Can anyone pls explain how someone can be in love and then just lose feelings overnight?
Q. Can anyone pls explain how someone can be in love and then just lose feelings overnight? I joined on line dating. Not to date, not to cheat, but because I was bored because he would rather be out football training, than be home with me. He doesnt ...
A. 18 January 2013: He probably blocked you on FB because you were bugging him.
You act surprised that he was bothered that you went to a dating site. I think you need to learn to take responsibility for your actions.
In this case your bf had a passion: footbal... (read in full...)
My friend and I are both interested in the same girl - what should I do?
Q. Ok, so i got kind of typical question, but i haven't been able to find a good answer, as it is kind of different. Ok, so i like this girl who is a junior, she's cute, but i have a friend who also likes her too. Now my question is: would she be...
A. 18 January 2013: 1. How would anyone here know who she's interested in? You gave no relevant info to know one way or another.
2. There is no reason for you to decide for her who she likes. You can both go after her and if she likes one of you that's her choice. ... (read in full...)
Why does my opinion mean less to my GF than others?
Q. My girlfriend and I are coming up on our first year, and we began living together about eight months through. I'd have to say in all honesty that we are as opposite as night and day....I spend a lot of time in intellectual pursuits and (just to make ...
A. 18 January 2013: It sounds like she doesn't have a lot of respect for you. I could be wrong but that's my guess. ... (read in full...)
I don't have the strength anymore - should I end this relationship???
Q. Hi, I am in a relationship with a guy for more than five yrs now I am not married yet.... We fight often now he gets angry on me for silly reasons shouts at me in vulgar language calls me slut ...he has even beaten me several times and I have...
A. 18 January 2013: Who in the world would tell you to stay with a guy that hurts you and treats you like shit?
You don't love him by the way, that feeling you feel is absolutely not love, even if that's what it feels like. You need to get away from him with WIT... (read in full...)
I really like this guy who works at my campus starbucks. How can I get to know him?
Q. Dear Cupid, There's this guy that I've always thought to be pretty cute at my campus starbucks. Of course there's no sure way to know if he likes me (i mean he probably sees lots of attractive women every day and probably smiles at all of them an...
A. 18 January 2013: Maybe you could pass him a piece of paper with your name and number on it with a quick word about going out for coffee somewhere else. ... (read in full...)
Can you explain to me how someone can suddenly lose feelings for a person that they said they were in love with?
Q. My girlfriend and I have known each other for 5 years and we decided to date it only lasted 4 months and those 4 months were great we fell in love and I thought she was the one . But about a week ago she broke up with me and told me that her feeling ...
A. 18 January 2013: She didn't lose feelings for you if she's still telling you she loves you . What she has lost is "lust". Some people are addicted to lust and when the lust goes away they feel a little empty. As someone who's been there I empathize with you. You ... (read in full...)
Ex sent me dirty pictures says its because of me that he's hard. What do I do?
Q. Well, my ex messaged me out of the blue saying he missed me, then he ended up sending me a dirty picture saying I'm the reason that it's well hard. I'm pretty sure he only wants one thing . Should I just ignore him or what?...
A. 18 January 2013: Do whatever you want. If you only want one thing this is your chance. If you want to make sure it doesn't happen again tell him if he sends anotherpic yyou'll forward it to his mom. ... (read in full...)
I like him, is he just being friendly?
Q. Hello. I don't know what should I think so I want to ask you. In my school are boy and sometimes we have common lessons. When I walk in class he star staring at me, when I look at him he start smiling, when I ask something teacher or other boys, he ...
A. 18 January 2013: Probably. But he is probably interested in you as well. Why don't you talk with him? If he's as nice as he sounds he won't mind even if he's not interested in a relationship.
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Boyfriend is blowing hot and cold. If he's unhappy, why doesn't he end it?
Q. Hello everyone, I have a boyfriend of nearly three years, and unfortunately with money issues etc we are long distance for the moment but want to move in together when we save enough. However whenever I talk or contact my partner he seems v...
A. 18 January 2013: It could be that he's unhappy with the situation, not you. LDR's are difficult as you know, and making him happy from far away isn't as easy as doing so up close.
