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A lot of people ask if I'm from India... just to clear things up, I'm not. I'm not Indian, I just really liked that song by Aerosmith when I first made this account. I've never been to India. I'm not even an Aerosmith fan, really, but I really liked that song at the time.
I've been with my fella for 14 years, married for 10. We have two cool daughters and a pretty cool life that involves lots of adventure, art and laughter.
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Any ideas how I can talk to my mum about losing my virginity without upsetting her??
Q. I'm 16 and wanting to lose my virginity to my 20 yo bf of 4 months. I would prefer i told my mum cause then i have someone to talk to about it but i'm not sure how she would react. I know she would prefer if i waited till i was older but i told her...
A. 29 November 2007: Well, it should be private. Maybe have a girls night... go to a movie first, then go get some ice cream or some dinner and while you're enjoying your time together, tell her that you want to talk. Bond together first. Enjoy each other. Giggle ... (read in full...)
Any ideas how I can talk to my mum about losing my virginity without upsetting her??
Q. I'm 16 and wanting to lose my virginity to my 20 yo bf of 4 months. I would prefer i told my mum cause then i have someone to talk to about it but i'm not sure how she would react. I know she would prefer if i waited till i was older but i told her...
A. 28 November 2007: How wonderful that you want to talk with your Mom. I think she'll be proud that you want to be open with her and you want to make good decisions and you want to be safe. Does she like your boyfriend? If she does, it will be a lot easier to bring ... (read in full...)
I want to make love to my gf in every room in her house...how can I make this dream come true??
Q. My girlfriend and I are over 18 and in high school. We have a great relationship and are madly in love with each other. We have made love in her bedroom. We have both talked about how great that experience was more than once. I have been dreaming ...
A. 25 November 2007: First off, I think you should definitely go for individual sex in the individual rooms... let's see. You have 22 rooms in your house (I just counted) - that's 22 nights of exciting sex!! Each room is going to be different, and your sexual experience ... (read in full...)
Am I overweight? If so how can I get slimmer?
Q. I am a 15 year old girl, 5ft 10, and weigh 150 pounds. My parents say I'm overweight and that I should exercise more although I lead a healthy lifestyle, I exercise daily, I eat healthy. If there is any advice, how could I decrease my measurements ...
A. 25 November 2007: 5'10 and 150lbs doesn't sound overweight at ALL to me. You're a tall girl... if you don't mind me asking, do you also have a large chest? Because boobs add to weight, you know.
If you're eating well, exercising, and making smart, healthy choices ... (read in full...)
I like two guys, one of whom I have a history with, the other makes me laugh. Which one do I choose?
Q. ok well... i really like these two guys!! problem is they both like me back and i dunno what to do!! its a long story but i've gone out with lad 1 twice alredy but broken up with him 4 reasons that arent important anymore as they have been sorted!! ...
A. 25 November 2007: Sister, I'd go for guy #2. He makes you laugh, you can be yourself... those are qualities that really matter. I think guy number two sounds much more promising. You need someone NEW in your life - out with the old, in with the new.
Good luck, sw... (read in full...)
I'm 19 and he's 17, would dating him make me a pervert?
Q. ive recently started liking my cousins friend, we chat alot over msn and text.. we totally understand each other, the only problem being hes two years my junior, im 19 and hes just turned 17.. is this wrong, and will people think im perverted? my ...
A. 25 November 2007: Two years is NOTHING, sweetness. I think it's just fine and I don't think you're even close to being a "pervert". Your cousin is probably against it because it's his friend and it might be a little weird for him. Or maybe your cousin is just being a ... (read in full...)
His sexy talk makes me feel cheap
Q. my boyfreind talks dirty to me whenever i give him a blow job and its making me feel cheap. i dont mind it sometimes in bed, it can be hot, but he does it nonstop when im giving him oral sex. he says stuff like do you love my big co*k, and suck me ...
A. 24 November 2007: Sweetness, I think all you have to do is tell him that you don't like the dirty talk all the time. Tell him that in the bedroom it's okay, but during oral sex sometimes you don't want to feel dirty, you want to feel romantic.
I think he'll un... (read in full...)
He had a foursome before he went out with me, should I be worried?
Q. Hi. Me and my boyfriend have been together 10 months and it's great and so is the sex. until one day he let it slip that he done a foursome before he went out with me.? Is this something to worry bout? Also he watches a lot of porn and has magazine...
