He just cheats on me spirtually every 2 months, but defends himself saying he enjoys being a player...should I marry him?
Q. My boyfriend of 7 month now is driving me crazy with the childishness he do frequently, and by "drives me crazy" i mean insecure! -he is great in bed, if we have free time of 5 hours we simply did it for four hours, like 3 times or so! -very ten...
A. 2 February 2013: I hope you stick with it! If you do, you are sending a solid message to him: you're not going to get away with treating me this way.
If you go back to him you'll be telling him that all he needs to do is be nice and he can get away with anything... (read in full...)
He just cheats on me spirtually every 2 months, but defends himself saying he enjoys being a player...should I marry him?
Q. My boyfriend of 7 month now is driving me crazy with the childishness he do frequently, and by "drives me crazy" i mean insecure! -he is great in bed, if we have free time of 5 hours we simply did it for four hours, like 3 times or so! -very ten...
A. 1 February 2013: I wouldn't give him a gift that'd just be sending mixed messages. ... (read in full...)
Menu ideas for a romantic dinner?
Q. hi guys just looking for a tad bit of help. been with my partner for 5 half years now. been engaged a year and this september were getting married. :-) my partner is in the merchant navy with a pretty good rota..he works 3weeks away and 3 weeks...
A. 1 February 2013: There are so many choices that I'd recommend a website like foodnetwork.com so that you can get some ideas knowing what the two of you like and what's available where you live.
In my experience availability is a huge issue as things vary from cou... (read in full...)
Help me escape my emotionally abusive father
Q. Hello all, I live with my father and I'm eighteen. I suffer with incredibly bad anxiety and depression caused by both of my parents and my long term ex boyfriend (we were together for four years) which renders me completely non-independant ...
A. 1 February 2013: I wish I knew of a better way than this. You say you're terrified of living without a guardian... but what kind of a guardian is your worthless dad?
I don't know much about how they do things in the UK, but I'd guess there are programs for peop... (read in full...)
I haven't heard from him in a few weeks. Does that mean he wasn't interested?
Q. I met someone a few months ago. He is a lot older than me (15 years) and when I met him he was just finishing a relationship and we had a few dates. We spent the night together a few weeks ago but he wasn't sure about it because of just coming out ...
A. 1 February 2013: I can't pretend to know what his motives are but I'm confident you inexperience in the bedroom was absolutely not the reason he hasn't contacted you.
I'm reasonably sure it was a matter of not wanting a commitment since he just got out of a rel... (read in full...)
What does it mean if a guy calls you "high maintenance"?
Q. What exactly does it mean by 'high maintenace'.. The guy I'm dating now its been a few weeks and the reason he dint ask me out earlier is because he thought I would be 'high maintenance'..what did that mean:( ?...
A. 1 February 2013: He means he thought dating you would be too expensive. ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my three children that I'm going to have another baby?
Q. dear aunts and uncles .. i have found myself in somewhat of a mess , first of all let me tell you a little bit of my story ,, i seperated from my husband about 9 months ago after a long hard marriage and about 8 weeks ago i met a lovely man .. we ...
A. 31 January 2013: I don't think it's how you tell them that's important, it's how you deal with their reaction that's the real issue.
What iamheretohelpyou said may have been harsh but it's true. I didn't want to go there but it's worth remembering if your cur... (read in full...)
Engaged but not ready to marry
Q. I have been living with my boyfriend for a year and a half. We are engaged with no set date. I know he loves me and I don't want to throw away a loving relationship for no reason, but I don't think my feelings for him are very deep. I'm worried if ...
A. 31 January 2013: As stated, fear of loneliness is a bad reason to avoid doing the right thing here. You WILL be lonely, but not for long. When the loneliness goes away you'll be happier.
Everyone deserves to be happy with their situation. Even if they have no ... (read in full...)
How can I accept husband's impotence without any medical reason?
Q. My husband puts me thru a lots of sexual wondering. He lost his erection several years ago, in the middle of an intercourse. Than he stopped getting erections all together, and lost his sexual desire 100%. I mean, never asked for sex, no touch, no ...
A. 31 January 2013: I don't know how to answer your questions but if you're incredibly frustrated here than you may consider talking with him about an open marriage. ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my Bf is getting tired of me. He's even said he does not feel he "needs" to see me. What can I do?
