I turned him away and now I miss the opportunity I had with him
Q. I feel like crying... There's this guy I was dating for a while, the first time ever that there was potential with anyone (and I'm 20), but all the while I felt like something was wrong, that I couldn't fall in love with him. He was so sweet, so ...
A. 11 January 2013: There's no way to know for sure if he still has feelings for you. It wouldn't surprise me if he did.
I had a girlfriend of 1.5 break up with me and change her mind relatively quickly. But by then it was too late. Although I wanted to be with her... (read in full...)
I turned him away and now I miss the opportunity I had with him
Q. I feel like crying... There's this guy I was dating for a while, the first time ever that there was potential with anyone (and I'm 20), but all the while I felt like something was wrong, that I couldn't fall in love with him. He was so sweet, so ...
A. 10 January 2013: You probably feel like crap because he rejected you. Rejection sucks, there's no doubt about it.
If it makes you feel better remember that you didn't exactly fall madly in love with the guy, so you're not heartbroken. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is lying about doing dope. I tried to talk to a friend about it and wound up kissing him. Confused!
Q. So I found out a month ago that my boyfriends doing dope.. But I found out by going threw his texts because I knew something weird was going on and I was getting concerned, but I didn't know how to tackle the issue so I thought I put the issue to ...
A. 10 January 2013: Whaaaa? ... (read in full...)
I went on a date with a friend. We didn't click and I told him this. But I miss him!
Q. First, I've posted a couple questions on here already about dating friends... And thanks so much for the advice! It really did help. So: I went on a date with one of my best friends a few weeks ago... It was awkward and we didn't really "cl...
A. 10 January 2013: If you can't tell him then there's nothing we can tell you,.
All you have to say is that you two make great friends and you miss hanging out with him.
He's probably just embarrassed and needs a little talk. If he asks you can always say t... (read in full...)
I am in love with this girl but she hates me now.
Q. I am in love with this girl but she hates me now. You see, I took advantage of the feelings she had for me and made her do something she never wanted to do. I didn't mean to. She means the world to me and I love her and she loved me too. Now she ...
A. 10 January 2013: Completely shutting you off and not acknowledging your existence means you are through.
Besides, what you're feeling is the pain of rejection, it's not your heartbreak. At least you recognized you screwed up, now recognize you can't fix it and m... (read in full...)
I'm married and received anal sex from a tranny. Am I gay?
Q. I am what I consider to be a straight man. 36 yo. I was molested by a man when I was 6. it went on for about a year. When I was 30 I let a tranny give me a bj outside of a bar. She wanted to take me home and perform anal sex on me. I didn't but it ...
A. 10 January 2013: There isn't a hard line that says "If you do this you're gay, if you do this you're bi, and if you do this you're straight."
You obviously aren't 100% straight.
But you aren't 100% gay either.
Where you fall is somewhere in between. Th... (read in full...)
Girls: is this a way to spark a girl's interest? what would be the possible reaction, if guitar solo performances (my own), were included in the flashdrive with legal software being given as a gift by to a fellow student?
Q. Hello. I am here for a question that might open a lot of doors for me. Here is my story. I have been lonely for 2 years now after my ex girlfriend left me for someone else and several rejections since then have made me numb. I came to USA 2 ye...
A. 10 January 2013: Better yet, bring your guitar to school and sing her a love song in front of the whole class.
Aside from that you could just ask her for a casual lunch/coffee and if she rejects you don't take it personally.
In my 20's,the guy I knew who h... (read in full...)
I can't climax with my boyfriend. How can I relieve the sexual tension?
Q. Hello, I have a sex question. I posted about this topic yesturday but have more to add. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over two months now, im 18 hes 25. And Lately he says all ive wnated to do is have sex, and i have. Im consantly "h...
A. 9 January 2013: That poor blankey!
Anyways, you need to make sure he's aware of your needs. In any newly sexual relationship you have to discover what works for the two of you.
When my wife and I first started having sex none of my usual tricks were givi... (read in full...)
I am devastated. Girlfriend pregnant and wants an abortion
Q. Hello everyone, My gf got pregnant, we found it out today. We were both anxious when the news came. I'm 20, she's 19, we've been together for only 2 years, but we already made our minds about the future. We never had any unprotected sex, bu...