A. 22 November 2007: Are you seriously 13-15? If you are, any guy who ALREADY has a foursome under his belt, well... maybe you should be a little cautious. If he were older, I would say the past is the past, as long as you can handle a little kinkiness, etc.
Howev... (read in full...)
Can a man get sick from having sex while the girl is menstruating?
Q. i've been trying to have a baby with my partner of eight years.we've been trying to make a baby since last year and nothing has happened so far.i decided that we try having sex when i'm menstruating too but my partner is afraid of this because he ...
A. 21 November 2007: I am fairly positive that you can't get sick from having sex while on your period. Not to say that you can have unprotected sex because YES pregnancy can still happen (unlikely, but possible!!) and so can the transference of STD's, if you have ... (read in full...)
He doesn't go down on me anymore... Should I stop giving him head?
Q. hi,im in a stable relationship and have been for 2yrs until recently my partner loved going down on me and i him.it has been something like 2 months since he last went down and it seems he has no intensions of ressuming it,yet i have continued to ...
A. 21 November 2007: Nobody can be a mind reader, darling. You need to come out and ask him. If you are comfortable enough to have sex with each other, you should be comfortable enough to talk about it! Before you go as far as withholding hold from him (which I think is ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to ask a senior to my prom?
Q. OK, I have a few questions... 1. I'm a junior. Is it OK to ask a senior to a prom? 2. What if the girl has already attended a prom last year, is it still OK if I ask her for this year? Thanks lots....
A. 21 November 2007: I think you should ask whoever you'd like to go with. It doesn't matter the grade, I think it's totally cool if you ask a senior. I think she'll be flattered and happy to have a date for prom.
Go for it!
(have a blast at prom!)
xxIndia... (read in full...)
How come my boyfriend isn't jealous at all?
Q. My boyfriend says he loves me and he doesn't want anyone else to have me but him but when his friends try to get with me and flirts with me in front of him he doesn't do anything about it, even if it's a guy that he doesn't know. My last boyfriend ...
A. 21 November 2007: Perhaps your boyfriend (like mine) just really trusts you. Maybe he genuinely believes that you'll fend off these things by yourself or that you'll tactfully tell the men that you're already spoken for.
I'm sure if one of these guys was making y... (read in full...)
We lost our viginity to each other, but she's admitted a previous daliance, can I just let this go?
Q. hey people just wanted to know wot to do...ive been with my gf for about a year now we do hava good relationship..but theres a few things that bother me and im worried it may effect our relationship..we gave our vrginity to each other.. I keep ge...
A. 19 November 2007: I think you need to stop concentrating so much on her past and focus on your present time together. Who cares if she's had a few kisses in the past? What's one is done and all that matters is what you two share together.
Let it go, sweetnes... (read in full...)
Complications when drunk...is this normal??
Q. Alright so I'm wondering if this is normal, last night I hooked up with a girl but I was loaded drunk and was unable to get an erection. I know you're supposed ot have complications when you're drinking but I didn't think being flacid was one of t...
A. 19 November 2007: You are so normal, it's unbelievable. When you're trashed, it's really hard to get it up for a TON of guys. Nearly all of them... happens to my boyfriend sometimes too. We just laugh and play cards instead. (Drunk cards, it's good.)
Just lighten ... (read in full...)
I got angry at my mother, so I stormed out of the room offensively. Is this normal?
Q. Last night I got very mad at my mom and yelled at her and called her a bitch. She was listening to me talk about all the losers I've been dating (one was my ex-fiance I dumped a month ago). She just kept saying things like "I told you you shouldn't ...
A. 19 November 2007: Hey doll,
Sure I would have been frustrated too. Maybe I would've even stormed out... however, I really believe that your Mom is just trying to help you and she just wants the best for you. She probably said what she said because you have a habit ... (read in full...)
Do I have some kind of intolerance to milk?
Q. Hello, I was just wondering if i have some kind of intolerance to milk. I can have it with things, like in tea or hot chocolate or in cakes etc. Its just, on its own when i drink it, i always end up throwing it back up again. I dont particul...
A. 19 November 2007: I can't drink milk straight, it makes me sick to my stomach. My Dad is the same way. I think that you can have a slight intolerance to milk, but not be entirely lactose intolerant. I just don't drink straight milk anymore! I use it for cooking, for ... (read in full...)
