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anonymous
writes:Hi all,I have been seeing this wonderful lady for about 2 months. I have a bit of erection (ED) issue and is currently getting helps from professional. The lady is very understanding. We haven't had actual sex yet.We discussed this issue tonight and she asked how does she knows I'm finally READY. We have been making out with our clothes on etc and she said how can she tells the different between making out with the clothes on and when I'm finally ready.Although she's a very understanding person...my issue seems to spin over to her as well. I suggested to her perhaps we can make out with our clothes off and if/when I'm ready I will join in. She said then sex will become too mechanical and planned. And if she has her clothes off and I'm not ready it makes her look silly.Is there any way out in this, guys and girls?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2010): If all men who have ED wouldnt ever be able to have sex then there would be many sad men in the world. You can help it, and you will be able to make love to the woman you are with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwatsername23, Yes I have gone to the doctor. She knows I have been getting helps and I showed her the blood test results and what I’m trying to do on my part. The doctor is trying to rule out physical/physiological cause before sending me off to sex therapist. To put it into context, I’m 30 and she’s 40. I’m very inexperience. She has two failed relationship. One cheated on her and one didn’t have much physical with her and refused to get helps.answerfromtheheart, if we keep doing what we are doing, that shouldn’t be good for long term? She said she wants it so she can be ‘close’ to me, not the act itself but being close to me. However when we were making out it was very passionate.Anonymous, I can’t seem to maintain erection especially when we were just about to enter the ‘main event’ The doctor asked me to change my life style, eat healthy and start exercise and that’s what I’m doing now.Anonymous, I can get erection when we were making out but sometimes it goes away. I’m trying to do something nowShe’s such an amazing person and we like each other very much and I want to get intimate with her and so does she. She seems to think there’s no way out of this. I’m desperate for further suggestion as I think my ED can be fixed and will go away. I like to be with each other so much. But if my issue persist, it would be unfair for me to hold her back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2010): This has happened to me and my ex boyfriend who was just 21! (Can you have a disfunction at this age?) At first I was very understanding,but no matter what was going on,he was always unable to keep his erection....which meant,we never had sex. I advised him to get medication,and he didnt even go to the doctor.So i dumped him. If u dont want this to happen to you,DO SOMETHING NOW!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2010): What kind of erection issues do you have?
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reader, answerfromtheheart  +, writes (28 August 2010):
 I think you should keep doing what you are doing (with clothes on)
Simply because a woman judges a man's attraction to her by his excitement level - erection. If you are without clothes and nothing happens it does put a psychological strain on her. Even if she is understanding, it's something that may push her away from you.
Wait until you are ready and then go all the way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2010): Have you gone to a doctor? Im pretty sure they can give you some kind of medicine. Or you can go to a sex therapist to resolve the phycological part of the situation of having erection issues. I wish you the best of luck.:]
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