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writes:Hi everyone, would never thought I'd be asking for advice ... long story short, (I'm 25, and he is 30 years old) I've met my boyfriend 5 months ago. Great guy but a bit selfish. Everything seems perfect, but not for me. I moved in with him while we were 2 months dating, pretty soon huh? So far it works out really well, except for the fact that he doesn't seem excited about me anymore, doesn't text me all day unless I text him first, doesn't call me cute names, doesn't wanna do any activities together, it seems like he is losing his interest to me. How should I react?
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reader, answerfromtheheart +, writes (26 August 2010):
 Have your own life, be happy with your own things, if he sees that you are doing great without him, he'll be interested in joining you.
Don't let him believe he has won you. Give him the opportunity to fight for you and always keep him on his toes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2010): A very similar thing happened with me and my boyfriend (except we don't live together). Everything was great for two months, but then he stopped complimenting me, stopped planning dates, and took me for granted. I know he still loved me though. He was just too comfortable in the relationship.
So, I started getting my own life. I stopped texting him first. If we didn't have plans, I made plans with my friends. I signed up for fun classes, and joined a job club. Basically, I stopped making him the center of my world and made him just one more thing in my already fabulous life. And, guess what happened? He came around. He started calling me more, starting complimenting me, and even suggested to meet my parents.
My advice is to stop worrying about him and worry about you. Don't let him get too comfortable or think that he has "won" you. I think that's what's happening. You already moved in, so he doesn't feel like there's anything left to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2010): tell him how you feel... then the two of you should talk about it...
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