1. you have feelings for this man
2. he responds with strong feelings for you
3. if you tell him to his face that you don't think the relationship will work because...(of the factors you think will doom th... (read in full...)
Should I approach her with my true feelings?
Q. I'm an 18 year old guy and I have a crush on my female friend who is 20. People who have seen us together have told me that we would make a cute couple. I was hanging out with her and a 3 other close mutual friends when her best friend said it to ...
A. 28 August 2010: Even if you guys go to different universities and are in different cities, there is nothing wrong about letting a girl you like know your feelings.
It's not like you are pressuring her to give you an answer or get into a long distance relation... (read in full...)
Should I approach her with my true feelings?
Q. I'm an 18 year old guy and I have a crush on my female friend who is 20. People who have seen us together have told me that we would make a cute couple. I was hanging out with her and a 3 other close mutual friends when her best friend said it to ...
A. 28 August 2010: At night when saying good bye When you two are alone,(or if you are not alone whisper that in her ear:
"I know you don't think we would make a good couple, but you should know that I think we would."
Say goodnight, kiss her on the cheek and wa... (read in full...)
How can I feel more secure in this relationship?
Q. I am 29 years old and do not have much experience with men and dating. I fell in love as a teenager, but the relationship did not work out. He always made me feel like I was never good enough for him. He would pull me in and push me away. After ...
A. 28 August 2010: First of all wait until the religious fast is over. During this fast, he is not allowed to have sex. It ends in US on August 10th, so please don't drive yourself insane.
No guy can ever make you feel good about yourself. They help, but the real... (read in full...)
She wants to date again, but she's a cheater! What should I do?
Q. Hey, so i have a problem, i started dating this girl in 9th grade, and we were great together, advancing well, but then three days later we broke up. She said that it just didnt feel right, that i felt like more of a friend to her. Then a couple ...
A. 28 August 2010: I think she knows she can get attention from you, but I'm afraid if you give in and start dating her again, sometime later she will push you away.
For now I recommend not giving in to her desire, and just keep flirting but not dating. Make the... (read in full...)
Resolving my erection issues with my gf! Help me out here.
Q. Hi all, I have been seeing this wonderful lady for about 2 months. I have a bit of erection (ED) issue and is currently getting helps from professional. The lady is very understanding. We haven't had actual sex yet. We discussed this issue t...
A. 28 August 2010: I think you should keep doing what you are doing (with clothes on)
Simply because a woman judges a man's attraction to her by his excitement level - erection. If you are without clothes and nothing happens it does put a psychological strain on her.... (read in full...)
I want to leave this guy but I've invested so much into a house with him! Advice?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 10 yrs with this guy. We have been living together for 7 of those 10 yrs. We bought a house together 4 yrs ago. Somehow when the 10th yr came, I became dissatisfied with this relationship. I have been unhappy for ...
A. 28 August 2010: I don't know where in the US you live, but I think now is not the best time to sell the house if you guys want to make some profit from your investment.
If your sister offered you to move in with her, it's a great thing. It's great that your nam... (read in full...)
Please advise me on how to get over him.
Q. I need help getting over the one i love. Ive been in love with him for nearly 3 years, i guess its my own fault its gone this far but i thought he felt the same and everyone i spoke to about it thought he did too. We're still friends, hes sai...
A. 28 August 2010: Time is the best cure, but I think for at least 2-3 weeks you need to stay away and not contact him at all. Let him know that because you still care for him and want those feelings to go away, you will not be contacting him for a while, and ask him ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend didn't seem too thrilled to hear from me after her vacation--WHY?
Q. Hi, I'm just really confused right now. And I really miss my girlfriend. My girlfriend and I are both 20 years old, and we were doing very well before she left for a week long vacation. We've been spending nights together, sharing a lot of ...
A. 27 August 2010: She needs some time, it's only the second day, after a crappy trip, people need rest and sometimes seeing your other half is not the priority when you feel like "shit"
Let her rest and call her later on tonight to see how she's doing.
When I'... (read in full...)
