Is he stressed about being in the 'Real World'?
Q. I had been dating someone for 2.5 years. It was mostly long distance since we went to different colleges, but we would spend summers together and both graduated and came back to our hometowns and were finally together. However, right before ...
A. 6 January 2008: Keep your options open and do not shut your door to other men.He is not ready for any serious relationship.Just let him go and be friends only.He has to find his niche first before he has the confidence to come back for you. If somewhere down the ... (read in full...)
What can he or I do to increase his sex drive?
Q. How do you get a man more interested in sex and intimacy? My boyfriend aged 40 is only really interested less than once a week. If I say I am finding that really hard and not enough it increases for a while but then drops back again. What can he or ...
A. 6 January 2008: Get enough sleep , exercise and eat the right foods for a healthy sex life. Watch more porn , have more visuals in the bedroom. Sometimes it is age , stress and libido which contribute to his low sex drive. Read this article a href="htt... (read in full...)
I accepted my husband back but I feel I am doing all the effort!
Q. for 2 yrs since my husband's dad died he has changed new job, selfish, wanted to do what he wants,lies. Anyway I finally kicked him out. 6 months later we are back together trying to work things out but i feel I am doing all the effort. A smal...
A. 6 January 2008: You have given him another chance and if he does not want to play ball with you ,what else can you do but to red card him again. Or you can close one eye , see no evil, hear no evil and speak no evil. Will you feel better if he is not around? You ... (read in full...)
Is this guy really sincere? He has not text me in months.
Q. Ages ago, I met a guy. We met at an after party and really hit it off. Lots of chemistry and sparks. He bought me a drink, and we had a nice chat together. He had a smashing sense of humour, not to mention completeply gorgeous. Forgot to get ...
A. 6 January 2008: Once bitten twice shy. You should be better prepared this time around and more wiser. A man should be given another chance. Two chances are all he will get. If you think he does not qualify , then turn the tables back on him and don't reply his ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have a connection with an older acquaintance?
Q. i think i'm in love, i mean i know it for sure. The problem is that she's way much older than me. At least this is what she's telling me everytime we meet. She used to be my nanny, i know it sounds ridiculous, but she was more like a companion, i ...
A. 6 January 2008: Just keep on being friends with her. Keep love out of it till she is ready for it.She needs more convincing and you need to give her more time to understand that you are no more that small kid.Take things more slowly and don't rush things.Everything ... (read in full...)
Is this long distance relationship worth persuing?
Q. I have a male friend, we've been friends for about almost 2 years now, we get on really well, but I wouldnt say we are super close - defo a good friendship there tho. When we meet up we just have such a laugh, he always asks me how things are going ...
A. 6 January 2008: Just enjoy your friendship with him and decide when you come to the bridge.... (read in full...)
We both said, "I love you". Now I am confused.
Q. hi, i am 15 years old and me and this boy we're almost there..i mean we were very close to being boyfriend and girlfriend but we only knew each other for 3 months.One day he told me that he loved me and i asked him how could you love someone that ...
A. 6 January 2008: You have done what you have done. If he still doubt about your love and sincerity , it is his problem . If he loves you , he will come around.If he does not, then he becomes history.... (read in full...)
Is my g/f's job a potential problem for our relationship?
Q. My girlfriend has started working at a nightclub (as an assistant manager.) Not a stripclub, but a dance club. She's a recording artist and is well known in the entertainment scene here. I'm really not interested in dating a woman who is at the ...
A. 6 January 2008: If you feel strongly that she should not work there and if she loves you , she will quit for you. You will be forcing her to choose between you or her job.The outcome may not be favourable to you and you may have to accept the results. If you lo... (read in full...)
She allows her boyfriend to beat her. Why doesn't she leave? What can I do?
Q. I am so angry and pissed off; my best friend (who I grow up with) is in an abusive relationship. I knew that her and her boyfriend argued all the time...to the point where the two are always yelling at each other. And there’s the whole jealousy ...
A. 6 January 2008: There is nothing much a friend can do in such a situation.You can be there for her when she ask for your help or lend her an ear.That is all you can do as a friend. Anything more than that is interfering with their life. Her husband will not... (read in full...)
How do I tell my homophobic Mother...that I am bi sexual?
Q. I'm bi. I'm fine with that. I'm not really sure how to explain it but I'm a lot more into girls than I am guys, even though I do like some guys. I'm not sure if that makes sense but I much prefer girls. I want to come out and I'm not too worried ...
A. 6 January 2008: You are fine with it and you mother says there is no such thing as a bisexual. I don't see where is the problem? You do yours and she believes hers. Live and let live. Why you need to convince your mom? Let her believe what she wants.... (read in full...)
He can't trust and he's retreated from me...I miss him, terribly!