This may sound crazy but you could ask him! I'd say that's probably the best way... (read in full...)
I like a girl who's in a relationship. How do I find out how she feels about me?
Q. I met this girl, she has a girlfriend, but we went on a drunken night out and ended up sleeping together. We then have had a couple of times where we nearly slept together again, but both stopped it as it wasn't fair on her girlfriend. Problem is, ...
A. 18 January 2013: Some people like to have relationships with one sex but don't feel fully satisfied if they can't experience the other. One time I slept with a girl after we had a party and the next morning she told me the chick sleeping on our couch was her ... (read in full...)
If I confront my husband, who cheated in the past, with these texts, he'll take issue with my snooping. What do I do?
Q. About 3 years ago I found out that my husband had been joining dating sites, and chatting and cheating on me with other women he had met on these sites. This had been going on behind my back for 5 years. I realise how good he is at keeping secrets ...
A. 18 January 2013: It doesn't sound like he did anything wrong... maybe I'm missing something here, but I wouldn't say anything. I agree with YouWish about snooping to a point, however if he seems to be faithful then it's a good way to ruin your relationship.
If th... (read in full...)
How long do I wait for my husband to make up for a terrible 20th anniversary weekend?
Q. Married 20 years, received only a handful of birthday, anniversary, special occasion gifts. Read all the help columns and told husband exactly what I wanted for anniversary which was a week trip so we could reconnect. I started planning and he said ...
A. 17 January 2013: One of the things about many women that drives me nuts is this idea that they shouldn't have to tell their husbands these kinds of things; that he should just know.
We'll, men are terrible mind readers so you have a choice between talking ... (read in full...)
I'm jealous because of how much fun my b/f has with our female co-worker
Q. Hi, i've been with my boyf for 7 months, and for most of our relationship i have been really jealous of how well he gets on with this other girl. All 3 of us have the same part time job and whenever i see them talk they are always laughing together ...
A. 17 January 2013: You have to realize that him laughing and enjoying her company has nothing to do with him wanting to be with her.
Now, because of your jealousy you've actually made things worse, rather than better. Worse because you're making him feel guilty a... (read in full...)
He said he just needed a few weeks and now he's using the same lines on her as he used on me!
Q. my boyfriend told me he felt lost so i told him to take some space, he told me we could still talk but just a little (we usually talk all the time nearly 24/7) he said that he didn't know if he loved me anymore and that he just needed a few weeks, ...
A. 17 January 2013: Yes, I would but it's up to you. In my experience once someone has said the things he said to you the relationship will never be the same. BTW I meant to say it would give YOU closure, not him.
If you really want to be with him (not just because ... (read in full...)
What do most people consider as porn? Would looking at nude pics classify as watching porn?
Q. My ex and I were constantly getting in fights about him watching porn. In the end it wasn't so much that he was watching porn that bothered me but the fact that he disrespected how I felt about it and wouldn't stop. But before that, for a long time ...
A. 17 January 2013: It really just has to do with stimulation. Viewing naked pics is about the easiest form of stimulus in the modern world.
Google: boobs. Click link. Stimulated.
It requires virtually no effort and there is a "reward" in the form of some sor... (read in full...)
Am I crazy for feeling guilty?
Q. Am I crazy for feeling guilty? My husband and I are separated. Many things led up to the separation including verbal and emotional abuse, lack of trust, lack of communication, and a lot of resentment. At the very end however, I told my husband ...
A. 17 January 2013: I'm sure the guilt mostly has to do with doing the right thing for your child, but as you said, it's not right to allow your child to see a dysfunctional marriage. The longer you stayed with him the more likely your child would be "corrupted" and ... (read in full...)
He said he just needed a few weeks and now he's using the same lines on her as he used on me!
Q. my boyfriend told me he felt lost so i told him to take some space, he told me we could still talk but just a little (we usually talk all the time nearly 24/7) he said that he didn't know if he loved me anymore and that he just needed a few weeks, ...
