We have been going out but she is still on website every day where we met. What's up with that?
Q. I have a met this woman on Match. She is divorced, same age as me. We have been talkling on the phone everyday, texting, emailing. I spent this past weekend at her house. We have been going out for a month. She told me that I am so different than ...
A. 28 January 2013: You're basically asking the same question you did in the first place and the answer is still the same: take it easy. Don't worry about her being online because the two of you don't have an exclusive relationship! As I stated before, you shouldn't ... (read in full...)
We have been going out but she is still on website every day where we met. What's up with that?
Q. I have a met this woman on Match. She is divorced, same age as me. We have been talkling on the phone everyday, texting, emailing. I spent this past weekend at her house. We have been going out for a month. She told me that I am so different than ...
A. 22 January 2013: You're going to ruin any potential relationship with her if you can't learn to take it easy. I misread your original question; I thought you both agreed to take down your profiles, but I see she didn't agree to anything.
A few dates is a drop in ... (read in full...)
I don't want to look fake but I don't know how to do my makeup
Q. IM blonde blue eyes and i dont feel i am the prettiest of girls so inorder for me to look nice i like doing my make up but i have no idea how boys like it, i dont want to come acroos as fae but i still want to look nice, can you help me?...
A. 22 January 2013: Every guy is different. I'd say most prefer less makeup over more, or at least it should enhance your features as opposed to being the star of the show.
Go to YouTube and look at the different makeup tutorials, then find one that you like and... (read in full...)
I'm dating a nice guy but want to end it because I don't want to get hurt again
Q. i have recently moved into halls for university, and moved in with a guy and we instantly hit it off. this was in September. now we are properly together and i like him so much, he makes me so happy and is definitely helping to repair the damage a ...
A. 22 January 2013: Many people have felt the same way, but for most loneliness is worse than the chance someone will break your heart.
Obviously being single for the rest of your life to avoid that chance is daft.
While it won't take all of the pain out of gett... (read in full...)
Do relationships develop from sleeping with someone you have just met?
Q. Do relationships develop from sex? I’ve always been the type of person who hasn't slept around and would never let myself be used by a fella for sex. By doing this I think I have kept men at arm’s length and therefore have never developed any long...
A. 22 January 2013: The anonymous guy brought up a good point: guys like things to be easy. If you give it up right away they know they'll be able to have sex with you with little or no effort. Why would you wine and dine a girl if you don't have to.
That effort i... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is suddenly distant but insists she still wants me...
Q. my girlfriend is in college with me she is 19, we've been dating almost 2 years she's suddenly starting to act more distant and just generally doesn't seem as happy, which is starting to affect our relationship and also myself. we were doin...
A. 22 January 2013: "Change or we're through" isn't the way I'd put it, but there isn't much else you can do at this point. She seems to be growing apart from you.
Asking her "what's wrong" isn't working and that wont change no matter how frequently you ask.
... (read in full...)
I am young but don't want to ruin my life with a dumb choice! What should I do about dating?
Q. I had a boyfriend for around 4 years I met him in high school and we became friends. However, our relationship as boyfriend-girlfriend was underground (very few people know about us going on for the first months) The main reason is my parents do ...
A. 22 January 2013: Moving to another state to be with a guy you had a fling with sounds like a pretty bad idea.
Also, I don't mean to be a downer but it's not as easy to get a good job out of college then a lot of people think. That's not always the case but it f... (read in full...)
My partner is constantly belittling my looks, my opinions and my intelligence.
Q. I love my partner and he loves me, but I dont feel like he appreciates me. I am an attractive lady and have always had a lot of male attention my whole life. I am now 36 yrs old and look probably 28 yrs old. Not that I am basing who I am off my ...
A. 22 January 2013: He sounds like a jerk and that won't change by talking to him. The only thing that would let him know what a jerk he's been would be to leave him, or at least make him think you are. He might finally snap out of it.
The only realistic alternat... (read in full...)
Do relationships develop from sleeping with someone you have just met?
Q. Do relationships develop from sex? I’ve always been the type of person who hasn't slept around and would never let myself be used by a fella for sex. By doing this I think I have kept men at arm’s length and therefore have never developed any long...