I have a thing for virgins! Is this normal?
Q. I am a 21 year old female, and I have a thing for guys who are virgins. I really don't know why, I am not attracted to young boys, it is certianly not to do with age... so I am not a female pedophile at all, I just find myself wanted to sleep with ...
A. 19 November 2007: Hi there,
I actually have a few friends like you, who have a soft spot for virgins. They like the innocence of it all, they love "dirtying" up (seemingly) good boys. I don't think there's anything wrong with you, or the tendency to go for virgins.... (read in full...)
Period influencing growth?
Q. this may sound like a silly question but do you stop growing after you have started your period.(upwards and outwards)...
A. 18 November 2007: No you don't stop growing... you don't stop growing for a long time! I changed the most from age 18 to 20... I guess I was a late bloomer.
No worries, sweet thing!
xxIndia... (read in full...)
I've had my navel pierced, recently it's gotten really red. Is it a sign of rejection?
Q. hey guys can u please help? In april i had my navel pierced. I then went back to my peircer and he put a shorter bar in it. anyway, recently, it has got really red. top and bottom hole. also, it stings. however, its not pussing. it looks slightly ...
A. 17 November 2007: Hey there,
Go to a piercing place (best if it's the one where you got it pierced) and ask them what's going on. It sounds like it's infected, and they should be able to give you something to take care of it.
Good luck, sweetness!
xxIn... (read in full...)
What should I do about different sex views.
Q. My girlfriend that I have been steady with for 5 months doesn't view sex the same way I do. She is very religious while I am not. However, we don't fight about religious views yet she won't do many sexual things because of it. She is very in...
A. 17 November 2007: What should you do? You should stop pressuring your girlfriend into going any faster than she wants to. If she's not comfortable, you should NOT be pressing for more.
If you can't respect her boundaries, perhaps it is time for you to find a new gi... (read in full...)
I want to be a musician but my parents want me to go to college. What should I do?
Q. i am 16 year old girl an play a band , after my gcse i want to go ahead with playing music but my parents want me to go to college, what should i do?...
A. 16 November 2007: Be a music major!! You will only improve your craft and get challenged. You can also network and meet a lot of people who can help you on your way to being a musician. Show business is tricky to get into, but college can really help speed up the ... (read in full...)
Was I over-reacting?
Q. I really thought i was one of those liberal types-that's how i was raised. however, a week ago i discovered from a very reliable source that my boyfriend is bisexual and i just lost it! i broke up with him soon after because i felt he deceived me. ...
A. 16 November 2007: I just have to throw this in here... even though I agree that he deceived you, and you have the right to be upset, I don't agree with "anonymous's" comment. She said:
"Just because you are liberal doesn't mean you should be ok with dating b... (read in full...)
Did he text me by mistake or was it just an excuse to get in touch with me?
Q. Hi im puzzled about my ex but hope Im not getting my hopes up too high. We split 3 months ago and I broke all contact with him and hadnt spoke to him for all that time. Anyway, yesterday I received a very weird txt from him, basically it was abou...
A. 16 November 2007: I think he sent that text just to have an excuse to talk to you. I know I pull that kind of thing sometimes (it's stupid, but it works... you replied, didn't you?). Next time you hear from him, via fake "accidental" text, tell him "LOOK. If you want ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for men to do this especially when they are in a relationship? HELP ME!
Q. Every one looks at the opposite sex. Of course..you are going to notice a beautiful woman or a handsome man that walks in your path..right? A glance is ok..let it go..move on with the day. Well..my question is..my boyfriend of 3.5 years looks at ...
A. 16 November 2007: I sort of agree with you here, sweetness. I think it's perfectly okay to look, I think it's okay to maybe have a 5 second fantasy, but to be undressing them with eyes, masturbating later, getting erections, thinking about doing them, that's just ... (read in full...)
The thought of having sex with her appeals to me.
Q. Im confused about some feelings Iam having. Im a completely 100 percent straight heterosexual female. I have never been attracted to women. I love men. I have had many boyfriends, a few sexual partners, and i have even been engaged before. I never ...
A. 16 November 2007: Well, I think you are completely normal. there's nothing wrong with you... so you've found someone that you're attracted to. This doesn't make you a lesbian... perhaps a little bisexual (and that's pretty cool, you get the best of BOTH worlds!), but ... (read in full...)