Guy is so distant towards me since we had sex. Did we have it too soon?
Q. Hey everyone, Me and my current bf have been going out for about 2 months now, and within the first week we had sex (we had been great friends before that) but ever since that he has been so distant towards me and I don't know what to do!!! I ...
A. 27 August 2010: At your age, it is all about the hunt for boys. The hormones are high, the thrill of getting something someone doesn't want to give makes the thrill even higher.
Once they got what they were after, it is no longer interesting to them, unless t... (read in full...)
Was it too soon?
Q. Hi everyone, would never thought I'd be asking for advice ... long story short, (I'm 25, and he is 30 years old) I've met my boyfriend 5 months ago. Great guy but a bit selfish. Everything seems perfect, but not for me. I moved in with him while we ...
A. 26 August 2010: Have your own life, be happy with your own things, if he sees that you are doing great without him, he'll be interested in joining you.
Don't let him believe he has won you. Give him the opportunity to fight for you and always keep him on his toes... (read in full...)
Online date doesn't look at all like her photos. I'm not attracted, even a little repulsed by her appearance!
Q. I met this woman online, very quickly the relationship escalated emotionaly, we exchanged many pictures and shared with eachother about our feelings, hopes and fears on a very deep level. We decided to meet, so i went down to where she lives ...
A. 26 August 2010: Ask her to exercise with you, go along shopping with her and offer a make up treatment at the make up counter, Help her feel beautiful and she will become beautiful. sometimes women need help, especially after a bad marriage. Self esteem is in th... (read in full...)
What does it mean when one person hates you one minute then loves you the next?
Q. What does it mean when someone is so mean to you one minute and then loves you and wants to see you the next? This same person always seems to come in and out of my life...
A. 26 August 2010: That usually means you have to RUN from a person like that. Inconsistent behavior only leads to problems.
It's a vicious cycle that will only get worse.... (read in full...)
He said if I sleep with him he will trust me!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend on and off for the past year and a bit. I have known him for a total of 9 years. We have been in and out of touch over our friendship. About 2-3 years ago we become closer and I hooked up with a good friend of his ...
A. 26 August 2010: Please don't sleep with someone just because they need proof to trust you. This is silly.
If he cares for you he needs forgive you for the past and try start a future fresh. Don't lie, it ruins things for you and for others.
If he doesn't trus... (read in full...)
I feel alot less special
Q. I am in relation with a man for the last 3.5 years.everything is going well,we are having a distant relationship!we are tight with each other and we are going to get married in 3 years!we are very much confident about each other and we communicate ...
A. 26 August 2010: Men are not psychics. Some need to be told. There are a few men out there who do know how to be romantic and make their woman feel special. Just because your man doesn't do this does not make him a bad man, nor does not make you any less special ... (read in full...)
If I keep my cheating secret, will it come back to bite me later?
Q. What might be some negative consequences of marrying my fiancee without telling her that I cheated on her a year ago? We were clearly in a committed relationship back then, and I had sex with another woman--who you can say I had somewhat of an ...
A. 26 August 2010: If the woman you had the affair or anyone who knows about the affair will say something and your wife realizes that the affair was during your courtship with her - that might cause a huge deal.
Make sure you cut all loose ends, and she never fi... (read in full...)
Broken heart
Q. How does one survive a broken heart?! I'm just dying inside. Everyday I wake up crying, go to bed crying and just break down in tears at the drop of a hat. My heart hurts so bad! My 9 year marriage to my best friend and soul mate is ending. ...
A. 26 August 2010: If both of you love each other, why can't you keep working at it?
I'm young, but I know that the most important thing at making a relationship work is when two people love each other. Each one because he/she loves the other puts that person i... (read in full...)
Should your boyfriend be able to hang out with girls alone?
Q. Should your boyfriend be able to hang out with his friends that are girls by there self,is it a big deal,an should I be worrying. I want replys from both male an female points of view thank you! ...
A. 26 August 2010: I think you need to tell us more about your relationship, and about your life for us to tell us whether it's ok or not.
