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Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 2 December 2011: "Boris, there is a third option: find a girl with values and morals towards intimacy that are the same as yours. They are rare, but to me, they are worth looking for." Well, I'm that kind of girl... my sexual history is so low, that I can tell ... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 23 January 2011: OCD and obsession... but you speak as if you have no choices. The thoughts come and you decide to allow the "horror" movie to play in your mind and drive you insane.
I know it's not as easy as it sounds, but thoughts can be controlled through ... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 14 January 2011: Somewhatdamaged,
Tisha is right, it sounds like you badly need professional help and counselling. Your situation is slightly different from the usual RJ cases we here, and I suspect there is anger, hatred and guilt, over wrong choices that have... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 13 October 2010: I'm here... sorry guys had a problem with a little irritating net nanny, give me some time to catch up and read what you've all been talking about.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 14 September 2010: Disagree with your statistics Person12345, but here is where we totally meet.... the pornography we currently have is too painful for so many people. We need better and less degrading pornography. We need more women making pornography rather than ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend slept with 2 friends before me.
Q. I moved into a shared house with 3 girls F, D and S, and I started dating F, whilst I was with her the other girl D slept with my best friend. D was in a relationship with a guy she had been friends with a while Z, however whilst they were togeth...
A. 12 September 2010: Good luck.. lol.. live in the present, and create your own happiness...
I'm wishing you all the best that life has to offer... I think your decision is great.... (read in full...)
Divorce, from the child's perspective
Q. I dont really trust my family. Its not that I dont love them, because I do. I have two older sisters [17 and 22, im 13]. My mother is in her mid forties, my father is in his early fifties. When I was about six my mother called a family meeting, ...
A. 9 September 2010: Stuff, thanks Sis, I missed that one, and I'm always the one crazy about young people and online safety...... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 9 September 2010: PS: I don't like watching male strippers, I find it embarrassing. And if your embarrassed, the male strippers target you to embarrass you even more. If I ever get married, I'm hopping my girlfriends take me to Amsterdam to see a live sex show ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 9 September 2010: I'm from the UK, we have male strippers over here,and it's common for women to hire them or arrange a girls night out for some sexy fun. The most famous are the Chippendales, and we've a movie called "The Full Monty". Watch that, it is a very good ... (read in full...)
I will not make him marry me!
Q. When my boyfriend and I first got together, he said he didn't think he would ever get married. A while into the relationship, we talked about it as a possible option for us. Well, we got engaged July 9th. I was the one who asked and he said yes. It ...
A. 8 September 2010: Congratulations again honeypie...you've got two things going for you in this marriage. Your both in love and your both able to think about things, get advice and change your mind if you are wrong..
I see tons of happiness coming at you both, yo... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 8 September 2010: I worked in health before, and we fast tracked clients needing contraception as part of their work. The term was always "working women or man", and even at the lower end, the choice seemed to be prostitution and pornography gave them higher wages, ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 8 September 2010: No I don't think your anti-sex at all, and yes, it might sound like I accuse you of that. I read your posts and you don't portray someone who is anti-sex...
However, as I said, the evidence you bring up here, lacks intellectually rigour and vali... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 September 2010: opps.. sorry, I talk lots.. gonna go and hit the books now, and take your ideas about further research.. thanks person12345... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 September 2010: PS: Maybe them teen's you mentioned, don't like porn so much but see so many marriages which end in divorce...
Just because you record a phenomena, doesn't mean that porn is the cause... maybe they have more options than older folks to date and... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 September 2010: Sorry, but because some people get addicted to pornography, dosen't make it a danger to everyone. Because some people have a difficult time in the industry, dosen't mean that everyone does. Because you think that pain and sex is wrong, dosen't ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 September 2010: I went to the most popular porn site, and I didn't have to dig long.. what you say about the MAJORITY of porn, of what porn users like is wrong... I wasn't lucky and just happened to find less degrading things... What is viewed, and what is enjoyed ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 September 2010: "As for boredom/anal, since 1995 (around when internet porn became widespread) anal sex rates among teens doubled."
Problem with your statistics, that around this time, George W Bush targeted funds to promote abstinence and no sex in schools.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 4 September 2010: !Both portrayals are harmful, but in the sense that men get their ideas about how to treat women and sex and sexuality and general can be distorted." (Person)
Yep, this is the issue that concerns me.. not with adult men and women (I've no experien... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: We had a whole pile of Chinese shipped illegal to Britain to work at catching sea fish... They were not in the sex trade, but they were under the same slavery conditions. They were more than mistreated, a ton of them got washed away and died. We ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: Sex trafficking is illegal... that is more to do with the "war on drugs" than anything else... It is a technique to frighten people when you try to tie sex trafficking and pornography together like this. If you know of somebody being forced into ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: Commando Dude, remember we are all trying to play nicely on this thread although we all have different views. Please don't make things personal, we are just talking and sharing ideas.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: Also checked for the top viewed porn film on the same website. Woman has sex with boss. Has a story, a little bit of acting. Man and women are smiling. Women and man kiss. Woman get's oral sex. Movements are gentle. No talking, just "mmmmmm". ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: "Women in porn aren't human, they are bitches, whores, cumbuckets, sluts, etc... They are also almost always covered in semen at the end. They are three holes two hands, things to be penetrated"
Again, I must ask, what type of pornography are you ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: Katy Did and Miss Golightly (original poster) wonderful, wonderful posts... you both bring to the table so many issues, it's hard to tackle them all... wonderful discussion, I am very much enjoying this post.