A. 17 January 2013: It depends on what you want to do. If you still want to be with him then you can confront him since it doesn't sound like you broke up (officially). He's the only one that knows what he really wants. At the very least it will give him some ... (read in full...)
She doesn't want to change her Facebook status to 'in a relationship'....
Q. Im in a ldr with a wonderful girl for about 8 months, i've been introduced to her friends and family, in fact we spend christmas and new years together. i have pictures on my fb showing us together and she has shown me in other ways she cares about ...
A. 17 January 2013: You're trying to look at it the way you think about it instead of the way she thinks about it. It's not just that it's not a big deal, but she also likes a little bit of privacy.
You shouldn't feel that there's a problem just because you haven't ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too clingy. What can I do?
Q. What would you do if your significant other always clings on to you and wants to always touch you when you're in public places? It's slightly annoying but if I say anything he'd get upset. ...
A. 17 January 2013: You need to learn sooner rather than later that you can't always spare people's feelings, especially if you're doing nothing wrong. Tell him in a nice way that you aren't a big fan of PDA and it doesn't have anything to do with him, it's just the ... (read in full...)
Marriage has broken down. He won't talk about it, won't try to fix it but hasn't moved out of the house. The pain is overwhelming.
Q. I have been married for 10 yrs, a stay at home mom for 8yrs. Two months ago my husband told me he doesn't feel anything for me anymore and doesn't want to be with me. We still live together, I still cook and clean up after him. We still share th...
A. 17 January 2013: One thing people in your situation are always afraid of is that if they do the right thing the other person will get mad and leave them for good.
In your case the right thing is to tell him he has two choices: work on fixing the marriage or get o... (read in full...)
Should I tell my religious parents that I'm bisexual now, or wait until I am older?
Q. So 15 and bisexual. I lean more to the guys side but I can some girl do turn me on, but I problem is that I want to break the news to my parents, and knowing my mom being so religious and traditional and my dad who I barely talk to. I know that ...
A. 16 January 2013: I would wait. Move out as soon as you're able, but if you do it now she could make your life difficult. It's hard enough to come out without the support of your family.
You should know that there are areas of the country you can move to where be... (read in full...)
She doesn't want to change her Facebook status to 'in a relationship'....
Q. Im in a ldr with a wonderful girl for about 8 months, i've been introduced to her friends and family, in fact we spend christmas and new years together. i have pictures on my fb showing us together and she has shown me in other ways she cares about ...
A. 16 January 2013: Her answer sounds reasonable to me. It sounds like you're into fb a little more than she is so your expectations are a little different, but I don't see any reason to be thinking there is more to this than her explanation tells you.
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Married man curious about a tranny
Q. I have been married for there years. I have become very curious about transsexuals and think I might want to try having sex with one. I am curious what anal sex feels like. I don't know if that makes me a bisexual?. My wife caught me looking at ...
A. 16 January 2013: Yeah try a strap-on. Is it the same? I doubt it, but it may help satisfy your curiosity. And really, is some tranny schlong worth losing your marriage? ... (read in full...)
Is there any truth to these lies and excuses from my husband?
Q. On 3 different occasions I found condoms in my husbands truck. To start with, ever since he got this truck it never left his side and after awhile I noticed he was going out of his way to make sure I couldn't go in there. He would lock it up and ...
A. 16 January 2013: He's probably a sex addict on top of his other addictions. This doesn't mean he doesn't love you, it's more complicated than that.
What you have to do is decide if you want to stay with him and try to make things work, or leave him because ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is domineering, selfish and hurtful. I try to break up but can't. What should I do?
Q. Hey friends... I am going through a very depressed state of my life. I need your help to get out of this. I have been in a relationship with this guy since 4 years. Previously, everything was going awesome. But now too much of fights are going be...
A. 15 January 2013: In this situation you have to tell yourself that he's being abusive and abusive behavior often escalates until you are scared for your safety. It's very important to get out before that happens.
Because he is controlling its best for you to simpl... (read in full...)
After the breakup, I want my boyfriend back. I'm devastated. What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I recently broke up, we have our issues as any couple does, he gave me hope, told me everything was going to be ok, and that we were going to talk, and not lose sight of each other. It took him the second night away, to sleep wi...