A. 22 January 2013: It depends on how long you waited. If it's a couple of weeks and they lost interest than a relationship was never an option with them. Maybe a friends with benefits one but that's it. A real relationship may develop from a fwb one but it's not very ... (read in full...)
We have been going out but she is still on website every day where we met. What's up with that?
Q. I have a met this woman on Match. She is divorced, same age as me. We have been talkling on the phone everyday, texting, emailing. I spent this past weekend at her house. We have been going out for a month. She told me that I am so different than ...
A. 22 January 2013: Have you met her in person? If so how long have you been dating in person?
If you haven't met or have only been on a few dates than don't expect anything from anyone at that point. I'd just drop it and open your account again until you've b... (read in full...)
Co-worker made out with me late one night and now avoids me saying he doesn't feel the same as me. What the heck?
Q. Hi, I currently have a boyfriend and have been with him for over two years. However about mid last month I had a situation with someone I worked with. It was during a work night out, I was only working there temporarily and don't anymore. Anyway as ...
A. 21 January 2013: Was he drunk? Anything someone says while drunk should be taken very lightly.
Also, as stated, be a responsible adult and quit cheating on your boyfriend. Either break up or be faithful. Just because the spark is gone doesn't mean you should b... (read in full...)
Did I sent the wrong text message in regards to a job?
Q. i walked into a salon yesterday for a job and got a position for a receptionist. i knew her from before and I was really excited for it as i was looking for it for a while. the manager there told me first i can come in from tomorrow but then said ...
A. 21 January 2013: It may be hard to tell but I think in her text message what she was really saying was "you're fired." At least that was the vibe I got. But, I don't blame her because your message basically told her "You have no idea how to do your job so I'm going ... (read in full...)
The guy I am dating was texting and making out with girls, even my friends????
Q. I started hanging out with this guy late October/early November, and over time I started liking him and the feelings were mutual (or so it seemed). We got really close and it seemed like we'd be official any day now. Anyways, 2 days ago I was u...
A. 21 January 2013: It doesn't sound like you were exclusive so I don't think what he did was wrong. You need to learn a lesson here. Unless it's specifically stated that you're exclusive the other person may be dating other people. They may assume you're doing the ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my friend for permission to sleep with her husband?
Q. Apologies for the length of this but I think it's important to have the details.. the devil is always in the details... Me: I'm single and approaching 50. It's been a few years since my last serious relationship but I'm fine with that. Having see...
A. 21 January 2013: There's a million guys out there; to me it doesn't make sense to risk hurting a good friend to get laid.
If it's going to happen either way than yes, you should say something. Maybe she'd want to join, who knows. ... (read in full...)
Is our situations just too complicated? Should I stop what I'm feeling?
Q. OK Yes I just got out of a 9 year off and on relationship. I can't stress how much I am over the guy the father of my seven year old and now unborn child. He doesn't want anything to do with us...again. i asked for advice on convincing a guy I've ...
A. 21 January 2013: You're kind of asking the same question over again. If you don't want to take everybody's advice then you are free to do what you think is best for you and your kids.
The fact remains that it's difficult to begin a long term relationship via a lo... (read in full...)
Am I too jealous of what my boyfriend watches?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months. We are really close. He would never ever cheat on me. Yet I still have jealousy issues. I feel like my jealousy is severe. Like some other women, I don't like when my boyfriend watches TV because I know he ...
A. 20 January 2013: Insane/crazy...? Not from this alone.
Overly jealous? Absolutely. Being too much like this can push someone away. Let him see some boobs from time to time on tv, he's not exactly going to leave you to go be with an actress.
However if yo... (read in full...)
Should I break up with my boyfriend? How can I do it without hurting him?
Q. Hi, I'm 16. Recently I started a relationship with this guy, but I made a mistake that hurt him and me. Eventually we worked things out and got back together. Before my mistake I was feeling like I wanted to break up with him- things just didn...
A. 20 January 2013: You can't break up with him without hurting him so don't let that stop you. Just try to be compassionate and sensitive to his feelings. If he has questions answer them honestly (unless it would needlessly hurt him) and be patient with him. Don't go ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't show me any affection. I've tried everything to improve myself. What else can I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half now. He's in the military and is divorced with 2 kids. After a year of long distance relationship, I decided to move in with him. I am having the hardest time not receiving affection ...