Personally, I always had more guy friends than girl friends, but when I dated someone, the first thing I did was to introduc... (read in full...)
I'm truly in love with my teacher, should I wait 2 years to be with him?
Q. I'm in love with my 35 year old maths teacher... and, please don't tell me it's just a crush, because I've researched into what love feels like, and I asked my mum (not telling her about my teacher though) so I know for sure that I'm in love with ...
A. 26 August 2010: It would be worth for you to wait for him, if he was waiting for you. But he is still married. So he is with another woman with whom he has 2 children so he's not waiting for you.
Don't you want to experience life? Hypothetically, let's imagine ... (read in full...)
Id rather us try and have it possibly fail then not try at all
Q. Hi there, I could really do with some advice... I met this guy at a club 6 or 7 weeks ago and we were "getting off" as they call it for about 45 minutes. We exchanged numbers and he started texting me every single day. We started to get more flir...
A. 26 August 2010: I'm glad that you met him now rather than later, because like you said you have insecurities and low self esteem issues. This is something that you HAVE to work on. You cannot love someone else if you don't value yourself.
The reason why I think ... (read in full...)
5months pregnant... how to tell my mom?
Q. Okay I am 13 years old and 5 months pregnant..... I have no idea how to tell my mom and I don't know how she'll react. I've kept this from her for 3 months. I am not really showing yet. I have a little bump showing. A few of my closest friends know ...
A. 26 August 2010: I assume that you are planning on keeping the baby and not giving it up for adoption. I regret that you didn't use protection and got pregnant in the first place. Your life will be very difficult because you chose to become a mother at such a young ... (read in full...)
How do I protect my daughter?
Q. I’m busy divorcing my wife at the moment and it’s been an emotional rollercoaster ride from hell – my soon to be ex-wife (38) is a very intelligent, attractive and well qualified individual (two post grad degrees and currently studying towards a ...
A. 26 August 2010: What if you approached her and said: "Look, I'm sorry our relationship didn't work out. We couldn't make each other happy, it's not your fault and it's not mine. I want you to move on and find someone who can make you happy. You know it's hard to ... (read in full...)
When should I call my ex?
Q. [OP original title] I have dated this girl for four months. Three weeks ago she blocked me from Facebook and said her reason was that she doesn't want to look at my page and see other girls commenting or liking my status and then missing me and want...
A. 26 August 2010: I agree with tennistar, keep texting, I personally prefer calls from a guy, it speaks stronger of him, texting to me is a wussy way out. But don't over do it. Just a simple how are you, how you feeling just called to say hello.
Don't ask her when... (read in full...)
No One Likes My Husband
Q. Help! My husband and I have separated after 10 years of marriage due to the way he treated/rejected my adult child. We are working on our relationship, however, I have just been made aware that no one in my family likes him at all and has only ...
A. 25 August 2010: As a mother, how does it make you feel about how your husband treats/rejects your child? Doesn't your heart break to see that? Shouldn't the welfare and happiness of your child be on the first priority before your own?
I'm not even talking ... (read in full...)
Opinions on "friends with benefits" relationships?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up a couple of months ago, and I've since picked up a friendship with an ex of mine who I've always been on good terms with. The other night, while we were sitting at his house talking, and one thing led to another and we ...
A. 25 August 2010: @ SirenaBlusera,
What do you do if you are at a stage in your life that you don't want a relationship and commitment, but at the same time you want to experience the sexual connection with a man.
I know vibrators are a great save, but there is... (read in full...)
I can't do anything right by him
Q. I need some advice, I don't know what to do. My husband and I are constantly arguing. It seems as if 99.9% of the time is my fault either because i did something wrong or failed to do something. I'm trying my best to keep him happy but it seems it ...
A. 25 August 2010: Have you ever asked him "If you feel that I do everything wrong, why are you still with me?" I would probably tell him "You deserve to find someone who will make you happy. I'm sorry I can't be that woman for you." How do you think he will react ... (read in full...)
I want his personality and him,but not his looks. What do I do?
