What do you think? Does he like me?
Q. So I've known him for a few months (mutual friend) and we finally hung out. Here are some things that happened. *he asked me personal questions. *told me a lot about himself and told me he doesn't share this stuff with everyone. Only people...
A. 30 January 2013: Well if he knows that easy sex isn't an option with you its possible he meant that he doesn't want to rush things. Just enjoy your company and get to know you better and see what develops. ... (read in full...)
Does she have the right to ignore me like we were strangers even though I pushed her away and ignored her because I was scared of a relationship?
Q. There was this girl who I had been seeing for quite a while, but I felt it was getting too serious for my liking, we were growing a lot closer far too quick and I knew it wasn't what I wanted. Because I'm not a relationship person, i'd be a terrible ...
A. 28 January 2013: I can't believe you question whether she has a right to do this! Of course she does, you broke her heart by ignoring her, so why should she do anything different?
She has moved on because she had no choice, it's what people do. I doubt she has ... (read in full...)
Am I out of line for wanting my girlfriend to discuss major life decisions with me?
Q. I am a little confused and could just use a little advice to keep me on the right path. My girlfriend and I had a little argument the other day. She's been distancing herself over the past few weeks, and I finally called her out on it. (We'v...
A. 28 January 2013: You're not out of line at all. But she sounds like she's not ready for a serious relationship right now. That life decisions come first and relationships second.
That's not wrong either since there is no way to know if you two will be together... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't talk to me and threatens to leave me if I don't stop nagging him!
Q. Hi My bf of 3 years always ignores me, he doesn't even talk for 10 minutes with me but has time for his friends and for watching TV and playing games. Whenever I ask he says I'm nagging him and if this continues he is gonna leave me. He doesn't eve...
A. 28 January 2013: Nagging can be extremely annoying and cause the reaction you're getting from him.
What you need to do is work on HOW you talk to him.
Don't complain, just ask for what you want.
I know you probably don't want to hear this, but it sounds... (read in full...)
I've been married 18 years and have attracted a new butterfly. What do I do about my wife and son?
Q. hi,i'm 48 yr old man, been married 18 yrs, one child, 3 months ago i meant a woman, 45 yrs old, it started out with a casual flirt which later ended up with lunch dates everyday for a month, during our lunch encounters we learned we basically are ...
A. 28 January 2013: First things first: at three months most relationships are perfect and the person you're with is as well; they understand you (the wife never does) they are mad about you (the wife never is), etc.
It's been awhile, but you may remember the vows... (read in full...)
Is my G/f still in love with her ex? Why is she keeping their sexual photos and is she just using me for the life I can provide for her ?
Q. Hi there, I just need some advice I've been with my girlfriend now for nearly 3 years n it's really good, we're both in our early 40,s Before me she was with someone just for sex she said but she got attached to him but he left and lived hundre...
A. 28 January 2013: What makes you think she wants anything other than what he does?
Sending naked pictures is just sexual, it doesn't sound like she wants a relationship with him. He's not as stable as you are.
Your current setup works great for her, you take ca... (read in full...)
Can a man have sex and cum if he's not even enjoying it?
Q. This is a question for the guys; is it possible for a guy to NOT want to have sex with somebody, but then go ahead and do so, and still cum, even if he's not enjoying it? My bf always says he's not into one nighters, but he told me that whilst ...
A. 28 January 2013: Yes you can cum. Stimulation is sometimes physically pleasurable but if you're brain is in the wrong place then it wont seem like it.
Even people who are raped can experience pleasure and sometimes that's one of the hard parts for them to deal ... (read in full...)
I'm a catch! Why aren't men approaching me?
Q. Hi I am 23 years old and to date I have no had my first boyfriend,my first serious relationship..I'm a hopeless romantic,I want to love,want to be loved..I don't know why men aren't approaching me tho..so here's the thing I quite homely person,and I ...
A. 28 January 2013: Some women can be intimidating to men; if they're too good looking it can make men think they aren't good looking enough for you. If you have a lot of money (or look like you do) then it can make men think you are a gold digger or too materialistic ... (read in full...)
How can I be better eye candy without looking tarty?
Q. I really don't think I am girlfriend material! Or I just repell boys I have no idea But I just don't attract anyone and if I fancy someone it just never works out Can I have some tips on how to be better eye candy without looking tarty? What do...
A. 28 January 2013: What is tarty? Is that the same as slutty?... (read in full...)
Ever since my boyfriend confided that he and his ex engaged in anal sex, I've had difficulty being intimate with him
Q. I have been dating the most amazing man for four months. Everything was wonderful until two weeks ago when he confided that he and his ex engaged in anal sex. Since then, I've had difficulty being intimate with him. I think anal sex is disgustin...
