Other than a credit card? How to purchase sex toys without the small town bank staff knowing what I purchased?
Q. Hi! Very childish question here, but Im worried. Its a very miniscule problem but I am looking to purchase some "bedroom toys" but Im worried that if I use my debit card the bank will see my purchase! I live in an extremely small town Im taking ...
A. 5 February 2013: PayPal has a debit card so you're good there. ... (read in full...)
Other than a credit card? How to purchase sex toys without the small town bank staff knowing what I purchased?
Q. Hi! Very childish question here, but Im worried. Its a very miniscule problem but I am looking to purchase some "bedroom toys" but Im worried that if I use my debit card the bank will see my purchase! I live in an extremely small town Im taking ...
A. 5 February 2013: Buy it from a place with a non sexual name. They certainly won't know what you bought but may be able to see where you bought it from. Although even that is unlikely unless there was a reason for them to be looking through your bank statement.
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I'm gay but afraid to come out about it. How long will it take me to accept this about myself?
Q. I am in a relationship with a woman for my first time. To make the story short, I broke up my engagement with my 8 year fiance not only because he was cheating but also because I felt l for this girl. We've been dating for about 4 months now. I ...
A. 5 February 2013: Move somewhere with a welcoming attitude towards gay people and start over. You're getting too old to live a lie any more. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont get engaged to me unless I get her a 20 000 euro engagement ring
Q. Hi, I ve posted on this website before and I ve found the answere really helpful so I am hoping for some more advice please. I ve been agonizing over this for some time, would be really interested to hear what others think.. My girlfriend w...
A. 5 February 2013: Reading this question is literally making me cringe.... I'm going to say this in all caps in the hopes that you will pay attention:
YOU ARE ASKING FOR A BROKEN HEART BY MARRYING THIS WOMAN. YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY KNOW IT AND I DO AS WELL.
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My best friend has caused me so much pain! Does he not have any idea how much he has hurt me?
Q. Dear Cupid, Around June time last year I fell for my best friend – we have known each other for 8 years and being only 24 that is quite a long time. The thing is he has supposedly wanted me this whole time, yet when I finally fell for him – he ran...
A. 5 February 2013: It must be stressful to be "plus" sized, because it seems like people are blaming a lot on their size.
Look, the guy liked you before and I assume you were plus sized then as well. So don't let that mess your head up.
It sounds like he h... (read in full...)
Would you be annoyed if your friend drunkenly felt your boyfriend's butt?
Q. Silly question....Is it normal to be very annoyed at a good friend for feeling up ur boyfriends ass??? my good friend had too much to drink so she started touching his ass. Should i be annoyed?? because I am:( I would not do that to her boyfriend no ...
A. 5 February 2013: I don't think bringing it up would accomplish anything, or at least it won't give you any new information. She's going to either say she's sorry but she was wasted, or she's going to tell you it was no big deal, stop making it one.
If you thin... (read in full...)
Was it out of line for my therapist to tell me that I'm beautiful?
Q. Dear Cupid, I recently started seeing a therapist because I have issues with my parents at home. I've been verbally abused my whole life and that is why I've decided to seek out a therapist. Last night I had my fist session with my therapist and...
A. 5 February 2013: A comment like that wouldn't normally be considered out of line for just about anyone to say to anyone else, so I'd give him the benefit of the doubt here and continue seeing him until you have a better picture of what he's all about.
If he makes... (read in full...)
Please help :( I love my boyfriend, but could he be gay?
Q. Okay guys, I really need your help. I am such a mess from worrying about this. I've explained a lot below...read it and let me know what you think? I am 22. I've been with my boyfriend, who is 23, for about a year, and I love him to death. We get...
A. 5 February 2013: Well, the only thing that makes a guy gay is wanting to be with other guys.
Everything else you mentioned is more of a sign that he has a lot of emotional issues.
Is it possible he's gay? Sure. But none of this proves or even implies that.
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We're waiting until we're married -- but what if he doesn't have enough to satisfy me?
Q. Dear Cupid I am a 30 year old female due to get married in a few months. My fiancé and I are both virgins, we decided to wait till marriage. It's never something I regretted. We have spoken about sex and I have friends who are sexually active ...