Q. I've been dating this wonderful man long distance for two years.it got to the point i wanted to marry this man!but then..he came to visit me.and when i saw him,my heart fell. I knew he was overweight but i didn't expect this! Sometimes i have dif...
A. 25 August 2010: You said that you fell in love with him even though you had a long distance relationship. Now that you are together, can you try to give it a chance?
I agree with you, you can't ask him to change for you. He has to want to get in shape for hims... (read in full...)
Opinions on "friends with benefits" relationships?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up a couple of months ago, and I've since picked up a friendship with an ex of mine who I've always been on good terms with. The other night, while we were sitting at his house talking, and one thing led to another and we ...
A. 25 August 2010: If it is truly what you say it is, that either one of you wants the sex to progress to a relationship, then I believe friends with benefits is a great thing for both. There are times in life when you are not looking for attachment and c... (read in full...)
Do all girls smell fishy down there?
Q. hi, im having a very embarassing unusual probelm. my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years, so he is the only person iv slept with since.. during our relationship or before it, iv never smelt bad down there ever. and now all of a sudden the ...
A. 25 August 2010: If it's something that your boyfriend never noticed before and now he is noticing it (I am emphasizing your boyfriend, b/c it's hard for you to determine your own smell. He's been down there since the beginning and can tell if there is really a ... (read in full...)
Should I follow my head or heart?
Q. I am in my 20's and have been going out with my boyfriend for the last 3 years.. we have a relationship where we can argue and he would only have to look at me and i would crack and start laughing.. we do have a good time together but for the past ...
A. 25 August 2010: I believe when it comes to your situation, the best thing to do is to follow your head.
In your head you know that you are not appreciated, you are not #1, by what you are describing you are not even close to #4.
I think your head is telling t... (read in full...)
I hate my boyfriend, I'm lonely and sad..
Q. I need a lot of help with something. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now and we have lived together for most of that time. 2 months into the relationship he started calling me curse names and yelling at me constantly. When he ...
A. 25 August 2010: You are in a very difficult situation. It is called the cycle of violence.
1. Tension building - that's where the abuse happens. Whether it's physical or verbal, it is still considered abuse.
2. Making up - the abuser asks for forgiveness, makes it... (read in full...)
I don't want to break his heart so how do I leave him?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 9 months. He is an amazing person with a few unique quirks that I don't mind at all. The problem is that even though we are very similar, able to communicate, find compromise and are willing to work at makin...
A. 25 August 2010: I already started. I didn't really want to go exercise with him tonight, he got very sad because I made myself unavailable for another 2 days after tonight.
I will still however help his aunt tomorrow, because I believe it's a good thing to do. I... (read in full...)
I want to kiss my bestfriend!!
Q. My best (girl) friend and I are extremely close. We talk about everything. I absolutely love her in a best friend way...but the problem is that I think she loves me in a different way. When we hug she pushes her boobs up against me and I can feel ...
A. 25 August 2010: I think so. If you are saying that she turns you on, than you may not be as straight as you may think.
Keep in mind that perhaps it's better to talk it over before making any moves that may ruin the friendship. Some girls are more affectio... (read in full...)
I don't want to break his heart so how do I leave him?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 9 months. He is an amazing person with a few unique quirks that I don't mind at all. The problem is that even though we are very similar, able to communicate, find compromise and are willing to work at makin...
A. 24 August 2010: The main reason why I'm thinking about leaving the relationship is because I don't see that he is standing up to his family in my defense.
He does not tell them about his involvement with me because he doesn't want to hear "shit" from them abo... (read in full...)
When should I call my ex?
Q. [OP original title] I have dated this girl for four months. Three weeks ago she blocked me from Facebook and said her reason was that she doesn't want to look at my page and see other girls commenting or liking my status and then missing me and want...
A. 24 August 2010: She does need time to get her life together. And although you could provide support, I think it's better for her to get a handle on her life on her own. She would benefit from that more. In terms of anniversary, I don't think you guys are dating ... (read in full...)
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