A. 9 January 2013: I don't agree about letting her do whatever she wants. If you can explain to her how important this is to you and how much you want her to keep the baby then she may change her mind.
No, you can't force her, nor should you. But if your atti... (read in full...)
Ex girlfriend who attacked me is pregnant, what to do?
Q. We lived together for a year and she was pregnant once before, which I fully supported, but unfortunately the baby was unhealthy to the point where doctors advised an abortion. Fast forward a few months and one night after a stupid argument, during ...
A. 9 January 2013: Counseling and a lot of it! ... (read in full...)
Stepping over the friendship zone into dating. Is it worth the risk?
Q. A very good friend of mine has recently told me he likes me as more than a friend and I think I have feelings for him too but am unsure. We've been very close for a few years, see eachother a couple of times a week, but have never ever overstepped ...
A. 9 January 2013: There's always the risk that things wont work out. If you too are mature and "good breaker uppers" than it should be possible to be friends after a period to get over each other.
I think you should go for it. I've never been in the exact sa... (read in full...)
We're half way across the world, spend a day together. Am I crazy for thinking of trying to pursue this?
Q. I met this guy recently while I was travelling overseas in Germany. He came over to me and said for some reason he just felt the need to talk to me. We hit it off just fine and spent the day and night together hanging out. He wanted me to stay ...
A. 9 January 2013: I met my wife when I was staying in Guatemala for 5 months, but for us it was a lot easier to have a relationship because I was there for awhile so we got to know each other pretty well, she also had a visa to live in the US because she was going to ... (read in full...)
Could I be bi-sexual? Can open-minded be considered a sexuality?
Q. I've questioned what my sexuality or how to define my sexuality ever since I was a child. It's probably been about 13 to 15 years long I have questioned this. Can open-minded be considered a sexuality? I grew up keeping to myself, and really tryin...
A. 9 January 2013: While people may say there's gay, bisexual, transgender, and straight, there really is a lot more variation than those terms would imply.
I wouldn't worry about what you should call yourself, but you're probably bi if you need a label.
Even... (read in full...)
I'm a mess. What can I do? I've been in love with my Gf for a long time. But I've fallen for a second girl at college and now this second girl is pregnant.
Q. Guys, I'm in a pickle. A very large pickle. I've been dating my very lovely and intelligent girlfriend for six years, since we were 14. Before I continue, I need you all to know that I really, absolutely and unabashedly love my girlfriend with all...
A. 9 January 2013: Man, I can't imagine being in your situation! I don't think you deserve it, long distance relationships are hard and you got with your GF so long ago, so I can't blame you. It's even possible your girlfriend has been tempted herself.
You h... (read in full...)
I hoped splitting up with my husband would result in Bf wanting to be closer. So why is he now hesitant about us getting closer?
Q. Hello People I am married unhappily, and have been seeing this younger guy for 3 years, i am 51, he is 45. We see each other once ot twice weekly, at the beginning he said it was like a FWB relationship, as time has passed, i have got a lot close...
A. 9 January 2013: Some guys like the chase. He "won", but maybe now the reality isn't very appealing.
It sounds like you already lost your marriage so I'm not sure what exactly has you worried there. If you separate and the boyfriend doesn't pay more attentio... (read in full...)
My Bf talks nicely to me only when he needs money from me. What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid I feel that my bf of 3 years talks nicely to me only when he needs money from me, other times he never calls, ignores me and bullies me. I have already given him a lot of money for this student loan. I don't have any proof for this ...
A. 9 January 2013: Sorry, but isn't it obvious that you need to break up with him? He won't pay you back so asking is a waste of time.
You have two options:
1.) Break up with him and free yourself.
2.) Stay "together" and pay him to treat you like shit.
B... (read in full...)
Is my friend a jerk for making this disrespectful comment about his African American lover?
Q. This older guy who I am friends with, told me that if he ever got married in the future, he would never tell his wife that he had a sexual relationship with an African American woman because, she would look down on him and so would the entire ...
A. 8 January 2013: Well he's not exactly a great guy but sometimes it's not as simple as him being a racist or not.
Ukrainian people are frequently pretty close minded and shallow. His background means that he has these things a part of who he is.
But, he is an... (read in full...)
Should I leave my BF of 6 years for someone I've known for 2 months?
Q. Hi all, My boyfriend of 6 years recently asked if it's ok if his sister could stay with us for a few weeks until she finds a place in the city.. His sister is a model, she's a gorgeous woman and is currently working with the top fashion companie...
