How much porn use is too much?
Q. How much porn use is too much? I am a 19 year old virgin and am single. I have only one ex where I did not use any porn for most of the relationship until the end when we broke up over distance issues (college). It's been about 5 months since our...
A. 8 January 2013: Feeling like a loser is common for guys before they are with a girl for the first time. You're not old to be a virgin, you just have to be willing to leave your comfort zone and ask a girl out. Don't let rejection hurt you, because if you aren't ... (read in full...)
Got mad when I found him clubbing with other girls, then he drops me?!
Q. Hello everyone i really need some advice!! I caught my boyfriend with girls on a night out and dancing with one of them and was really drunk and lashed out! we were fine afterwards and the next day he dropped me home and i phone him within an hour ...
A. 3 January 2013: In order to get someone back you need to have a good reason, not just because you're heart broken.
And, believe it or not, the best way to get someone back is not to beg and pester them, it's to tell them how you feel in a mature way then walk away... (read in full...)
I'm having a difficult time letting go of my cheating/lying girlfriend.
Q. I feel so broken and hopeless. Im having a difficult time letting go of my cheating/lying girlfriend. We've broken up several times only to get back together. My heart still yearn for her, she was the first woman I fell for and had sex with. This ...
A. 3 January 2013: Just like quitting smoking, cold turkey is the ONLY way to go here. Having Having her as a constant reminder of your heartbreak is not healthy. Nobody said breaking up with someone is easy, but you'll be okay if you just do it instead of delaying ... (read in full...)
How much porn use is too much?
Q. How much porn use is too much? I am a 19 year old virgin and am single. I have only one ex where I did not use any porn for most of the relationship until the end when we broke up over distance issues (college). It's been about 5 months since our...
A. 3 January 2013: Of course it's feasible. If you do watch porn don't focus on having an orgasm as fast as possible. But, using your imagination is better for sure. ... (read in full...)
Why does my wife insist on lying about my penis size?
Q. As I have said on previous posts, my wife has had about of 25 sexual partners before me (we met each other when she was 40). She is a very well educated and very kind person. At the begining we were very open during our conversations and at that ...
A. 3 January 2013: Why in the world are you trying to force your wife to say you have a small dick?
It's average, plain and simple. Not small, not big.
... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as a second and last chance for love?
Q. I have been with my bf for 3 years and want to get some advise on what to do from here. I have no one to talk to and need to vent too. Our relationship has been a rocky on and off, I cheated, he cheated, I kicked him out, he got deported, cheated ...
A. 3 January 2013: If you were to right down the positives in one column it would say "I love him." The negatives would be that epic drama you just wrote. In this case the love loses as it's easy enough to find; you don't have move to Turkey and be with someone who ... (read in full...)
How do you tell someone that the girl he fell in love with doesn't exist?
Q. How do you tell someone that the girl they fell in love with doesnt exist. It wasnt meant to turn out this way. I never wanted him to fall for me, but he has. Now we are meant to meet up tuesday and i cant becasue the girl he.l fell for is a fake. ...
A. 3 January 2013: If you were pretending to be a supermodel and you aren't one, then you probably have a pretty big problem and you just need to send him a message and be honest, there's no easy way to do that.
If it was less drastic and you actually could be with... (read in full...)
I just found out my boyfriend cheated on me five years ago. It's ruined everything!
Q. My boyfriend had cheated on me when we first started seeing each other with some girls from his university and he chose to tell me at the start of last month. We thought I was pregnant so he said he needed to tell me before the result. I wasnt ...
A. 3 January 2013: I'm not seeing a question here but I want to say that when some people first get together they are totally committed, but for others they continue seeing others until it's clear that the relationship has become more serious
I dated a girl and when... (read in full...)
Why, after 23 Years am I having trouble over this? My view of my wife is shattered
Q. so after 23 years of being married this question has come up. Why now I don’t know. Before I met my wife, she had a boyfriend in in high school. They waited until after graduation to have sex. While she was at collage he cheated on her. I me...
