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I think I may be qualified to help others because I have been in many situations, especially relationships for awhile now. I am only 26 but, I have been through many different situations that I could probably relate to on questions brought up on here. I live in Indiana in USA and have lived here my whole life. I would like to move, but I need to save up money before I pursue that dream. I also have a boyfriend at the moment, we have been together for a little over 4 years officially, but we've been seeing eachother for over almost 5 years. I've also known him for 8 years, so it's a little complicated, but I'm really happy with him. So I hope whatever information I give to anyone on here will help!

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Three years and no proposal!

Q.   I've been with the same guy for 3 years now. We have a daughter together and all of our friends say they are jealous of our relationship because we never fight. We know everything about eachother. The only thing I dont have is an engagment ring or a ...

A.   23 September 2010: Some relationships take a little longer to get to the engagement/marrying stage. I was with my now fiance for 5 years before he proposed to me. Every relationship is different and moves and different speeds. Maybe drop some hints, but definitely ... (read in full...)

How can I stop cheating on partners?

Q.   Hey everyone.....Im 16 years old and I have this problem. My problem is that with every boyfriend I had, i've cheated on. I can never have a boyfriend and not cheat on him. Its something that i hate doing and I know its wrong but I cant help ...

A.   13 February 2010: I was just like you when I was your age. I cheated on EVERY single guy that I dated until I got the one I wanted. I am 27 now and have been with my bf for almost 5 years and haven't and don't plan on cheating on him. You are just young and having ... (read in full...)

Do women in relationships still masturbate or have sexual thoughts about other men?

Q.   My wife and I were talking the other day and the topic of masturbation came up. When I asked her the question I am positive she fed me with a bullshit answer. So basically I want to take a poll here. The question for any married woman or women ...

A.   22 July 2009: I barely ever masterbate. I figure, if I want sexual pleasure, I'll let my man know and we can pleasure eachother. It is a very rare occasion I pleasure myself. ... (read in full...)

Should I go back to my ex-girlfriend, or stay with my fiancee who lied to me, and has a shady past, I do love her?

Q.   This is a mess of a problem... and after reading this, you won't like me. Partially because I'm discussing cheating on my fiancee, and further because I end up passing sweeping judgment on people who've slept around. Ironic, right? That said, if you ...

A.   18 July 2009: it sounds like your fiancee changed for you cuz she finally found someone she wanted to spend her life with. You cannot judge a person by their past, especially if they are unhappy about what they have done and tried to change themselves. That's not ... (read in full...)

I'm insecure and paranoid that he still has her as a friend

Q.   I used my husband's laptop the other day and I went on his Facebook and read his messages. He had received a message from a girl that he used to go to college with, they might have even dated in the past. She was basically saying to him "I can't ...

A.   14 July 2009: You are reading too much into this. You may not have knew that ladies talk to him that way because he don't take it into consideration. He seems to be happy with you enough to let this "party girl" know after her suggestions. I think you are safe ... (read in full...)

Does feeling a "real" penis make the difference???

Q.   My partner's stopped wearing a condom because we want to start a family. The third time we had intercourse this way I experienced my 1st ever orgasm - it was unmistakable and I really had to cry out with the pleasure. I was just wondering whethe...

A.   22 May 2009: I personally CAN NOT have an orgasm if my boyfriend wears a condom. It's only been a few times that he has and those few times didn't work so well. I believe it is the "real" feeling that got you your orgasm. It's more natural, more feeling, it's ... (read in full...)

Is paying strippers for a lap dance cheating?

Q.   My wife and I are going on a trip to Vegas soon and I'm wondering if it's okay to pay strippers for a personal lap dance...or is that cheating?...

A.   18 May 2009: Kinda depends on your guys' relationship. Some women really don't want their men getting a personal dance from a stripper. I know I personally wouldn't. You may want to ask her first before assuming she wouldn't mind. ... (read in full...)

His story doesn't add up... is he lying to me?

Q.   I have been married for close to 30 years and after a strange happening my husband told me he needs space and doesn't love me any more. Last week he told me he was going to a men's bible study group then came home and said he saw a stabbing and put ...