Katy Did, you seem to take a feminist... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 2 September 2010: You get more than just a free jail pass.. you get thanks and admiration for coming back and showing your face and being willing to stand by your views. I know this subject is hard, and it's more easy to stay anonymous. But I'm so happy that you've ... (read in full...)
Checked out a porn link in my b/f's history
Q. I have a huge problem with my boyfriend's porn watching habbit. We've talked about it, and despite saying he'd never watch again, he still watches it every time I'm not home like I knew he would. But that's not EXACTLY why I'm upset. I feel super ...
A. 1 September 2010: mmm... thought about the smoking thing again.. sigh.. I will try harder to cut down, to smoke a bit less... maybe I won't give up... but heck, I can cut down a little bit right...
There, that's a compromise.. I'm trying..
Good luck, wishing yo... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: But reader anon, now you want to police people's thoughts, and that is very difficult and it's also dangerous. People think all kinds of things, not only men, but women too. It's a good thing we can't read minds, otherwise we'd find out the your ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: Nope, that's still wrong isn't it.. it's 85% of people who use porn.. sigh.. ... (read in full...)
Checked out a porn link in my b/f's history
Q. I have a huge problem with my boyfriend's porn watching habbit. We've talked about it, and despite saying he'd never watch again, he still watches it every time I'm not home like I knew he would. But that's not EXACTLY why I'm upset. I feel super ...
A. 1 September 2010: "We've always been told to deal with it, to pretend it's not there." (original poster)
But that's the problem.. you can dislike pornography all you want, but if he likes it and refuses to stop, then you have few options. Remember, you want him... (read in full...)
Checked out a porn link in my b/f's history
Q. I have a huge problem with my boyfriend's porn watching habbit. We've talked about it, and despite saying he'd never watch again, he still watches it every time I'm not home like I knew he would. But that's not EXACTLY why I'm upset. I feel super ...
A. 1 September 2010: That's the problem.. you decide that it's not important to someone, then you decide that they should give it up. As you have noticed, the world doesn't work like that. People do things that they want to do, they resent being forced, they also ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: Mmmm.. anon, this was set up to be a positive post where people can express themselves. I'm really sorry you feel that way about somebody else.
Person 12345, I can see where I went wrong. No good at sums you see. From what you are saying, ... (read in full...)
Checked out a porn link in my b/f's history
Q. I have a huge problem with my boyfriend's porn watching habbit. We've talked about it, and despite saying he'd never watch again, he still watches it every time I'm not home like I knew he would. But that's not EXACTLY why I'm upset. I feel super ...
A. 1 September 2010: Babes, please go and join our porn discussion, where anti-porn, pro-porn, and don't mind are all talking.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-is-there-no-middle-ground-when-it.html
We are trying to find a way to compromise in discussion..... (read in full...)
Checked out a porn link in my b/f's history
Q. I have a huge problem with my boyfriend's porn watching habbit. We've talked about it, and despite saying he'd never watch again, he still watches it every time I'm not home like I knew he would. But that's not EXACTLY why I'm upset. I feel super ...
A. 1 September 2010: Please read "My secret Garden" by Nancy Friday. It may interest you to know that rape fantasy is also common with women. Like the BDSM scene, it may look hurtful and hateful, but often it's about issues of control and acceptance. Same stuff goes ... (read in full...)
Tired of being dished the crap in relationships! How do I become a stronger woman?
Q. i need some advise. i am 28 yrs old and all ive ever done is let men run all over me in my relationships. how do i become that strong woman and put my foot down. im tired of crap...
A. 31 August 2010: Make your standards before you start dating, decide what type of guy you want and how you expect to be treated. Then you'll pick the right type of man, and will also react to the first sign of disrespect. Do not judge your next man by the failures ... (read in full...)
Freaked out BF in bed and he left!
Q. ok -- this is going to take a second so I will do a TL;DR. first, this is a throwaway account b/c... so, here's the deal: tonight I totally freaked out my boyfriend. I had hidden a piece of a hot dog (about 2 inches) which I had broken off before ...
A. 31 August 2010: I can see hot dog sales going through the roof right now... ladies this is supposed to be a lesson on when not to tell a joke, not an example that you should run out and try to copy.
Hell babes, sorry about everything. But it is funny, and if h... (read in full...)