Q. Iv'e been seeing a younger guy for about 2 months. It started out as friends, then got pretty serious.. Texting everyday, all day, talking everyday, seeing each other every other day. We got along really good. The only thing is he has some issues ...
A. 6 January 2008: Just hang in there . Call him and see what is his response.Keep yourself busy and take your mind off him. Go and do something that you like and enjoy.... (read in full...)
How do you keep a secret that is burning you inside?
Q. How do you keep a secret from anyone, one secret which is mine (i kept for 6 years but can't cope anymore, it's killing me inside and making me mad) the other which is my families...
A. 6 January 2008: Don't tell your secrets to anyone, people may use it against you.
When you pray , tell your secrets to God and He will give you release from this burden. Jesus said , "cast your heavy burdens on to me....."
Don't carry too much excess bagg... (read in full...)
Help...Boyfriend Problem!
Q. Well last night me and my boyfriend got in a fight. I was mad at him cause i was tired of the way he was treating me. I felt so bad cause I made him cry. He felt bad cause he relized how bad he was treating me and that he thought that I was going to ...
A. 6 January 2008: Just go to him , apologize and hug him then move on .To err is only human and to forgive is divine.
You have done your part and it is up to him .The ball is at his feet.
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I'm underage and our secret is out. What now?
Q. There is a guy i know and we really like each other but he has a girlfriend and I dont want to break them up as she hasnt done anything wrong to me so I can't steal her boyfriend as revenge. I know the guy thinks about me alot as he has told me. her ...
A. 6 January 2008: It is only your perceptions of him wanting sex. You could be wrong in your perceptions.
If he really wants sex, you can gently tell him a big "NO!". If he leave you , then he is not worth having. He only wants sex and not you as a person. ... (read in full...)
Do you think I am ready to date again? Can men have successful relationships with single mums?
Q. Hi there I am a mum of two children, aged 24. I recently broke up with my childhood sweetheart (father of kids) almost a year ago (He cheated). Although we had a reconcilliation in August which didnt last long!. I would like to start dating again ...
A. 6 January 2008: If you think you are ready , you are ready.Let the past be bygones and live for today, look forward and don't look back.
Enjoy each day as a single mom for someday you may find another man in your life.
Pray to God and keep your hopes and b... (read in full...)
I feel low, and hurt, and very very lonely. And I don't know what to do to get out this rut. Help me..
Q. My boyfriend has just dumped me after several months of treating me like dirt on his shoe, this is only my own conclusion after a lot of talking to friends, until now I believed greatly the whole problems in the relationship, and the reason for the ...
A. 6 January 2008: You are suffering from low self esteemed and confidence.You are pessimistic and have a defeatist attitude.
You need to discard those negative feelings about yourself.If you are negative, you will attract the negative. You need to be positive... (read in full...)
He keeps destroying my trust. Am I a fool to try again?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 8 years and love him very much but over the last year he has lied to me on 3 seperate occasions. They were not huge lies but involved sneaking around doing things behind my back he had promised not to do (eg drugs) ...
A. 6 January 2008: Your b/f needs help if he has a drug problem.Sometimes, they are not in control . It is like a compulsive addictive behaviour.
You have two choices, accept him and his faults as no one can be perfect or leave him till he really changed and give... (read in full...)
He puts me through a lot of pain and is unpredictable. Does he need help?
Q. My boyfriend has always been quite closed, he often doesn't want to see me because he wants to spend time in his own company, or doesn't feel happy or whatever, I always have respected this as at least he was honest but found it hard to deal with. ...
A. 6 January 2008: He just want to be left alone for a while..Give him some space for him to clear his thoughts.He feels you are suffocating him.
Don't judge yourself too harshly. It is not your fault. He does not know how to appreciate your love and concern.... (read in full...)
Does he fancy me? Should I confront him?
Q. hi i met this guy last year he is 21 years older than me, he doesn't have a wife kids or girlfriend. we started talking then it got a little more serious. but then it all got out and people started laughing and joking about it and made matters ...
A. 5 January 2008: Yeah! He fancies you. Which man will not fancy a sweet young thing who is interested in them.
There is no need to confront him. Just be friends and enjoy his friendship.Just let the river flows to whatever it wants.... (read in full...)
Underage and having a relationship with a married man! - what do I do?
Q. Im in a relationship with a married man and i think im falling in love with him. I also really want to sleep with him but im under age by three years.please help and give me some advice on what to do....
A. 5 January 2008: Don't get involved with a married man.You will end up with the short end. He can promised you many things but all those will be empty promises.
Married man will not leave their wife and where does that leave you? Affairs with married man is painf... (read in full...)
Does he really like me or he has taken advantage of the situation?
Q. i have liked a guy for 3 yers now and i have been to his house and done dirty stuff with him. he ended telling someone and it has got around school. he has told me he loves me but also says he is not ready for a girlfriend. i love him back and in ...