A. 8 January 2013: You should be able to resist a little temptation if you love your boyfriend.
Also, you're forgetting that new relationships feel perfect. It does now just like it did for you and your boyfriend when you first got together.
As you know that fe... (read in full...)
How much porn use is too much?
Q. How much porn use is too much? I am a 19 year old virgin and am single. I have only one ex where I did not use any porn for most of the relationship until the end when we broke up over distance issues (college). It's been about 5 months since our...
A. 8 January 2013: Feeling like a loser is common for guys before they are with a girl for the first time. You're not old to be a virgin, you just have to be willing to leave your comfort zone and ask a girl out. Don't let rejection hurt you, because if you aren't ... (read in full...)
She wants the relationship to progress slowly, but I'm not sure how much slower I can go.
Q. I am very much in love with my girlfriend and being with her has been one of the best years in my life. Like all new relationships, when we first met it was all about being with each other - any minute we could steal together we would make sure we ...
A. 8 January 2013: Well you guys are going slow enough so it has more to do with her fear of marriage than anything else.
You may need to have an open and honest rap session with her and explain your feelings and plans and ask her to be completely honest about he... (read in full...)
How do I stop feeling self conscious about my chest size?
Q. Hi all, I'm feeling a little self conscious about my chest size. I'm an A75/34AA, which is pretty flat. I always thought they'd grow a cup bigger but sadly that has been my bra size since I was 13. My boyfriend doesn't mind my chest size, but I ...
A. 8 January 2013: Let me tell you, breast size isn't as big a deal as women feel it is. There are some men who wouldn't date you because your breasts are too small, just like you may not date a guy because he has a beard or whatever. That doesn't mean there is ... (read in full...)
Why does my gf act like an impossible and hysterical child during arguments?
Q. I can't seem to understand my girlfriends actions sometimes. We are from different countries, though I work and live in her country. We have been together for eight months, though she sort of left her previous boyfriend for me, who had cheated ...
A. 8 January 2013: Talking won't help change who she is. You can't tell a serial killer that what they're doing is wrong.
She needs counseling, and for your sake I wouldn't even think about marriage until she makes progress, TRUST ME! ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his best female friend are too close for my comfort. What can I do?
Q. My Boyfriend and his best friend are really close, too close for my own comfort zone, she texts him saying she loves him and he does the same, at all hours of the night at that. They are both really touchy with one another and it drives me crazy an...
A. 8 January 2013: I understand where he's coming from. I'm sure he's not sleeping with her so he thinks he's not doing anything wrong.
But, you already asked what you should do and we already said the same thing. You're LETTING him do this to you because you're A... (read in full...)
Guys: Is the amount of xx's in a text an indication of how much you like someone?
Q. Silly question but I'm intrigued...GUYS Is the amount of x's in a text an indicator of how much he likes you?? This guy I'm texting at the moment usually puts 3 x's... then less often 2 x's and then less often 1x and the least often 4x's. IM...
A. 8 January 2013: My guesses are:
xxxx = I wan't to marry you
xxx = I wan't to have a baby with you
xx = I wan't to have sex with you
x = I hate you
So, your guy friend is all over the place, he may have mental issues. I would call the police.
Either t... (read in full...)
She suggested we take things slowly after the first date. What do I do now?
Q. Hi all... I just took a girl on a date recently. We had exchanged numbers and we had previously gotten to know more about each other before via text message, so we had common ground and things to talk about. I don’t claim to be the best looking...
A. 8 January 2013: I disagree, I don't think you've said enough to indicate she's crazy.
What I'd do if I was you is that remember people have all sorts of issues and things going on that we can't all relate to. In other words don't worry about what you did, it ... (read in full...)
Update on I was expecting to hear from him but haven't heard a word for 2 days
Q. So for all who were following my story of the guy who I was expecting to come to my house but never showed up... (original story below for anyone else) Well it appears he's just fine. I didn't contact his parents or anyone, but I noticed he cha...
A. 8 January 2013: The guy has issues. Plain and simple. Who knows the exact reason, but I feel reasonably sure it has nothing to do with you. It's possible he has commitment issues or any number of disorders, but one thing is certain: this behavior is not ... (read in full...)
Why does my gf act like an impossible and hysterical child during arguments?