Q. I have been really worried about my relationship lately, and really need some advice. I'm worried my boyfriend is getting tired of me, or if this is just normal for a relationship as it goes along? I don't know what to do. help please! I'll try...
A. 31 January 2013: I don't agree with anonymous. There's no reason to accuse him of cheating just because that's what she did.
What it sounds like is that the relationship hasn't been the best and he's just not into it any more. Given that you had problems for the ... (read in full...)
My husband bought a necklace for a random waitress. I find it inappropriate, he thinks it's charity. Thoughts please.
Q. Mod note: I added she was the waitress to make the question more clear. I found a receipt for a swarovski necklace in the sale in my husbands week day apartment. When I asked him about it, after a few laughs, he said that he goes to a chinese ...
A. 31 January 2013: You guys need to move. I can't imagine why it makes sense to have this arrangement. ... (read in full...)
An old coworker flirted with me and now I'm confused about my fiancée.
Q. currently engaged to "M" for 6 yrs. then a few mos ago i ran into co-worker "L" who i used to work with/flirted with (before i connected with "M"). i point out fiance "M" to "L" and "L" leans in and says "does your fiance know how lucky he is?" and ...
A. 31 January 2013: I question your decision making ability! First off your pick for fiance must have been rushed because questioning your relationship because a guy gave you a compliment is crazy.
I'd highly recommend breaking up with him, so obviously aren't r... (read in full...)
He dumped me at the club over the weekend after 5 months. Now he wants to be friends. What's going on?
Q. My boyfriend, 27, dumped me outside a club at 4am at the weekend. He said although he really liked me, after 5 months dating had realised he did not love me. To begin with though he said ' I was such an idiot earlier... before saying this. He w...
A. 31 January 2013: The only thing I can tell you is that not everyone is compatible with everyone else. Some people are willing to tolerate less compatibility than others.
Some people you can weed out right away. Others take a few weeks or months. Some people y... (read in full...)
Feeling unfair in a first relationship
Q. Im having my first relationship ever at age 22 but my boyfriend (who is 23) had a long relationship before me which lasted about 5 years and the reason they broke up was because the girl broke it off, not him. We have been dating for about 3 mont...
A. 31 January 2013: If you break up with him at 3 months you'll be used goods just like him. You'll also be a hypocrite because no "special" relationship lasts only 3 months.
Also if you had met the right guy a while ago you would have slept with him by your own... (read in full...)
I'm still in love with my ex-boyfriend and I wish I wasn't.
Q. I need help or someone to talk to... I'm still in love with my ex-boyfriend and I wish I wasn't. We've been broken up for 2 months but he is moving halfway across the country in a month, so we've been spending time with each other, acting li...
A. 31 January 2013: You have two options here: just give it more time, or wear a shock collar and press a button to shock yourself any time you think of him.
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How do I handle girls flirting with my boyfriend in front of me?
Q. Hello aunts and uncles! My question is : how to hande girls flirting with my boyfriend in front of me? See, today I went to a bank with my boyfriend, we are very serious, and he really wants to be married and wants me to meet his parents. He i...
A. 31 January 2013: Being polite in a situation like this is what gets you into situations like this.
But honestly, I'm guessing she was just being friendly, however for the sake of argument I'll give you the benefit of the doubt that she was being catty and rude... (read in full...)
My husband bought a necklace for a random waitress. I find it inappropriate, he thinks it's charity. Thoughts please.
Q. Mod note: I added she was the waitress to make the question more clear. I found a receipt for a swarovski necklace in the sale in my husbands week day apartment. When I asked him about it, after a few laughs, he said that he goes to a chinese ...
A. 31 January 2013: There is absolutely no excuse for it.
That doesn't mean he was cheating, but it was definitely inappropriate. ... (read in full...)
Is it a waste of money to see an exhibition of my favorite band's pictures? Should I save my money to see them in concert?
Q. I know this isn't much of a problem, but i would appreciate some advice. There will be an exhibition of photographs of my favourite band next month. I'm not sure if any of the band members will be at the opening night, but it's possible. One of them ...
A. 31 January 2013: Sounds too expensive for me. It's just some pictures... Do you want to spend a couple of hundred dollars to see some pictures? ... (read in full...)
My husband says he doesn't watch porn or masturbate ever. Is this possible?
