Broke up due to his use of dating sites. Not civil either. So why does he try to deny or hide that he has a new GF?
Q. My ex went on a mid life crisis spree..we split up because he was on the dating sites and setting up relationships with them every month......why ? He has stopped communication with his kids....and as far as facebook everytime he comes on he deact...
A. 7 January 2013: I don't know you or him but it also occurred to me that he may not be seeing your kids because of the way you act. Keep that in mind; if you're making his life difficult he may feel it's just easier to not see them as well.
Your letter gives me... (read in full...)
How should I handle our post break-up issues due to us now living in the same place?
Q. I have a 'break-up' problem. 3 weeks ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months (plus the year we dated). It was mutual, since I didn't feel she was quite herself around me anymore. It all started with a sort of alternative education we both...
A. 7 January 2013: You should get out of there, find a roommate for her or something. If you two were meant to be, a little bit of time wont change that. But staying in the same place wont help either.
If leaving isn't an option, be nice to her but don't be a wimp... (read in full...)
I always get anxious when talking to people, as I believe everyone is judging me by my hair color.
Q. Would be really grateful for help. Im a 21 year old bisexual guy, who unfortunately has ginger hair. This seems to be my main issue in life as I see it as the reason for having no confidence or self esteem. Iv never been in a relationship or ...
A. 7 January 2013: You know, this whole red headed step child gingers have souls thing is bullshit. The majority of people could care less about someones hair color. But, some do, just like some guys prefer blondes, others prefer dark hair. If a girl sees you and ... (read in full...)
Is my ex just playing a game with me? Or deep down might he actually have some feelings for me?
Q. My ex and i had had the longest conversation recently, since we broke up. Word got around that he likes this other girl now. But he told me how he still has had sexual thoughts for me, not her, but me. I questioned why me instead of her. He told...
A. 7 January 2013: This is pretty easy:
He wants to have sex with you. Nothing more.
He wants to have sex with her. Nothing more.... (read in full...)
How long did it take you to know you were in love (the first time)? And how long after that did you tell your significant other?
Q. Here's just a general question for all of you out there: How long did it take you to know you were in love (the first time)? And for good measure, how long after that did you tell your significant other? I'm only curious because my boyfriend of ...
A. 7 January 2013: It takes me awhile but I think I force it to take longer than it really does. I've said it to 4 girls as an adult (I'm 35 yrs. old).
The first time I swear I meant it even after only a month, but after we broke up I met someone new and learned ... (read in full...)
I was expecting him to visit 2 days ago and haven't heard a word! I don't know what it means or what to do?
Q. Really confused by this guy's actions. We met on a dating site about a month ago. Really seemed like we hit it off. We started talking every day and we went on a several dates. We went out to dinner and I met his parents. He wanted me to hang ...
A. 7 January 2013: Although that sounds kind of worrisome, he's probably fine and he probably wasn't screwing with you either.
The most logical explanation is that he lost his phone or something happened that prevented him from contacting you, such as trouble ... (read in full...)
Broke up due to his use of dating sites. Not civil either. So why does he try to deny or hide that he has a new GF?
Q. My ex went on a mid life crisis spree..we split up because he was on the dating sites and setting up relationships with them every month......why ? He has stopped communication with his kids....and as far as facebook everytime he comes on he deact...
A. 7 January 2013: I agree with everyone else; the real question is why are you so concerned with his relationship status if you don't want to be with him?
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I was in a relationship when I met my (now) husband and cheated. Does this make the marriage doomed?
Q. Hi! When I was with my ex I cheated on him with my current husband (who was my "lover" for a short while before I left my bf to be with him). So, do you think my marriage is doomed because it started this way? I am so in love with my husband,...
A. 6 January 2013: Since you seem to cheat when you're in relationships the ball is in your court.
If you want to start cheating then it's going to end like the other ones.
If you are just horny maybe you need to start swinging instead of cheating next time. ... (read in full...)
BF of 2 years either doesn't pick up the phone, or he's verbally abusive. Is this because he got sex and doesn't need me now?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 2 years lives in a different city, I visited him 2 days back and we spent a day together. I came back to my work city yesterday. From yesterday he is not picking my calls or calling me back. Even if he picks up, he calls ...
