She's making catty remarks about me. Do I ignore her? Or involve the guy we both may have a crush on?
Q. this girl might like this guy I might have a crush on. I know he used to like me but I think he likes her now though I don't know for sure. He may even like Both of us. Anyways this girl is rude to me making catty/smart comments most of the time...
A. 30 December 2012: Nobody likes a "tattle tale." One thing you'll learn as you get older is that people like her have issues and you can't spend time worrying about them or how they act.
Just ignore her and get the guy, that will shut her up. ... (read in full...)
How do I get this guy interested in me without him expecting sex?
Q. I have this guy I've liked for three years now. It's kind of pathetic I've admired him for this long and haven't had the guts to ever do anything until now, but let's say I've let him no I'm interested but not enough for him to no I REALLY like him ...
A. 29 December 2012: Well, you don't want to be in a position to where you have to say know to him. Just enjoy your time together and at the end of the date tell him you look forward to seeing him again. Don't invite him in your house or you'll be giving him signals ... (read in full...)
I walked up behind her and surprised her. Did she think I was creepy and it turned her off?
Q. I met these 2 girls at a pub last Saturday night. And I was about to leave and they ask me to come join them. Both girls ended up loving me!! Both really really cute too. The one, I was thinking wanted to be exclusive. She even gave me her phon...
A. 29 December 2012: Some people hate being scared. My wife is like that. I don't think it makes you creepy.
It also could be that she was drunk the time you clicked so well and sober when you guys had no fun. ... (read in full...)
Should I come clean about my past?
Q. I've been in a relationship for a year, and I lied to him at the start about never having done anything except kissing other guys, but the truth is that although I'm a virgin (even though I'm well into my twenties), I have done more than just ...
A. 29 December 2012: Personally I don't think you're messing around matters. But if the two of you do, then go ahead and tell him. I'd just start out by saying that when you first met him you really liked him and you wanted him to like you too, but you were afraid that... (read in full...)
What are the options to introduce more sensuality, more excitement and delight him more when we make love?
Q. How can I make sex more exciting for my boyfriend? We havent been going out too long and have sex a handful of times.. For me it gets more amazing every time, he is a lot more experienced than I am, so he knows exactly what to do.. Genera...
A. 28 December 2012: There are so many things you can do other than "lay there and take it".
Guys are VERY visual (maybe from porn), so being a little of an exhibitionist is a turn on. I don't want to get too graphic but show him what he's going to get/is getting.... (read in full...)
Holiday blues. Why do I feel more alone than ever, and without a partner, especially during the holiday times?
Q. Why is it that I feel more alone over the holidays? I have family and friends, yet I long for the warmth of a man. I feel like I will never find a man and have that marriage I so long for. I'm 43 and never married. Something BTW, I always wanted....
A. 28 December 2012: You're not alone, for many people the holiday season is just a reminder that everybody else has found love and started a family to enjoy the season with.
Have you tried Internet dating?
Beating yourself up over this isn't going to help, j... (read in full...)
LDR: Attention seeker? Hypochondriac? Or really sick? Cheated in the past. Am I wasting my time with her?
Q. I've been dating this girl for a while now. Today makes it 5 months. She's in a different country from me, so there's the first problem of distance. However, we try to overcome it. First of all, I found out she had sex with a friend of mine, ...
A. 28 December 2012: Congratulations on finding every single thing wrong with her. I personally would never date a girl with lead deficiency.
The worst is that she should have moved as far away as possible after she dated that guy for 5 days!
If you don't have a s... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with this guy, but I'm scared he won't want to if he finds out I'm still a virgin. What should I do?
Q. I'm 20 years old and have always been really insecure when it came to guys, so I had never dated anyone until four months ago. Then my attitude changed and I met a nice, sweet guy. I had my first real kiss with him, and I was really ready to explore ...
A. 28 December 2012: It's hard to say how a guy will react to the news that you're a virgin. For most guys (not teenagers) it'd be an honor to be the first. However some may worry that you'd fall for them too quickly and they may break your heart. Other guys dream of ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex is texting him in the middle of the night asking about me. I think she's trying to take him away!