A.   6 May 2009: Was it the woman that got stabbed? If so, why would he put in a hotel instead of a hospital? If she was stabbed, she would be hurtng I would think. I don't think he is telling you the truth. Maybe you could ask him where he has been staying and see ... (read in full...)

I don't think marrying someone I can't have sex with is a smart choice... do you?

Q.   okay so i was confused and was with a guy for a year and 2 months..still had feelings for my ex..and i felt bad..everything was just wrong so like i was saying before here i was confused didnt know who to be i broke up with my bf and my ex ...

A.   29 April 2009: Sex shouldn't be everything in a relationship. If he isn't good at it, teach him a little something then. But you really need to make up your mind. If you keep thinking about your ex with your bf and keep breaking up with him because of the other ... (read in full...)

Do I have to tell my boyfriend everything about my past?

Q.   I have a serious question that I need advice on. I am in a long term relationship and I'm starting to get the feeling that my boyfriend is going to propose. I love him very much and definitely want us to get married. I have two things that I have ...

A.   29 April 2009: You do not have to tell him if you don't want to. It is YOUR past and you can keep it that way if you decide. It is far from necessary that he knows these kind of things about you. As long as you aren't doing those things while you are with him, he ... (read in full...)

My husband allowed me to have sex with someone else

Q.   My husband allowed me to have sex with someone else. Could he love me?...

A.   23 March 2009: The question is, do you love him? Just because he "allows" you to have sex with someone else, doesn't mean you have to.... (read in full...)

Is he cheating on me with my sister? Should I leave?

Q.   Is he cheating on me? Lately my fiance has been selfish. I was sick for example; this entire week and couldn't even get off the couch. I asked if he could please take our daughter with him to the gym. He said "it was too much of a hassle" when I ...

A.   19 March 2009: If you are giving him all this money a month and he's supposed to be a stay at home dad, why isn't he staying home then to watch the little one while you are sick? I would suggest bringing up this subject to him and let him know the consequences ... (read in full...)

Should I meet up with the Ex, even though I risk cheating on my boyfriend?

Q.   Please help - I was dumped over 8 months ago by a man I was head over heels in love with. I was devastated. I was so so down. I met someone else very quickly, who feel head over heels in love with me, and made me feel great, wanted and ...

A.   9 March 2009: If you are happy enough in your current relationship and he treats you how you deserve, why would you want to mess that up and go see your ex which dumped you? I think you should leave well enough alone and pass up the opportunity to go see your ex. ... (read in full...)

She "took" him from me and is now throwing it in my face, should I ask her to stop?

Q.   Hello I started a new job and this guy and i became close. He's married...Well this other older lady didn't approve of our closeness as she let me know here and ther. Well she befriended him and now they are' tight', and she likes to occasionally ...

A.   5 March 2009: This lady is probably just jealous of your for some reason since you had the attention first. You could as her to quit, but maybe you shouldn't really let them know that you are irritated. They are both in the wrong, especially since they are BOTH ... (read in full...)

I've cheated on her 3 times, now she said she needs space! How can I rectify this problem?

Q.   My girlfriend says she needs space from me, because I cheated numerous times and she took me back every time (cheated about 3x). The last time I got caught she saw me in pictures with the other lady, she forgave me and gave me another chance and ...

A.   18 February 2009: If you really love her, then give her the space she is asking for. She definitely deserves it! You're lucky the answer to your proposal wasn't a no, which it might up being in the end. You've hurt her pretty bady I'm sure. Above all that, you guys ... (read in full...)

My wife is leaving me because I cheated

Q.   My Wife of 2 1/2 years is leaving me because i was unfaithful on more than one occasion. I realized I messed up and want to fix it, but she just keeps saying no. no matter how much i beg and plead that ive changed and will get better, she doesn't ...

A.   11 February 2009: Nope. I don't believe you have any chance of getting her back. She's actually pretty smart for leaving. She's hurt and don't want you to hurt her, yet again. People say they change, and more than half the time, they really don't. If you have been ... (read in full...)