A. 6 January 2013: Stop worrying about the guy and leave ASAP. He's not going to give you the money back so don't ask for it. Just block his number and delete him from your phone/fb/whatever.
This guy is verbally abusive and the psychology behind it can make you feel... (read in full...)
Lack of experience and concern about my size is holding me back from forming relationships.
Q. I am a virgin and I am interested in sex and relationships but I am afraid because I am in experienced and i have a small penis. The internet forums I have been on I have seen women talk about not being able to stay with otherwise great guys who...
A. 6 January 2013: I want to point out that guys with average and especially below average penis' are a lot less likely to be walking around naked in the gym shower.
So judging yourself by that is really just hurting your self esteem.
Your size doesn't put your pen... (read in full...)
Married but it's temporarily a LSDR. Scared of Change. Do I stay with my safe job? Or try a new opportunity with him?
Q. Hello everyone. So, I've been married a for few months. My husband and I are currently in an LSDR, but he's planning on moving back here soon. Thing is, we both hate it here where I live and where he'd be headed soon. It's a terrible social/econo...
A. 6 January 2013: Take the chance it could be the best decision you've ever made.
Australia is supposed to be great and they're nice people. ... (read in full...)
Met him on online gaming site. What should I keep in mind? Is this too good to be true?
Q. I met this guy on an online game site and he is 3 years older...I really like him but I just got out of a serious relationship and I don't want to move to fast and mess it up. He is really great and he gets me but he lives 3 states away. he alre...
A. 6 January 2013: Let me tell you one simple piece of advice:
If you intend on beginning a long distance relationship you have to have a plan. Not, "someday we'll be together" but "When I graduate I'm going to move near you and once every _________ I'll visit yo... (read in full...)
I like this guy and don't want to mess up. What should I do?
Q. Hey guys. I feel in love after a long time but the problem is I don't know if this guy loves me back. We have been hooking up for movies and texting but my problem is I like him so much and I don't wanna mess up. Also I don't wanna have sex befo...
A. 6 January 2013: You are over thinking things. There is no advice we can give you that will tell you how to get the guy.
I will say this: some people text more than others. Some people play hard to get. Some people are clingy.
Just be yourself, do what feels c... (read in full...)
If I can sleep through my husband's nocturnal fondling could I not also sleep through a home invasion?
Q. I found out one morning my husband was rubbing my butt in the middle of the night to attempt to wake me but I was sound asleep through the whole rubbing ordeal. He told me the next morning but it worries me that if when he's working one night an...
A. 6 January 2013: Not a fetish, just a way to wake you up horny so you want to have sex.
He's probably done it before and you didn't realize it, you just woke up and wanted to be with him and never thought twice about it.
I did it to my wife a few times and just... (read in full...)
Is this as sign that my husband is having an affair?
Q. My husband had a strand of hair wrapped around his penis. It wasn't mine. He says that our daughters hair that gets everywhere including our brushes in our room, has got caught in his clothes and worked its way down there. And that this is a common ...
A. 6 January 2013: Weird hairs get into weird places, leave him alone about it. I had something similar (not my penis) happen and I don't know where in the world it came from. Fortunately my wife trusts me so it was more of a curiosity than anything. ... (read in full...)
He doesn't show me any care or love, he just keeps ignoring me!
Q. dear cupid...my boyfriend has been ignoring me for 3weeks now and anytime i asked him what the problem is he tells me he is ok,and when i asked if he is tired of me,he still says no have have to try to make things work but he doesnt show me anycare ...
A. 6 January 2013: Who cares why it's happening? The relationship is over now and if you don't move on you'll make yourself go crazy thinking about it.
The guy is just not right from you and he's too immature to be honest with you, either that or he is and you just... (read in full...)
My jealous girlfriend is making my life miserable
Q. Hi everyone. Hope you can give me some advice. My girlfriend of one year is very jealous and insecure. She is pressuring me to ask me to marry her lately. She is a fun girl to be with and I like her a lot. But I am not ready for marriage. My ...