A. 2 January 2013: Having sex with six guys in a year while at college and mending a broken heart isn't exactly unusual in my opinion. I think six would put her a little below average if I had to guess.
You have to understand the circumstances and that it was for ... (read in full...)
I lied to my GF about how old I was when I lost my virginity. Should I tell her the truth?
Q. Basically me and this girl have been having sex and now are getting more serious. She asked me when i lost my virginity and because I was embarrassed i lied and said when I was 19 when really i had lost my virginity at the age of 23 with my ex girlf...
A. 2 January 2013: I agree with Abella. However I don't think it's something that HAS to be said as it's not probably the most important thing in the world to her. If you feel you can't live without telling her then by all means go right ahead. It shouldn't be a big ... (read in full...)
Can a relationship work when age, tastes and especially nationality are so different and the language between you both is limited?
Q. I have a thing for my work mate and things have happened between us in the past, a kiss here and there, flirting ect. But we have a lot of differences between us, he is almost 28 and I'm just 22, things like our music taste is completely differen...
A. 2 January 2013: It's possible but not ideal. You'll just have to accept that they will never totally get you. The little details that require complete fluency are lost on non fluent speakers.
However, my wife is Guatemalan and I'm American and her English is grea... (read in full...)
My husband watches porn while I am at work.
Q. I have been with my husband for three years marrird for two.I am very depressed .my husband watches porn while I am at work.He doesnt work or do anything around the house.I tried to talk to him about this but he days he doesnt have a problem.He lies ...
A. 2 January 2013: Ask him how he'd feel if you started watching porn for women featuring muscular guys with six packs, perfect butts, beautiful hair (only on their head) and huge... personalities.
That's what my wife asked me and then I realized at that point th... (read in full...)
Is having a threesome a good idea to spice up our sex life?
Q. Hey everyone, I'm 23 year old turning 24 in 2 months..I'm married to this gorgeous man I love and everything is going great,but we always need something to spice up our sex life.rather I need something to spice up our sex life..so I decided to sugge...
A. 2 January 2013: Asking "is it a good idea" isn't the right question, for some it is, for others it was a disaster.
Before jumping into it you have to ask yourself and your boyfriend some questions.
Does he care enough about your feelings to stop if you get jeal... (read in full...)
I'm trying one last time with my ex but I really miss the man I gave up! Help?
Q. I recently go back with my ex to give our relationship one last try . We were together 10 years and 8 months ago I walked out and met someone else. I decided to give it another go with my ex as I felt like If i didnt give it one last try then I ...
A. 1 January 2013: BimBim hit the nail on the head. You need to leave the guy you're with, and thank him for helping you finally realize that he's not the right guy for you so you can move on with your life.
Be single until you stop being lonely, THEN, you're r... (read in full...)
I'm 20, I'm a virgin, and I'm ALWAYS horny. Help?
Q. I'm 20 years old, I'm a virgin and I'm horny ALL THE TIME. This only became recent, I have been masturbating for a few years now, maybe 2-3 times a week, sometimes I'd go weeks without doing anything. But at the beginning of December, I was see...
A. 1 January 2013: It's completely normal. When I was around that age I was going through the same thing. Although I decided that I didn't cherish my virginity so I lost it to someone who I didn't care a bit about. It would have been nice to lose it in a more romantic ... (read in full...)
How can I get through to my wife?
Q. How can I get through to my wife ? For 6 or 7 years now I've been trying to get her to talk to me and discuss many things including our virtually non existent sex life. She's refused. She seems to want to live in some odd scenario which is more like ...
A. 1 January 2013: If you've really tried everything including romantic evenings (more than one or two) and couple's counseling then you may need to have a blunt conversation with her about having an open relationship.
Tell her you'd love to be with her and her only... (read in full...)
Do I give my ex a new chance or decide that it's a new year, time for new experiences?
Q. Very brief. I was with my ex for a year and 3 months (on top of that 6months seeing eachother) so lets say nearly two years. We have been split for a year and three months. He was and is my first love, he saved me from a very bad phrase in my lif...
A. 1 January 2013: I agree with Darrell. A person can learn their lesson and see things after a break up that they didn't see before, I'm proof of that.