My daughter is feeling left out! What should I do?
Q. Feeling Very Hurt and Left Out I helped someone out with her daughter lots of times, and I became friends with the mom. We went to our kids' activities together and we invited her daughter over as she was the same age as my daughter. M...
A. 31 August 2010: I'm sure you posted here before, sorry to see things haven't changed. The problem is that you and the mother are friends. But there is no reason to think that your daughters should be friendly. For all you know the other daughter may hate your ... (read in full...)
Does anyone think I'm guaranteed to be pregnant now?
Q. I'm 14 and i've had a misscarriage before and it really hurt me as i'm a loving person i'm not a mad teenager who take's drug's or is out every night of the week drinking. I'm a quiet type of person i don't go out unless it's with my family. i like ...
A. 31 August 2010: Only one question I have.. What if you have another miscarriage again, or what happens if your child is disabled? Children are more at risk from having problems in pregnancy. Children shouldn't be having children. You started having sex w... (read in full...)
Classy photos just for me?
Q. I want to take boudoir style photos of my self, because i think they are really classy. I want them just for me the only problem is that I am only 16 and is it really that wrong to want to take photos just for me? That are very classy photos? ...
A. 31 August 2010: Sigh, sorry spunky monkey, people on the internet always seem so sensitive about my words. I wrote my answer without looking at yours, so no offence was meant.
I was just thinking back to when I was 16 and what my room looked like. I was also... (read in full...)
If he can't even stick his tongue in my mouth, what good is having a "normal" sex life????
Q. My husband wants to start having a normal sex life with me, but he won't even french kiss me or start making out with me. His idea of foreplay as he told me would be to do the "69" position. The bottom line is he is willing to do anything sexually ...
A. 31 August 2010: Not valid if it's not consummated. You two need to have had sex. If there's no sex, then it's very easy for either one of you to get out. Just a little bit of paperwork.
Now don't get me wrong. I am pro-porn and I have no problem with a man lo... (read in full...)
If he can't even stick his tongue in my mouth, what good is having a "normal" sex life????
Q. My husband wants to start having a normal sex life with me, but he won't even french kiss me or start making out with me. His idea of foreplay as he told me would be to do the "69" position. The bottom line is he is willing to do anything sexually ...
A. 30 August 2010: Lady you won't need to divorce your husband... actually he is not your husband. The marriage is not consummated and so is not valid. You can go an get an annulment anytime you want.
Have you considered that your husband might be gay.
If it's... (read in full...)
Super Affectionate in Private, Cold in public
Q. I am a 29-year-old woman who has been dating a 40-year-old guy for over a year and a half. When we met and started dating, he had been divorced for a few months. When we first started dating, we kept it quiet because we know a lot of the same peop...
A. 30 August 2010: He doesn't like to feel vulnerable with strangers. He can relax and show you love when he's in a situation where he is safe. But when he's around strangers and acquittance, he turns into warrior man, alone and totally invulnerable.
Think... (read in full...)
I'd like to have an open marriage!
Q. i am married and have been for years but i would like to have a open marriage with our friends that we have know for years how do i go about ask my husband and my friend about this...
A. 30 August 2010: This is so hard to do.. first you need to talk to your husband and see what he thinks about adding people to his marriage. I don't suggest you actually mention the people who you want to have sex with. Just mention it as a private fantasy at ... (read in full...)
Freaked out BF in bed and he left!
Q. ok -- this is going to take a second so I will do a TL;DR. first, this is a throwaway account b/c... so, here's the deal: tonight I totally freaked out my boyfriend. I had hidden a piece of a hot dog (about 2 inches) which I had broken off before ...
A. 30 August 2010: I think that's damn funny.. lol
But men are funny about such things, and I don't think he saw the joke. He will come back, but maybe your joke freaked him out too much to stay.
Humour is a strange thing, what makes me laugh might make you c... (read in full...)
I don't want to depend on porn to keep me horny
Q. I am having a problem with maintaining the right thoughts during sex. Sometimes, I get so preoccupied with other thoughts, I actually lose my erection or dont orgasm. I look at porn online often, and find that it stimulates me mentally and helps ...
A. 30 August 2010: I think you need to lay off the pornography. It's interfering with your sex life very, very badly. Stop all pornography and masturbation. When you get horny, you will find out your brain starts to think properly when you have only your woman to ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend slept with 2 friends before me.
Q. I moved into a shared house with 3 girls F, D and S, and I started dating F, whilst I was with her the other girl D slept with my best friend. D was in a relationship with a guy she had been friends with a while Z, however whilst they were togeth...
A. 30 August 2010: You dated F, maybe she feels that she's not your first choice and you prefer the other girl. Maybe she's upset to know you slept with and loved a woman she actually lived with.... (read in full...)
She wants to lose her virginity to me but I'm not sure if I want to spend the rest of my life with her because of her past!