What can I use around the house, since I don't have a dildo
Q. Ive gotten really bored. Me and my boyfriend cant see each other for a few weeks and lets just say i have a very strong sex drive. Since we cant be together ive gotten bored with my usually method of masturbation which is usually just rubbing. Can ...
A. 15 November 2007: http://www.clitical.com
LOTS of fun suggestions for female masturbation. It is seriously the best site in the universe. You will love it. Hope you get lots of wild ideas!
Enjoy, sweetness!
xxIndia... (read in full...)
What about how I say how good I was?
Q. My boyfriend gave me oral the other day in the back seat of my car. He had tried a few weeks before but didnt like it so he didnt do it til the other night. After that he decided he really REALLY liked doing it. The next day he did it again and it ...
A. 15 November 2007: Men (and women) love feedback! Let him know that he's blowing your mind! He'll know that he's doing a good job and it'll make him feel good about his skills in the bedroom. Nothing wrong with flattery (especially if it's sincere).
Every... (read in full...)
How soon can a doctor examination detect pregnancy? Earlier than 2 weeks?
Q. How soon can a Doctor tell that you are pregnant? I think I may be pregnant but I would probably only be 2-3 weeks pregnant, and I'm having an internal examination tomorrow - will he be able to tell if I'm pregnant from that?...
A. 15 November 2007: Hey there,
Well since you'll be at the doctors office anyways, you might as well ask the qualified doctor! I'm sure it won't be a problem for them to conduct a pregnancy test (via stick or blood). If it's too early to tell, the doctor will let... (read in full...)
My mom is involved with my friend - how do I react? They won't talk about it.
Q. hello i have a problem my mom is having sex with my friend and they both won't talk about it many times i caught him coming out of my house and many times i heard his voice in my mom room i don't know what to do i can't talk to mom and i can't ...
A. 15 November 2007: I think you need to CONFRONT your Mother. Firstly, if your friend is as young as you are, then your Mother is being sort of irresponsible. Sure your friend is of legal age, but he's still young and shouldn't be messing around with your Mother.
... (read in full...)
How can I convince him.
Q. Ok so I want to have a female-female-male 3some with my girlfriend and another girl. but she says she wont have a ffm 3some with me unless i have a male-male-female threesome with her... i dont want to have a mmf 3some but i really want to have a ...
A. 15 November 2007: You can't ask something of her if you wouldn't be willing to do it yourself. I say, if she says "okay, I'll fulfill YOUR fantasy, provided that you fulfill MINE" - that seems pretty fair. Otherwise, what's in it for her? Some women are very ... (read in full...)
Do I stay with my problematic bf or go for the older guy, who is 'not really' into relationships?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 20 months now, we have broken up once for about 2 months and then got back together. everything was going well but he is very difficult and we always fight about something. There is another guy that im quite keen on ...
A. 13 November 2007: Why either one? It sounds like neither of them are the real deal or the full package. Fins someone who has EVERYTHING that you need, not just bits and pieces. You don't want an older guy who doesn't like relationships (if you DO like relationships ... (read in full...)
He won't give me oral, but I give it to him, am I being unreasonable in wanting it?
Q. Hi everyone. Iam experiencing sexual troubles with my boyfriend. Iam 21, hes 22 and we have been going out for almost a year. We started having sex pretty recently and its pretty decent, except for one thing. I love recieving oral sex more than ...
A. 13 November 2007: If you don't like giving oral and yet you're doing it anyways to please him, you are being unselfish. That means that your boyfriend is being selfish, and I think it's only fair that you quit giving him blow jobs.
Tell him that it's simply n... (read in full...)
It's a neon theme this year.
Q. Homecoming is gonna be coming up soon. I want this to be the best night, but theres not much to do. How do I WOW my b/f. I dont even know what kind of dress to wear, last year I wore a halter, he seemed to be ok with that. I think its safe to say ...
A. 12 November 2007: I think a hot idea would be to go with something simple, sexy and sophisticated... the little black dress. However, your variation will be glow rings in your hair! Use them to wrap around a ponytail or a fancy updo! You can get thin glow rings that ... (read in full...)
My first time and I can't keep it up. What's wrong?
Q. I have recently encountered an embarrassing problem. Last night, I lost my virginity. I was ready, so I don't regret my decision at all. Thing is, I had a REALLY hard time maintaining an erection. Honestly, I don't know how we managed it since I was ...
