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*onley lady
writes:been with my bf 21 yrs.he has never had orgasim from oral,we broke up 7 months ago now were trying to work on getting back together,when i give him oral now he does have orgasims why not before please help me understand.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (19 August 2017):
 I think too that the OP is concerned about his ex having had new or different experiences during their break up- like , he met some lady who provides state -of-the art oral sex and raises BJs to a whole new level of sensation.
But :
1 ) even if, so what ? Neither I would imply that he is a " pig " , and that he should not have pursued new experiences. You were broken up ! he was free to have as much sex as he wanted with whomever he fancied- same as you were.
2 ) Technically, it does not work. Suppose that he never came from oral sex with you because you could not supply an adequate level of stimulation, which he found somewhere else. Then, since he is back with you, he should be back to NOT coming through oral sex, because YOUR technique is, I suppose, the same as before.
Anyway, is that so important ? I'd focus instead in rebuilding your relationship on stronger foundations, avoiding the things or mistakes that made you break up before. But if you have this niggling curiosity which just won't go away, I suppose the best person to ask is him, who is the most qualified sorce to have some idea about this is happening. Not asking in an accusatory or whiny way- just simply, conversationally : " I have noticed that now when we have sex this and this happens, which did not happen before. What would you say the reason could be ? ".
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2017): I get why you worry, OP.
Men are mostly pigs.
So, you are concerned he got some experience with another woman.
He probably did.
This is what I would think too.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (18 August 2017):
 Dear lady, does it matter? Are you looking for a stick with which to beat him? Why not accept that your time apart has helped improve your sex life and enjoy being together again.
There could be an infinite number of reasons why he is now climaxing from your oral attention. Maybe you got better at it. Did you think of that one?
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reader, Allumeuse +, writes (18 August 2017):
You should ask a doctor. Are you asking because you think he's been doing it with someone else whilst you were broken up? Maybe. Maybe he hasn't and it was all in his head and he's over it now. Be thankful you can get him off in another way. I just don't know how to answer this. Or why it matters
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