A. 6 January 2013: If you start giving your nutty girlfriend an inch she'll take a mile. Re-friend your friend and tell your girlfriend that this crap ends now because you've never given her a reason not to trust you. If she doesn't like it tell her to take a hike.
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If I can sleep through my husband's nocturnal fondling could I not also sleep through a home invasion?
Q. I found out one morning my husband was rubbing my butt in the middle of the night to attempt to wake me but I was sound asleep through the whole rubbing ordeal. He told me the next morning but it worries me that if when he's working one night an...
A. 6 January 2013: You're over thinking it! I know a number of people who would sleep through the end of the world, it's not something to worry about.
Not to mention most burglaries are during the day when people are at work. If it makes you feel better leave a ligh... (read in full...)
Should I leave my boyfriend for his best mate?
Q. I've fallen for my boyfriends best mate and I don't know how to handle it. They play on the same football team locally and as I wash all the kits, we got to know each other without my boyfriend there. We have a lot in common and just clicked....
A. 6 January 2013: Yes it certainly would be better to leave both alone. It's the respectful thing to do for someone who has treated you well for 3 years.
Not to mention jumping from one person to the next is not good for you. It may be easier but it's just not the ... (read in full...)
What do you think about the age gap and races, or have any of you been through this?
Q. Hello. I met someone one month ago. He's 31 and from California, and I'm 21 from Malaysia. The thing is, we are still in a friend zone of course, but he believe in me so much. Well I trust him too without any doubt. He said he like me so much and me ...
A. 5 January 2013: Both can be an issue, but they don't have to be. It just depends on how flexible and accommodating the two of you are.
My wife is Guatemalan and I'm American and there are some cultural differences that are a little annoying sometimes, but noth... (read in full...)
Why will my girlfriend not stop going on dating sites?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend just short of two years. She has been going on dating sites like it`s a habit for at least the past year. She has lied and lied about it, but she surely knows that I know different. We have been broke up over Christmas ...
A. 5 January 2013: She won't change so you'll just have to accept it if you take her back.
Soooooo don't take her back.
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Is my boyfriend addicted to sex? Will he cheat on me?
Q. It will be our two year anniversary on march 25th. On our year anniversary i lost my virginity to him. Other than me, he's only had sex with one other girl (or claims so).. and i believe him since he was basically horrible and quick in bed, haha. ...
A. 5 January 2013: If wanting sex every day means he's addicted to sex, then there is a serious sex addiction problem among teenage guys in this country.
If he's going to cheat it will have nothing to do with whether or not you slept with him the night before.
In... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me he doesn't know if I'm the one. Should I end things?
Q. Hi, Well I am having great relationship problems. I feel very lost and don't know what to do. My boyfriend told me he loved me and things were great between us. Then i noticed he was acting off with me and on questioning him he said he didn't k...
A. 5 January 2013: Well, in my opinion there's enough good people out there to not feel like crap over one guy who treats you like your okay for now.
The feeling of rejection can make people think someone is more special than they are, but your head should be tell... (read in full...)
I'd never been kissed and I'm shy. Why has this random kiss, my first ever kiss, so unsettled me?
Q. Well, i was hanging out with my cousins and her friends over the holiday. Since i was in town that year. And beside me there were 3 girls and 2 guys. Well we were drinking somewhat and just having a good time. Well we got kind of bored so we deci...
A. 5 January 2013: Are you attracted to women? Then you're not gay.
If you enjoyed kissing a guy you are at least "bi-curious". That's more common than you would think.
No need to come out or think too much about it at this point. Do what feels natural but keep... (read in full...)
Should I back off? What could have changed that she stopped contacting me?
Q. Ok so I have been talking to a girl for about 2 months now. We are classmates in grad school and very busy. When we talk about what we want from our relationship, she says she doesn't know if she can handle a boyfriend right now because of schoo...
A. 5 January 2013: Don't worry about it, it didn't sound like anything special anyways. Forget her number and find the next one. ... (read in full...)
Please help a young marriage before it becomes another divorce statistic
Q. I'm only 19 and my husband and I just got married when we got married I was 8 months pregnant with our twins. Our twins are now 6 weeks old and he does even seem like he loves me. I don't want us to get a divorce my parents were and so is his. I ...