Q. I can't seem to understand my girlfriends actions sometimes. We are from different countries, though I work and live in her country. We have been together for eight months, though she sort of left her previous boyfriend for me, who had cheated ...
A. 8 January 2013: Holy crap I think you may be dating my wife. If you figure it out let me know.
Honestly I have been married for five years and I don't know how to deal with it still. I feel like counseling would help.
My opinion is that in my wife's case, ... (read in full...)
How do I keep from talking to much when I'm nervous around my date?
Q. I seem to talk a lot when I'm nervous. I think my new guy was a little annoyed the other night he was trying to leave but I kept talking to him. He was polite then said baby I have to go I'm so tired. I felt so silly did I blow things? I get so ...
A. 8 January 2013: It's easy; don't say every single thing that comes to your mind. In other words when you find yourself "blabbering" or even better before you're about to start blabbering, just relax and practice some good old self control. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his best female friend are too close for my comfort. What can I do?
Q. My Boyfriend and his best friend are really close, too close for my own comfort zone, she texts him saying she loves him and he does the same, at all hours of the night at that. They are both really touchy with one another and it drives me crazy an...
A. 7 January 2013: If you've talked with him about it then it's time for an ultimatum. If he doesn't start treating her like a guy friend (no "I love you", no touching, no late night texting, etc) then you are leaving him.
If there is one thing I've learned in my ti... (read in full...)
I slept with my friends boyfriend 2 days before their baby is due. Do I tell her?
Q. So I've had this friend for 3 years. Me and her met because I hooked up with her boyfriend unknowingly. He split with her before I found out, but still cheated on her with me. Then cheated on me with her. So me and her became friends, long story sh...
A. 7 January 2013: Since you probably just slept with him so you could tell her, so go ahead and do it. For the sake of the baby if you are going to tell her don't do it until a few days after birth. Stress can be difficult on babies in the mother and out.
It's ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is chatting with a co-worker and has pet name for him. Am I right to be concerned?
Q. Recently discovered my long time girlfriend has been heavily chatting with a distant (2 hrs away) coworker. She's been very secretive about the whole connection but somehow her texts got onto my iPad. In one exchange this guy (who is married) asked ...
A. 7 January 2013: Some people will automatically deny whatever they're accused of, even if they are caught red handed, or if they didn't do anything wrong at all. So that alone doesn't mean she's guilty.
However it says a lot about her as a spouse that not only did ... (read in full...)
Am I completely ruining my life? Do I need to stop drinking? Get help?
Q. So I've recently been doing a great job at ruining my life. After a horrific break-up with a recent ex, (we'll call him M) I've just managed to make a balls of my life at every open opportunity. After the relationship ended I was feeling quite fr...
A. 7 January 2013: It's refreshing to see you list "being dramatic" as a possibility! You nailed it. A fling or two is a normal way to get over an ex. Don't go nuts but just enjoy yourself and don't try to seek the approval of others right now, just yourself. ... (read in full...)
Do white girls expect boys to propose first?
Q. I want to know whether my Co-worker loves me.I am a south Asian.she is a white girl.Do white girls expect boys to propose first?Or am I mistaking her friendship towards me.But I heard once she was singing my name with hers.I never had a girl ...
A. 7 January 2013: Propose as in marry or ask out? How could she love you at this point? It sounds like you don't really know her.
I would take it slow. If there's one thing I know about westerners its that most don't rush in to marriage.
Ask her on a date, g... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is chatting with a co-worker and has pet name for him. Am I right to be concerned?
Q. Recently discovered my long time girlfriend has been heavily chatting with a distant (2 hrs away) coworker. She's been very secretive about the whole connection but somehow her texts got onto my iPad. In one exchange this guy (who is married) asked ...
A. 7 January 2013: Of course you have the right to be concerned.
If you okay with the flirting but ONLY the flirting, just tell her. It might be easier that forcing her to quit what may be an innocent outlet for her.
It certainly is possible to flirt and have z... (read in full...)
I'm still having trouble accepting my boyfriend's past
Q. I've been with a great guy for the last year...but I'm still having trouble accepting his past. He's the only guy I've even slept (or done anything sexual) with, but he has 4 exes that he's been with. I think about it everyday, wondering if he ...
A. 7 January 2013: What everyone else said is true but I wanted to add that men don't usually compare the woman they've been with in terms of how good they are. It's more that women are different, not better or worse.
