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writes:I am in my 20's and have been going out with my boyfriend for the last 3 years.. we have a relationship where we can argue and he would only have to look at me and i would crack and start laughing.. we do have a good time together but for the past 6-7 months hes been differnt i feel like im second best to him we broke up for a while n got back together but i ended up kissing another man and now i feel like i cant live with myself and should end it! i dont know how im feeling lately.. apart of me wants to make it work between us as i do love him but the other side of me wants to be single! i know cheating is wrong but i felt i werent his first choice he never would take me out or come out with me n my friends and their boyfriends..i feel like i dont no if i should follow my head or my heart! we have been arguing alot lately an i dont understand what has happend.. should i try and make it work or break up with him? head or heart? thank you
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reader, answerfromtheheart +, writes (25 August 2010):
 I believe when it comes to your situation, the best thing to do is to follow your head.
In your head you know that you are not appreciated, you are not #1, by what you are describing you are not even close to #4.
I think your head is telling to to leave him because you think you deserve better than he has been giving you.
Your heart will tell you to stay, because we are emotional creatures and we do get attached. One person can never make it work. Two people have to want to work at the relationship and putting the other person in the place #1 to make a relationship work. I'm not sure if your guy would do that.
So I think it's best for you to follow your head and leave.
You should want better for yourself.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 August 2010):
End it. You're not ready to settle at all. It's gone so wrong. You were feeling second best, so ended it. Then you got back together and you cheated. It's over. Best end it and move on.
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