A. 5 February 2013: I feel that waiting until marriage is a mistake for reasons like this. If you had had sex with him before hand and hated it then you'd have your answer. If you wait and hate it, well good luck to you because you just promised to be with him forever. ... (read in full...)
Infatuated with a mutual friend of my husband's
Q. I have become infatuated with a mutual friend of my husband. We have all been very close for over 15 years. We have always play flirted ( yes, even in front of our significant others - we have all played around like that forever) but he started ...
A. 5 February 2013: Do you love your husband? Do you want to stay married to him? If the answer is yes then you have to stop immediately. It was a fun diversion from reality but if you don't think it's worth losing your marriage for sex then stop now. ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to feel hurt, upset and objectified?
Q. I hope someone can help. I'm a black woman who's been dating a white guy for the past four years. Recently I found myself with his computer. I was surfing the net and ended up peeking at his Facebook messages, which I know I shouldn't have done. ...
A. 4 February 2013: I would say that being with you and presumably being a good guy overrides reading a PRIVATE message. I stress the private aspect of this because it really does matter. People say things they don't mean when the person they are talking about isn't ... (read in full...)
I got drunk and made out with co-worker. My husband said don't ever tell him if I cheat but I can't handle the guilt!
Q. I did something awful and I don't know what to do. I was out of town for work and was hanging out with other people in my field. We were drinking and a man who's very well known in my field started paying attention to me and I was flattered even ...
A. 4 February 2013: Definitely don't tell him, because then you'll be punishing him and he's done nothing wrong.
The guilt is your punishment and it will go away.
I get the feeling you slept with the guy but don't want to admit it. If that's the case it'll be aw... (read in full...)
I don't want to be my boyfriend's doormat but I am!
Q. Hi My bf of 3 years didnt contact me for a week, tod he called me and said he was busy. Thats it no explanation watsver for his behaviour and no aplologies and now he is not picking up his call again. I know he is not treating me right. I want...
A. 4 February 2013: Leaving someone can feel difficult but it's actually very easy. You're probably just afraid of being alone.
If you live with him make a plan to leave (make it as simple as if the two of you were roommates) and follow the plan. Then don't tell him... (read in full...)
What should I do if my boyfriend asks for sex?
Q. Dear cupid, am 16 and a virgin i love my b/f very much but what should i do if he ask for sex?...
A. 4 February 2013: Say whatever you WANT. If you don't want to tell him no and tell him why. You should probably bring the subject up beforehand. ... (read in full...)
I don't understand how I can have a successful relationship if I am not experienced and someone else is very far ahead of me
Q. I have never had a girlfriend or kissed a girl. Most people lose their virginity when they are teenagers and keep getting busy after that. i don't understand how i can have a successful relationship if i am not experienced and someone else is very ...
A. 4 February 2013: You are thinking too much about this. Yes there are girls who want an experienced guy, but there are plenty who are more interested in what type of person you are than how much experience you have in bed. You're just choosing to see the negative ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about the lack of sex in our relationship?
Q. i have been in a relationship for more that five years and during this time our sex life was great. we made sure we saw eachother all the time so we could have sex since we dont live in the same house. But lately all we do is chat and hang out. We ...
A. 4 February 2013: Some guys begin to lose interest in their 30's. I can't imagine it, but it's true. ... (read in full...)
My husband is constantly making jabs at me
Q. I have been with my husband for 9 years, married for almost 5. I'm so tired of our relationship as it seems things are never changing or they will get better for a little bit and go right back to the way they were. My husband grew up in a family w...
A. 4 February 2013: Things won't change on their own. So just asking him to stop IS NOT GOING TO WORK. He needs to change who he is to do that, so he needs to go talk to a professional.
What I'd recommend is that the two of you go to marriage counseling. Maybe af... (read in full...)
How to make her feel comfortable and relaxed for our first date? And do you think she likes me?
Q. Hi everyone, I have known this girl from college just over a year now and we have always spoken online mostly, not much in person. Normal friendship talk, until last month or two we have gotten closer. Especially last month we have been texting ...