A. 20 January 2013: You need to recognize that the feelings you have for him aren't quite what you think they are. People are wired in a way that makes them crave what they can't have. You feel like you love him and want to do anything to please him because you want to ... (read in full...)
How could she give a guy a Bj if our marriage is really great? Twice I've found out she's cheated on me.
Q. I don't really know where to begin so I will back up to before we moved to this island. Four years ago my wife wanted a divorce. I could totally understand why at the time. I had gotten fat and lazy, letting her do most of the work while serving ...
A. 20 January 2013: I'm guessing there is more that she's not telling you, otherwise she's just a really bad cheater because the only two times she did it she got caught.
If I was you I'd be very concerned that she can't be faithful even when she's happy. To me th... (read in full...)
I'm of Indian descent. Why do white guys want a relationship with me but ask for it to be a secret? It hurts me.
Q. Why is it that so many of the white guys I know that want a relationship with me wants one in secret? I'm tired of a guy saying I have a thing for Indian woman but no one can know about it. In public they would much rather be seen with someon...
A. 20 January 2013: Because they wouldn't be accepted by their peers and they are too cowardly to deal with that.
If it bothers you (and it should) then you should dismiss them as soon as they say that and find yourself a man brave enough to treat you like you dese... (read in full...)
I asked my ex to meet up and she totally ignored me. What does that mean?
Q. Me and my ex girlfriend are back in touch in after 3 months. I asked jer to meet up and she completely ignored the question and changed the subject. What does this mean!?!...
A. 20 January 2013: Well, there are two possibilities:
She wants to see you.
Or, she changed the subject because she doesn't want to see you.
I'm leaning towards the second. ... (read in full...)
Is is true that guys think less make up is better?
Q. So the guy i'm seeing has been coming over mine recently, the thing is at the beginning I used to wear a lot of make up thinking i needed it. But now i've noticed I like waking up with only a bit of makeup and feeling more fresh looking, although ...
A. 20 January 2013: I am turned off by too much makeup; I look at it as a crutch. If you need to layer it on than you're hiding yourself. A little to accentuate your natural beauty, not a ton of it to try and create beauty. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend lied.. how to trust him again?
Q. I have been living with my boyfriend for over 4 years. He is my first, but he has had one long term relationship before me. We have had a great relationship in every aspect and nothing has threatened it so far. Well.. i admit sometimes it does feel ...
A. 20 January 2013: First off, your English is excellent, I never even suspected you weren't a native speaker.
Second, I have to defend your boyfriend in a way that may help you get over this: it is possible to have friends of the opposite sex with whom you are stri... (read in full...)
How can you suddenly be so happy with the sort of people that previously you couldn't stand?
Q. Hi, this is not one of them questions where I'm asking for advice on how to get over someone, its more of asking for an understanding to why things have changed as they have. Basically me and this guy liked each other for years and then finally...
A. 20 January 2013: It's not uncommon for people to think they don't like something until they actually try it.
Sometimes people are more compatible with other people for no obvious reason. You could have been better for him in some ways, her in other ways that mak... (read in full...)
"time apart" means break? or break up?
Q. If your boyfriend says we need time apart, no contact for a bit is it okay to clarify if this is a "break" or "breakup" or should I just give up...
A. 20 January 2013: I don't think time apart is selfish at all- telling someone you're with that you won't give them time apart is more selfish.
Sometimes people just need to be alone for a little.
It doesn't always mean a break-up, but it can. Give him some ti... (read in full...)
He had sex with me and now that I havent heard from him, my fear is coming true
Q. This guy i've been seeing for a while now, i felt really comfortable with him and i've known for ages i wanted to sleep with him, just i wanted to be sure that he was interested in me and not wanting me for sex. So it's been over 3 months, which ...
A. 20 January 2013: I find it hard to imagine that someone would be in a relationship for 3 months just to get sex.
-Are you positive you had a relationship and not just a friendship?
-Why are you critical of him not calling you if you haven't called him? You ... (read in full...)
Three dates and we're already fighting? Is it time to stop things?