A. 28 January 2013: Well, you're not having sex with poop when you have anal sex. The body does a pretty good job at getting it all out when you go to the bathroom.
Anal sex is something people have been doing for ages, since the beginning of recorded history,... (read in full...)
How do I make sure my friends don't judge me for having sex?
Q. Okay before I begin please dont judge me. I know a lot of you are going to and I dont come here to be judged I come here for advice. Okay so my boy friend and I are both the same age and we were both virgins. We both decided that we were ready an...
A. 28 January 2013: You can't force your friends to not judge you or act a certain way. All you can do is figure out what you want to say to them when (if) they find out. Have something in mind ahead of time that expresses your reasons in a way that makes it clear ... (read in full...)
Is my G/f still in love with her ex? Why is she keeping their sexual photos and is she just using me for the life I can provide for her ?
Q. Hi there, I just need some advice I've been with my girlfriend now for nearly 3 years n it's really good, we're both in our early 40,s Before me she was with someone just for sex she said but she got attached to him but he left and lived hundre...
A. 28 January 2013: You have a few choices here:
Stay and accept this. You forgave her TWICE, so she's aware that she has a free pass now.
Stay and decide you'll have an open relationship. She's doing it anyways so you might as well have some fun too.
Leav... (read in full...)
How exactly can you ask a guy out?
Q. My question is really very simple and strictly addressed to all the guys out there... How exactly can you ask a guy out?? I mean talking specifics. What scares them, what encourages them. What do you want to hear from a girl when they take the in...
A. 28 January 2013: Are you in a specific situation and want advice? If so more info on your relationship to each other may help.
Overall I'd say as a man to a woman, avoid pick up lines like the plague. It's kind of weird when a woman does something like that. T... (read in full...)
Do you think I have missed my chance with this guy or is it worth being somewhere by "accident"on the chance I will bump into him? Or is that desperate?
Q. I had to wait in a queue for half hour or so yesterday and got randomly chatting to this guy who was also waiting. during the conversation he told me 2 or 3 times he was single,divorced, asked if I was.We kept chatting till it was my turn to be se...
A. 28 January 2013: I don't think it sounds too desperate, maybe it's even romantic to some people. For future reference, if someone asks if you're seeing anyone, that's a red flag that if you're interested you should give a clear sign. Sometimes it's hard for men to ... (read in full...)
We have been going out but she is still on website every day where we met. What's up with that?
Q. I have a met this woman on Match. She is divorced, same age as me. We have been talkling on the phone everyday, texting, emailing. I spent this past weekend at her house. We have been going out for a month. She told me that I am so different than ...
A. 28 January 2013: You're basically asking the same question you did in the first place and the answer is still the same: take it easy. Don't worry about her being online because the two of you don't have an exclusive relationship! As I stated before, you shouldn't ... (read in full...)
The mother of my boyfriend's son doesn't like me getting close to her son
Q. I have a boyfriend who has a 3 year old son to someone else,his sons mother thinks im getting too close to their son.im not sure what to do my boyfriends sons mother has a boyfriend is hardly involved at all is this healthy??and what should i do ...
A. 28 January 2013: She may be the mom and have some say in his life, but there is nothing she can do to keep you from "getting close" to her son.
It's being selfish, really, and that's it. Many people don't like the idea of their kid having a second parental... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants me to sell my house and move with him.
Q. I've been with my bf for nearly 4 years. Before i met him, i started building a house and after a few delays it was finished 2 years ago. I have lived there since but he has remained living at home. We are on the verge of breaking up beca...
A. 28 January 2013: I think your reasoning is solid here. Him "feeling like a renter" is a control issue, he wants you to be on his turf, not vice versa.
I don't know if mass transit is any good where you live but where I live it is. He could just hop on a bus, tra... (read in full...)
Sloppy seconds? Or does he like me?
Q. Right here is a tricky situation, Me and my boyfriend split up due to me resenting him for something that he did at the start of our relationship. It led to me being resentful. I dumped him. Then this girl from work came on the scene, he had ta...
A. 28 January 2013: Your question is too confusing to give you specific advice, but I can tell you a few things.
First of all, "sloppy seconds" in the US means having sex with someone after they had sex with someone else, it may be different in the UK but it sounds l... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got his ex pregnant. How can I live with this?