A. 11 November 2007: Peoriaman, eloquently put. I completely agree. Don't get hung up on the performance of your penis... just remember WHY you're doing what you're doing (besides the fact that you're horny. * sigh* men. just kidding.)... you're making love because you ... (read in full...)
My first time and I can't keep it up. What's wrong?
Q. I have recently encountered an embarrassing problem. Last night, I lost my virginity. I was ready, so I don't regret my decision at all. Thing is, I had a REALLY hard time maintaining an erection. Honestly, I don't know how we managed it since I was ...
A. 11 November 2007: Peoriaman is crazy (sorry man, no offense. Usually I love your advice!)
Because you're gay? Men can't lose their virginity? I assure you, just because you had difficulty the first time does not mean that you're gay (unless you've thought about it... (read in full...)
What would you by for a lady friend?
Q. Here is my question; I just want to know, and this is mostly for the ladys, say you are a girl that is like not a real feminine type and does not put on jewlery and likes to have fun, what kind of present would you like to get from a guy?...
A. 11 November 2007: Ooooh, good gift ideas:
Season tickets. I think Season tickets are the best presents ever... they can be tickets to anything! You could get Season tickets to the theater (if she likes seeing plays), or to a sport that she likes, or even somewher... (read in full...)
I'm falling in love with a male friend who is straight, and a Christian. I'm worried about what he'd say if he found out.
Q. I'm a 21 year old male who is for the most part still in the closet. My problem is that I'm slowly starting to fall for one of my good friends who is a married straight man. I've done this before with my other male friends because I fall in love ...
A. 11 November 2007: Well, I gotta say... it doesn't sound hopeful. You seem to fall for unattainable men, at least in this case. If your friend is married, straight and a (conservative) Christian, it's not looking too good for you.
I think it is important to come ... (read in full...)
Is my brother correct?
Q. hi, my brother just told me that mixing fruit with pepsi or coke makes a drug and stays in your system for 70 hours and gives you illusions, the thing is i accidently did that and drank it i was wondering if its true, please help me. He also said he ...
A. 10 November 2007: What is with all of this "winding you up"?? It must be a UK thing, I guess. He's "pulling your leg" here in America. He's just messing around. I wish mixing fruit and Pepsi give you hallucinations... that would be AWESOME! A healthier alternative to ... (read in full...)
Does it get easier over time?
Q. Guys are always talking about how huge their penises are and it makes me worried that intercourse will really hurt. Should I be worried and does it just get easier to take a large penis over time?...
A. 10 November 2007: For real, Leanna is right. I'll bet 98% of the guys who are saying that they have huge penises are LYYYIIINNNGGG. But hey, alright.
In answer to your question, it does get much easier after time. Remember, your vagina is designed to push a BABY o... (read in full...)
He has pictures of his ex throughout the house but wants me to get used to it.
Q. The man i have be seeing for a year has pictures of his ex wife in his bedroom and throughout his house. he says they are family and vacation pictures and they shouldn't bother me. i have told him it does, but he hasn't changed anything and wants ...
A. 9 November 2007: If they are "family", they should've stayed married.
Are they pictures of only him and his ex-wife, or are there kids in the photos as well? If kids are in the photos, I'd allow for some pictures to be up - after all, they are his kids. But if i... (read in full...)
Is it OK for a women to watch porn on her own?
Q. I was hoping some girls out there could help me with a little problem that is almost ruining my relationship. Is it wrong for a women to watch porn on her own? My boyfriend, of 3 years came by my flat one night after work, and i was horny so i put ...
A. 9 November 2007: I think Maddierose had a good idea... perhaps he was a little defensive of his masculinity. I also think that maybe your boyfriend was just really shocked to SEE a woman watching porn, as most men only THINK that it's a guy thing. I think your ... (read in full...)
How to get him over his wedding fear?
Q. Ok, my boyfriend and I have talked about getting married one day. I told him I wanted a big wedding and he said he couldn't do that because he will get real nervous and probably pass out. Any suggestions for I can make him over come this fear?...
A. 9 November 2007: Well, firstly it sounds like he's not exactly ready for walking down the aisle... but, just remind him that everyone at the wedding will be friends and family and they're just coming to celebrate with you. Tell them everyone will have smiles and ... (read in full...)
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