Will my sister get over what happened at her wedding?

Q.   I went to my sister’s (who’s very controlling and stubborn) wedding and my girlfriend join me as well. Even though my sister and gf don’t get along that well. Everyone kept saying my gf is going up stage the bride and her dress left a little ...

A.   23 December 2008: It will take time for her to get over it. This was her wedding, it's a very big day for most of us ladies and we want it to go as well as possible. You, being her brother, showing up late doesn't make for a perfect day for her. I would understand ... (read in full...)

Is it okay to try weed?

Q.   my boyfriend wants me to smoke weed with him but I won't because I'm allergic to cigarette smoke. do they contain mutual elements? or would it be fine if I tried it?...

A.   23 December 2008: Well, I'll give you a different answer than the rest of the aunts here I guess. I'm not going to say try it or don't try it, that is your decision and you'll do it either way, I'm sure. Weed is NOTHING compared to cigarettes. It's just a plant that ... (read in full...)

2 months and no "I love you"

Q.   Hi, My boyfriend and i have been together now for two months. He treats me really nice and i feel very lucky to have him in my life. Tee problem is that he has said he really likes me and has feelings for me and misses me when i am away. bu...

A.   17 December 2008: You shouldn't worry at all. 2 months really isn't the longest time and sometimes people are not ready yet only that far into a relationship to say "I Love You". It took me and my boyfriend about 4 or 5 months to say that. It just depends on when ... (read in full...)

Is 12 sexual partners considered slutty?

Q.   I've just starting going out with a great girl, we are both 22, but recently found out that she has had 12 sexual partners, I didn't take the news well, she has only had 1 one night stand in her past but I am still concerned that she sounds slutty ...

A.   9 December 2008: If she has only slept with 12 people, that's not bad at all, not like it should matter. Whatever she has done in her past, is exactly that, her past. Which didn't include you being with her so she was able to do whatever she wanted. One one night ... (read in full...)

I'm 3 months pregnant by my ex-drug addict boyfriend...

Q.   i'm 14 my boyfriend is 18. he used to be a drug addict but isn't anymore(THANKGOD). i'm 3 months pregnant by him. should i keep the baby or have an abortion? my family and his family know but he don't. i don't know whether to tell him or not. i ...

A.   3 December 2008: I think you should tell him, but don't prolong it any longer since you are already 3 months pregnant. You're just about at that stage where you won't be able to do an abortion anymore since you're so far along if that is what you choose to do. ... (read in full...)

I like him but he's married. Am I reading his signals wrong?

Q.   Hi all I'm 28yrs old, a full time mum to me gal aged 5yrs old. I kinda like a guy who works in the shop downstairs but he's married with a lil gal. Before I knew he was married, I sent him a note asking if he wanted to meet up for a drink. The...

A.   3 November 2008: You probably shouldn't be trying to read any signals whatsoever. He's married and that should be all the signals you need to know. You will find someone else and this time he probably won't be married. Don't wonder about this guy anymore, just leave ... (read in full...)

He's got a secret cell phone, could he be cheating on me?

Q.   I think my husband is having an affair! my husband has a cell phone that i "accidentally" found out about! he says his mom gave it to him. he hides it ALL the time, and if i ask to see it, he gets mad. the one time he let me hold it for a ...

A.   30 October 2008: Sorry to say, but that is definitely a sign of a cheater. There is no other reason for him to have a secret cell phone. If he wasn't hiding anything, he wouldn't be hiding the phone or having a lock code for it. Like mashay said, if he didn't know ... (read in full...)

I recently went through my husbands facebook messages and found out he has been flirting with this gal...

Q.   Hi I recently went through my husbands facebook messages and found out he has been flirting with this gal for a long time. It really upset me because the things he was saying to her were too deep for me. I confronted him and he says everyone...

A.   28 October 2008: Not everyone is flirting with others when they have a significant other. You don't have to deal with these actions from him. He is way out of line and if he respected you enough, he would quit talking to her. She should be nothing to him compared to ... (read in full...)