A. 3 February 2013: First tip: plan something different; no movie. Make it a surprise. Also don't worry too much about how to make her feel comfortable. It should happen naturally, if it doesn't you guys are probably just not compatible. ... (read in full...)
I want love. But my mother is nagging me to get married asap. Is what I want too much to ask for?
Q. I'm 26 and single. My mom has been constantly telling me to just find someone and get married. As long as he's nice and I can tolerate him then that's good enough. Anyone would do. Anyone is better than no one. I'm 26, it's time, soon it'll be to...
A. 3 February 2013: No offense, but your mom's opinion on this is ridiculous. I had a few decent girlfriends but didn't want to get married. Then I met a great person at 29 and the rest is history. I don't regret waiting at all, it allowed me to enjoy my younger years. ... (read in full...)
Dating for one month so far. I feel as if I'm not good enough when I'm trying to pleasure him. What could be the problem?
Q. I've been dating this guy for almost a month now. Let's call him X. He's 39. I'm 22. I'm still a virgin and he's not. We've already done sexual stuff and he knows what he's doing. I, on the other hand, have not been able to get him off. I feel ...
A. 3 February 2013: Getting a guy off by hand job is very difficult. And even oral is challenging. I've never got off from a hand job and almost never from oral.
Those things are usually just there to help get to sex anyways. Assuming you'll be having sex sometime... (read in full...)
Are relationships that exist with absolutely NO violence towards one another?
Q. Aunts and Uncles... Have any of you (honest answers please) had a physical fight with your current spouse? I just want to know if there are relationships that exist with absolutely NO violence towards one another. Again, please be honest. Th...
A. 3 February 2013: My parents were never violent, although my dad could yell like crazy. I've never laid a hand on any woman and rarely yell, and I'm definitely not verbally abusive.
I've had one relationship where we didn't fight at all.... it was amazing!... (read in full...)
How can I tell my boyfriend I love him without being rejected?
Q. How can I tell my boyfriend I love him without getting rejected?...
A. 3 February 2013: A little more info would be helpful. ... (read in full...)
Met a gorgeous guy on the train but he has a girlfriend!
Q. Hello Everyone This Week I met a guy. The way I met him and started talking seems like it belongs in a movie. Basically I was waiting in the train station waiting for my train number to be announced. When they finally called it I headed down the ...
A. 3 February 2013: I don't have any advice regarding when to text him or any of that but I wanted to point out the fact that this is likely to become a complicated situation (booty call, mistress, boyfriend who says he left the other girl... Take your pick) but not a ... (read in full...)
Did watching the birth of our daughter make my husband gay?
Q. I’m 32 years old woman and now I’m experiencing really hard time in my marriage. My husband(he’s 33) and I are married for 3 years and 6 months ago our daughter was born. My husband never wanted to be in the delivery room, but I wanted him to be ...
A. 3 February 2013: There is a little known phenomenon where men are unable to be with their wives after she gives birth. I believe it has something to do with her reminding him of his mom.
I promise you that I'm not joking.
Unfortunately I don't remember t... (read in full...)
B/f takes 20 minutes to respond to texts and comes back with cliche responses. Is something up?
Q. Big dilemma you guys ill try and keep it short. I really need some help. My boyfriend is 22 and works on a boat for 2 weeks of the month. Well, all day he texts me like once every couple of hours, and on his lunch break, like once. When he gets off ...
A. 3 February 2013: Texting as a primary means of communication is clichéd and there's nothing you can really do about it except talk to him on the phone.
So yes, you are blowing things out of proportion.
Either that or he's married to another woman and has a ... (read in full...)
Girls: Would it bother you if a boy was stronger than your boyfriend?
Q. Girls, would it bother you if a boy was stronger than your boyfriend? My girlfriend invites me to her home often. She has a 12 year old brother who wrestles. He's always challenging me to wrestle and arm-wrestle. So, I did one day and he beat me b...
A. 3 February 2013: I can tell you that a lot of women would be turned off by it, my wife and previous girlfriends included.
Both consciously and sub-consciously women want to be protected and taken care of by their spouse, and with all due respect you got whoo... (read in full...)