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now and we are currently living together in my house. Neither of us text hardly anyone ever. We're never even on our phones while we're together. The other night I woke up randomly which I never ...
A. 28 December 2012: It's not appropriate for him to be having that kind of conversation with her. Keeping in touch with your ex isn't completely bad, but that wasn't a "just friends" text, at least from her side. If I was you I'd put a stop to it. Tell him that... (read in full...)
We meet up, have sex and then he doesn't call! Whats it all about?
Q. I am in a dilemma here. I met a guy in September at a party, both drunk. We kissed and talked. I bumped into him at a bar 2 weeks later and we just went straight home and jumped into bed. 3 weeks later we meet again at a party and home again. We ...
A. 28 December 2012: iAmHereToHelpYou makes it sound like you should be prostituting yourself! That's crazy "advice".
If you're happy being casual with him then let him contact you, because more than likely he'll be contacting you when he's horny.
If you would ... (read in full...)
My Bf is totally reluctant to have sex. At all. How do I approach a conversation with him about this so we can work it out?
Q. So my boyfriend is not interested in sex. I know it has nothing to do with me. This is just who he is. His previous relationships have had the same problem. One relationship ended because of it. I have no interest in breaking up with him as ...
A. 27 December 2012: Well it's not you, he's probably just asexual and there's not much you can do about it as far as I know. The thing is, you can't pleasure him and you'll probably have to live with that. He seems to be okay with it. ... (read in full...)
I want to get back with my wife. I know deep inside she wants to give me another chance!
Q. Hello, I am looking for advice to help me get back together with my wife. We were married for 8 years, knew each other for 15 probably, we have two boys 8 and 11. As people know that have kids, the intimacy in a relationship goes out the the door...
A. 27 December 2012: Leave her alone! She doesn't want shallow gestures that she can see right through. She wants you to be a better man. Thats not something flowers and other small gifts are going to accomplish. Wait a few days and think of what you need to say without ... (read in full...)
I want to get back with my wife. I know deep inside she wants to give me another chance!
Q. Hello, I am looking for advice to help me get back together with my wife. We were married for 8 years, knew each other for 15 probably, we have two boys 8 and 11. As people know that have kids, the intimacy in a relationship goes out the the door...
A. 26 December 2012: It's simple: forcing affection will drive her away, not bring her closer.
You have a history and kids together, this is a very powerful thing.
But you must understand why she dumped you. You were a "loser" and you didn't treat her like s... (read in full...)
I'm too insecure about my body to get physically intimate with my boyfriend. Any suggestions?
Q. So, I'm really insecure about my body to the point where I mostly wear dark colours, slouchy materials in clothing etc. I have my moments when I wear form fitting pieces and I get a lot of compliments but I never take it seriously. Anyway, back on ...
A. 26 December 2012: I've had some beautiful girlfriends with not a thing to worry about, but nearly every one of them has had body issues to some extent, so you're not alone at all.
Remember that your guy has already accepted what you look like because he loves you.... (read in full...)
Torn between my ex and the new guy. What should I do for the best?
Q. I have been torn between to men now for a few months, but I think I have decided to give my ex another chance since we have has such a long history together and we have children together. But I don't know how to let the other man go, because I feel ...
A. 26 December 2012: While you have a history with him and that can be important, you obviously broke up for a reason. If whatever it was hasn't been resolved then there's no reason to believe that things will be different this time.
... (read in full...)
What do you call a man who breaks up with you, then pretends it didn't happen and expects you to miss him?
Q. Thank you for helping people even in the busiest time of the year. Well I guess for some it's the most leisurely time of the year, and some the loneliest time. I had been dating my ex for three months. It's fair to call him an ex because he broke up...
A. 26 December 2012: You're lucky to have this guy out of your life. Just quit contacting him as nothing good will come out of it.
What do you call him? Emotionally unstable. The type of person who wants everyone to be as miserable as he is. ... (read in full...)
I'm lesbian and I don't now how to tell My family
Q. Help !!! I have Been lesbian since i remember but the problem is that nobody knows just a friend but i dont now how to tell My parents im afraid they are going to judge me and the thing is that i have to fake that i like guys ...