Q. I met a guy by chance at my local coffee shop. There was instant chemistry. He asked me out and has been more romantic than Iv ever experienced. He said the sweetest things you could ever imagine and although I was hesitant to trust him he promised ...
A. 20 January 2013: It doesn't bode well for the future, but he could have been having a bad day for all you know.
I'd recommend giving him a second chance but quit it with all the boyfriend / girlfriend stuff. Just date him, take it slow and see what happens.... (read in full...)
Did he think I was too hard to get?
Q. Hi guys, I'm 17 years old and I really would like if someone could help me. There is a boy in my school who I never really noticed before until now when I realised that he stares at me everyday, goofing around near me and trying to get close to me ...
A. 19 January 2013: It's likely that you weren't the only girl he had his eye on. Another girl acted first and he probably felt like flirting with anyone but her was no longer necessary. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to go to Amsterdam for a stag party for gorgeous hookers and strippers
Q. Hey, this is probably a divided opinion sort of question haha, but please try to respect my opinion. :) My boyfriend of 4 months has on occasion openly "gawked" over other girls, girls 1000000x more attractive than me. On top of this, not once (...
A. 19 January 2013: You obviously have self esteem issues, so breaking up with him may be hard, but there is really no other option that you should consider. You're not married or anything and you've only been together for a few months.
Why in the world should y... (read in full...)
I'm playing with fire with an 18 year old co-worker that also works with my wife
Q. I'm 36 and have been married for 15 years,we have 3 children and have been happy for most of our married life. I've recently been getting feelings for an 18 year old girl at work and we have been flirting by text and she claims she fancies me ...
A. 19 January 2013: She's an adult. She's doesn't need you and you don't need her.
You're very lucky to have a happy family even after 15 years, it'd be rediculous to lose that over nothing.
As stated friendship is fine, but stop flirting and stop hiding. And... (read in full...)
My boyfriend isn't financially stable. After 3 years should I accept that I would be the breadwinner? Or leave?
Q. Hi dearcupid, I am not sure what to do in my relationship of 2 years. When I met my bf he presented himself as a financially comfortable insurance salesman and of course I didn't ask deeply personal questions. Then as time passed and we enjoyed ...
A. 19 January 2013: Be blunt with him. Give him a chance to figure out what the problem is, maybe even let you be in charge of his money.
Tell him you are finding it hard to imagine a future where you're always having to worry about money. Make sure you let him know... (read in full...)
Her view: Do as I say, not as I do. Is it worth it, at all, to have a big talk with her about her own inconsistencies?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a little more than 2 years. We've been living together in a new city since last summer, and I've had to sacrifice things to make it happen. We started out as just friends for 3 years before we decided to mo...
A. 19 January 2013: He'll yes its time for this talk. I have to say that you sound a little too level headed for this kind of woman.
Part of her inappropriate conversations stem from her trust issues. She probably thinks it's okay because you're doing it too.
... (read in full...)
4 year relationship falling apart. I feel stuck stressed and drained and I hate feeling this way!
Q. Ok, so here is the thing. Me and my boyfriend just celebrated our four year anniversary and we have several issues that I need help on so I would greatly appreciate anyone who takes the time to read all of this and respond and I am really sorry its ...
A. 19 January 2013: Add some paragraphs and you'll get some answers. Seriously, it sounds crazy but look at that big block of text! ... (read in full...)
I like this guy but don't know what to think. Is he friend zoning me?
Q. I started my new college four months ago and in my class there was this guy who has caught my eye. So, after a few lessons; acknowledging that we were both in one class, I added him on facebook and asked him a question about an assignment for o...
A. 19 January 2013: He's probably shy so you may have to make the first move, becauseit ssounds like he likes you.
Men have to risk rejection all the time, so now it's your time to be brave and ask him out. Keep it simple; tell him you really enjoy his company ... (read in full...)
After 40 years of being married to an alcoholic, I am leaving him. People tell me not to, why not?
Q. I have been married for 40 years to an alcoholic, He quit for 12 years and started drinking again, and he has gotten worse. I should have left him years ago,but I like so many others stayed for my two kids. THis was a bad decision, because for ...
A. 19 January 2013: There are single people at any age, your friends are just old fashioned. There is nothing wrong with being single. You will certainly be happier and less stressed out than you are now.