Would it be right to leave my current gf for my ex??

Q.   Hello, A few days ago, my "ex-girlfriend" recently got back in touch after 2 month without so much as a hello or goodbye. My ex and I had alot in common and i really start to care for her. But we never really had a relationship. we just use to s...

A.   18 September 2008: It'd probably be a good idea for you to go back to your ex if you don't even really have a good time with your current gf. I know I wouldn't want a guy to be with me if he didn't enjoy it. If it's the ex that you want, I say go for it. You haven't ... (read in full...)

He ejaculated in my eye, now I'm having problems seeing with it.

Q.   I have a really embarrassing problem so i thought i'd ask here where i can remain anonimous. I don't want to go to my doctor because im embarrassed by it. I was giving my boyfriend a blowjob a couple of days ago and something happened. Normally he t...

A.   12 September 2008: This has actually happened to me before! I just used a lot of visine and just waited it out. Maybe you might want to wash your eye out again. If it don't go away within a week, you might want to get that checked out, but I'm pretty sure it should.... (read in full...)

My girlfriend cheated on me and I think she is still cheating as she continues to talk to him daily...

Q.   I have been with my girlfriend for about 3 years.I was her only friend.We were happy,were always together,the sex was great until last december where i caught one of her txt to a guy she just met about a week ago saying "did you get the lubricant" ...

A.   3 September 2008: I would seriously give her an ultimatum. Either she quits talking to this guy or you leave. Why would you want to be in a relationship with someone that won't quit talking to who she cheated on you with? Don't believe it's okay for her to talk to ... (read in full...)

Why is he treating me so bad that I feel the need to harm myself?

Q.   my boyfriend is threaten me bad, he is ignoring me the most times he calls me a lot of names, he thinks that I have other lovers, he blames me for the things which his ex did to him(Stabbing, lying)I have never done something to him!but he doesnt ...

A.   3 September 2008: He's a selfish jerk! You don't deserve to be treated like this. I used to be in your shoes and used to harm myself, but it don't get you anywhere. You're beating yourself up for how he's treating you. Do you really love your boyfriend or are you ... (read in full...)

Is it OK to have an affair with a friend who's a hooker even though I have a girlfriend?

Q.   wow...! this' a little funny, but here it goes. I went to a pub one evening after a tiring day from work, and met a hooker. out of curiosity I thought I could just disturb her a little but without being serious on it. so I bought her a drink. b...

A.   21 August 2008: Why would you even have to ask if this was okay? Do you not know right from wrong? Break up with your girlfriend so she can find some trustworthy guy that don't have to have sex with prostitutes. That's just sick!... (read in full...)

A Threesome. Should I do it anyway and hate it or what?

Q.   my fiance and i have been together for over a year and a half and engaged for ten months. we also have a baby due in less then a month. he is wanting to have a threesome with an old friend of mine he considers hot. I told him no immediatly but he ...

A.   18 August 2008: If you do not want to do this, then don't. You will regret it once it is over and threesomes ruin a lot of relationships. If he respects you, he will accept no as an answer. Don't ever do anything sexually you do not want to do or something that ... (read in full...)

I was going to meet an online guy for sex and I think my boyfriend is controlling!

Q.   hi,i need help. my bf is jealous and controling. For over one year he is constantly finding my dating profiles and complains. He has given me an ultimatum,which i find petty. All i do is have sexy chats and send each other pics. I was going to meet ...

A.   5 August 2008: If you're in a relationship with someone, you really shouldn't be having ANY sexy chats with ANYONE. Why do you think your boyfriend is controlling cuz he don't want you on dating sites? This just doesn't seem right. If he didn't want you to be on ... (read in full...)

He's keeping photos of his Ex girlfriend. Why?

Q.   hi im 24 years old and im in this relationship with my boyfreind for a couple of months and i discovered in his email and as well on his computer pictures of his ex they were all over i spoke to him about it and i told him to get rid of them and ...