A. 26 December 2012: Do you live in an area where being a lesbian is socially acceptable? Are your parents openly homophobic? Are they religious? Etc. I would just tell them in a simple, no nonsense way that lets them know that this is not a phase, you're not exper... (read in full...)
Why do I still feel so much love for someone who has never loved me back and openly has told me he has never liked me in that way?
Q. I was in a relationship when I was young and ended up having a child with the guy when I was 17. We broke up shortly after that due to him cheating and treating me badly. It has been over 9 years since we were together and over the last 9 years I ...
A. 26 December 2012: I don't know what you can do to move on, but you're not in love with this guy, I can tell you that for sure. Most people HATE being rejected. We hate people making us feel like there is something wrong with us. It's natural so you're not alone... (read in full...)
My B/f doesn't last very long in bed
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been having sex for about a month now and it doesn't last very long. We do some foreplay but almost as soon as he's inside me he has to cum. We've tried taking breaks, I usually don't give him oral before we have sex beca...
A. 26 December 2012: I doubt you're too tight (or at least that's not the issue), it's mostly psychological. I'm no expert, but there is one cause of this that you should consider: watching porn. When guys watch porn (and masturbate without it to some extent) the... (read in full...)
Do I try anal sex or not?
Q. My boyfriend wants to try anal sex with me but I just don't know about trying it. Do I let him have his way or what? and anyone that has tried it can you please explain it like what do you have to do and how does it feel? I only really care about th...
A. 26 December 2012: Why not try it? People do it because they like it, so you should try it a couple of times; if you don't get into it you don't need to feel obligated to do it. It's one of those things that are nice but not critical to most men.
I don't find it ... (read in full...)
Why is my Bf so protective about his phone, hardly talks about his family, and is very guarded about his life? Yet does seem to care about me,
Q. Okay so my boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 months now but only really official I guess for a month. I'm just trying to decide if things are going anywhere with this relationship. He is very weird about his phone and refuses to leave...
A. 25 December 2012: You haven't given it a lot of time. If he's like me he likes to take it slow and doesn't announce everything to the world as soon as it happens. Also, who knows what's up with his family. Obviously he's not as close to his parents as you a... (read in full...)
Was there more to his friendship with this woman?
Q. Hi, I am looking for advice on my relationship. My partner of 8 years admitted to being friends with a female co-worker when he told me for 2 years he did not speak to her. I got very angry and upset over the deceit. He swore nothing ever happened ...
A. 25 December 2012: Maybe I'm missing something (your story isn't very clear), but I'm guessing he didn't say anything about it because he knew you'd act like this! You haven't indicated that he's done anything wrong yet somehow he's managed to betray you? Btw, h... (read in full...)
I'm not attracted to women but I made out with a female friend. What does this mean?
Q. I have never questioned my preference....but I am confused on what this may mean. I had my lesbian friend over a week ago and we would make sexual jokes/ gestures to each other but I was only joking as she knew that I wasn't being serious. At one ...
A. 25 December 2012: Popular culture has removed the stigma of women kissing each other less a thing of gay/bisexuality than just plain old sexuality.
I have had a number of girlfriends who had kissed other girls, despite having no desire to be with women. Sometime... (read in full...)
I've been flirting with guys the last 6 months. Should I leave my husband and start afresh in a more meaningful relationship?
Q. I met my husband when I was seventeen and married at 21. Now 28 with a child I am so unhappy! We argue a lot, over stupid and small things! I will admit I am bad tempered and may indicate things! Sex life gone down to a point I ask and be let ...
A. 25 December 2012: I think you should do what you promised him you'd do when you got married. Being away from someone for long periods of time is ALWAYS difficult and it really takes a lot of character to make the relationship survive, let alone thrive. In marri... (read in full...)
Why is this guy ignoring me? We had a great 3 days together. I know he has a Gf.
Q. I had a great time with a guy for 3 continous days. It wasn't supposed to be a date but we met for a lunch at 1pm....and the date ended up 3am! It was not supposed to be a date as he was leaving the country and he already has a girlfriend. How...
A. 25 December 2012: He's not avoiding you, he just moved on... it was a fling. Maybe he felt guilty or got too busy before he left. Either way it doesn't matter!... (read in full...)