A. 15 January 2013: I agree, this girl was probably waiting in the wings.
Getting rejected is HARD. It can make a sane person feel crazy. It can make you think he was the perfect guy even if you never thought that in the first place.
The key is to realize that ... (read in full...)
I like a certain musician and want to message him via his bands Facebook page. What questions should I ask?
Q. I know this isn't much of a problem, but i'd appreciate your help. I like a member of a band. The band that he was in that I am a fan of were famous. He is in another band now that isn't famous (well, they haven't released albums and singles)...
A. 15 January 2013: You already did what you could regarding contacting him through the Internet. Either the "technophobe" line is a way to get rid of groupies or its true, but either way you probably won't have much luck trying again.
If your purpose is romantic... (read in full...)
Do you think he really does just hate technology, or does he not care enough to stay in contact more?
Q. My boyfriend used to text loads and basically stay in touch loads when we were first going out, but these days it feels like he forces himself to contact at all? He says he hates texting and doesnt really like phone calling or emailing much ei...
A. 15 January 2013: A little of both is more likely than anything. ... (read in full...)
She won't let me give her an orgasm!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend (I'll call her Emily) for about two and a half months but she finds it hard to let me try to give her an orgasm. She was with her ex for three years and claims that this ex had never made her come in all that time but ...
A. 15 January 2013: If she's letting you have sex with her then she's letting you give her an orgasm. What she doesn't want is for you to make her orgasm your mission. ... (read in full...)
Should I stay and wait for an answer? Or should I go? If I leave, there is no coming back....
Q. So my boyfriend was out of town for a week for a work related class. Before he left I had flipped out on him about how I feel that his actions say he has little to no feelings or love for me anymore. Unfortunately, I chose a relationship with ...
A. 14 January 2013: I don't see him being able to get over his wife just because you give him an ultimatum. It will take time and he should go to counseling.
If you stay it will most likely be more of the same. Also, when he does finally get over her to a manageab... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my husband's fantasies and learn how to dominate him?
Q. My husband confessed to me last night that he wants to wear panties and be dominated by me. I am a submissive person by nature and was kinda sick by his fantasy. I like a manly man! I know he has talked about this and has acted on it with another ...
A. 14 January 2013: Obviously the fact that he cheated would be a concern to you guys but she didn't ask about that did she? Her question wasn't "how do I trust my husband again?" or anything of the sort. For all you know she worked that out herself (without your ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my husband to evict him? And that I've been flirting with the younger cute male student we sub-let a room to?
Q. Times have been hard lately for my husband and I so we got a room mate to help split the rent of our 3 bedroom 3 bathroom home.I'm 27 and my husband is 29 our new room mate is a 20 year old college student, pretty quit and geeky. I'm a stay at home ...
A. 14 January 2013: You have a choice: kick him out or risk losing your marriage. The choice is yours but trust me, if you continue down this path your husband will find out.
A moment of pleasure is not worth losing your marriage is it? If it is then you need to ... (read in full...)
Is there ever a good reason or explanation for cheating?
Q. I learned my lesbian gf was cheating on me by talking with other women. One in particular I caught her talking with twice. After the first time getting caught she promised she was sorry and she wouldn't do anything like that to hurt me again. She ...
A. 14 January 2013: I don't think there is any point in telling her that you weren't 100 % faithful. Remorse is an important part of a well rounded individual. She felt none, you did.
She needs to learn that actions have consequences and you can't get away with doi... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my husband's fantasies and learn how to dominate him?
Q. My husband confessed to me last night that he wants to wear panties and be dominated by me. I am a submissive person by nature and was kinda sick by his fantasy. I like a manly man! I know he has talked about this and has acted on it with another ...
A. 14 January 2013: Before just diving into being the dominant one over your panty wearing husband you may want to remember how important respect is. If you can imagine respecting him after seeing this side of him then move forward (how? I don't know).
But if you f... (read in full...)
I don't trust him anymore and am thinking about leaving, what should I do?