Q. All I ever read on this site is how men use porn. If a guy says he isn't using porn then he is lying. I read a post just the other day for a woman who wanted a man who didn't cheat, watch porn, look at other women, etc. It got tons of replies all ...
A. 30 January 2013: I don't tell her. It's probably one of those "don't ask don't tell" things. I only do it when I'm desperate and sex isn't an option. I also masturbate more frequently with my imagination now; in fact I've turned porn off because it wasn't doing ... (read in full...)
My husband says he doesn't watch porn or masturbate ever. Is this possible?
Q. All I ever read on this site is how men use porn. If a guy says he isn't using porn then he is lying. I read a post just the other day for a woman who wanted a man who didn't cheat, watch porn, look at other women, etc. It got tons of replies all ...
A. 30 January 2013: There are guys who don't watch porn, the real issue is when women say "Why won't my guy stop?" If he's already watching it he probably won't stop.
The thing about it is that most men don't stop, not because they can't, but because they don't se... (read in full...)
I hate that my boyfriend said his best vacation was with his ex! Should I be mad?
Q. Hi everyone, we talked with my bf the other day about spending some summer vacation together. We want to go to the sea, because we haven´t been by the sea for a long time. My BF told me he was by the sea few years ago and it was the best, most ama...
A. 30 January 2013: You got a bunch of good advice here, especially "Why would you punish him for enjoying his life before you?"
Save your anger for when he runs off to the beach with another woman and has a blast when you're together!
I also agree that his p... (read in full...)
What do you think? Does he like me?
Q. So I've known him for a few months (mutual friend) and we finally hung out. Here are some things that happened. *he asked me personal questions. *told me a lot about himself and told me he doesn't share this stuff with everyone. Only people...
A. 30 January 2013: Well if he knows that easy sex isn't an option with you its possible he meant that he doesn't want to rush things. Just enjoy your company and get to know you better and see what develops. ... (read in full...)
How long should you wait in the ambiguous friends/dating zone, before you give up on the idea of a relationship?
Q. So I meet a guy by chance at a coffee shop a few months ago, he gives me his number and we start dating. We date for a month, and then he just stops calling for no reason. I’m a bit bummed, because I really liked him… but it was still early in the ...
A. 30 January 2013: You're not getting any answers because it's pretty hard to know what is going through his head in a time like this.
Did you guys have any chemistry or did it feel like you were just friends? If it was just a matter of things going well but with... (read in full...)
Why do people have to make comments that are hurtful?
Q. Dear Cupid, The other night I was talking to this guy that I know fairly well but is still considered an acquaintance. We were texting and he asked "why do you wear so much makeup? Not to say you look bad but i'm sure you're pretty naturally...
A. 30 January 2013: I'm sure it wasn't meant to be hurtful. In fact he probably thought that he was giving you a compliment. Some people wear a lot of makeup base they don't feel good about the way they look; maybe he thought you fell into that category. ... (read in full...)
He's 24. I told him I was 18. How can I tell him the truth that I'm 17 and not lose him when I do tell?
Q. Hello, I'm 17 years old and iv met a guy and we have been seeing each other for about a month and we really like each other. However, I told him I was 18 as we met in a bar that I got into. He's 24. I want to tell him that I'm actually 17,...
A. 30 January 2013: He might get upset and that's his right since if you guys have had sex he is legally a sex offender (at least here in the US).
Faced with that and I wouldn't blame him for being upset and never talking to you again.
Either way you have an ... (read in full...)
Cheating:( How do guys keep their girlfriend from cheating?
Q. How do you keep your girl from cheating? Please i am asking for a range of different answers, so please give me your opinion on whats the best way to keep a partner faithful, or atleast, what actions can a guy do, to keep her girl from seeking ...
A. 30 January 2013: Keeping her satisfied in and out of the bedroom is a good place to start.
Don't give them the freedom to do whatever they want... What I mean by that is you shouldn't let her get into a situation where she might be tempted, such as studying... (read in full...)
What should I do? Call it quits until he gets his stuff together or tough it out a little longer?
Q. I have a boyfriend and we have been together for 2 months. I've known him 9 months before actually making it official. Anyways at this time he's currently jobless and Car less . He has been applying for any kinda of job yet nothing has come up. He ...
A. 30 January 2013: Do you guys live in a town/city with a very bad economy?
If so then I'd say give him some time, maybe offer some help. Without a car it can be difficult to find a job.