I feel like I created a monster! I want my old boyfriend back!
Q. I am 20 and I have been with my boyfriend since senior year of high school. My boyfriend is 20 too. So when we first met I paid him no attention. Then, he would sit next to me everyday, follow me to my classes, get stuff for me, he was so nice to ...
A. 25 December 2012: Well, to be honest with you, it's good that you realize you made a mistake, but if you admitted it to him and he still doesn't care then there may not be much you can do. What works well (as you have seen) is breaking up with (or "mock" breaking... (read in full...)
Why is this guy ignoring me? We had a great 3 days together. I know he has a Gf.
Q. I had a great time with a guy for 3 continous days. It wasn't supposed to be a date but we met for a lunch at 1pm....and the date ended up 3am! It was not supposed to be a date as he was leaving the country and he already has a girlfriend. How...
A. 25 December 2012: Uhhh, he cheated on his girl probably feels bad about it or he had some fun and that was the end of it.
Avoiding you might not be the best way to put it but he's moving on. ... (read in full...)
Was he over the top to break up over this after 2 years together? Was he looking for an excuse?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up in April of this year. He had found out I was on dating sites again. I did not want to meet anyone, because I was in love with him. I used to go on dating sites to tease the guys on them and had no intention of meet...
A. 24 December 2012: I hope you learned your lesson, because as you can see 100 percent of the people here think that him breaking up with you is justified.
It's also obvious that he wants nothing to do with you, so just leave him alone and move on with your life. ... (read in full...)
He makes me wet and it makes me uncomfortable.
Q. Okay so I'm 16 and so is my boyfriend. Were both Virgins and we do want to wait till marriage for sex so instead we Dry Hump. Im usually in leggings or sweat pants and hes usually in gym shorts. But he says he wants to try to do it with pants off ...
A. 24 December 2012: BTW, the wetness, as stated, is normal. But not only normal it's sexy to a man. Your boyfriend may not be a full grown man yet but if you take things further with him he'll appreciate it as a sign that you want him.... (read in full...)
He makes me wet and it makes me uncomfortable.
Q. Okay so I'm 16 and so is my boyfriend. Were both Virgins and we do want to wait till marriage for sex so instead we Dry Hump. Im usually in leggings or sweat pants and hes usually in gym shorts. But he says he wants to try to do it with pants off ...
A. 24 December 2012: Let me tell you something. You are basically just working your way up to sex. First it was making out, then it was heavy petting, then it was dry humping clothes on. Next it's dry humping clothes off. Guess what comes after that? Wanting to wait ... (read in full...)
She treats me like dirt? What can I do?
Q. To everyone else we are perfect for each other. Photos of us together are all over her facebook. She`s forever announcing to the world how much in love she is, and she tells me that all the time. There`s also another side to this. Her secret d...
A. 23 December 2012: Counseling. You won't get any advice here that can help you. Personally, I'd leave her, but she sounds like she'd make your life hell if you did, so you have to be careful.
I do want to say that at one point my marriage got to be pretty bad. My w... (read in full...)
Why would he lie and should I confront him about it?
Q. I caught my BF in a lie about his contact with his ex-GF. He says he told her not to call, email or txt and that he hasn't heard from her in months. I talked to his sister and she told me he told her the ex had been bugging him to meet and have ...
A. 23 December 2012: He lied to protect you. Total honesty doesn't always make a lot of sense and in this case I don't think he was deceiving you as much as he was protecting you from the truth.
I've been in the same situation before. ... (read in full...)
What kind of orientation is this?
Q. I'm a young woman and I have never really considered my sexual orientation too much before, but now I'm confused. I only consider men 'hot', not really women. Rarely, though, there is the occasional woman that I can recognize as very attractive, ...
A. 23 December 2012: I remember when I was your age my best friends girlfriend said she'd give us $100 each if we had sex with each other and let her watch.
Neither one of us is gay so we weren't down for it, but I wanted to let you know that you aren't alone in bein... (read in full...)
Should I trust my husband? He cheated with my sister!
