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writes:Okay I am 13 years old and 5 months pregnant..... I have no idea how to tell my mom and I don't know how she'll react. I've kept this from her for 3 months. I am not really showing yet. I have a little bump showing. A few of my closest friends know and that's it.I've been wearing loose shirts so my mom wouldn't notice. The other day she said to me "your gaining a little weight" so I said to her I eat all the time just to play it off and praise the lord she fell for it. Any way can I have som advice on how to tell my mom. Please Reply to this Question
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reader, Sincerely Kir  +, writes (2 September 2010):
 well usually, not always, mothersunderstand the most out of everyone because they have been through it themself. i know u are scared, but u are always already showing a tad bit. fact: You Cant Hide It Forever. and you need your mom for support and help u get through the whole thing. i think you should just sit her down and let her know.. and for the most part she will understand.good luck
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reader, Curly21  +, writes (26 August 2010):
im 14 and i know how hard it is to tell your parents that you pregnant but you have to im sure they will support you. i had to tell my parents that i had been raped and that as a result i was pregnant but they supported me the whole time.
i hope it all works out for you x
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reader, natasia +, writes (26 August 2010):
 Good luck : )
You are doing the right thing to tell your mum, and you have done so well to go to the doctor, etc, and deal with this all yourself. I'm sure your mum will come to see that, once she has got over the surprise.
You just have to start telling her, and it will all come out. Just wait until she has a moment, then ask her to come to your room, close the door, sit on the bed, get her to sit down too, and tell her that you have something very important to tell her, and that you have been scared about telling her, but that you know you must.
Your mum is a mother - she knows where you are right now. She will no doubt go through being shocked/horrified/worried/angry/etc, as no doubt she probably doesn't even think you've ever had sex, let alone that you might be pregnant. She will immediately think about what the future holds, how you will finish school, who will look after the baby. She will also want to know who the father is. You must just answer all her questions now - you owe her that.
As to how she will take it all overall, I can't say, because I don't know your mum. As to what I would do if my daughter told me that, at your age - I would be totally shocked, and really worried about her future, and about what people would say, and about how our lives would now change totally from what I had imagined - but I am sure that I would also give her a huge hug and tell her that it will all be ok in the end. I do hope your mum can do that for you tonight.
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reader, Bermychick96 +, writes (26 August 2010):
Bermychick96 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks every one and TrimmD I do know who the father is and yes he knows he was actually the second person to know. I am taking vitamins amd I have been to the doctor to get checked out that's how I know I'm 5 months. I took a test in May and didn't believe what the test was saying so I went to the doctor. I go to the doctor every month for check ups. I am planning on telling my mom tonight...
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reader, answerfromtheheart +, writes (26 August 2010):
 I assume that you are planning on keeping the baby and not giving it up for adoption. I regret that you didn't use protection and got pregnant in the first place. Your life will be very difficult because you chose to become a mother at such a young age.
But, like most people said, the longer you wait the more difficult it's going to be, so you have to tell her NOW.
You have to know what you plan to do before talking to her. Because when adults make a mistake that has consequences, are prepared to deal with them. Telling her is not the worst thing, the worst thing is letting your mom know that you don't know what to do about the consequence of your actions. So Figure out what your plan is about the baby, and then talk to her.
Sit her down when there are no interruptions and say: "Mom, I've been living with a very difficult secret for the past 4 months. I was childishly scared of sharing it with you, and it's my own fault. I'm pregnant. I know I'm way too young to be a mother, but this is the consequence I have to deal with and I need your help and support."
Good luck.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (26 August 2010):
 You must understand that the longer you are pregnant without telling your mother, the worse it will be.
There are things that need to be done in preparation of a child. Special vitamins, doctor visits, etc. These things are NECESSARY. You must take something like this seriously. Plans have to be made for your pregnancy and for after. Who is the father of the baby? Does he know?
This isn't like breaking a vase of your mom's and being scared to tell her. This is a child that you will spend the rest of your life with that will require love, care, and support. Stop worrying about making your mom mad and do what needs to be done. Go tell her right now!
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reader, twinkletoes30  +, writes (26 August 2010):
 sweetheart, you have to tell your mom. Now. I know its going to be hard, but you need to get to a doctor, get checked out, make decisions - and you will need your mother to help with all this. I know its scary, and your mom will probably be mad, sad and all kind of crazy, but at the end of the day, she will be there for you. You have to be brave. Sit her down, tell her you have to talk, that you love her, and that you need her. Because you DO need her. Best of luck hunny.
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reader, m.j  +, writes (26 August 2010):
 honesty is the best policy.if you just come out and tell her even if she doesnt like the fact that ur pregnant(which she most likely wont) she be glad that u were honest enough to tell her.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 August 2010):
This is clearly something that needs to be done now, because you're running out of time.
In this event, I'd say ask your most trusted friend to be with you when you tell her so you have support. Have your friend there. Then, sit your mother down and say you need to tell her something. Then just say "I'm pregnant.". That's clear, and it gets it out in the open as quickly as possible. Don't waste time going around it all. She needs to know, and needs to know very soon. So, have a friend by your side and just come clean. Then you can deal with what happens after and at least you'll have some support.
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