If you live in a relatively prosperous area he may not be trying very hard, ev... (read in full...)
How can we help our daughter get through college when she's being bullied about being masculine?
Q. Our 18-year-old daughter told us she had something to announce yesterday. We waited to hear, and were surprised by what she said; she admitted she felt like she should have a gender reassignment [her words!] and that people bully her in college ...
A. 29 January 2013: The problem is that let's say you give her a makeover and it makes her appear quite a bit more feminine, to the point that people wouldn't make fun of her. The bullies would probably just make fun of her changing.
What I'd suggest is some cou... (read in full...)
Does barely legal porn set a trigger for middle-aged men when young teenage girls come into their visual range
Q. My boyfriend of 51 years of age likes Barely Legal Porn. That is the only type of porn he likes. He buys the cd's and also the Barely Legal Magazines. He tags the magazine pages with sticky notes of the young girls that he likes. What I have no...
A. 29 January 2013: "What can be done about it?" you can leave him and find someone else who will respect you. You won't be able to change him, you'll just turn it into a cat and mouse game where you're always trying to catch him and he's always sneaking around.
... (read in full...)
Does this 'ho ho ho' mean a laugh or a prostitute?
Q. Hi there! I recently went into hospital to have an operation, and my partner who I've been seeing for nearly a year has been looking after me and has been my rock really, well I noticed in his inbox on facebook a message from his mate asking how...
A. 29 January 2013: What you have to realize is that guys "talk shit". It's called that for a reason. I love my wife but I wouldn't want her to hear every word that comes out of my mouth! She probably feels the same way.
I'm not one who's quick to dismiss things a... (read in full...)
Married four years and she does not want to work. I'm ready to walk. What would you advise?
Q. Hi I have a question we been Married four years. Before that she was working. Now she feels she doesn't have to work. I talk to her about getting a job. She won’t do it, and I'm tired of doing it all. He is no help. Instead she wants me to do a lot...
A. 29 January 2013: What in the world was that? ... (read in full...)
Advice needed regarding catching my girlfriend sexting
Q. I am a 36 year old guy who has been in a relationship with a lady whom I met online 6 months ago. We have become very close but last weekend I found text messages on her phone to at least 3 other men that were explicit in nature ( in both words and ...
A. 29 January 2013: Her drinking is her problem, you're not her babysitter.
You did the right thing and I congratulate you on it. I'd recommend deleting her number and forgetting she ever existed. If you give her a second chance you'll be condoning her behavior... (read in full...)
Is 22 too young for a man to really settle down? Do we know each other well enough to make this decision?
Q. I am 21, I went to school with this guy, that we will call GUY. So..we have texted and talked via facebook/text for a while, off and on, but for these last few weeks we have talked heavily. All day everyday. We can't hang out at this moment ...
A. 29 January 2013: My dad has a friend who's in his 60's and has been with his wife since they were 15 years old. So age isn't always a big deal.
In general I don't think it's the best idea to settle down when you are so young. I was 29 when I got married and I fe... (read in full...)
Am I over-reacting? Should he have left me alone? Was I right to refuse to go to a place where I'd be the only woman?
Q. So here's my story. I'm visiting my fiance where he stays due to work. Yesterday he wanted us to go watch soccer at his friend's place (actually home boy), I refused to go because I don't know his friend's friends and I was going to be the ...
A. 29 January 2013: I don't think what he did deserved the reaction you gave him. He may have been a little inconsiderate of your feelings, but you could say that your over reaction was inconsiderate of his as well.
I also don't understand why you'd be worried ... (read in full...)
Her need to pee is really getting in the way of our sex life
Q. my girlfriend stops me in the middle of sex frequently and says she is afraid she needs to pee. i hate to say it, but it's beginning to ruin the mood, as it's hard to get into it when she's stopping all the time. now don't get me wrong, i underta...
A. 29 January 2013: Follow SVC's advice; I'd like to add that she may be a squirter. My wife is, and it can be messy, but I think it's great. She's not such a fan because it does make her feel like she has to go pee and she's a little worried she's going to pee on me. ... (read in full...)
My ex is threatening me by saying that unless I get back with him, he will assassinate my character and ruin me!
Q. i am from India..i am in a major trouble. i broke up with my boyfriend because he was so manipulative and controlling. he made my life like hell.In the initial days of our relationship i gave him my gmail and facebook password.Not even in my dr...