Q. my is love marriage,iam 30yrs and having 9 monhts baby girl,i got shock when i came to know that my husband and my elder sis having a relationship since one and half year in my 2yrs of marriage.i consider her as mother and she knew about it even ...
A. 23 December 2012: I disagree about leaving your husband. I agree that you shouldn't just automatically trust him. He didn't make "a mistake", he deceived you for a period of time with the worst possible person to cheat with. What he did was very wrong and showed a ... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in the doldrums, are we doomed? He has the start of ED. His suggestion is a threesome, but I'm not so keen.
Q. My husband and I were talking about our sex life just a moment ago. He mentioned how sore he is from all the sex (which has been almost everyday...and I know he masturbates as well, but I think he has done that more in the last week than we have had ...
A. 23 December 2012: I've been with my wife for 6 years and although the sex isn't as exciting as it was at the beginning, it's certainly enjoyable and something I'm always looking forward to, so I think it's REALLY important for you to remember that this is probably ... (read in full...)
Should I confront my wife or am I being paranoid about her possibly chatting with other men?
Q. We have been married for 5 years. Unfortunately live in seperate locations because of work(different continents !) We are committed to getting back together physically in a few months(move work location). My predicament is this, i believe she ...
A. 23 December 2012: There's no way for anyone here to tell you if she's cheating or not. She's probably lonely as are you. I would say that your evidence at this point is circumstantial with the exception of her "friend" visiting.
If he traveled to visit her, it ... (read in full...)
I'm almost twenty and I feel like I've done nothing fun with my life.
Q. Hi! I know this isn't spesific to relationships, but I need advice and I don't know where else to go. I'm 19, and I joined a mature learning college (over nineteens only), I'm the youngest person on the course, and it's made me really upset. ...
A. 23 December 2012: As stated you are 20. The best times in life happen a little later as most people are broke when they're 20.
This is what you should do: When you have a chance, work your butt off (overtime, etc.) and go on an extended vacation. Take a few mo... (read in full...)
In the last year my fiance's desire has gone down, and where once he lasted an hour, now it is five minutes.Any suggestions to improve things?
Q. i have been with my fiancce for a large part of my teen years. We are engaged now. When we started having sex he used to last about an hour or longer in bed. but lately this year our sex life has gone down hill for me. he doesnt do foreplay an...
A. 22 December 2012: Watching porn can cause guys to orgasm too quickly, because they're basically racing toward the finish line.
I used to think porn was no big deal because I still loved being with my wife but it started to cause me to cum before her. She got so tire... (read in full...)
Upsetting breakup. then the silent treatment. Is she putting up emotional barriers just to push me away?
Q. So my ex broke up with me 3 months ago after I broke her heart by writing a goodbye message to her and ignoring her for two weeks, then showing up like nothing happened. (I was angry at her for a number of reasons, which I should have talked to her ...
A. 22 December 2012: Apologizing a million times only makes it worse because you are continuously reminding her that you screwed up. It seems obvious that the relationship is over, but if you can't accept that you at least need to back off for a little. You proba... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in the doldrums, are we doomed? He has the start of ED. His suggestion is a threesome, but I'm not so keen.
Q. My husband and I were talking about our sex life just a moment ago. He mentioned how sore he is from all the sex (which has been almost everyday...and I know he masturbates as well, but I think he has done that more in the last week than we have had ...
A. 22 December 2012: I'm not anti porn per say and not a prude in any sense, but ED is apparently an epidemic among younger men who were raised on Internet porn. There's a lot to the reasons behind it but you need to have a serious talk with him about it. Don't fee... (read in full...)
My LDR seems sweet and gentle. I'm a virgin. Last night I found out he's into sadistic/masochistic sex. How do I deal with this?
Q. I'm going to try and keep this as brief as possible. Last night I learned that my long-distance boyfriend is into sadistic/masochistic sex. I'm really surprised, because he's a really sweet and gentle guy. I'm a virgin, with zero sexual activit...
A. 22 December 2012: I'm not going to say break up with him because that's not what you asked. You should just remember that it's pretty common and it doesn't mean he's screwed up or anything, so I'd try not to judge him too much if you really want to be with him. T... (read in full...)
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