A. 5 January 2008: He is not worth your love.Dump him. He is too young and his actions are unforgiving and unbecoming of a responsible person. You don't go around and tell everyone who you slept with.
Don't fall for those sugar coated words. When a boy tells yo... (read in full...)
He says I'm the one but he's dumped me. What is going on in his mind?
Q. My boyfriend of 10 months decided to bring to my attention his confusion in our relationship on New Years Day. We had a great New Years Eve, we kissed at 12, he held my hand...He sat me down and confided (as he was drunk) '[My name], I love yo...
A. 5 January 2008: When the heart is no more there, what is the point of holding on to the dead body ? You only got an empty shell. Might as well buried it and move on. Cherish all those memories , if you want ,if you don't, then wipe your plate clean and start all ... (read in full...)
What can I do to comfort him?
Q. I have a problem with something that's going on with my relationship. My fiance and I have been together for almost 6 years now and things could not be better. He has always had this friend that I didn't like because he's loud, obnoxious, and j...
A. 5 January 2008: Tell him that what has happened has happened and there is nothing more that can be done about it.
Tell him that you have settled this episode and have come to terms about what happened and do not blame him .You have moved on and he too should n... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with his friend?
Q. a 12 year old girl my boyfriend wants me to come over his hous tomorrow and have sex with ohis other friend who seems nice. what do I do, if I go I dont know wat will happen buut if I dont hell break up with me. I eed help please!...
A. 5 January 2008: Tell your friend to go get a life! You are not a whore.He is only using you . Don't be stupid.If you get pregnant, you will destroy your future and your life.... (read in full...)
I have a feeling my parents won't approve. Is there anything I can do?
Q. Ok.... so I'm sort of seeing someone, he lives quite far away.... nearly 200 miles, we've not met up since we've been seeing each other, but have met up more than once before (for group meets, for a shared hobby!). I will be seeing him in a ...
A. 5 January 2008: When you are 21, you are an adult by law and you can decide what you want. You will not live with your parents forever. Someday , you will have to leave them and live your own life and be independent.
Your life is yours to make. If they don't ap... (read in full...)
Is he burying his head in the sand because he doesn't know how to deal with my depression?
Q. I have been really struggling with depression as a result of being poorly. I am taking anti-depressants but the thing that I want most is encouragement and support which I am not getting from anyone. I have been having good and bad days. The last ...
A. 5 January 2008: I am very sorry about your depressing problems and the lack of moral support. In times like this , your b/f should be always near to give you encouragements and help.The one you expected the most failed to live up to your expectations and this is ... (read in full...)
I'm getting mixed signals from him. What should I do?
Q. I need guy help, big time. Okay, there is this guy at my school, he is really cute and in the same grade, but he a part of the football. I am not one of the 'popular' girls. Anyway, he is in some of my classes and I get really mixed signals from ...
A. 5 January 2008: Some guys are flirtatious and they will flirt with any girls when they are in the good mood. Just treat is as some quick fun and nothing more.Enjoy it and don't be serious.
They are guys like you said, someday , they want to play ball and other da... (read in full...)
He puts me through a lot of pain and is unpredictable. Does he need help?
Q. My boyfriend has always been quite closed, he often doesn't want to see me because he wants to spend time in his own company, or doesn't feel happy or whatever, I always have respected this as at least he was honest but found it hard to deal with. ...
A. 5 January 2008: Your b/f seems to have a split personality like Dr. Jekyll and Hyde.Some people have multiple personalities and it is like a completely opposite person.
I am afraid there is nothing you can do about them . They are born that way.
You can treat th... (read in full...)
I'm beginning to see him in a different light - is 4 years too much of an age gap?
Q. I have this friend who is 15, he will be 16 in a few months but recently, after not noticing him for so long i have started to see him in a different way. I really do believe i have such strong feelings for him. Like i could just talk to him all day ...
A. 5 January 2008: If you can get along well with each other,age does not matter. What matters is you can communicate well with each other.Some people may develop or grow faster than their age.They matured faster than others of their age.
It is the maturity and not ... (read in full...)
Would it be alright if we used a condom?
Q. i have just recently started going out with this 17 year old...hes in the army!! that doesnt bother me in anyway. in told my dad and his fiancee and they were fine considering my stepsister is going out with his little brother, so they know the ...
A. 5 January 2008: Practice safe sex and unwanted pregnancies or STD's.... (read in full...)
Should I be the one who breaks off from him?
Q. I am having a problem figuring out the status of my current relationship with my "bf". We have been together for what would be 7 months and 2 days after xmas we both decided that the previous few wks have been very weird. Whether it be more stress ...
A. 5 January 2008: You have seek answers from him and don't get any satisfactory replies. You have got his answer. If a man cannot give you a straight forward answer, and cannot do as you required of him,there is no point in going forward. He cannot press the release ... (read in full...)