Q. I have boyfriend dat we have 5year inrelationship ilove him very much n i knw he realy love me too ,idnt knw hw to trust him again n forgving him after finding out that he impregnant one of his ex-gf dat they date 6year ago ,he said it was mistake ...
A. 28 January 2013: Oh wait, sorry I didn't get that he had the baby before you met. Disregard my previous advice.
I had a serious relationship with a girl who had a young son and it didn't bother me at all, so I don't know how to help you.
You just have to rem... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got his ex pregnant. How can I live with this?
Q. I have boyfriend dat we have 5year inrelationship ilove him very much n i knw he realy love me too ,idnt knw hw to trust him again n forgving him after finding out that he impregnant one of his ex-gf dat they date 6year ago ,he said it was mistake ...
A. 28 January 2013: You probably won't be able to move on because the baby will be a constant reminder of his lies and cheating.
It's like when a loved one dies; you never really get over it, you just learn to live with it.
The difference is that in a relati... (read in full...)
Boyfriend almost 40, gets hard and doesn't cum. Is this normal?
Q. My boyfriend is 40 and gets hard n lasts a long time Is it normal for him to not cum? He does once and then gets hard again two or three times. I wonder if I'm doing something wrong that he doesn't cum...
A. 28 January 2013: "He does once" meaning he cums once and gets hard again but doesn't cum? That's relatively normal.
Not cumming at all is probably somewhat common but it may not be normal per say. ... (read in full...)
Could this really be love at first sight?
Q. For starters I have been single for about a year now... my best friend joined a online dating website fore gits and shiggles. well she found a wonderful guy and they have been together for quite some time.. i got bored about a month ago and thought ...
A. 28 January 2013: You won't know if it was love at first sight until you have been dating for a couple of years and things are still going beautifully. Anything before that is called lust at first sight and it happens to people all the time.
I just answered... (read in full...)
I thought I'd finally met a great guy; now I'm not so sure
Q. Ok I met this guy on a chatline, and he we texted and then he called me and told me that he would provide for me,love me,care for me, and would want to eventually marry me but he works as a tow truck driver. whenever i text him he always tells me ...
A. 28 January 2013: It sounds to me like you're moving way too fast which is why you got yourself into trouble.
If you had been treating this situation exactly like what it is (you've been chatting with a guy online) then you wouldn't be confused or hurt.
Inst... (read in full...)
What do you think? Does he like me?
Q. So I've known him for a few months (mutual friend) and we finally hung out. Here are some things that happened. *he asked me personal questions. *told me a lot about himself and told me he doesn't share this stuff with everyone. Only people...
A. 28 January 2013: Just looking to have fun simply means he doesn't want to get involved more that some hanging out, a few dates and some sex.
... (read in full...)
I want a man who doesn't cheat or look at pornography. Does he exist?
Q. I want a man like this does this even exist? Basically i'm after a man who does not engage in any kind of cheating at all (glances at swimsuit pics mildly acceptable.) but no porn, no talking dirty to others, little female friends, no strip clubs. ...
A. 27 January 2013: You can find a guy like that for the most part. Except instead of not watching porn he'll just lie to you about it. ... (read in full...)
My wife's continous chatting with x husband is killing me
Q. My wife of one year ( my second and her third marriage ) continues to communcicate with her x husband whom she left. He has not moved on and still loves her and seems to me to be controlling with narisistic behavior via email,skype etc. She responds ...
A. 27 January 2013: Sometimes people lie not because they are doing horrible things but because they know it'd bother the other person and they don't think it should, so it's a way to avoid conflict.
My old roommate cheated on his girlfriend a couple of times. A... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is another woman's 'back up guy' in case they're not married by 40! How would you feel about this?
Q. Dear All, How would you act if your boyfriend told you he was another girls back up guy and if there both still 40 they would get married as his rich and reliable? I feel this is disrespectful and it"s upset me but he can't see why? Opinions p...
A. 27 January 2013: You know, I glossed over the "boyfriend told you" part of this question... so my answer was directed towards the idea of this backup arrangement, but the real issue is why he told you. Not that it really needs to be a secret but it's not very ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I just don't understand why my boyfriend only seems to give me 5% of his attention
Q. Sometimes I just don't understand why my boyfriend only seems to give me 5% attention ? I see a bunch of couples that are our friends and they seem to have a cute relationship, they actually touch and kiss one another more than maybe once a day or ...
A. 27 January 2013: Your bf is the way he is, you can either accept it or move on. Be thankful he wasn't being something that he's not so you can find out sooner than later.
If you talk to him and he feels bad and starts to be more affectionate it will not be genui... (read in full...)