Q. hello im with this girl i know through internet..we been together for 2 years but we still havent met since we live far away. anyway i know everything about her and her past is actually haunting me..she didnt do much but just the idea that some oth...
A. 30 August 2010: Go and tell her about your feelings. Tell her everything you have said to us. I think this will solve your problems very quickly, especially if she a British girl.... (read in full...)
Incredibly complicated question
Q. [MOD NOTE : OP's OWN TITLE] Hi all i'm a 27 year old man, 6 weeks ago my girlfriend of 5 years and I broke up, no particular reason, we hadn't been getting on for a few months, weren't looking forward to seeing each other and weren't enjoying each...
A. 30 August 2010: Your relationship has problems and that's the main issue, not who you slept with. After 5 years, you break up for no particular reason, you two just didn't enjoy each other's company. Stuff like that hurts, and then going to FWB, that hurts as ... (read in full...)
I got asked to homecoming by the wrong guy and don't want to go but I said yes
Q. Okay, I know- this may just seem like typical high school drama, but it's indeniably important to me. So please answer seriously. The background: I'm in 11th grade. A boy who is also in 11th grade(Guy A) and I are pretty good friends and I'm pre...
A. 30 August 2010: You and Guy A are good friends. Go tell him about your problem, but don't make fun of Guy B, that isn't very classy. It's good to keep your promises, so I think you should go out with Guy B so he doesn't get embarrassed. But you don't have to ... (read in full...)
I can't stop fantasising about my wife having sex with another man!
Q. I can't stop fantasizing about my wife having sex with another man.I've asked Her but She's afraid it might ruin our marriage.I think about this everyday. How do I move on ,or better still how do I convince My Wife?...
A. 30 August 2010: What will this bring to your marriage. Threesomes are notorious for bringing people pain and jealousy and leading to divorce. Write down a list of why it would be good for you, your wife and your marriage, then write down a list of why it would be ... (read in full...)
My wife lied to me about her sexual past until 12 years later...
Q. my wife lied too me about her sexual past before we got married, she told me only one partner, too find out 12 year later she slept with four other men when she was a teenager. but she did come out and tell me because it was bothering her for so ...
A. 30 August 2010: I think the poster has made up his mind.. further down he updates his post and wants to stay with his wife.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 30 August 2010: Hey, original poster, miss Golightly. I got a question for you. You've tried very hard to change your attitude and solve the problem of porn in your relationship.
But still sometimes it makes you feel bad. Can I ask why?... (read in full...)
Divorce, from the child's perspective
Q. I dont really trust my family. Its not that I dont love them, because I do. I have two older sisters [17 and 22, im 13]. My mother is in her mid forties, my father is in his early fifties. When I was about six my mother called a family meeting, ...
A. 30 August 2010: Hey Q, she's my favourite too... you've become very popular young lady, everyone is talking about how smart you and nice you are.
Anyway, divorce.. sorry, bad stuff happens. The problem is, everyone is so busy fighting, so busy worrying about th... (read in full...)
I didnt fight back when he had sex with me because my daughter was watching, and I had sent nude pics to him before. Was this still rape?
Q. I was raped by my boyfriend's best friend in front of my three year old daughter. And another friend in the car. Ive been to the police. Im having a hard time dealing with it he claims i wanted. And it wasnt forced, i went to the store to buy them a ...
A. 30 August 2010: So sorry babes, but please feel proud of yourself for ignoring their threats and trying to stand up for yourself.
So very, very sorry, and sorry for the next woman they will hurt. Please protect yourself very carefully from now on.... (read in full...)
She wants to try oral sex but then again she doesn't!
Q. My girlfriend won't let me eeat her out because she says she don't know when to stop, she is afraid that she will have an orgasm and she says she will het too wet... What do I do, she also says she wants to try it out, so im really confused. I ...
A. 30 August 2010: Be very patient and move very slowly. Please do not nag her too much about this. Act with her like she a frightened pussy cat, you need to tempt her, she is truly very scared even though she's trying to try to be brave.
Don't talk about "eating ... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 30 August 2010: This interesting post has come up again.. I'd like to repost something pyroshadow said which I thought was very helpful.
"You should be trying to help him. Trying to tell him that its not his fault he loves someone who has done such awful things. ... (read in full...)
I caught my boyfriend dressing up like a girl!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for 3 years. This all started a year ago when he started to like putting nail polish on and wear heels and nylons. I learnt he had transvestic fetishism which I accepted and moved on... Well last night ...
A. 30 August 2010: As you said, he's got a transvestite fetish. Transvestite's are usually straight heterosexual guys and only like to have sex with girls. He likes make up and woman's clothes. That doesn't make him gay, that doesn't make him want to be a woman. ... (read in full...)
We had sex and now he treats me like crap
Q. Ive got a problem with a guy im seeing but and i really like him but he doesnt show any interest in me. The second time i slept with him he wanted to do what they do in da end of a porn movie in my mouth so i said hell no next day i called him he ...