A.   1 August 2008: Okay, you have only been with this guy for two months. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years and haven't EVER asked him to get rid of his ex-girlfriends pics, just because that is his past and I wouldn't get rid of mine for anyone. Those are ... (read in full...)

Please let me know how to handle my crazy jealous wife!

Q.   I need advice this issue is tearing us apart. I met a friend online from another country. I find chatting with her interesting. There is nothing being said that is inappopriate. She is just interesting adn from a country I have always been ...

A.   31 July 2008: Honestly, I don't know what you DON'T see wrong with this situation. Just because this woman is from a different country, doesn't mean that anything to do with her should come before your wife. Your wife has EVERY RIGHT to act like she has. She ... (read in full...)

I caught my boyfriend in bed with my sister while her boyfriend was downstairs!

Q.   well. basicly. I CAUGHT MY BOYFRIEND IN BED WITH MY SISTER WHILE HER BOYFRIEND WAS SAT DOWNSTAIRS!!! well ive been with him now for nearly 18 months, i thought he loved me, and i adore him! well DID. im confused! so bad, i stayed at a friends house ...

A.   20 July 2008: I understand that you may love him, but he doesn't really respect you. He will just say what he knows you want to hear and something like this could happen again in the future. There ARE other guys out that that wouldn't even ever THINK about doing ... (read in full...)

I caught my boyfriend in bed with my sister while her boyfriend was downstairs!

Q.   well. basicly. I CAUGHT MY BOYFRIEND IN BED WITH MY SISTER WHILE HER BOYFRIEND WAS SAT DOWNSTAIRS!!! well ive been with him now for nearly 18 months, i thought he loved me, and i adore him! well DID. im confused! so bad, i stayed at a friends house ...

A.   19 July 2008: If he really loved and respected you, just because it's "put on a plate" for him, doesn't mean he has to accept. He should have eyes only for you and should've ignored the invite from your sister. You shouldn't ever take this guy back. He cheated on ... (read in full...)

She gets text messages from an ex. I'm not comfortable wiht it. Should I feel this way?

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years now. The whole time, she would get these random text messages from an unsaved phone number. It turns out it is a person (an X for lack of a better term) she had a fling with (before me), and found ...

A.   8 July 2008: If you are uncomfortable with this "x" texting her, you should just let her know. I don't really know if someone would be texting 3 years later if they never got a response. She obviously is hiding something from you. Let her know how you feel about ... (read in full...)

My partner speaks to her "friend" daily. Then I found sexual text messages...

Q.   I have recently got engaged and moved in with my partner. Until last week, everything was perfect and i couldn't imagine anything else i could wish for in life until we were driving home from work, my partner took a phone call from a friend i had ...

A.   30 June 2008: I honestly don't think you're reading too far into this. Those words shouldn't be joked about between a guy and an engaged lady. If you said you are uncomfortable with her male friends, she should have enough respect for you to not be saying those ... (read in full...)

How can I make my brother's wife have sex with me?

Q.   How I can make my brother's wife to have sex with me?...

A.   24 June 2008: You don't!... (read in full...)

Since it seems like my husband isn't going to step in, what am I supposed to do about his friend who is becoming scary and weird?

Q.   I'm going through a lot lately, but the easiest thing to write about is this really close friend of mine. I have this guy friend, who has had this crush on me since forever. I never really thought about it much, but he is starting to get scary and ...

A.   13 June 2008: This sounds exactly like something MY friend is going through. It's gotta be hard to have your husband take his best friend's side instead of his own wife's. Have you let him know about the friend trying to put his hand up your shirt? If that ... (read in full...)

Do you think smokimg pot affects a future marriage or that is ok?

Q.   My current bf smokes pot three times a day,but he seems like a nice guy, my ex wants me back (he does not smoke weed),do you think smokimg pot affects a future marriage or that is ok? Help...

A.   12 June 2008: Honestly, it depends on the smoker. Pot IS NOT what makes people undependable. It might make them lazy, it might make them have the munchies, BUT they will be dependable if they want to be. Yes, pot smoking does affect sperm, but it just really ... (read in full...)

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