I can say with a reasonable amount of certaint... (read in full...)
Worried I cant get pregnant when I'm older, help?
Q. Had unprotected sex on 4 different occasions since I lost my virginity, I was really worried I'd get pregnant but I've just got my period like normal... Now I'm really worried that one day when I want kids I won't be able to have them?? Is there so...
A. 7 January 2013: Assuming the guy didn't come inside of you there's no reason to think you should have become pregnant.
I've been using the pull out method for years and never had accidental kids. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is hiding something from his past and won't talk to me about it
Q. hii, im in relationship from 2 years ..My boyfriend is hiding something about his past... not regarding any relationship..its regarding his friends he had.. its 1st time v r being in relationship with each other.... but something which bothers hi...
A. 7 January 2013: How do you know he's hiding something? "A feeling" isn't a good enough reason to go harassing him about it. Also, keep in mind that people have the right to some amount of privacy.
... (read in full...)
Dream trip with my boyfriend ended badly. He wants to move back to his hometown and I can never see myself living there!
Q. Dear all, Hoping for some advice. I've been with my partner for two years. We met in London, my home town, and live there together. I'm 35 and he's 33. This Christmas, we planned what was supposed to be a 'holiday of a lifetime' to Mexico City...
A. 7 January 2013: You didn't really ask a question, but I have to say it's good that you can admit that you sound bad here because, no offense, but you really do.
I've been to Mexico City with my wife and two young kids and I loved it and I have other family m... (read in full...)
Broke up due to his use of dating sites. Not civil either. So why does he try to deny or hide that he has a new GF?
Q. My ex went on a mid life crisis spree..we split up because he was on the dating sites and setting up relationships with them every month......why ? He has stopped communication with his kids....and as far as facebook everytime he comes on he deact...
A. 7 January 2013: I don't know you or him but it also occurred to me that he may not be seeing your kids because of the way you act. Keep that in mind; if you're making his life difficult he may feel it's just easier to not see them as well.
Your letter gives me... (read in full...)
I don't want things to get too sexual yet. So what do I do next time my Bf wants to try more making out?
Q. My boyfriend and I were making out, and he was playing with my boobs, squeezing and rubbing them hard. Then he kissed down my neck and started kissing/sucking on my boobs. It felt really good and I really enjoyed it, but in the future what should i...
A. 7 January 2013: I would suggest punching him in the neck, that should keep him off.
If that doesn't work you could always talk with him. Most guys are more than willing to go at a pace that makes the girl they are with comfortable. If you were enjoying it there... (read in full...)
How should I handle our post break-up issues due to us now living in the same place?
Q. I have a 'break-up' problem. 3 weeks ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months (plus the year we dated). It was mutual, since I didn't feel she was quite herself around me anymore. It all started with a sort of alternative education we both...
A. 7 January 2013: You should get out of there, find a roommate for her or something. If you two were meant to be, a little bit of time wont change that. But staying in the same place wont help either.
If leaving isn't an option, be nice to her but don't be a wimp... (read in full...)
Broke up due to his use of dating sites. Not civil either. So why does he try to deny or hide that he has a new GF?
Q. My ex went on a mid life crisis spree..we split up because he was on the dating sites and setting up relationships with them every month......why ? He has stopped communication with his kids....and as far as facebook everytime he comes on he deact...
A. 7 January 2013: I agree with everyone else; the real question is why are you so concerned with his relationship status if you don't want to be with him?
... (read in full...)
How much porn use is too much?
Q. How much porn use is too much? I am a 19 year old virgin and am single. I have only one ex where I did not use any porn for most of the relationship until the end when we broke up over distance issues (college). It's been about 5 months since our...
A. 3 January 2013: Of course it's feasible. If you do watch porn don't focus on having an orgasm as fast as possible. But, using your imagination is better for sure. ... (read in full...)
How much porn use is too much?
Q. How much porn use is too much? I am a 19 year old virgin and am single. I have only one ex where I did not use any porn for most of the relationship until the end when we broke up over distance issues (college). It's been about 5 months since our...
A. 1 January 2013: You know, I went through dry spells and depended on porn to keep me sane and I've never had issues because of it, but it certainly happens to many people.
You might need to stop watching it so you can force yourself to get out there and meet some... (read in full...)
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