A. 5 January 2013: Some guys lose all attraction to their woman after she becomes a mom. It's some psychological issue. Talk to him about it and you may also consider counseling. Either that or he's too tired, but even then he should get horny.
Are you positive he's... (read in full...)
Who was lying? My girlfriend or her friends?
Q. My Gf Friends, came up to me and they asked me was i still with her and i'm like Yeah why. Apparently my Gf hooked up with two other girls, and she went to go see them. I started crying, they comfort me i soon walk away. My gf come up to me, she ...
A. 5 January 2013: Unless her friends are bat shit crazy she's lying. Sorry, but that's how it works.
Find someone who doesn't feel the need to hurt you because she has issues that you can't fix. ... (read in full...)
Guys: Do you judge girls by their shape and appearance?
Q. I'm so horny lately... I'm 19 and never had boyfriend before which i believe its my weight, i've always been over weight as child and i started doing gym recently and lost 6kg but need to loose 50 more !! but i can't wait untill i get the perfect ...
A. 5 January 2013: Of course, everyone does, but you already knew that. However there are plenty of guys who like plenty of different types of women. The reality, in all honesty, is that most guys prefer woman within a typical range; not too thin, not too big. BUT I'm ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my beautiful sister would steal my boyfriend away from me
Q. I'm embarrassed to speak of this, but my older sister is beautiful. We look a lot alike, but she definitely looks more mature and gets more male attention. I worry that when I bring a boyfriend to a family gathering, he will see her and find her ...
A. 5 January 2013: I've been in that situation a number of times, it's pretty common. You can't worry about them finding her attractive, it'll happen.
However it's not like they thought you were literally the most beautiful woman in the world and their whole idea of y... (read in full...)
He is special to me. What can I do to make my husband feel like he is really special to me?
Q. im a stay at home mom with three children aged 2 to 7 years. Last night my husband said i don't do half of what he does. i feel bad. i take care of house hold and kids no break. i keep a clean house. He takes care of us to the max. always buyi...
A. 5 January 2013: Maybe you need to work on strengthening your relationship and not just taking care of your kids and pleasing him in bed. Arrange for romantic evenings and make him feel special and allow you to to enjoy time together that's not centered around ... (read in full...)
No GF, I am a virgin and I failed college. My self esteem is at an all time low. How can I gain confidence?
Q. I am finding it very hard to like myself right now. I flunked out at college, I am a virgin and I have never had a girlfriend or kissed a girl. I have accomplished nothing and feel that I never will. I will be turning 22 in a few days and I don't ...
A. 5 January 2013: Flunking school at your age is common. Assuming it's not because you aren't mentally capable and it's more of a thing about not being ready then you can always try again in a few years.
Regarding being a virgin: there are two types of guys, th... (read in full...)
Will my boyfriend come through for me or will he bail out?
Q. I'm married he's not. He says I shouldn't divorce just to be with him. He talks about our future together. Its not that much sex but it is good sex. We've been seeing each other for 2 plus yrs. He tells me to have patienill all work out. I know I ...
A. 5 January 2013: There's no way for anyone here to know one way or another.
What does it matter? If he isn't serious are you just going to stay with your husband until you find a new guy that you can jump into another relationship with?
Sorry if this sounds h... (read in full...)
My boyfriend arranged for his 4 year old daughter to live with us without talking to me first
Q. I am a 24 year old dating a wonderful 32 year old man. I've known from the beginning that he has a 4 year old daughter from an ex- girlfriend. We live in Colorado, and the daughter lives with her mother in Florida. My borfriend visits his daughter ...
A. 4 January 2013: You're obviously being selfish, but not unreasonable.
He wants to get to know her, there's nothing you could say to change that. She may not know him now but she knows he is her dad and will warm up to the two of you soon enough.
And trust... (read in full...)
How can I deal with his constant baseless accusations?
Q. My boyfriend constantly accuses me of the smallest stupidest things. For an example, today we were supposed to get out of the house, and go out to eat. He decides to bring along his friend. We're in the restaurant have out food and I looked at ...