A. 30 August 2010: Nothing wrong with you. This guy used you for sex, he shows you no respect. He dosen't want you for a friend, he actuallly just wanted to use you as a porn doll who can actually move.
There is nothing wrong with you. But there is somethin... (read in full...)
Classy photos just for me?
Q. I want to take boudoir style photos of my self, because i think they are really classy. I want them just for me the only problem is that I am only 16 and is it really that wrong to want to take photos just for me? That are very classy photos? ...
A. 30 August 2010: Great idea... cousin told me of a trick, hold the camera right above your head to get that sophisticated look. You could also ask your mother to take them. I think your going for the classy Hollywood model look, yep, far better than any poster. ... (read in full...)
I will not make him marry me!
Q. When my boyfriend and I first got together, he said he didn't think he would ever get married. A while into the relationship, we talked about it as a possible option for us. Well, we got engaged July 9th. I was the one who asked and he said yes. It ...
A. 30 August 2010: Damn girl, grab that wedding ring.. this is silly. He didn't want to get married, many men don't. But you asked, he thought about it... He loves marriage now because it's either that or loose you. He's bending over backwards. If it will make you ... (read in full...)
Questions about sex and our marriage....
Q. hi everybody.; 1. tell me what is masterbating? i am 6 years married and have 5 years baby...1 year ago a miscarriage and d.n.c. .;..now we want baby but alas....i always enjoy sex but my husband come soon and cannot have orgasm.;some people s...
A. 30 August 2010: Hello wife..
1. Masturbation. You touch yourself, you touch your sex parts with hands or with penis like object (for women). You touch yourself until you orgasm. Women can do this, so can the man. Masturbation is good for when the man is tired... (read in full...)
What does it mean "I think I like you"?
Q. So I went on an amazing date had fun and everything. The next day I asked him if he liked me and his response was "I think I like you" what does that mean?...
A. 29 August 2010: Mmmmmm... get's out male-to-female translation dictionary...mmmmm...uhuhhhh... mmmm..
HE LIKES YOU LOTS AND LOTS... he thinks your fun to be with, he thinks your beautiful, you got style, your interesting and he loves your eyes. Now he's got to b... (read in full...)
She won't swallow!! Help!
Q. How after 5 years of great sex do I get my girlfriend to swallow? I return the faver to her in every way..oral sex, anal licking, she dose not like oral sex on her but she lets me preform it on her every so often and enjoys it most of the time. She ...
A. 29 August 2010: yep.. was gonna say the same thing... try to stay away from acidic foods like lemons and oranges.. your the taste of your semen can be improved by diet. And you did say she will let you come in her mouth sometimes, even if she doesn't like to ... (read in full...)
I cannot live like this any more...
Q. I have ben involved with a married man for 6 years. We are both married. I have 2 children in high school. I have told my husband that our marriage is over once the kids leave home - we are civil. My lover's children are college graduates but still ...
A. 29 August 2010: No, don't write the letter. Do you want the man to come to you because he loves you, or do you want him to come to you because you destroyed his marriage?
This guy is supposed to be your soulmate. Soulmates find it hard to be apart. You did ... (read in full...)
My daughter does PORN!!
Q. i have found out in the last year that my daughter is a pornstar and before that worked as a escort, i am finding this hard to deal with as she does not care whom it affects in her life, i have just lost my relationship over what she does, my ...
A. 29 August 2010: Ah, there you are, I couldn't find your post again... so sorry about the guy, but I am more concerned about you.
We make it sound so easy.. "so what your daughter does porn, that her choice, it's a job". But of course it's not that easy. It's no... (read in full...)
We are both 14, had a miscarriage. Should we try again to have a baby?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are both 14 and are madly in love. weve been together for about a year now and had protected sex a few months ago. she ended up having a miscarriage and that made us both completely sad. :( We love eachother alot and wanna have ...
A. 29 August 2010: No babes, if you love her, then kiss and hold her and find a way to do well at school and get a good job with money. She'll love you more if you get a good job and can buy her and your "future" baby anything. Life is hard when you are young and ... (read in full...)
Surely its up to me if I watch porn! Isn't it?
Q. Men are visual when it comes to sex! Its a fact..so if your girlfriend will not do sertin things in bed then is it really that rong to watch porn? Insted of tryin to make her do sertin things that she don't wanna do I think she should be fine with ...
A. 29 August 2010: Sorry my answer was so strong, and probably very unfair... it's just that you make it seem as if there is something wrong with her for not sharing your sexual interests.
There are many ways to satisfy yourself and your girlfriend, why do you turn... (read in full...)
How do I tell my 3 year old..that my husband isn't her biological father?
Q. hi! I'm 22 years old and married to an amazing man! We have two children together but one is only biologically his! What i want to know is how do i tell my 3 yr old daughter that she has another father, while still making it clear that my husband ...