I also agree that you have to take this opportunity to make sure he knows how much his letting you down affe... (read in full...)
Is she genuinely interested in me or desperate?
Q. I am writing this letter to seek your valuable advise. There is this woman working in the same building as me but in a different office. When she joined her office, she was introduced to me by the HR who is common to both of us. It has been alm...
A. 1 January 2013: You're making it sound like there is something wrong with you. She is obviously interested, and it doesn't sound like she's desperate from what you mentioned.
If woman didn't marry bald guys then bald guys wouldn't be passing on their genes to guys... (read in full...)
How much porn use is too much?
Q. How much porn use is too much? I am a 19 year old virgin and am single. I have only one ex where I did not use any porn for most of the relationship until the end when we broke up over distance issues (college). It's been about 5 months since our...
A. 1 January 2013: You know, I went through dry spells and depended on porn to keep me sane and I've never had issues because of it, but it certainly happens to many people.
You might need to stop watching it so you can force yourself to get out there and meet some... (read in full...)
Could I catch something from being fingered, what should I do?
Q. last night i got fingered for the first time, i didnt really care about it at the time. but now it kind of hurts and im worried that his fingers were dirty or something. would i catch something and what should i do?...
A. 1 January 2013: Unless he was fingering you within a couple of minutes of another girl you won't catch anything.
Tell him to take it easy next time.... (read in full...)
Have I ruined my new relationship by being insecure?
Q. The guy that I've been seeing for three months has just told me that he thinks we shouldn't spend so much time together. We see each other nearly everyday at the gym.. And then afterwards and also at the weekends. He says that he thinks I need to ...
A. 1 January 2013: Having a life outside of your relationship is pretty critical for your relationships health. Your boyfriend recognizes that and so he's only being proactive in telling you so.
An insecure person naturally sees that as the beginning of the end, but ... (read in full...)
I usually pick the losers and jerks - I'm scared to see what happens this time!
Q. So I've started talking to this guy that has a lot in common with me, its like we can constantly talk and not get tired of each other. I have never been able to talk to someone like this and it feels really weird, and Im afraid I am going to say ...
A. 31 December 2012: Yeah, your question wasn't "is this okay?" but you may want to be careful if you're really 16-17 and this guy is quite a bit older, especially if you met him online.
Regarding your question: why be afraid over something you can't change? Just be ... (read in full...)
Is this a one sided relationship where I initiate all the actions to support the relationship and her? Yet her efforts to support the relationship are scant.
Q. My girlfriend and I are both in our 40's and have been together for 8 months. We love each other very much but it seems like I'm the one always doing the "little things": helping with her kids, shuttling them from place to place, writing her lett...
A. 31 December 2012: Sounds pretty one sided to me, and I applaud you for making such an effort. She may be giving you less attention because she's not used to getting so much. Or she could be self centered. Either way you have to do something about it, because ... (read in full...)
Need some advice on getting back into the dating pool
Q. My boyfriend of 3.5 years and I broke up about 2 months ago. Last year we went through some tough times, even going to therapy together. All the time he telling me he wanted to marry me and we had the same goals. I dont really believe in living ...
A. 31 December 2012: I've never internet dated, but it seems to work for a lot of people. However I bet there is a lot more of that judgement that you're not a fan of.
I prefer just getting out there and meeting people, that way you know right away if there is a con... (read in full...)
Any advice? My GF tells me on sms chat she want sex, but then won't!
Q. I am in relationship. i and my girl friend make romance frequently.. but not sex. she always tell me that she wanted to have sex on sms chat. but when we are together, she don't allow me to do so. we had given each other hand jobs. any advice?...
A. 31 December 2012: Be patient. If she's a virgin she probably just needs time to get used to the idea.
There's no ethical way to get a woman to go from handjobs to sex other than her getting horny.
Maybe you should open up to her and ask her why she claims to wa... (read in full...)
I thought we were in love, but she was out cheating on me!
Q. I am a lesbian, and my girlfriend of 3 years, I just found out has been cheating on me , she's moved in with the other women a block away from me and they got married today!! All in 6 weeks!! And they say they are soul mates!!! How would you feel ...