A. 4 January 2013: Sorry but saying, "its not that simple" in regards to breaking up with him isn't really true.
Sure you sacrifice for him, so it wouldn't be easy, but it's just as simple as it'd be if you lived anywhere.
I'm not suggesting you break up, si... (read in full...)
I want to add some Dom-sub aspects and light bondage to our personal lives, but I don't want to scare him!
Q. My husband and I had a very difficult engagement. It was short, I lived on other side of state for 3 months for college, then moved to where he lives and my home town and started college so we didn't see much of each other during our engagement. Now ...
A. 4 January 2013: This may have been something you should have brought up before marriage...
Anyways, I think it depends on who's going to be the dominant one. If it's him then you can try just talking dirty while having sex, tell him to do something that would be a... (read in full...)
He treats me like just another friend! I question how deep his feelings are for me!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been having problems. We've been fighting all day and night because of it. I feel like I'm putting my all into our relationship (quit talking to ex's for him, tell him everyday how much he means to me, ect.) I have got ...
A. 4 January 2013: You can't change him as you've seen. The only hope you have is to sit him down and tell him how you feel and that as much as you love him you don't feel emotionally satisfied with him at all. And rather than continue to complain about it only to ... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with the fact that I just cannot see myself in a relationship?
Q. All of my friends seem to be in a relationship, or interested in someone. The running joke in my group of friends is that i am a "whore" and cannot stick to one guy. I've been asked out before, and have liked guys before, but nothing has ever ...
A. 4 January 2013: At your age I was the exact same way. Occasionally messing around but not remotely interested in more. I had a serious relationship early on and felt like it was too time consuming and decided that I wanted to be free in high school. ... (read in full...)
How do you define "cheating"?
Q. Hello everyone? My question is very simple, and i'm just interested in knowing what your opinions are on this. What do YOU class as cheating? I'm going through a situation right now where i'm wondering whether the lad i'm close to is 'cheeting' o...
A. 4 January 2013: Cheating is defined by being deceptive. So if his girlfriend knows about him seeing other people and is okay with it then it's not cheating.
I don't think it's as simple as "touching is okay, inserting is not."
Where the gray area is in my opini... (read in full...)
I'm lost and confused about how he feels about me, whether I can get pregnant and why he stops talking to me!
Q. I have being seeing this guy for five months on and off every time we have sex he tells me he wants me to marry him and wants me to have his baby so he can keep me forever.. Is he crazy or am I? Another thing every time we have sex he cumms inside ...
A. 4 January 2013: If I'm going to be blunt he sounds like he's not a one woman man. There are guys who like having a few women, like coming inside them, telling them they want them to have their baby, etc. because they like the romantic sexual relationship, but they ... (read in full...)
How can I ask him for another hookup without sounding slutty or needy?
Q. After coming out of a very serious relationship and getting my heart broken i've decided to swear off realtionships for a while and just have fun. So basically at a party I hooked up with one of my male friends and we had pretty awesome sex. The ...
A. 4 January 2013: "Do you want to hang out again?"
I wouldn't worry too much. It's kind of fun when a woman is straight forward.
The trick here seems to be making it clear you don't want a relationship. ... (read in full...)
Attracted to him but afraid too
Q. Had my heart broken bad 15 yrs ago. pretty much gave up on ever dateing again. Joined a gym 3 yrs ago. There was a guy there that immediately took interest but he was in a relationship. I moved away from that area and lost touch with my skiduel at ...
A. 3 January 2013: I hate to say this but he may have been attracted to you at the beginning, but you may have ruined it. If I was him I would think you were weird. Actually I think you're a little weird anyways, no offense.
If you couldn't bear talking to him befo... (read in full...)
Got mad when I found him clubbing with other girls, then he drops me?!
Q. Hello everyone i really need some advice!! I caught my boyfriend with girls on a night out and dancing with one of them and was really drunk and lashed out! we were fine afterwards and the next day he dropped me home and i phone him within an hour ...
A. 3 January 2013: In order to get someone back you need to have a good reason, not just because you're heart broken.
And, believe it or not, the best way to get someone back is not to beg and pester them, it's to tell them how you feel in a mature way then walk away... (read in full...)
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