A. 29 August 2010: Dear anon, the original poster has contacted me... it doesn't seem she has a choice because her child has already noticed that her biological father's family exist.
Telling a 3year old because you feel you should do, is very different from the... (read in full...)
How do I tell my 3 year old..that my husband isn't her biological father?
Q. hi! I'm 22 years old and married to an amazing man! We have two children together but one is only biologically his! What i want to know is how do i tell my 3 yr old daughter that she has another father, while still making it clear that my husband ...
A. 29 August 2010: 10 or 12 is too old as far as I'm concerned, it will make her feel worried as if something is wrong. I missed the part when you said she was smart, and more like 6years old. If she's smart, she's already wondering why her and her dad are ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my 3 year old..that my husband isn't her biological father?
Q. hi! I'm 22 years old and married to an amazing man! We have two children together but one is only biologically his! What i want to know is how do i tell my 3 yr old daughter that she has another father, while still making it clear that my husband ...
A. 29 August 2010: She's too young to understand this conversation, please wait until she is older. It's best if you and your partner do it together, wait until she's about 6 and starts asking questions about families and sex.... (read in full...)
She won't swallow!! Help!
Q. How after 5 years of great sex do I get my girlfriend to swallow? I return the faver to her in every way..oral sex, anal licking, she dose not like oral sex on her but she lets me preform it on her every so often and enjoys it most of the time. She ...
A. 29 August 2010: Your girl is not a prostitute, you don't pay her with good works and then expect something back.
She doesn't like to swallow... sperm is thick and acidic and it tastes like shit... why can't you accept this.. why do you expect payback for treating... (read in full...)
Surely its up to me if I watch porn! Isn't it?
Q. Men are visual when it comes to sex! Its a fact..so if your girlfriend will not do sertin things in bed then is it really that rong to watch porn? Insted of tryin to make her do sertin things that she don't wanna do I think she should be fine with ...
A. 29 August 2010: I think your bloody selfish... your girlfriend doesn't like pornography, it humiliates her and hurts her.. why don't you spend time on making her feel good, instead of playing with yourself in front of a computer screen.
Sure you have the right to... (read in full...)
It took me a while to orgasm? what can I do to make it faster?
Q. My boyfriend just gave me an orgasm last night! Initially i had given up that maybe its only me who can give myself an orgasm but he did it last night.It was through oral sex.We've been having sex for 6months now and he's been going down on me since ...
A. 29 August 2010: Sigh, was I wrong, listen to Q, men are so easy to please...... (read in full...)
It took me a while to orgasm? what can I do to make it faster?
Q. My boyfriend just gave me an orgasm last night! Initially i had given up that maybe its only me who can give myself an orgasm but he did it last night.It was through oral sex.We've been having sex for 6months now and he's been going down on me since ...
A. 29 August 2010: In sex, woman is the queen.. your pleasure is the most important thing.. Do not worry, if it takes you 10 hours to find pleasure he will be please.. Any man that loves you and respects you will be able to wait. If it takes you a long time, he will ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 29 August 2010: One last question? Apart from no discussion about masturbation addiction.. what prevents women from getting addicted to porn... a low number of women look at pornography, but by your statistics, one in four of them must have problems with ad... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 29 August 2010: From what I can see, your one in four people who are so called "addicted" have a very simple solution.. they find a woman who doesn't have porn issues and then the problem is solved... Not much of an addiction if it can be solved so easily.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 29 August 2010: I'll put it this way, a higher percentage of porn users are addicted to porn than the percentage of alcohol users who are addicted to alcohol, but we still warn people that they could develop a dependence on alcohol and warn people about it's ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 28 August 2010: "15-20 of addicts do get addictive!!!!!!!".. that seems very high to me... but your probably going by the questionnaires that are on the web... addicted includes people continuing pornography even though their partner dislikes it.... I did one of ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 26 August 2010: "We need to make sure when people are young, they learn that porn is a) addictive"
But this is where me and you disagree.... it sounds like you think that everyone who looks at porn must have an addiction problem... but surely before you stated s... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: "Actually my boyfriend hated that "eye crap" I'd wear (for different reasons) so I wore it a lot less." (personwithnumbers)
I think we are moving towards compromise.. I'm trying for no total ban, but to indulge in pornography less and to keep it ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: "But I think a lot of the problem is that men don't just want the visual, there's some kind of feeling of entitlement to ogle lots of other naked women."
Be careful when you say such things, especially if the pig is around. He tends to get very... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: Yes "aunt out of hiding and now moving" it's that middle group that is the problem... and yes their needs should be met as well..
Fair compromise for me is, he's allowed to look at porn outside the house and he tries to reduce his usage, she does... (read in full...)
She wants to lose her virginity to me but I'm not sure if I want to spend the rest of my life with her because of her past!
Q. hello im with this girl i know through internet..we been together for 2 years but we still havent met since we live far away. anyway i know everything about her and her past is actually haunting me..she didnt do much but just the idea that some oth...
