Our fighting has gotten worse, could this be the final breakup?
Q. My long-term girlfriend and I have had many ups and downs over the years. Unfortunately, we're both hard headed and when we disagree, we fight. More unfortunately, those fights usually result in her breaking up. Within a few days I am always the ...
A. 29 August 2017: Well it seems that yo have correctly identified that your methods of conflict resolution are very poor, and that this cycle of fight, breakup and reconciliation needs to be broken. But you have chosen silence as your response, not as would seem to ... (read in full...)
Anal sex embarrassment!
Q. I had anal sex last night and thought I was clean, when he went really deep I had a big accident and it literally went everywhere was so embarrassing my boyfriend was really good about it we had a shower and he has just shrugged it off but I am so ...
A. 28 August 2017: It's anal sex. It's not like in porn where everyone is fasted for 24 hours and an has had an enema to boot-it can get messy. You're boyfriend sounds cool. You should keep him. It's not a real analogy for life but when something that's supposed to be ... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend to be more tactile!
Q. I am just back from a lovely weekend with my bf of 45 of one year. Things have been strained as he has joint custody of two pre-teen children and he works away twice a week plus there is 50 miles between us. There is no drama with his ex or ...
A. 26 August 2017: “Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.” I don't know who really said it but it is true. Only you can decide whether his good qualities outweigh ... (read in full...)
What is your interpretation when a guy says that you are what he needs in a relationship, but he is scared that he is not what you need?
Q. What is your interpretation when a guy says that you are what he needs in a relationship, but he is scared that he is not what you need? His interpretation of need is that the girl is stable, respectable and knows what she wants in life and how to ...
A. 26 August 2017: Perhaps you are what he needs,but he doesn't want you. He paints a lovely picture of you then decides he doesn't want those things. Perhaps he fears he wants you to 'save'him and realise how fateful that is for a relationship. Perhaps he worries you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is asking for more than I can afford.
Q. Dear Aunts, I have been visiting my boyfriend for a week now so today im leaving ive decided to take him out for lunch. He just told me that it would be better if i buy him grocery. Im a student I don't have that kind of money. All i wanted was to ...
A. 22 August 2017: He might just be a bit thoughtless about your difference in means. Explain that you can't afford to buy all the groceries but perhaps spend what you were able to afford on lunch on some supplies. Then again he might be experiencing the harsh reality ... (read in full...)
How can I fix this? I'm in a rocky LDR and I am catfishing another woman!
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles. I'll try and keep this short. I'm a 30 year old female in a longterm and longdistance same sex relationship. Since we moved apart about 8 months ago, things have become boring. When wectalk it's generally quite negative a...
A. 22 August 2017: All this is because of the breakdown in meaningful communication between you and your partner. You are becoming emotionally detached from each other. When will you be together again? If you value your relationship you need to take steps to make this ... (read in full...)
I'm ready to leave, but how do I take my dignity with me?
Q. Ive been seeing a 34 year old guy for two full months now. He treats me well, takes me out to nice places well until i saw him texting other girls on social me. I caught him once flirting with girls the one time we went shopping together. I told him ...
A. 22 August 2017: I think you keep your dignity by leaving. It doesn't matter how. If you're looking for a pithy remark to depart with I'm sure the guys below can help you out. This man boy is making himself look foolish all on his own though ... (read in full...)
I like her a lot, she's gone cold, what can I do that wont mess it up?
Q. Met this awesome girl online, we hit it off immediately, we had a ton in common, both artists, both geeks, and into the same games. I asked her out and we had a great time at an arcade. we did a ton of art collabs together, played games together and ...
A. 22 August 2017: Sorry buddy she just isn't that into you. You need to take the hint. People who like each other move heaven and earth to see each other and that isn't the case. You didn't do anything wrong but something hasn't clicked. She thinks you're nice enough ... (read in full...)
Is it too much to ask to want a virgin partner?
Q. I am 25 and a virgin guy. Is it too much to ask for a virgin partner? I mean i have no disrespect for those who aint and i believe that every person has a choice. PLEASE HELP! ...
A. 21 August 2017: No its not too much. Do what you want to do.It's a bit weird that you want to forsake all of the amazing non virgins in the world for someone who hasn't had sex yet. Don't fall for the bollocks that your first time is special. What makes it special ... (read in full...)
We've fallen out over nothing. What do I do?
