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writes:Hey everyone, Me and my current bf have been going out for about 2 months now, and within the first week we had sex (we had been great friends before that) but ever since that he has been so distant towards me and I don't know what to do!!! I have tried talking to him but he doesnt reply and just changes the subject. It's killing me, what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey guys,
thanks for everything you've all been so helpful and I'm debating my choices alot more now that I have other people's opinions too, so yeah, thanks a million
much love x
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reader, answerfromtheheart  +, writes (27 August 2010):
 At your age, it is all about the hunt for boys. The hormones are high, the thrill of getting something someone doesn't want to give makes the thrill even higher.
Once they got what they were after, it is no longer interesting to them, unless there were feelings between you two before sex. But you cannot expect feelings to develop that soon.
I'm sorry, but I think he is no longer interested. Try to not care that he's not calling you, and be distant yourself, it may peak an interest in him, b/c it's a game. If you want him, he doesn't want you, so if you show that you don't want him then he will wonder why not and may become interested in you again.
Try it, let us know if it works.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (27 August 2010):
 also a side note i hope you are on the pill or were using a condom if not guess what you could be the next teenage mum thats right no protection equals pregnancy! he maybe wanted more at the time but if you have been dating a short period men dont like to hang around too much if you sleep with them straight away. what happened to waiting to the legal age limit and spending a year with your boyfriend before even contemplating sex! seriously wait till you get a little older and wiser about the choices you make in life because it may be a mistake now but you can regret it later on in life! good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): He used you.Don't fall into that trap again.I feel bad that u went tru that.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (27 August 2010):
 Well, it's too late for what you should have done, that is not have sex until you're older. That aside, you rushed into it. This rarely bodes well for relationships. Being that you gave it up so quickly, he is probably wondering just how quickly you've given it up in the past. I'll tell you something about men. Keep in mind this is VERY UNFAIR. Men typically don't value a woman who will have sex with him right away. She becomes a cheap hussy in his eyes. The very unfair thing is that he was likely the one pushing for it in the first place. He won't stop it from happening, but then thinks less of her for giving in.
In your case, you're kids. He may be having all sorts of emotions that he can't understand. Were you virgins?
What should you do?
Talking to him is the first step. Since he won't talk to you, then you can either choose to wait it out or break it off. Since you've been friends before this, then I'd suggest giving him a bit more time. If he won't talk, then maybe he'll listen. Tell him how you feel, and how what he's doing is making you feel.
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