A. 23 August 2010: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/retroactive-jealousy--how-do-i-overcome-it.html
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http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-it-possible-to-get-over-retroactive-jealousy.html... (read in full...)
My daughter does PORN!!
Q. i have found out in the last year that my daughter is a pornstar and before that worked as a escort, i am finding this hard to deal with as she does not care whom it affects in her life, i have just lost my relationship over what she does, my ...
A. 23 August 2010: Your partner decides to leave you and you blame your daughter... you want your daughter to change her life to make your partner happy... That's going too far... how can you let a man have that much control. Your daughter's life is her's to live, i... (read in full...)
She wants to lose her virginity to me but I'm not sure if I want to spend the rest of my life with her because of her past!
Q. hello im with this girl i know through internet..we been together for 2 years but we still havent met since we live far away. anyway i know everything about her and her past is actually haunting me..she didnt do much but just the idea that some oth...
A. 23 August 2010: She's a virgin but you are still worried about her "past"... Are you a virgin too?... (read in full...)
I didnt fight back when he had sex with me because my daughter was watching, and I had sent nude pics to him before. Was this still rape?
Q. I was raped by my boyfriend's best friend in front of my three year old daughter. And another friend in the car. Ive been to the police. Im having a hard time dealing with it he claims i wanted. And it wasnt forced, i went to the store to buy them a ...
A. 23 August 2010: Coercion is rape, if you were frightened for your daughter and didn't want to scare her, then the police will consider this as force.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: "I just think it's different with the porn thing from make-up, from going out with the guys, from whatever because it hurts her deep down at her core and while in a relationship, it seems like you should just want to do everything you possibly can ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: Your missing the point... Asking a man to never look at pornography even in private is controlling..
Asking a woman to stop wearing make-up and dress like her grandmother is controlling.
Both are based on the other persons insecurities. I... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 22 August 2010: Where is everybody... bohoooo.... I'm all alone now...
Anyway, I got a question.. I lifted it from an anonymous lady who answered a question on porn.. I thought it was interesting, so I'll post it here...
"What if he turned around saying th... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 22 August 2010: OK.. I understand now, thanks to wikipedia..GGW indeed..... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 22 August 2010: What's GGW.. please translate for British readers...
And I should have guessed it was you... lol.. I could see your beliefs through your opinions, but you have been totally respectful towards us people with different points of view... Now that's t... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 22 August 2010: No dear, your aunt in hiding, and yes your arguments are very good indeed.. thank you very much for sharing.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: I did promise to answer you questions, and no I didn't forget, but the research from Miss anon aunt who is hiding, has been compelling and interesting..
Now I see you thought I was making fun off you.. no, pure misunderstanding on your part. W... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: "Thanks Miamine for your sarcasm "but this brings us back to real life and Miss Golightly's original post." Perhaps if you had a relationship on the rocks after 14 years due to porn, you might be a bit less nasty and a bit more empathic. On the ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: Couldn't agree more. There's been a rise in unplanned teen pregnancy recently and this has been cited as a possible reason (obviously no one really knows).
In the UK (and I think across Europe) there has been a drop in unplanned teenage pregnanc... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: We are all totally agreed that pornography is not for children, and our efforts should be (anti-porn and pro-porn) to put in controls to make it harder for them to access it.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: "In terms of sex versus porn addiction, porn is much riskier than sex in terms of addiction I can't say why for sure it is so much riskier, but some think it's because in some users it's actually a much more intense experience than sex alone."
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Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: Yippie.. a true scholar.. thank you for the references and links...
Miamine goes off to read interesting research... :)... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: Yea.. the lack of condoms bothered me.. until I researched more.. the industry are very, very big on STD tests.. if your not clean you don't work...I think they are tested every 6months and often in the middle of shoots.
One sex worker with an ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: From Wikipedia..
Robert Jensen.. As a strong pro-feminist, Jensen has focused much of his work on the radical feminist critique of pornography and of masculinity. He also has written about white privilege and institutionalized racism. Jensen i... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: Miamine hides whips and chains so not to offend Askoldersis... Miamine takes dictionary out, to look up long words like dopperme... (cheap way of getting education)
Will be back to answer Lucyloo's as soon as I process this intelligent stuff...... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: Sorry, I don't mean to minimise the true pain that sex addiction causes.. but I'm also very weary of the "fear mongering"... making people afraid of sex will have very destructive effects..
As to what the woman who hates porn but loves the man ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: One more thing.. if more and more porn users are using degrading pornography, then where does the whole amateur scene come from.. From what I can see, the amateur scene is fairly new and has gone from few users (and producers) to millions ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: It's because of this that the new DSM manual is removing the word addiction, because it has been so generalised it can no longer be used to explain clinical malfunctioning that needs treatment and help.
If we can all be addicted to anything... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: From what you say, if we remove the pornography, we are all still in danger from addiction to orgasm.... makes one want to stop sex altogether..