A. 31 December 2012: If there is one thing I've learned in my life it's that rejection is hard for everyone on the planet, it can make you feel like something is wrong with you, among other things.
But, you have to remember that often it's not that. Maybe they are... (read in full...)
I got pregnant from a drunken night with my ex and he doesn't want me to have the baby!
Q. I broke up with my ex at the start of the year a few months later I met another man, things with him seemed great at first but quickly got worse as we were both still hung up on our ex's. Things came to an end but we stayed in touch and about a ...
A. 31 December 2012: I think you need to take the father out of the occasion; his input has selfish motivations so for him to say you'll ruin his life is a bit of a stretch to say the least.
You also need to remember that you are likely to find another man who will... (read in full...)
Should I respond to ex's new GF's message?
Q. I was in a long distance relationship a few years ago which lasted two years. Now we're just friends, although we don't keep in touch, we do meet up whenever we happen to be in one another's cities. Recently, his current girlfriend for about a year ...
A. 31 December 2012: It almost sounds as if she's trying to see if he's lying about something. I wouldn't respond because it's really none of her business.
Don't you think that he has the right to keep that information private?... (read in full...)
Is she too proud to admit she made a mistake?
Q. 3 months ago I heard my ex flirting on the phone with a man, which really hurt me and made me write a touching goodbye message to her. She told me she loves me and didn't want me to leave her. I ignored her for two weeks to hurt her back but she was ...
A. 31 December 2012: I had a girlfriend do the exact same thing you did to your girlfriend. It really hurt and although I loved her and wanted to be with her I never went back with her because I felt it things couldn't be the same again. I didn't want to be with ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure about her behaviour - is she a flake?
Q. i've been seeing this girl, and i can't lie, she's confusing the crap out of me. we met about two months ago when she started working with me. one night, a few work friends, including her, all went out for drinks, and after everyone left, she came ...
A. 31 December 2012: It sounds like she likes you, but if you don't want to get involved with a flake then you better avoid her because that's just what she is. I can't stand flaky people either so I can understand what you're talking about. however, if you like her ... (read in full...)
As the man, should I be doing the asking?
Q. I have a lady in my life. We are friends, good friends and I'd like to be more than friends but it hasn't reached that point. I'm old fashioned. I've always believed a man has to court the lady, that when a man wants to do something, ie go...
A. 31 December 2012: When you leave the ball in her court that shows her you're not very interested because you don't find her important enough to initiate things. In other words you can "take it or leave it."
Most women want a guy to take control. They don't li... (read in full...)
Help me give advice, is her guy drawn to her because he needs her?
Q. If a man is 39 years old and has his own house that he gets behind on payments with and the only thing he does is sit and play video games and watches movies when he's not at work or at his mom's house where she cooks for him and does his laundry. ...
A. 30 December 2012: Paragraphs might have helped that be more readable.
To answer your question, he sounds like a loser. Not exactly the type you want to spend your life with unless you like stressing about your marriage. ... (read in full...)
I got pregnant from a drunken night with my ex and he doesn't want me to have the baby!
Q. I broke up with my ex at the start of the year a few months later I met another man, things with him seemed great at first but quickly got worse as we were both still hung up on our ex's. Things came to an end but we stayed in touch and about a ...
A. 30 December 2012: Child support is all you can expect from him. If you have a supportive family that will help you. If you are all alone then you should be aware that being a single parent with no breaks can be very difficult.
I disagree with anonymous who said... (read in full...)
We seem to get on okay through texting but when we meet up we don't click. What should I tell this guy?
Q. Alright... Here goes... This guy and I met in our final year of undergrad (two years ago). At the time, I was seeing someone else and I didn't even think twice about him. Last year (last Christmas) my boyfriend and I broke up and I began talking ...
A. 30 December 2012: I'm sure it's pretty common to have a good text relationship but nothing happens in person, I think I've experienced it myself. Texting is a controlled environment. I wouldn't bother telling him about your ex, what's the point? The real issue i... (read in full...)