Searched signs of cheating on the internet and she's hitting them all. What should I do or think? She's done it in the past.
Q. do you think because shes cheated and dumped me numerous times for other guys n a girl in the past that she could be hiding it and doing it still weve talked about the past and i still am hurt from the facts of the past, hell i might have a complex ...
A. 27 January 2013: Okay.
Are you going to leave her?
a)yes
b)no
If yes, then do it and be done with her. Share joint custody and live in a cheap place. You may be lonely but you won't be heartbroken. And the loneliness will go away.
If no, then you... (read in full...)
Searched signs of cheating on the internet and she's hitting them all. What should I do or think? She's done it in the past.
Q. do you think because shes cheated and dumped me numerous times for other guys n a girl in the past that she could be hiding it and doing it still weve talked about the past and i still am hurt from the facts of the past, hell i might have a complex ...
A. 27 January 2013: It appears that you've already decided it's something you're willing to live with. If not leave her as you should have a long time ago.
The problem you have here is that she doesn't appreciate monogamy and she's too immature and uncaring to accep... (read in full...)
Porn haters, what would you do in this dilemma?
Q. Hi I am female who hates porn in a relationship first off but I have a dilemma.... Porn haters what would you do in my situation... Go back to the guy who was viewing artistic porn with the sound off and didn't give it up until I ask for a ult...
A. 27 January 2013: The only relevant question is: does this guy make you happy?
If you can't be happy knowing what you know then you'll have to leave him. ... (read in full...)
Why isnt he making any steps for us to live together?
Q. Hey dearcupid.org,this is what bothers me...I ve been with this guy 4 long in distance relationship,and this year it will be 4 years that we re doing it... Last year we were supposed to start living together,n me to move to his country,...
A. 27 January 2013: I agree, a long distance relationship isn't the same as a real face to face relationship. It's easy to feel great about things when you don't have to deal with real life together.
In all honesty I don't fully understand what your problem is here.... (read in full...)
New boyfriend, new problems.
Q. A couple of months after I was dumped by my ex, I began a relationship with Mr New. He's tall and handsome, but the thing that I was attracted to first was how we could talk to one another. This relationship started about a year ago... beginning of ...
A. 26 January 2013: Anonymous male states that nearly all men want a virgin for a wife, and I have to disagree. Sure many do. But many don't as well. Do we want a woman that's been around the world? Not usually, because the perception might be that she can't be ... (read in full...)
New boyfriend, new problems.
Q. A couple of months after I was dumped by my ex, I began a relationship with Mr New. He's tall and handsome, but the thing that I was attracted to first was how we could talk to one another. This relationship started about a year ago... beginning of ...
A. 26 January 2013: You're asking what you should do, but you say that you would more than struggle to cope if you broke up. But clearly you can't spend the rest of your life with this guy as he's clearly a jerk.
I think if you feel you couldn't handle a break up... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is another woman's 'back up guy' in case they're not married by 40! How would you feel about this?
Q. Dear All, How would you act if your boyfriend told you he was another girls back up guy and if there both still 40 they would get married as his rich and reliable? I feel this is disrespectful and it"s upset me but he can't see why? Opinions p...
A. 26 January 2013: I don't see it as being disrespectful at all, it just sort of a tradition among friends of the opposite sex. It usually amounts to nothing but talk.
I had a back up buddy or whatever they're called when I was in my 20's and it wasn't somethin... (read in full...)
How importants are breasts to a man
Q. Hi, I was wondering what the general male opinion on boobs is- how big is too big? is there a limit? are small boobs really that bad? how important are they to a mans sexual arousal? Thanks...
A. 26 January 2013: Many guys find big boobs appealing in a sort of primitive way; they're more likely to produce a lot of milk, which helped babies survive more as humans were evolving.
That being said most guys just love boobs. Big, small, or medium, it's all good... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to know if he can go to a party where his ex will be. What do I say?
Q. My bf met up with his ex behind my back 2 years ago. He lied about it but the truth eventually came out. Not only that he'd saved semi naked (recent) photos on his computer from her facebook. We had a massive argument and had a break but I ...
A. 25 January 2013: I tend to trust people until they've given me a reason not to, and depending on how you look at it he could be on both sides of that.
I'd use your best judgment on this, and it appears to me that you don't fully trust him yet. If you do, let ... (read in full...)
Does this kiss between my wife and friend mean anything?
Q. Weve known a married couple 10+ years, they are a great couple and really close friends.I feel there is an attachment, not sure whether its emotional, physical-just different to previous friendships.We see each other almost every week, always a ...