Besides with the advent of the internet people of all ages... (read in full...)
I want my ex back 8 months of being apart but she is seeing someone else. Should I wait around?
Q. Hey, Me and my ex split up about a 8 months ago, after being together for 4 and half years, for various different reasons. One, she had slept with another guy while we were on a break where we had a mutual agreement to not do such a thing. Another,...
A. 19 January 2013: Keep in contact with her, but don't wait for her. Keep doing your thing and if the two of you are single at the same time then give it another shot.
You could ask her on a date and sort of start from scratch. There is no reasonshe needs to be ex... (read in full...)
Husband swears he didn't call a prostitute but the phone shows differently. He has a story, should I believe him?
Q. I don't trust my husband after past events, so I check up on some of the things he does like check the call log and emails on his phone. The other day, I seen that he made a blocked call to a number I didn't recognize. So I googled the number and it ...
A. 19 January 2013: Only he knows if he's telling the truth. Maybe you can ask to talk to his friend? Or call the hooker?
At some point you have to realize what type of person you're married to and either accept it or move on. If you aren't a suspicious person b... (read in full...)
I had sex with my supposedly straight friend and now he's ignoring me
Q. Hi, I've never really done this relationship advice thingies but it couldn't hurt right? Ok we'll here's the deal. A few nights ago, I slept with my "supposed straight" friend when he was drunk. I didn't force him into anything and asked him if this ...
A. 18 January 2013: If you don't understand what's going on here than you have a lot to learn about people.
First of all, he's sexually confused. Second, he cheated on his girlfriend with a dude.
When people cheat they often shun the other person for fear ... (read in full...)
The more I try, the more I think he will hate me. How do I handle my depressed LDR boyfriend?
Q. how do you help someone you love that seems depressed? im in a LDR at the moment with my boyfriend and whenever we talk on the phone etc he can be lovely and cheerful one minute but if i say one thing wrong or something he doesnt like he will get...
A. 18 January 2013: You can't treat his depression, that's up to him and his doctor.
Do you guys have a specific plan to move closer together? Why subject yourself to this if it's not for a reason? An LDR only makes sense if you've had a chance to develop feelings... (read in full...)
Do I get out of my troubled relationship now or stick it out till August?
Q. Hello, I've been dealing with some issues lately and I've decided to turn to the internet for help. I've been dating this guy for nine months as of the 17th of January. Let's call him Ted (that's not his real name). Ted and I have known each ot...
A. 18 January 2013: Get out. For him to be violent so early in your relationship is disturbing as this often happens further down the line. It also tends to get progressively worse.
You are not a slut for doing what you've done and Ted is an effing hypocrit... (read in full...)
Don't I deserve to be treated right? Just brokeup with ex and am pregnant by my ex. But like this other guy.
Q. Not even a week a ago I got out of a long relationship with someone who was using me for everything like money and sex it was a 9 year off and on relationship. He is the father of my seven year old and now my unbornchild. I know I am already over...
A. 18 January 2013: Unless you plan on moving there in the near future there's no point in initiating an LDR with anyone. That's the worst way to begin a relationship because you can't truly get to know someone from far away, even if you visit occasionally.
You'l... (read in full...)
I'm confused by her actions. Would you describe her actions as disrespectful?
Q. Okay first off let me thank you guys for taking time out of your day to listen to me ! Well me and this girl let me call her A and my name C. Okay so i started talking to mid december and we had a blast talking to one another and even see...
A. 18 January 2013: Sounds to me like she was already in a relationship and her bf caught her flirting with you. Hence the changing of her picture to her hugging him, so she can "prove" she cares. ... (read in full...)
Can anyone pls explain how someone can be in love and then just lose feelings overnight?
Q. Can anyone pls explain how someone can be in love and then just lose feelings overnight? I joined on line dating. Not to date, not to cheat, but because I was bored because he would rather be out football training, than be home with me. He doesnt ...
A. 18 January 2013: He probably blocked you on FB because you were bugging him.
You act surprised that he was bothered that you went to a dating site. I think you need to learn to take responsibility for your actions.
In this case your bf had a passion: footbal... (read in full...)
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