Am I reading the signs all wrong?
Q. He is making me mad. I think he likes me, i have been working with him for a few months. Alot of people think he is grumpy because he doesn't get involved, very task centred guy. But with me: He throws things at me, He protects me- be it from ...
A. 30 December 2012: The signs are pointing you in the opposite direction.
This guy seems to be bringing drama to your life before you're even together, imagine how it'll be when you've been together for a while.
At this point you fantasize over him, but the tru... (read in full...)
I got pregnant from a drunken night with my ex and he doesn't want me to have the baby!
Q. I broke up with my ex at the start of the year a few months later I met another man, things with him seemed great at first but quickly got worse as we were both still hung up on our ex's. Things came to an end but we stayed in touch and about a ...
A. 30 December 2012: If you think you have it in you to be a good mom then you should have the baby. F- him. I can tell you that I would have been fine if I never had kids, but my wife wanted them so we had two. I love them with all my heart and I'm glad she wanted ... (read in full...)
I'm bi-curious. Women! How would you feel if your spouse suddenly said he was bisexual?
Q. Hey everyone! My question is pretty short I guess, but I'd like to know the answer in different ways. Would you want to know if your HUSBAND was bi-curious/bisexual? (Would you want to know if your HUSBAND was bi-curious/bisexual years later ...
A. 30 December 2012: While you didn't ask for advice from a man I just have to say this: if you're head over heals for someone and you feel like you can't live without them, I'd be damn sure that there was a good chance that they were pretty open minded before you said ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and feeling pressured by my own longings to have sex with my Bf. But I'm scared of getting pregnant. What should I do?
Q. okay so im a teenage girl and i kind of feel pressured to have sex,not by anyone though, i have a certain longing for it.i want to wait till im married because im still a virgin but sex is so tempting to do. And i have the guy i want to do it with ...
A. 30 December 2012: It'd be unusual if you didn't feel those urges. Its normal certainly but it's really not a great idea to act on them. Kiss, and do other things, but try not to cross that line.
While nothing bad may come of it, you probably wouldn't enjoy it much ... (read in full...)
A wife, another woman who I love, and kids with both. Tell me how I can fix this situation.
Q. hi there I am 33 years old man and I have been married for 4 years now but been together for 10 years and we also do not have sex my wife treats this like a job. half a year into being married I started having an affair with a woman but only for fun ...
A. 30 December 2012: I agree, divorce your wife. I don't blame her for being upset but you both deserve better.
She can't prevent your kids from seeing you, the law is there for a reason. Tell her you don't feel she cares about you and it's time for the two of you t... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend only wants material things from me
Q. I've been w my boyfriend for almost 2 years and I made the mistake in spoiling him and now I feel like the only thing he wants from me is material things. We haven't been intimate in over a year and I'm lucky enough to see him once a month. I love ...
A. 30 December 2012: If this isn't an LDR than I'm sorry to say that your relationship ship is already over. I don't throw around "he's using you" but he clearly is not interested in having more.
Do yourself a favor: don't let your natural fear of rejection prevent ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to approach women. Is there any easy way to do so?
Q. Hey all! I could do with some tips on how to approach people more. I don't mean to sound full of myself but I am a fairly attractive and athletic guy who shouldn't have any problem meeting women. However, when it comes to the communication si...
A. 30 December 2012: Your fear of rejection is obviously crippling. You just need to get over it by leaving your comfort zone. Saying "hello" to a girl sounds easy because it is. Make small talk long enough to know if the person shows any interest in you; if they do, ... (read in full...)
She's making catty remarks about me. Do I ignore her? Or involve the guy we both may have a crush on?
Q. this girl might like this guy I might have a crush on. I know he used to like me but I think he likes her now though I don't know for sure. He may even like Both of us. Anyways this girl is rude to me making catty/smart comments most of the time...
A. 30 December 2012: Nobody likes a "tattle tale." One thing you'll learn as you get older is that people like her have issues and you can't spend time worrying about them or how they act.
Just ignore her and get the guy, that will shut her up. ... (read in full...)
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