Q. I and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 4 years now, we love each other despite religion differences, he pays me visit and calls me, he introduce me to his male friends but now everything has changed. Now he does not call except when i call ...
A. 14 January 2013: Marry him of course!
Actually it might make more sense to break up with him since you don't trust him and you don't want to be with him.
If by "What should I do" you're asking for a "how do I break up with him" answer than I always recommend... (read in full...)
This guy is creeping me out by staring at me, why is he doing it?
Q. There is this guy, everytime I see him he just stares at me I can feel his eyes on me every time he never talks to me, he looks at me then looks away. But today he looked at me, took a breath in then out, then looked away, what does it mean? why is ...
A. 14 January 2013: It could mean that he finds you attractive and doesn't realize he's staring so much so he doesn't look away when you notice.
It also could be that he's not staring at you as much as just staring into space and it looks like he's staring at you. ... (read in full...)
I'm looking for miss right but keep running into miss wrong!
Q. Dear Cupids, I know people have standards but I feel like I rule out woman by my dating pickyness. I am looking for someone who is around my stature(5'11). Someone a little shorter than me and skinny to big boned. I have graduated college(...
A. 14 January 2013: You're too young to settle. Not to mention there's no rush to get married, you have the rest of your life for that.
I had some great girlfriends when I was in my 20's but didn't meet the right person until I was just about 30.
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Am I in the wrong for wanting to end things and move on?
Q. Ive been in a monogamous relationship with a woman and we have recently decided to become more serious. As I get to know this person more I find out things that bother me. I'm sure there are things that bother her about me but what relationship ...
A. 14 January 2013: It sounds shallow but when you have kids you'll love them with every ounce of your being. Subjecting them to a mom with so many potential health and mental issues isn't something that you'd ever wish on them, not to mention the heredity aspects.
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I can't stop masturbating even though as a Christian I know its wrong
Q. I really need help, i am a 15 year old Christian girl and i have a serious masturbation problem, i try to stop because of beliefs in my religion but when the urge is present i just cant stop i find that i like to watch porn while i do it and i know ...
A. 14 January 2013: You know, you don't have a serious masturbation problem, you'd probably be shocked if you knew how much your friends are doing it. And I don't think masturbation is wrong in the first place... The point of condemning it probably stems more from the ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me because my promotion/job took over my life. I still want him and the job!
Q. Hello Everyone, I'm going to try to keep this as short as possible so please bear with me. I am a 27 year old woman who is a self confessed emotionally unavailable wreck. I am incredibly independent, I need my space from the men I date, and d...
A. 14 January 2013: Not crazy, but you've made your priorities known. If you won't compromise then he has to.
But there MUST to be a light at the end of the tunnel; otherwise what's the point of anything if you work so much that you can't have a healthy relation... (read in full...)
How do I convince my parents that this guy is the one?
Q. I will be 16 in june, and my boyfriend is 8 months older than me. We both live in Florida and have been together for 2 and 1/2 years. I truely love him, and I'd love for us to get married before we're eighteeen, but that surely won't happen. So we ...
A. 14 January 2013: Trust me, there is nothing you can say to make them believe that he's the "one". You're 15 years old. It's okay to fall in love that early, but getting married is just not a good idea.
Why not stay with him, even be engaged? You may not be able ... (read in full...)
How long do I wait for my husband to make up for a terrible 20th anniversary weekend?
Q. Married 20 years, received only a handful of birthday, anniversary, special occasion gifts. Read all the help columns and told husband exactly what I wanted for anniversary which was a week trip so we could reconnect. I started planning and he said ...
A. 14 January 2013: Absolutely not blowing it out of proportion. I'd have a serious talk with him. Like "we need to talk" talk. Tell him everything you feel. I would add that you're not happy in your relationship and you feel like you're the only one putting in any ... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong for wanting to end things and move on?
Q. Ive been in a monogamous relationship with a woman and we have recently decided to become more serious. As I get to know this person more I find out things that bother me. I'm sure there are things that bother her about me but what relationship ...
A. 14 January 2013: Sounds completely justified to me. Just make sure to break up with her in a responsible and caring way since she's not a bad person, just not right for you.
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