And then there's the danger of getting addicted to anything on earth... yes there is also sports a... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: Sorry, sorry, sorry.. last question I promise...
"If most men look at degrading porn, and it affects their brain. What happens to the women who watch pornography, do they begin to hate themselves?"... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: Sorry one more questions anon...
1. You believe that watching porn affects the brain in some way. If your watching degrading pornography for study, how is it effecting your sexuality?
2. Is your study of degrading pornography not ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 21 August 2010: "Just because of the existence of other kinds of non-degrading porn does not mean most porn that most men watch isn't degrading."
1. How do you know MOST men watch degrading porn?
2. What type of porn do you classify as degrading?... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 21 August 2010: "when I get into these debates my ratings on this site go WAY down (from above 8 to usually around 7.5)" (anon)
So that's how it's done... good thing that I aint really worried about my ratings, cause I would have left a long time ago.. but it s... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 20 August 2010: "So let me ask you, if as a woman she finds it degrading to women, but you find it arousing, is that a good thing to be aroused by degrading women? You think it's healthy?" (anon)
I'll bite, and this is a difficult one.. Healthy is the same as ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 19 August 2010: Non-compromise is also good.. you have standards, you set them and you keep to them.. But I'm an atheist.. I declare this on my first date.. I don't think it's the job of the religious to tell me that they like God.. If I don't like something, it's ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 19 August 2010: Exactly Cerbus.... I'm not a porn lover, actually I watch it very rarely.. my problem is that I LOVE ROMANCE AND EROTIC NOVELS... I love the millionaire prince that dates the secretary and then they have sex on the floor.. like many women, words are ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 19 August 2010: Hi, I just want to add this answer given by one of our aunts.. (Kaede) I hope she doesn't mind.. but this is very close to how I think, and is one of the best answers to a pornography problem that I have ever read. Because I have used pornography, ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 19 August 2010: Hi Sis...lol.. and I know your not too keen on the whole porn thing, so I'm surprised we find ourselves in agreement.
Thanks anon, we got to give you a name.. lets call you miss Golightly, and I thank you for starting this thread. I think I'... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 19 August 2010: Totally agree honeypie, it's best if people can compromise over difficulties with pornography, that really is the best way. I also agree that it is not helpful when us aunts and uncles get into big discussions on people's threads, totally ... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 16 August 2010: Actually, picking up the morality part... many guys with this retrograde jealousy make a point of pointing out that the values of the woman who sleeps around disgusts them very much...
This is the point that Odds and Pyroshadow were trying t... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 15 August 2010: Men and women BOTH, encourage the idea of the promiscuous male super stud lover.. :)... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 15 August 2010: "But as you admit sometimes you speak too soon rather than taking the time to reflect on what has been said. I think this has happened here."
@ Yos....
I hate that word Slut.... grrrrr
But yes, I was wrong... :)... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 15 August 2010: "The only people who seem to approve of man-sluts are women themselves (evidenced by the fact that they, by definition, continue to date and sleep with man-sluts), and not even all of those by a long shot."
You have a very strange view of the worl... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 15 August 2010: "Since when is it "OK" for a man to be promiscuous?"
Men are called studs and applauded by other men when they ;have sex with many women. Men and boys boast about the amount of women they have slept with and always lie and say the number is high.... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 14 August 2010: Ah.. thank you Yos.. finally I understand the feelings people get through Retrograde jealousy. I have clinical depression and in the past I have felt bad enough to try to end my life... It wasn't rational, and it wasn't controlable and ... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 14 August 2010: Yes, anon, I asked Pyroshadow the same question, but it hasn't come through, so I'll ask it again, and no judgement is meant.....
Is the feelings of jealousy really as strong as the complete devastation and worthlessness people feel when they hav... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 12 August 2010: Oh dear, Pyroshadow, your one of the people I'm talking about who is helping me learn to understand this jealousy thing...
As I said, I'm still pondering hard about the last question you set... ... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 10 August 2010: I'm one of the "shut up and get over it brigade.. the past is the past", but with the help from you men brave enough to tell their stories, I'm learning my advice is not helpful at all...
I'm learning...
But, I speak to a lot of women who suf... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 26 July 2010: "Virginity is just one of the many attributes that an individual wants in a person." (shoccs)
This is something that I don't understand. Are all virgin's nice, kind and thoughtfull.. Are there no virgin criminals in jail? (apart from kids tha... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 26 July 2010: Buddhist way is the best.. jealousy is a mind poison, it's the worst possessive side of us trying to destory our lives..
Either use Buddhist meditation techniques, to realise the mind has many thoughts, not all of them pleasant, but most of them ... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 26 July 2010: Brilliant MissManners, some of them angry anon's got a fantastic post closed with their own worries and woes..
It's nice for them to have a space to express their anger in a healthy way, rather than destroying another person's chance at happines... (read in full...)
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