A. 29 January 2013: You should log in to your accounts and change the passwords. If he's already done that then you should be able to go to "forgot password?" which will give you a chance to reset or change your password.
Regarding the pictures... Keep somethin... (read in full...)
1st date--he chewed gum with his mouth open and has small hands. Should I move on?
Q. I went on a first date with a man last night, he seemed alright, ok looking, we got on well, he sent me a nice message saying how nice I was after. But he chewed gym with his mouth open, not nice. And I noticed he had small hands - could this mea...
A. 29 January 2013: Go out on another date and tell him to eat with his mouth closed and ask him about his penis. Problem solved! ... (read in full...)
Married four years and she does not want to work. I'm ready to walk. What would you advise?
Q. Hi I have a question we been Married four years. Before that she was working. Now she feels she doesn't have to work. I talk to her about getting a job. She won’t do it, and I'm tired of doing it all. He is no help. Instead she wants me to do a lot...
A. 29 January 2013: If you're ready to divorce her over this and you've adequately expressed this to her and she STILL won't get a job then there isn't much else you can do.
What I might suggest if you haven't already done this, is to take away her access to money... (read in full...)
My boyfriend watches an inordinate amount of porn.
Q. I feel like this is a question that's been asked over and over again, and will probably be asked again many times in the future. My boyfriend watches an inordinate amount of porn. He's 22. While the fact that he's watching porn seriously bugs me,...
A. 29 January 2013: Questions like this really demonstrate how blinded people can be when they are in a relationship.
It's probably obvious to everyone except you that there's nothing YOU can do about it. You can't change other people, they have to do it themselv... (read in full...)
Got dumped by BBM and then he deleted me as a contact as soon as I read it
Q. If you are familiar with BBM you will know that someone knows when their message has been delivered and then eventually read. Today I got dumped by BBM and then as soon as he saw that I had read the message, he deleted me! What a coward!! Duh... I ...
A. 29 January 2013: I'll add my vote to not responding. Forget he ever existed. ... (read in full...)
He just cheats on me spirtually every 2 months, but defends himself saying he enjoys being a player...should I marry him?
Q. My boyfriend of 7 month now is driving me crazy with the childishness he do frequently, and by "drives me crazy" i mean insecure! -he is great in bed, if we have free time of 5 hours we simply did it for four hours, like 3 times or so! -very ten...
A. 29 January 2013: I don't think you should leave him necessarily, but if you stay with him you'll basically have to accept his behavior. Can you do that?
He's not likely to change as its just who he is.
There are plenty of people out there who have successful ... (read in full...)
I love him to no end, I would do or give anything for him, I can't move on but it's tearing me apart!
Q. 1 year and 9 months ago me and my boyfriend broke up and he refused to speak to me afterward even though he said we could still be friends. although we never spoke i could never get over him and a year and 2 months after we broke up he started ...
A. 29 January 2013: What you have to do is accept the fact that you don't actually love him like you think you do. It's more complicated than that.
What you really want is to be accepted by him. People HATE being rejected and it can make you feel like you've l... (read in full...)
Does she have the right to ignore me like we were strangers even though I pushed her away and ignored her because I was scared of a relationship?
Q. There was this girl who I had been seeing for quite a while, but I felt it was getting too serious for my liking, we were growing a lot closer far too quick and I knew it wasn't what I wanted. Because I'm not a relationship person, i'd be a terrible ...
A. 28 January 2013: I can't believe you question whether she has a right to do this! Of course she does, you broke her heart by ignoring her, so why should she do anything different?
She has moved on because she had no choice, it's what people do. I doubt she has ... (read in full...)
What do you think? Does he like me?
Q. So I've known him for a few months (mutual friend) and we finally hung out. Here are some things that happened. *he asked me personal questions. *told me a lot about himself and told me he doesn't share this stuff with everyone. Only people...
A. 28 January 2013: Just looking to have fun simply means he doesn't want to get involved more that some hanging out, a few dates and some sex.
... (read in full...)
What do you think? Does he like me?
Q. So I've known him for a few months (mutual friend) and we finally hung out. Here are some things that happened. *he asked me personal questions. *told me a lot about himself and told me he doesn't share this stuff with everyone. Only people...
A. 24 January 2013: Duh... (read in full...)
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