What is the difference in "love" and being "in love"?
Q. Hello. I've been seeing a wonderful girl almost 3 months and a third now, it's the longest i've ever had a relationship with anyone (how much of a stud am I?). Anyway i had liked her for months and months before i finally asked her on hearing that ...
A. 5 January 2008: In the Bible , there are three kinds of love, Eros, Philia and Agape.
When you say that you are in love , it is usually 'eros' because this kind of love will give you fuzzy feelings, strong sensual feeling, bothering on the obsessions about a ... (read in full...)
What does he want from this relationship?
Q. I had class with this guy I never really talked to for three years. Towards the end of the third year (my senior year and his junior year of high school) he asked for my number and started to flirt with me. Summer came. We talked a lot on ...
A. 5 January 2008: It seems like you are only a part time g/f at his beck and call.If a man says he cannot be committed into a relationship , it means he is not into you . The only answer to your question is a 'YES or a NO!' Period!
Just be a friend and you won't ge... (read in full...)
We are going to have to part ways. What should I do?
Q. So I'll try and keep the short and get straight to the point. Basically, I've been kind of ?dating? a guy since October. As in I met him in September, but with school, work, and extracurriculars I wasn't able to start going on dates with him u...
A. 5 January 2008: Take one day at a time and enjoy what the day brings.Do not worry about the future because no one knows what will happen tomorrow. Live for today and tomorrow will take care of itself.If he is meant for you , he will not run away.
Whate... (read in full...)
Is there any way I can get rid of the hurt?
Q. my bf and i only broke up a month ago and he already moved on and askin for some girl's fone number!! i couldnt believe this after everything we went through. I still cant seem to move on from him and still have strong feelings for him even though ...
A. 5 January 2008: If you want to get over the hurt , you need to forgive him and bless him in your prayers.Once you do that, God will heal you of your hurts and pains. Do not keep any grudge or anger against him.This will hurt you more than him.Say your prayers for ... (read in full...)
Married to his ex for 22years, now they might give it another go, is it worth it for me to wait and see what happens?
Q. been dating an older wonderful man for eight months. he told me two months into it he was talking with his ex and that they were talking about making it work again. he was married for 22 years and divorced two. he has seen her and yet still wants to ...
A. 4 January 2008: I am afraid , I think you are just a stop gap measure . He will most probably go back to his ex and you will be left in a lurch.
He was lonely and you came along .He will not be able to cut all ties with the ex.Humans like the familiar surround... (read in full...)
Do you think she's cheating on me??
Q. I am 15 and in love with my 17 year old girlfriend we have been dating for 8 months. She has been acting really suspicious never wanted to talk to me on the phone, yelling at me for worrying about her, she never calls me anymore,and when people tell ...
A. 4 January 2008: It is obvious , she does not like you as much as before. There could be some problems and you need to find out what you have done or said anything to hurt her.
Whether she is cheating or not ,you have to give her the benefits of doubts until yo... (read in full...)
How do you know when you love someone or should throw in the towel?
Q. how do you know when you love someone, when you need to throw in the towl, and how u know you love someone else instead? i used to be very madly in love with a man.then things got boring and routine and we'd argue over stupid things all the t...
A. 4 January 2008: It is the end of the road when you don't find any 'zing'in your relationship .It is like stale bread. You don't want to eat it anymore and what do you do with it?
Life is like a journey,you hop from one stone to another to cross a wide river.Th... (read in full...)
Should I let him go or hold on?
Q. Heyy.. i met this guy on my holiday to Tunisia in june. i came home to realise i fell in love with this guy.I might be going back this summer and i know theres a chance he wont still be working there! I Really love him and he is all i have been abl...
A. 4 January 2008: If he is the one for you , he will come back for you. If he is not , then he is somebody's.You need to be philosophical about meeting people,people come and go... There are always new ones to replace those old ones and opportunity is always there.... (read in full...)
I don't trust him because I don't think he is fully commited to me
Q. I’ve been in a relationship for 4 years. I am 23 and my partner is 22. We broke up last year for 8 months but where in contact again during the break-up after around 3 months. I started a relationship with somebody else and my ex started asking ...
A. 4 January 2008: In any relationship, it is about love , trust and understandings.If a person does not satisfy those conditions, then what is the point of carrying on ? Keep your options open and meet others.... (read in full...)
I like a man, but he has a girlfriend. What should I do?
Q. I've recently met a man who I really like. The problem is that he has a girlfriend. We met at a bar and kissed and then texted each other alot which lead to him coming over to my place to get to know each other better. We chatted alot and we ha...
A. 4 January 2008: All's fair in love and war. A man does not belong to anyone unless he has her ring on his finger.Up to the last minute, the man is still a free man and available and it is not wrong or unethical . The best woman wins.
If you think this man is w... (read in full...)
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