A. 25 January 2013: I still think it has to do with the chemistry you admitted you all share and the fact that they were drunk. I've done some things like that when I was drinking and had ZERO intention of trying to take things further... it just kind of happens, no ... (read in full...)
My father is a hoarder and has poor hygiene refusing to bathe or wash his hands!
Q. Let me start out by saying I know this is a relationahip forum but this is one of the better sites that gives advice so please answer this question about a family member. This question is more for my mother to ask but the entire family is being ...
A. 25 January 2013: Man, you might as well be homeless, since it would be more or less the same thing as living there.
Get a crappy job for the time being and get out of there. Find a cheap place to rent for 6 months until you can find a better job.
Your mo... (read in full...)
Gf sending dirty texts to another man
Q. Hi, I've been with my gf for nearly 3 years, it's had it's ups and downs but we've got through them, between us we have 4 children, she has 3 girls I have one boy. The two youngest girls dad left when the youngest was born, and hasn't been around ...
A. 25 January 2013: You did the right thing, there's no doubt about it. There are few qualities worse in a spouse than being untrustworthy. ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to come to terms with the fact that the relationship has been over for 2 years
Q. hi, I'm 22 yrs old. i was in a relationship 2 years back which lasted for 9 months and was my first ever and ended because the guy started to like someone else and broke up to date the other girl. its been 2 years and i havent moved on. the guy brok...
A. 25 January 2013: You're not in love with him. You had you're heart broken by him; that combined with it being your first relationship and it's pretty natural to have these feelings.
When people get rejected, especially for another person, it can play tricks w... (read in full...)
A weekend away together, he grew cold on the way home and now has totally frozen me out. Why?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for 2 months. Things were going great. Just two weeks ago, during my drive home after hanging out with him, he sent me a text that said, "I think we should take this relationship to a new level, will you be my facebook ...
A. 25 January 2013: It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong unless you're leaving something out.
Sometimes you just have to accept that people are strange and often it can feel directed towards you or caused by you but it's usually not. Maybe he has a little b... (read in full...)
My father is a hoarder and has poor hygiene refusing to bathe or wash his hands!
Q. Let me start out by saying I know this is a relationahip forum but this is one of the better sites that gives advice so please answer this question about a family member. This question is more for my mother to ask but the entire family is being ...
A. 24 January 2013: I don't know about the disease but your mom really needs to separate from him. She probably doesn't want to but it may help him to realize he really needs to change.
Your question made me sick and I'm not even there! If you live outside of their... (read in full...)
Does this kiss between my wife and friend mean anything?
Q. Weve known a married couple 10+ years, they are a great couple and really close friends.I feel there is an attachment, not sure whether its emotional, physical-just different to previous friendships.We see each other almost every week, always a ...
A. 24 January 2013: I completely agree with SVC.
It sounds like you have a great relationship with them and your wife and you've even admitted to the sexual tension. He may have crossed the line but considering he was drunk its hard to really blame him.
I don't... (read in full...)
What do you think? Does he like me?
Q. So I've known him for a few months (mutual friend) and we finally hung out. Here are some things that happened. *he asked me personal questions. *told me a lot about himself and told me he doesn't share this stuff with everyone. Only people...
A. 24 January 2013: Duh... (read in full...)
Gf sending dirty texts to another man
Q. Hi, I've been with my gf for nearly 3 years, it's had it's ups and downs but we've got through them, between us we have 4 children, she has 3 girls I have one boy. The two youngest girls dad left when the youngest was born, and hasn't been around ...
A. 23 January 2013: Personally I would dump her; she's got too much baggage and I can't be with someone who I can't trust. ... (read in full...)
We have been going out but she is still on website every day where we met. What's up with that?
Q. I have a met this woman on Match. She is divorced, same age as me. We have been talkling on the phone everyday, texting, emailing. I spent this past weekend at her house. We have been going out for a month. She told me that I am so different than ...
A. 22 January 2013: You're going to ruin any potential relationship with her if you can't learn to take it easy. I misread your original question; I thought you both agreed to take down your profiles, but I see she didn't agree to anything.
A few dates is a drop in ... (read in full...)
We have been going out but she is still on website every day where we met. What's up with that?
Q. I have a met this woman on Match. She is divorced, same age as me. We have been talkling on the phone everyday, texting, emailing. I spent this past weekend at her house. We have been going out for a month. She told me that I am so different than ...
A. 22 January 2013: Have you met her in person? If so how long have you been dating in person?
If you haven't met or have only been on a few dates than don't expect anything from anyone at that point. I'd just drop it and open your account again until you've b... (read in full...)
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