Handling breakup after deciding to break up with mother of my child
Q. Gf and I have been together for 5 yrs and have a 3 yr old daughter. This past thanksgiving I found out she has been flirting with a coworker from a different office, 1/2 hour away. Initially I was upset but thought that "innocent" flirting was ...
A. 3 February 2013: Try to make things as amicable as possible for the sake of the little one. The better your "post relationship" relationship is, the better it will be for her.
My brother broke up with his baby's mama when she was only 3 and she didn't take it ... (read in full...)
He wants us to try a threesome what will that do to our love?
Q. Pls I need your opinion, my boyfriend enjoy sex with me, and we both satisfy with each other, but his always begging me to give him a chance to try is fantasy of bringing a girl to join us,he said, he only want to know how it feel having two girls ...
A. 2 February 2013: Wanting a threesome doesn't mean anything other than wanting a threesome. It doesn't mean he isn't ready for a relationship as another person said; that kind of thinking is naive and assumes everybody thinks the same way as you. He could be madly in ... (read in full...)
He just cheats on me spirtually every 2 months, but defends himself saying he enjoys being a player...should I marry him?
Q. My boyfriend of 7 month now is driving me crazy with the childishness he do frequently, and by "drives me crazy" i mean insecure! -he is great in bed, if we have free time of 5 hours we simply did it for four hours, like 3 times or so! -very ten...
A. 2 February 2013: I hope you stick with it! If you do, you are sending a solid message to him: you're not going to get away with treating me this way.
If you go back to him you'll be telling him that all he needs to do is be nice and he can get away with anything... (read in full...)
Why do I still care for someone that never cared about me?
Q. I broke up with my ex because he wouldn't make a commitment. He wanted to keep his options open. even though he wasn't dating anyone, he wanted the option of being able to. I thought that wasn't fair to me, I wasn't asking him to marry me, but just ...
A. 2 February 2013: Why do you think he didn't care about you? It may seem impossible, but there are people who love people but don't want to be exclusive. Plenty of them. He loved you in his own way and you loved him in yours.
Unfortunately they were too differen... (read in full...)
Why would anyone refuse a free trip to a tropical paradise? Why won't my boyfriend come to see my family with me?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for two years and we've been living together, with his family, for a long time. I got a big promotion at work and finally was able to buy plane tickets to see my little brother and mother in Florida. I've been so ...
A. 2 February 2013: Some people are afraid of traveling. I love going to new places so I don't understand it.
Either way it does say a lot about him that he won't do it to make you happy. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you, but it implies to me that your happines... (read in full...)
Mothers out there. Do you feel overwhelmed by being a wife And Mom? How do I ensure I'm not swamped by it all?
Q. Hi, I need help to all Mothers out there. Do you feel overwhelmed by being a wife And Mom? I feel guilty to even say it aloud but some days I feel like I'm failing. I work full time come home cook, clean, play with my son listen to my husband ...
A. 2 February 2013: Sometimes life is just that way and there isn't much you can do about it. I have some suggestions to help a little:
If you can afford it hire a maid service, at least part time.
Schedule some alone time (meaning everyone is aware that this ... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me? I've lost interest in guys and dating. Could I be risk averse due to memories of my ex cheating and lying?
Q. What do you think is wrong with me? Please help me understand:)? For 2 years now I haven't felt like having a boyfriend. I've been single for 2 years now I just don't want to get to know a guy or go on dates. I've just lost interest in guys ...
A. 2 February 2013: First things first; I'm pretty sure it's fear stemming from being hurt. You touch the stove and burn yourself and you might be afraid to cook.
If you're happy with things being the way they are then I wouldn't worry to much about it. Time wil... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend only with me because he can't have her?
Q. Hi, My boyfriend hurt me earlier in our relationship. I told him I cannot tolerate it anymore and left him. He spent two months taking a good hard look at himself, he came back outta nowhere and wanted to me tell about what he learned. It was ...
A. 2 February 2013: While I understand your need to feel secure in your relationship I think you are giving this girl too much credit. Your boyfriend has never been with her so how in the world could he love her?
The more likely scenario is that, as he said she is h... (read in full...)
My boyfriend drinks and tells me he's sleeping with other people, what should I do?