Q. I've been hanging out with this girl for the past 2 months(i know im slow). We have a pretty good friendship and I could tell it was heading towards a relationship. We had an awesome couple of days planned(aka dates) and basically we broke down and ...
A. 19 August 2017: You have probably correctly identifI ed your mistake. There isn't much you can do about making it right except let her know that you misread her attempts at connection and you are sorry if she felt slighted as this was not your intention. The meta ... (read in full...)
Family problems blighting my future with him
Q. Me and my fiancé have been together for over 2 years now. During his past relationship with his ex' this women had already had a child by someone else. This child was very little when they started dating. During the time they were together he got ...
A. 19 August 2017: It's a tough situation, but put yourself in her shoes. If she goes cool on her grandchilds mother, she could make it hard for her to see her grandchild. She may also be seeing it differently to her son, she may reason that whatever went wrong in the ... (read in full...)
Did he cross the line? I'm not sure.
Q. I have been seeing this guy for a little over a month now, things are good. He has his kids every weekend so that kinda sucks but all and all he is nice.. I haven't met his kids yet but it's a bit soon for that. Anyway I told him that I haven't had ...
A. 18 August 2017: You could not have been clearer. In some countries removing a condom during sex is a crime. In others you must knowingly be infected with an STD for it to be a crime. Regardless of whether it was criminal this he did it without your consent.If he is ... (read in full...)
Why can he have an orgasm now?
Q. been with my bf 21 yrs.he has never had orgasim from oral,we broke up 7 months ago now were trying to work on getting back together,when i give him oral now he does have orgasims why not before please help me understand....
A. 18 August 2017: You should ask a doctor. Are you asking because you think he's been doing it with someone else whilst you were broken up? Maybe. Maybe he hasn't and it was all in his head and he's over it now. Be thankful you can get him off in another way. I just ... (read in full...)
His ex girlfriends stuff is still a his place!
Q. I have been dating my bf for almost a couple months. He was w/his ex for a long time and still has her stuff tho its been awhile since they broke up. Her stuff is still there and I want it gone, I don't want her to have any hold on him. He has ...
A. 9 August 2017: Its a bit early to be throwing ultimatums about, if fact ultimatums are the worst way to get what you want. If you do it alot I'd change that habit pretty soon. In healthy relationships your partner will want to make you happy, not have to do some ... (read in full...)
What now? We were hanging out together a lot and I got her free lift tickets and helped her get gear!
Q. I have been hanging out with a girl for 6 months. I moved to town a year ago and was looking to meet new people.. so I come along and offer to take her skiing. Help her get gear, free tickets and we go. Skied a couple of times hang out and life is ...
A. 24 July 2017: Mate, I have run a bike shop for many years, that allows you pretty quickly to work out pretty quickly who is being friendly because they want free stuff, and those who are being friendly because they really like you. Generally the ones who really ... (read in full...)
I'm very puzzled by my boyfriend's giantess fetish. Can someone explain?
Q. Hello, i'm very open about porn and sexual things and nothing really phases me, however I found out my boyfriend has a foot fetish, it's not something that really did it for me, but seeing how turned on he gets by using my feet etc, i'm starting to ...
A. 24 July 2017: It cant be explained. Fantasies are a product of our subconscious, which in turn are a product of our childhood. Perhaps in his childhood he was sexually aroused by a woman who appeared giant to him. Not even he knows. I'm surprised by the previous ... (read in full...)
There's tension between us but she has a girlfriend. Am I misreading her?
Q. I am 25 yo fmale and feel as if i have som crazy chemistry with another female. The first time we met she stood facing me and we had this eye contact that was so intense, as if buildings in the background had blown up... We never spoke and the next...
A. 18 July 2017: I think you probably just try and talk to her instead of trying to read her mind. You'll soon discover whether it is mutual.
And you've gone over a year without discovering whether she is smart or funny. I'm not a lesbian but I'm pretty sure the... (read in full...)
A man who she has been dating for 3 weeks gets more recognition than I did in 3 years!
Q. I am so upset and livid right now and I just need some words of wisdom and kind responses to bring me back down. I'm a gay female. I spent 3 years in a relationship with a woman. I was the only woman that she'd ever been with. It was one of th...
A. 15 July 2017: I'm really feel for you, she didn't feel for you like you did for her. If there is a lesson to take from this it is that you should look at someone's actions not listen to their words. If someone won't stand beside you it matters more than a ... (read in full...)
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