Q. Hello i have been with my partner now for 2 1/2 years and has been a very terbulant relationship, he drinks heavily and when he aint arounf me he promises he wont drink and when i phone him and he is drunk on the phone or even before he gets to that ...
A. 1 February 2013: Work on breaking up amicably. Don't get married to him.
There are a few traits that are intolerable in a marriage for me, lying being one of them. Excessive lying makes your whole relationship feel like there is no foundation.
Get rid of hi... (read in full...)
I'm with someone great, but I can't get over my ex. What do I do?
Q. Here is the issue. I had a girlfriend for 2 years and we broke up on Thanksgiving. I was depressed for awhile because the mistakes I made and wish I could take back. She made mistakes too and we ended on pretty bad terms. Well its February now and ...
A. 1 February 2013: You certainly rushed into things. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
At the very least give it time. One month with someone can't compete with two years AND having your heart broken by someone else.
Keep in mind that having your hear... (read in full...)
Now that her mom is sick, she only has time for her friends. Should I end things?
Q. Hi I've been seeing a girl for nearly 2 years,she is great and everything but recently her mother has become ill, so she has to look after her. Now i ask to see her but she always says shes busy looking after mum, but she goes to the cinema once ...
A. 1 February 2013: Sorry buddy, but she ended things awhile ago, she just hasn't had the courage to tell you.
If I were you I'd just stop texting her back and move on. Don't break up with her, she already broke up with you so there's no point.
If you feel t... (read in full...)
My wife wants to get a house, but she won't help pay!
Q. I have questoin my wife want to get a house and ther is only one income i take care of all the bills as it IS. I tell her she need to helppáy for a house but she dont wont to help ...
A. 1 February 2013: She treats you like an ATM machine because you let her. She may have you thinking if you don't that she'll find someone else who will, but that's probably bs. If she leaves you she'd have no choice but to get a job, and probably a bad one.
At le... (read in full...)
Sex and frustration! Does he want me or not!
Q. there is this Guy we hung out a few times. The first time we hung out he would say things like he has never dated a girl of my ethnicity but he would if it was me because I'm cute. He was flirting with me the whole night. and the next day at school ...
A. 1 February 2013: Seems pretty obvious that he just wanted sex. ... (read in full...)
It hurts me to see my friend with my girl crush together. Should I cut them off?
Q. Without going into a lot of detail, my closest male friend and a girl I had been crushing on for quite some time now, and for the first time for one of my crushes actually getting on with the person a good deal rather than admiring from afar, ...
A. 1 February 2013: You said "a girl you were crushing on." Does that mean you had pursued her and were rejected? Or does it mean that you were too afraid to say anything and just admired her from afar?
If you did nothing to try and get with her than consider... (read in full...)
He just cheats on me spirtually every 2 months, but defends himself saying he enjoys being a player...should I marry him?
Q. My boyfriend of 7 month now is driving me crazy with the childishness he do frequently, and by "drives me crazy" i mean insecure! -he is great in bed, if we have free time of 5 hours we simply did it for four hours, like 3 times or so! -very ten...
A. 1 February 2013: I wouldn't give him a gift that'd just be sending mixed messages. ... (read in full...)
Menu ideas for a romantic dinner?
Q. hi guys just looking for a tad bit of help. been with my partner for 5 half years now. been engaged a year and this september were getting married. :-) my partner is in the merchant navy with a pretty good rota..he works 3weeks away and 3 weeks...
A. 1 February 2013: There are so many choices that I'd recommend a website like foodnetwork.com so that you can get some ideas knowing what the two of you like and what's available where you live.
In my experience availability is a huge issue as things vary from cou... (read in full...)
He just cheats on me spirtually every 2 months, but defends himself saying he enjoys being a player...should I marry him?
Q. My boyfriend of 7 month now is driving me crazy with the childishness he do frequently, and by "drives me crazy" i mean insecure! -he is great in bed, if we have free time of 5 hours we simply did it for four hours, like 3 times or so! -very ten...
A. 29 January 2013: I don't think you should leave him necessarily, but if you stay with him you'll basically have to accept his behavior. Can you do that?
He's not likely to change as its just who he is.
There are plenty of people out there who have successful ... (read in full...)
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